Since an Aries deleted and her thread is gone...

Christmas with Water

This is not sign specific, imo but water men are harder to comprehend sometimes. This is what trips women up in situations like this

It must —mean?? something if he wants to take me here and meet these people.

I wonder how many women ASK the other person why they have been invited to an eventful social... or do they simply assume. Why not just ask? Is it because they might not like the answer, if they ask. Or they may assume that the answer they are given if they do ask, is not completely true.

To many, a holiday invitation means, —I want you to meet my friends and family because I want to take this relationship forward and involve these peoples?? views and opinions. I want them to know I am in a serious relationship with you.

This is pretty normal, actually. To see things framed through our thinking... the same as others will see the same situation through their own thinking. Same event... two completely different interpretations.

My Pisces asked me to have dinner with his family because he didn't want me to be alone on Christmas.

But... he didn't show on Christmas. I was in contact with him throughout the day with instructions to meet him at x place at such and such a time. I was there, he wasn't. Didn't answer his phone, didn't return my message.

I knew what was up. Lots of mixed emotions of course yet very calm. Most of my feelings stemmed from my own insecurities however (took me a couple days to figure that out) but what I was upset with him about was not respecting me enough to let me know it was a no go. Why let me get ready and show up and go through those rejection, confusion and waste of time feelings?

He showed up 2hours later and I wouldn't open the door. He wouldn't leave and said he didn't want me to feel more abandoned than I already did and wanted a chance to explain. All I was in a position to do was yell, rage and vent so I let him in... and he took it.

After the fire was quenched so to speak he explained that he was all ready, too. Sitting there about to walk out the door to meet me and he couldn't move. He couldn't do it. And because his decision was sudden and forceful he also couldn't face me because he had no explanation to give.

I had to deal with my insecurities first. React to, recognize and release them... (that took a few days) but through our conversations, I??ve learned that showing up for christmas dinner would have been more burden than a blessing.

There would have been company but not necessary good company. His families?? assumptions would lead to interrogation, teasing and probably rudeness on their part. (his words) Basically drama. And not just for that night but for many events to come for him. He wouldn't have been free to be the —him?? he is when it is just us. He decided at that moment that he didn't want his family involved in our relationship right now. It would??ve been a disruptive step backward not a progressive step forward where we are concerned.

So... he kept his word, I wasn't alone on Christmas. I had to let go of any attachments to xmas with his family to understand and be ok with his decision. NOT the manner in which it happened, that was discussed and resolved as well but I really didn't care about dinner.

And after hosting a day after xmas party and hearing the dramatic stories of my friend??s holiday feasts I was happy I was an outsider because however entertaining... I was emotionally drained just hearing about them.

You asked me how it went, so I told you...

I'm usually going with "I am inviting you to this event because I enjoy your company". At least this much is certain.