Oh Cancer People ...

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Posted by Kane
thank you cappiesweetie 🙂 what is it about virgos huh! haha. he reached me by constantly reassuring me of his feelings, making me feel special and telling me that he thought we had a good 'vibe' and i seem 'just perfect' for him. he called often, would text me and im the type that appreciated that constant contact. i guess i should note that we'd only been together, talking, for about 3 months. anyway, right now things arent' good, but that's another story for the virgo board haha. he was just so sweet, and whenever i felt uncomfortable about something he would reassure me [in the beginning] which would set my mood at ease. but as things progressed those insecurities started to crop up because [he being a police officer with two other part-time jobs and working constantly] i would hardly hear from him, he stopped calling and texting, and i would be the one texting, but he always returned my calls/texts. but the doubts had already set in for me and us being in a long distance thing, i started really doubting whether he was still into me. i got jealous, and started thinking he probably had 'moved on.' i questioned him about his feelings on one occasion, he said he still wanted me, i questioned him again and then a few days after not hearing from him, sent an email basically saying i felt like he was ignoring me and i was tired of his behavior. havent heard from his since and now im at that point where im withdrawing back into my shell, my defense mechanism, so as not to get hurt again. even if he were to contact me again in the future, im not sure if we would be able to re-connect and move forward and build on something because i've been hurt by him now. i'm angry, and i know that will pass, but i don't know if things could be healed. i made my mistakes in this and he's made his. i suppose if he did contact me and recognized my fault of not giving him space, and he saw his own fault in this of shutting me out completely as something we should both apologize for and work on then things might work, but i don't see that happening, or maybe im just at a point where im not wanting to hope because that means im not letting go. anyway, tmi! i guess i still need to vent and writing this helps me think and get a better understanding of my own feelings and what direction i want, or at least should, take. so thanks for the venting and hopefully you find something usefu
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OH KANE! I'm sorry to hear that :O 😢

My virgo interest is pissed off with me at the moment. I think its silly but I think his acting this way is just a ploy -- in order to get me to act the way he wants me to act, he immaturely pulls away. I'm still pondering whether or not its worth it to play along hahahaha. I know what he's doing, thats why I'm annoyed.

See, he's a leo-virgo cusp guy with a Saggie moon and a cancer venus. Its like a 'slow-burn' thing with him. Its so funny, really. If I wasn't his friend, I totally wouldn't know what he's doing. Only because he's upset because I won't do one thing that impossible for me to do at the moment.

So yeah, I'm really thinking, should I even care. He's already telling a buddy of his that I don't care about him and that I played around with him.

Whatever, it was all a misunderstanding lol.

I asked about his venus in cancer because I want to know how to get to him emotionally. He and I seem to have a spiritual connection. When I'm around him, no matter how hard he tries, he can't seem walk away from me lol. Which is endearing, but now that he's upset, I need to know how to reach him, without being too direct, you know?
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Posted by snow_child
My ex had venus in cancer. On the love department he liked women that are blond and have big breast, so if you have these "qualities" it will help. He was very sexual. He was 100% loyal and devoted to me. He would do everything for me, because I took care of him and his needs. Venus in cancer love women that are nurturing and fun I think. The problem was his temper, but I don't think that was his cancer venus. That was the leo in his chart and his scorpio mars. 100% feelings and 0% logic...



lol @ snow_child

My breasts have grown with my age lol!!! I'm still in my 20s but its seems as if no matter how much weight I've lost, my boobs are the same. I'm like B/C cup at the moment. Well, maybe C lol. With a push-up bra, they look bigger.

I'm always pointing out issues with my body and he says I look fine lol. When I gain weight, I can look rather stocky lol, but when I lose weight, I look different -- its like the stomach goes inward and I have a tiny belly that I can't seem to get rid of but I can hide it well 😉