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How are things with Mr. Pisces? Are things settling down, or are you ready to get into another dating adventure? Give us DA SCOOP!!!

Oh yeah I wanna know too.
yay if you're still together and "you can do way better than him anyway" if you're not.
See, I'm covering all bases here.

hey girls if my memory serves me right she went out of town for the 4th!! but I wanna know too girl!! when you get back!! lol

She should be back by now.. 😢

The message boards are hardly moving along I noticed. Now I know why! Come backkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

Cancerlady - where are you—? we miss your wonderful advice and the boards are BORING without you!! come back soon🙂
clvzl!

i sure hope CL is o.k. have not herd from her all week?

It does feel weird that she hasn't been on in a while.

Maybe she's spanking her P-Man all those days?

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Sorry guys I have been busy...

Except that smile on the lady is more like...

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WTF? Pregnancy?

Cancerlady ~

Hope things are ok - your smiley looked a tad bit prego and sad? Are you trying to tell us something? Talk to us - it will make you feel better. Anyways - you can tell we are all thinking about you so . . . we are here for you. Right guys?

clvzl!

Yeah, my hotness has finally caught up with me...I'm having Mr. Pisces baby!

Woe is me, woe is me!

Wow,

Is that good or bad, now?

Well,

It's not like I never wanted to have children or that I can't afford it...it's just that I never really wanted to be somebody's baby mama. Besides, I just can't see him being the type of father I would want for my child. Hell he can't even get himself together enough for me, let alone a baby. AND I'm like his THIRD baby mama! I deserve to be a first wife, not a THIRD baby mama.

In his defense though, he is actually very excited (probably hopeful that I will bear his first son) We went through it a bit this weekend after I found out on Friday, but he has been supportive. I am just so scared...Never been pregnant before. I have my first appt. with the doctor in a few hours. Hopefully I'll find out how far along I am.

Cancerlady (soon to be CancerMama)

From your post I assume that this event is a good one for you. You seem to be happy with that. Also, since he is supportive to you in that situation, he's probably a good man. Keep us informing CancerMama 😄

Haffo,

Honestly I can't say whether I am happy or sad! Sometimes I feel happy because I do love him and I love children...

Other times I feel kinda sad because I don't know what to expect and STD & I were supposed to go backpacking in Europe Summe 2006. So much for that. I guess I'm still adjusting to the whole idea.

I still haven't told my family though...I know my sisters won't trip, but I wouldn't be able to handle it if my mother was unsupportive.

CL

Oh you scared of responsibility, because it happened unplanned. Besides, your biggest supporter won't be your family. Your biggest supporter is your P-Man. And as far as I understood, he's willing to support you. Relax girl. You will be fine.

Congratulations!!! Cancer"mama"

Dont fret it is a scary situation! But nothing that a baby's first cry wont take away! Dont worry about your parents, they may be upset at first maybe even your hole pregnancy but once they see the babies face it all goes away!

And with or without MR.P you can do it..... im sure of it! Well I have two lil ones so if you have any queastions or concerns with your pregnancy Im here!! OH JUST WAITE until you feel your babies first roll in your tummy in a couple of months! aaaaahhhhh Im so excited for you!!

Just remember..... everything happens for a reason 😉

Congrats C-Lady!

This is wonderful news, there's nothing like being a mother. I'm so happy for you. I know that it's kind of scary, but, once you start feeling him/her move inside of you, you're going to then understand what makes you complete. You're so sweet and kind, this child is going to have all the love in the world it needs.

I know that things are a little shaky with P-man right now, but, no matter what happens with you and him, you'll have this wonderful little bundle of joy who is going to love you unconditionally and I just know you'll be a fantastic mum.

hey p-angel i think we are on the same page!

Hi GEG,

Isn't is amazing when you feel it move inside of you? There's this bond that can't even be described - it just has to be felt.

How have you been? I've been gone for a while.

I have been good....still kinda torturing myself!

Yes being pregnant is Joy like none other! I loved everyday of my pregnancies even through the morning sickness (all day long) and the kidney stones with my second (ouch) lol! Your right the feeling is amazing some of my friends dont want kids and Im like gosh you dont know what you missing... you think you know what love is...ha ha ha you have no idea! I just tell them that they are going to miss out on one of the most precious gifts of all. (I could NEVER imagine my life with out them....even when I do feel like wetting there lips and sticken them to the wall!! LOL

And . . . it never ends. Just Saturday night past, my son who is in his twenties, and clearly and adult . . . had to go stand in the corner because he was bad, lol.

He stood there alright, and good thing because if it wasn't for the two walls that connect in the corner . . . he would have fallen over completely inebriated. It was hilarious because he was so drunk that he actually carried on a conversation with the corner, telling it to be good, or I'll put it in time-out.

A mother's job is never done!

lol!!! thats funny!!

Thanks for the support guys...

I just got off the phone with Mr. Pisces and now he has changed his whole story...He thought that I was going to have an abortion which is why he was "pretending" to be mad about me telling him I was going to do that.

Now his story is "I already have three children, (two biological and the son of a friend whom he has looked over all his life) and I'm not ready for another, and I was just saying that I wanted you to have it so it wouldn't cause any discord in our relationship.

Honestly...if I stop lying to myself, I am not sad about the baby, just who the father is. He never thinks about anyone other than himself. I I I I ME ME ME ME. Well this is my first child and I CANNOT see myself killing it. If I was to have a miscarriage then I figure that would be God's way of telling me "not now" but otherwise, once I accepted the reality of the drastic life change this is...I was kinda excited. Scared as HELL, but excited.

CL (a/k/a CM)~

I must concur with the rest of the messages - you will never know love like you do with your own child. If you are not sure about your emotions about being pregnant right now - it is ok. That is a seriously life changing event. It will be a Changing event but not an ending event - you can still go hiking with STD, it will just take a lot more planning than before (since you have to think about the little one!) You will be a great mom, caring and full of wonderful advice and being able to put the smack down when it is absolutly necessary!!🙂

Always remember - things happen for a reason. I hope Mr. P is there for you and proves to be a wonderful dad - it sounds like he will. My babby dad isn't worth a crap and my son and I are fine!!! My son keeps me going a lot of the time (thank god for him!).

You have been blessed with that little weee one! Take care - eat some nasty pre-natal vitamins and take a nap😉 I'm sure you are probably stressed out from the shocking news.

clvzl!

Oh my good gosh!
Well I certainly wasn't expecting pregnancy. But I'm sure you'll make a great mommy and ok maybe the father isn't who you thougth it would be but that doesn't change what the child may be and what he/she will mean to you. Nothings perfect no matter how much we plan it. Maybe he'll come around and be a great father and maybe he won't but at least the baby will have you.

And may I just say....this is his THIRD child with a different woman? Does he have no self control?

cl ~

I just read your last post. Fu*k him! You don't need him! If Mr. P wants to be an ass let him. You can do it by yourself - it isn't that bad.
Like i said my babby dad isn't worth crap (i don't even get child support or anything and my son is 4) and my son and I do just fine. I have a beautiful little boy that means everything to me!
Sometimes i wish i wasn't the baby mama #2, but o well we made a cute, smart, and adorable little boy.

His loss if he doesn't want to be apart of it!
clvzl!

wow C-mama~

WEll seems to me that if he was soooooo concerned about being a daddy of four he would have coverd his D!@#!!!!! To bad its not his decision now is it! hey just know that you have friends all over the US who have never even met you but will help you as much as we can! Hey you wanna go hiking Drop the little bunddle of joy off at Auntie green eyes house!! Jade and Tyler would love to have a baby in the house!! lol Big hugs to you ~CM~ I know its a lot to take in at this time so dont stress out out you will be just fine!! Call apon the Almighty when in doubt 😉

I agree with GEG. If he dont want a baby, why he let it happen in the first place. There are many pregnancy preventing ways. The easiest and most used way is condom damn it. If he so stupid one to not think about that, it's no wonder he's getting third child. Bleh...

Cancer La-- Mama 🙂 Sorry about the delay. I'm taking classes during the day for this week, and it's gonna take me some time to keep up with yah!

Ok.. I've finally read through.. and here are my thoughts:

#1. Europe will be there- we can go backpacking anytime you want! HM, but did somebody say, baby shower—!!

#2. I don't know your family, but sounds like you have a large support base here (not to mention ME!) Lots of hugs, lots of love.. a baby will change a lot in your life .. and not all of necessarily bad... however- if you're gonna do this, it's a good idea to tell the folks. Whatever their reaction, in the end you are kin and so is the baby!

#3. I don't know how things are with you and Mr.P- but um.... given his track record, I'd take his a $ $ to court.

Oh, and you have my #- use it!

Ha Ha Ha!

How ironic is this? Remember when I was writing on the post that Softy created...the one where she said she sometimes wishes that her baby girl wasn't a Scorpio because she hurt her feelings sometimes?

Well in that post I said that if I could plan my children I would have a Pisces boy...Guess when the baby is tentatively due? (Just off dates, not ultrasound)

When they say God has a sense of humor....

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I am so lucky to have people that care about me that don't even know me...*tear* now you guys know I am emotional already, the pregnancy isn't helping!

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH for the support! I will keep you all abreast of what's going on. I am still pretty early on so you guys will be there for almost the whole thing!

STD....I didn't think about the whole baby shower thing...Good idea! Hmmm...Now you know how I am wanting a whole big production & everything. LOL! Let's plan for late February. I am looking at moving from my apt. now. It was okay for me, but NO WAY am I even going to have my baby in there!

CL ---> March (CancerMama)

Enough about me and my drama...How is everyone else?

STD....—?? http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008_ZSYYYYYYYYUS' target='_blank'>

GEG....—??

P-Angel, can I still wanton blount?

Cancerkitten, how is you Pisces treating you? Be careful of the fertility of these two signs!

CancerlvsLibra...Is your Libra still hanging in there?

Inquiring minds wanna know!

CL

Haffo, your brother still getting on your nerves?

lol.Thanks for the warning. Trust me every possible precaution will now be used.lol

CL~

I totally should sent this in a PM - cause I know it is gonna be long, but o well I guess everyone can give me there feedback on him too!!!
Mr. Libra is still hanging in there, the question is how long will I hang. Well lots have been going on since I last gave you the drama! Well last week he called me and I was still at work (doing Overtime). I told him that I would call him later after I was done work. He called me back like a half hour later - yep i was still at work and so we talked until i was done then he came over. When we were talking on the phone I said something to my co-worker about how much i love my job, and libra decides to pipe in and say "did you just say that you loved me so much" and I said "no - i was talking to a co-worker about my job" So I proceed to say that I might love him if he loved me. He says "I have a lot of love for you, you are one of the most caring and nice people I have ever meet" "Being in love is a whole new topic" (what the F does that mean?) Well I took it as I love you but I'm not in love with you and so all of my walls shot up. All four walls and with fricken lock and key!!
Anyways, he came over we started to cook, he made part of the supper and I made the other part. I knew that I wasn't going to be myself around him because i was guarded from what he said earlier, he knew i was in a "bad" mood and so he was asking me what was wrong all night long. He says to me "it is ok to love me, ali" and I was thinking to myself WHATEVER - why should i love you if you don't love me. Right? Doesn't that only make sense? Finally he asked if it was him that was making me act like this and I said "YES" but it was left at that. So anyways I wouldn't hug, or kiss him that night and he didn't like that at all. He left by giving me a wet kiss on my forehead! (god i really wanted to kiss him)

On Friday, he came over with a couple of friends just long enough so that he could meet my girls that I graduated college with that were visiting from out of town. Mr. Charmer oh I mean Mr. Libra turned on the charm and my friends loved him! Even though one of them told me my babby daddy was cuter! ha ha funny! Anyways so I must have had a change of heart that day cause all I could think about was kissing them lucious lips! He told me no that he was "gonna have to teach me a lesson for not giving him one the other day" He asked again why i was such a crab (no pun intended!) on tuesday and I said that I probably wouldn't be crabby if i knew where his head was. I told him remember when you were saying "it's ok to love me blah blah blah". I said what if I feel like that and he says do you? Then I responded my asking him if I should just wear my heart on my sleave, and I pointed to my sleave. So he says well "let me keep that in my pocket" and pretended like he was taking my heart(bastard heart stealer!). I told him that he can't have my heart until he gives me his (50/50) my heart for yours. He said "well have to talk about that 🙂"


Well you guys draw your conclusions and let me know. I haven't talked to him since Friday evening (I was out of town and my phone didn't work) so we'll see if he calls tonight. PLAYER? SCARED?

Sorry this is so long everyone!
clvzl!

I forgot one "funny" thing that he said! CL - you will appreciate this!
So we were looking at some old pics of mine. So I was showing him one that I took when I was at a Mystikal concert (in the front row - so close you can see Mystikals fillings in my pic - ha close!) anyways so I said Oh look it is my future baby daddy. . . he looks and says that isn't me put that away. I'm your future babby daddy.

So if i post a message in a while (which I'm positive won't happen!) saying I'm prego - CL and I will have to have a double baby shower. BUT we won't talk about that cause it won't happen!!!!

clvzl!

I'm not here to say I told you so. Really I'm not. It's just that I used to work with young women in your situation. I suppose that's why I had such a strong reaction to some of your posts. When you see the patterns over and over again, a woman takes up with one guy after another, they get pregnant or wind up with a venerial disease. Sure it seems like it's all fun and games, but who pays the price for it? WE DO. It's important that you accept responsiblilty for this. It's very easy to characterize the guy as a creep, but we all know the writing was on the wall. You need to take responsibility for it. So this situation doesn't repeat itself. It's not all about big penises and what stranger ate your pussy last night. What good's a big penis if a man doesn't have character enough to live up to his obligations.

All I can suggest is, turn to your friends and family, and don't be afraid to check out the support services in your area. You're making a brave choice in keeping this baby, and I wish you all the best.

Cancerlady, I've read many of your posts, you've got a good head on your shoulders and you know what you want (especially in a man 😉). I think you'll make a great mom!!! Just don't settle for anything you think is less than what you deserve. That's something that I've seen is that you might be doing that. P-man can and should get things straight as far as you two are concerned. Settle for nothing less, you and your baby deserve it!

Cancerlvzlibra, sweety, I truly think this guy is into you. He's just waiting for you to be solid on things before he is. He's just as afraid of getting hurt as you, at least that's what I see. I think it's safe to go for it. Honestly, if you don't put your heart out on the line, you could really miss out on a great opportunity. And what's worse, missing out on the chance to love someone who loves you back and building a future together? Or getting hurt, and having to move on? Which I still don't think that would be the case.

Good luck to both of you wonderful ladies!!! Take care!!

Storm 🙂

Ah thats the reason,well then I apologize for considering you a racist then toto.Now backup and try to word that in a non insulting way and cancerlady may be willing to reply to you without feeling insulted.Congrants cancerlady on the soon to be arrival.Hope everything turns out for the both of you(the baby and you anyways).

Toto in other words being as you are in that job you should know very well that conviction goes nowhere and will get more retaliation to it then it will help that person.If you treat people like trash thats all they will think of themselves or will know they are not and woun't be willing to hear you out with your concerns for them.

Wow congrats on being a mummy,cancer lady. As fo that P-man from da get go when he started that lieing nonsense, i say do not study him,study u and ur son. Th future is bright for both of you. And do not be wooed or wowed by his"apologies or mask of hapiness". Congrats again cancerlady

Ugh...why does this b1tch always come around and spoil everything? Yeah you would be right if I had been sleeping around with several different men and perhaps if I was sixteen with no job, no idea who my baby daddy was or if I really did have to get on welfare to support my child.

BUT

Seeing as though I am a college graduate with a good job (albeit not my IDEAL job) resources and finances to support a child that I am not necessarily sad that I am having (just sort of confused) then your point has no relevance. You cannot compare me to WHATEVER girl you worked with because the only person who knows my situation truly is ME stupid b1tch. I am so tired of you attacking me for no reason! What the f*ck did I ever do to you?

Why are you such a judgemental B!tch? I don't blame him for getting me pregnant, I blame myself because I had raw dog sex. And you know what? IT WAS GOOD and I wouldn't change a thing about my life right now. Why don't you stop trying to disguise your underlying bitterness at me for WHATEVER REASON as concern and FU^K OFF!

Cancerlady

Now CancerlvzLibra...

I agree with Storm...You know Libras and Cancers are both reluctant to make the first move so that could be a factor. I think he likes you alot though...Just be careful of the charm! If you feel what you feel for him though, how he feels for you shouldn't change that.

Perhaps even if he doesn't love you now, he may grow to love you and believe me that lasts longer than the love at first sight stuff because it is based on knowledge of the person and compromise.

CL

Technically you shouldn't get worried or stressed about what she says,it's not good for the baby this early.Everyone knows it takes TWO to tango so noones really to blame or at fault,so don't beat yourself up over it.I think you will be a great mom,ya know,it's common sense that if you weren't concerned and somewhere in there excited with the baby you wouldn't be posting this here.And again congrats since I screwed that up the last time,damn tiamat airhead typos lol.

CL~

You tell &toto2 to stick up her as $ ! I'm in the same boat as you college degree and doing just fine thank you! Not easy always, but I don't see myself collecting welfare!

So &toto2, mind your business and start a post for young, uneducated mothers that live on wefare and you can feel free to give all the advice you want. Until then don't preach to people that pay for those girls on welfare and still manage with no help from anyone but themselves.

clvzl!