soOoo i'm datin' a cancer..

& i'm a Gemini =]
we get along good...
he knows how to keep
a conversation. every time
we get into a little argument
he doesn't want to hear what
i have to say it kinda reminds
me of my mother she's a cancer too
like if they get mad they would
tell you want they want to tell
you but when it comes to the
person that they're arguing with
they don't want to hear it...
& i wonder why that is??

because they are mentally ill

But seriously though Lies, they work on THEIR time. If they are not ready to hear what you have to say then oh well sucks for you. You just have to wait till they are ready to hear what you have to say.

how long have u been dating? oh just so u know, I normally don't talk to Gemini's but I will make an exception....for now.

we been dating for
like uhemm....almost
three months he knows
how to keep a smile on
my face =] thats why
i'm still here ;].
but how come you don't
talk to geminis?

lol geminis are evil

so what did u do wrong that u want to explain to your cancer but he doesn't want to hear it?

come on...spill it

not all geminis
but they could be evil
like i'm a caring person
but if someone is gonna
mess with me they're
gonna get it worser ;]
so cancer guys stay faithful?
if they're really into that person?

"so cancer guys stay faithful?
if they're really into that person?"

healthy ones do

are u concerned that he's cheating?

i didn't do anything
wrong...i think its just
that he always has to be
right..its just that when
we argue about little things
he just don't want to hear
what i have to say =X kinda
gets me worried.

naw i'm not really
concerned i just don't
want to be played like
a fool... but imma take
a chance on him ;]

yup, sounds like a cancer to me. but don't be worried by that, just be creative. there are ways in letting him believe he is right and in control at all times, and in reality u are the one that is right and in control. you can lead him to believe that your ideas are really his ideas. come on, u gems are good at manipulation.

but u cannot do for malicious reasons, because they will know, and u will be left outside in the cold wondering what the hell just happened.

yes take a chance on him Lies. and don't worry, when he pulls that infamous disappearing act, the women on the cancer board here will help you pick yourself up from the ground

infamous disappearing act
oh no haha =X i wonder why
they do that...

lies...they do it when they feel like retreatig for whatever reason...it depends. They are magicians like that.

But you are a Gem..you guys are good at being cold and shady, so that may keep him on his toes.

aww kel..I didnt mean anything personal. I am a Scopr so Im very blunt and black and white. What you se is kinda what you get. we have away of putting our cards on the table. Gems are a little more elusuive than scorps. They can change it up a lot quicker and perhaps keep a Cancer guessing a little more than a Sorp...thats what I meant. Now, now dont get touchy. LOL!

But gems are no joke! I dealt with one before and swore I would never deal with another Gem male again, romatically. But I have 2 really good female friends who are Gem, luv em'. Just not a good love connection for us Scorps.

i could be cold & shady
but thats when i feel like
i have too...it all depends

Yea, Lies. See...what I mean. If a Scorp really cares for someone and doesnt want to be cold and shady, but knows they should be it is hard for us to be. Like I said, we wear our emotions. Its hard for us to give the impression that we dont care, if we really do.

Gems can do that...which can come in handy when the Cancer plays their disappearing acts. LOL.

Lies, so what are ur other concerns about cancer men? I know ur here for a reason....spill it

=] yea i've notice that
i'm really good at hiding
my feelings. i don't like
to really show it..

i just want to know
what they're all about...
this is a first time i dated
a cancer he seems like a
really caring person..
i don't know if he could
handle my moods =X

"i don't know if he could
handle my moods "

i hope u can handle his

Hmmmm....well they are really caring, super sensitive. But they wont tell you if you have hurt their feelings. they will hold it in...so be careful. They hate to loose things...so they can get clingy...but thats after a while. At first, they tend to move veerrryyy sllooowwww. that is what I am going through right now. Like LS said, they move on their own time. They are scared of getting hurt, so they gaurd their heart and will not let their gaurd down until they feel that you have proven yourself to be trustorthy. And they are serious about that too, more so than any other sign. they also tend to be mama's boy's. LOL.

maianm...what you just
said is how i am...he is
kinda taking things fast
i want to take this slow..
so i can be able to trust him
he tells me a lot about how he
feels about me. i don't say anything.
i don't really show anything either.
i wonder what he tells me is lies..
cause its easy for him to express
his feelings... unless he trust me

"I hope you can handle his"

I know that's right! There are the inventors of the word "moody". They CREATED the term! They will retreat in their shell before you know it. They will go from being super sweet to super snappish and snap your little finger right off! LOL. Seriously, they are some moody men, for real!

It's funny...they can dish out moodiness but cant take it! But Like i said you may keep him on his toes and keep him guessing and make him cling to you more.

lady...seems like
i have more mood swings
then he does hahah =X
or mine shows more

He must really trust you. How old are you guys?

For the record, he prob wants to take things fast b/c you want to take them SLOW. He prob really likes you and is scared to lose you b/c of your of your lack of interest (or what he perceives as your lack of interest) and is trying to woo you so he wont lose you. Hmmm thats a novel idea...i should try that method thanks Lies! I may try that. Flip the script on the lil' bastard. LOL.

Ok back to you....he is prob not lying ...they dont come across as heavy duty liars.

What do you think LS?

i'm 20 and he's
like a year yea he's
younger then me =X
you should try it out
tell me if it works ;]
i think if they do lie
its just little white lies

u were able to say it before me Maianm, he's wanting to move fast because u want to move slow.

they day u put a little pep in ur step, he will disappear on u

you for real?
why would he do
something like that?

I sure am going to try that approach, mostly for my own sanity. But I wonder if I can change it around. I am a Scorp, which is a fixed sign. it is hard for us to change stuff up midway. We are pretty consistant...

Well anywho, hes still young so thqt could explain. He is not "dbr" (damaged beyond repair) yet. So, maybe.....hmm....well only thing you can do is ride it out and see what happens. And let us know the play by play. LOL

LS drop that knowledge....girrllll.

He would do that b/c thats what they do!!!! LOL. It just simply is. They dont want to loose you but they want to do things on their time! They are a tricky bunch!

"why would he do
something like that?"

because he will get scared

do u believe us Lies or do u think we're crazy?

They are real stupid like that! LOL. JK.

Lies...if I wasnt going thorugh it myself I woul think it was all BS. I swear to you every single word of it is true. I wish it werent but it is. I read all the good things about Scorp and Cancer compatibility. I thought I was going to be on easy street.

Girrrlll....he through me for a forreal loop. And the sad part about it is i didnt even see it coming. LOL. It just crept up on me and here I am. Riding the roller coaster better known as "to be in a relationship with a cancer man". LOL

pshh...cancers.. i
swear i thought i complicated
we'll see how this goes
i'll let you guys know whats up

i believe you ladies.
i'm prepared for anything
that comes my way... ;]
when they disappear do they
deiced to come back?

yup they ome back...when they feel like it

ladie to be honest thats
kinda like what i do..i wonder
if i'm a gemini/ cancer =X

maianm so he put you through a lot?

Yup....when THEY FEEL like it! But if they really like you they wont be gone for long.

kel..stuff like what cancers
do you see in geminis?

Correction, he is CURRENTLY putting me thorugh ALOT!!! Not past tense...this is all present tense! LOL. I am being dramatic. But yea we are kinda going through it. I have a lot to learn about patience and letting things go with the flow. Which are prob things that are inherent to a Gem, but rare in a Scorp! LOL.

Bu yea, and also he is older hes 29. So, he has been thorugh a lot more...which is a good and bad thing. But its all good. It will all work out...Lord willing. LOL.

gotcha kel

well i hope the best
for you both ;].
its kinda hard for me to
go with the flow too.
do you think a lot?
because i know i sure do

Lies,
U R doing right! Take it REAL slow. Real slow. He is pushing U, just 2 C if U R going 2 step up and push it on quickly. And Yes, he will back off. It is a test. Cancer men don't like women that like 2 rush things.

The disappearing acts R simply 2 make U miserable. LOL! From my understand, Cancer men dwell on painful relationships. No, he won't go far, but, he wants 2 feel needed by U. So, U R going 2 have 2 remain stable through the process and series of tests that he is going 2 put U through. ALL of what U get, is 2 C how U R going 2 B able 2 handle HIM, and simply 2 C if U R stable enough for him. Just think of them as relationship anchors. And NO, if U do the right thing, the right way. U want have 2 worry about him running from U. He will run 2 U, alot quicker if U can remain stable.

These men have ill brain cells. I am here 2 tell U. Their way of thinking is sick, beyond the shadow of a doubt.

Yup, yup. Im the type who plans for december when I am only in May. LOL. it's crazy. But with Cancers you CANNOT be like that. You have to just let things go with the flow, and just trust that if it is meant to be...it will be.

Let go....allow them to chase you. Always give them a little mystery. I have also found that looking real good around them doesnt hurt either. LOL. I think they secretly like what others desire....so when you guys go out make sure that you look extra fine, make some heads turn.

Kel,

I have some DVD's here at the house. It is this woman who is a master astrologer. She says that astrology is just a basic 2 signs, but NEVER go by the signs, simply because signs don't matter. Like she says, some Cancer R very emotional, and some Cancers R not emotional at all. She says some Caps R strict, and some R restricted. Just don't base love on signs. Base love on how U accept and deal with the person in your life. However, it is good 2 know what the basics is about a particular person.0
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Hello Ladies, I too haven recently gotten invloved with a Cancer romantically though we were friends for about 6 months before. And Lies...they arent lying to you at all. Cancers are relentless if you show a lack of interest and when you do finally begin to let your guard down and try to get close they run. They have an amazing disappearing act that they wont hesitate to show you. They do come back...when they feel like it..and they even want you to lavish them with temporarily unreciprocated attention while they're gone. I'm a Taurus and its a divine experience when we're together so I admit that I play into his "prove you want me" manipulations and I'm willing to give that attention, without expecting it back immediately, while he is in his shell because its in his nature to return in fiercely when he decides its safe to bestow. He's older than me. Im 23 and hes 27, so he's very mature and he's honest about what he does and why he does it, its in his nature. The trust that has been built between us is the main reason I dont get upset when he retreats to mull, whether over a decision that must be made or his emotions. I'm learning patience and when he pops out he comes with exactly what I've been waiting for.