Posted by Jkatsstress, change, thinking things over, sort things out.... we do that all the time. Sometimes it has nothing to do with the partner. Its like we need that to grow, to not freek out about somethings. We don't want to look stupid, nor do we want anyone to see us weak. So we need that time alone to sort things out.
What things make y'all Cancerians go quiet? My guy's been quiet this past week and a half (hasn't disappeared, just much less communication than normal, FYI, we just talked yesterday), but I know he's a little stressed right now, plus we've been discussing marriage and baby in our near future.
Posted by akatsoupYeah, I would have the same or similar reaction it's really a huge insult and makes it seem like she doesnt think much of you and is only with you until someone better comes along.
- When a friend told me in front of another friend "but you never make me laugh! You are boring." (being serious) - gone - friendship is now just a simple acquaint. And just because I have to, otherwise I would completely "burn all the bridges".
Posted by akatsoupU hit the nail on the head. Its so easy 4 me especially if i dont love you to walk away...everything u said ill be ghost too. Whens ur birthday whats ur placements? Ive cut ppl off some ive told them why some just ignred lollll im june 23 virgo moon taurus venus. Ppl dont realize for me i want something serious i dont joke with my friends in a mean way to out them down...so why do that to me ur boring coo find another friend ctfu...or if we together why would i think about the next person when i hope this would lead to marriage...ok done next i agree with u
Hi, I am cancer. I'll speak for my personal experience.
I have found out that sometimes it's enough one word to make me lose my complete interest in someone. It's not a game, it's not a revenge, simply one word is enough to make me understand that the person I am dating is not my match and is not made to stay a whole life with me.
A few examples:
- A former partner asked me "How do you think your next partner will be? I always wonder for myself". Boom - I was gone the day after - broke up.
- A date, when I asked "how many people are you dating?" replied "just another one" - completely lost the interest after 2 months of dating, good times and amazing sex.
- When a friend told me in front of another friend "but you never make me laugh! You are boring." (being serious) - gone - friendship is now just a simple acquaint. And just because I have to, otherwise I would completely "burn all the bridges".
Of course, these situation have their context and much more reasons than a wrong word.
Except for the date one - I'll tell you more about this because it relates more to your post.
Even I was surprised to see how quickly my interest faded because of that reply. I am not excited to see her anymore, I am not looking forward having sex, but I keep on replying if she contacts me and because I know how distant I've turned.
When I reply, I pretend that everything is normal, because in my mind I think that I should give her another chance, that this will pass, that I shouldn't overthink on words... etc. But the truth is that my interest is faded and there's no way it's going to change...
Posted by GoldigoldHe sent me literally two texts in response to mine in a week. I'm the kind of person if in love, would like communication every day, even if it's a good morning thinking of you. I am really trying to be patient with him, but it's difficult me being the person that I am. Silence causes me to worry unfortunately. How often do you talk with yours?
If he is stressed about work/money, he might be depressed that he can't provide for the family he wants. Be patient..if you talked yesterday how are you not communicating enough? My cancer and I don't talk that often...sometimes they need a time out. To chill, he probably doesn't even realize it if he is under stress he is preoccupied with his thoughts and emotions.
Posted by rakacI know that he's stressed, I just wish he'd realize that he can talk to me about it, not shut me out. 😢
you might scared him off,or he's having emotional sad,depressed moments,he doesn't want to make you sad/depressed or take anger out of you so he miight comunicate less,other than that i don't rly stop talking to people,unless i need my time to recharge the energy,as energyzed as i'm sometimes i just need to be in nature,lay on grass and watch stars,the moon to get back my energy,mainly alone,unless my partrner can stay silent and just enjoy watching them with me without talking,that would be great 🙂
Posted by FinbuffVery interesting. And you do this even with an SO? Also, every time i've wished him a Happy/Merry whatever, he doesn't respond. I find that odd, though I was told that it's fairly normal for a Cancerian to act that way. But why—?
Yes sometimes we get in our moods, normally stressed relating to work, and we don't talk because when we do it comes out with too much intensity.
So you learn to avoid talking when you know you're stressed, unless you absolutely have to. Fairly normal. I've been quiet and stressed all week - don't know why. Sometimes I notice a correlation with holidays.
Posted by GoldigoldVery much in love. I know that he's in love with me, but he has trouble saying it, but will say yes when I ask him. My guy will ignore at times, but not often. Lately I think because he is stressed. Like today (I just saw him yesterday), I texted him, no response. Granted my text was not of much importance lol!
Are you in love or a deep like? My cancer has distanced himself while sorting out his thoughts but I give him his space. He never ignores me, if I call him everyday he picks up the phone and listens to me.We talk maybe once a week but text every day. Not all day long just to know that we are still in each others hearts. He lives in Norther Cal, I live in Southern. I used to worry and have my doubts in the beginning which is what brought me to this website. I think it has helped in understanding him. just try to be a pillar of strength and consistent, if you love him. Relax and don't worry. Good luck!
Just curious, but who brought up marriage? We are leaning in that direction, I read the girl in the relationship proposed..did you do the same? 🙂
Posted by Goldigold
I wear a ring on my engagement finger too, a guy that I work with asked me if I got in engaged over the weekend. My boyfriend was out visiting me. So we met after work, and I told him about that..and he asked me "Well, what does wearing that ring on your finger mean to you? I said it's telling other men "your not getting up in this lol" just trying to keep things light...and he said well maybe I should wear one too? I said yes, if you want to? (Did that sound flippant?). But it was a really sweet exchange. And the first time we brought up anything like this, we have been taking it really slowly, but are feelings for each other are deep and strong. We are definitely headed in that direction.
We were out having dinner with some of his friends that are married, and they were talking about divorce, and he said to me see this is why I never got married. We were talking about it later, and I told him whenever I hear someone talking about divorce I always tell them not to do it ( i've been through a divorce)he said good then we wont get a divorce. He also opened up to me about thinking he might be a alcoholic. I told him I know honey, and he isn't he just likes to drink. I have known alcoholics...he just likes to feel relaxed.
Anyway, what is your sign?
Just let things unfold naturally, in the beginning he brought that up because of the intense feeling he had for you. I went through that with my guy. Just relax...when he goes hot and cold, its because he is moody, don't think about it too much. He will love you more because of it, sometimes they just need to go through their stuff, it's just they way they are and they don't change. So just relax in knowing he loves you and focus on other things in your life, like your career and he will love you more because of it.
Not flippant at all, good answer! Now i'm wondering if he asked me that as a test. All I said to his question was, no reason, which was the truth, but maybe he was looking for more when he asked if I was engaged to him, though idk what he thought I would say when it's obviously not reality. And awww, i'm really happy for you, so exciting!
I am a Virgo, so very much the opposite of Cancer lol! And no matter how many times I tell myself to just chill, my mind goes into overdrive, and I always end up imagining the worst and overthink things. One of the worst things about being a Virgo.
Oh and something else I thought of, he said that he told his mother that we'd be expecting by the summertime. This kind of baffles me though since we're not even official, and because i've never even met her lol!
Posted by Goldigold
I wear a ring on my engagement finger too, a guy that I work with asked me if I got in engaged over the weekend. My boyfriend was out visiting me. So we met after work, and I told him about that..and he asked me "Well, what does wearing that ring on your finger mean to you? I said it's telling other men "your not getting up in this lol" just trying to keep things light...and he said well maybe I should wear one too? I said yes, if you want to? (Did that sound flippant?). But it was a really sweet exchange. And the first time we brought up anything like this, we have been taking it really slowly, but are feelings for each other are deep and strong. We are definitely headed in that direction.
We were out having dinner with some of his friends that are married, and they were talking about divorce, and he said to me see this is why I never got married. We were talking about it later, and I told him whenever I hear someone talking about divorce I always tell them not to do it ( i've been through a divorce)he said good then we wont get a divorce. He also opened up to me about thinking he might be a alcoholic. I told him I know honey, and he isn't he just likes to drink. I have known alcoholics...he just likes to feel relaxed.
Anyway, what is your sign?
Just let things unfold naturally, in the beginning he brought that up because of the intense feeling he had for you. I went through that with my guy. Just relax...when he goes hot and cold, its because he is moody, don't think about it too much. He will love you more because of it, sometimes they just need to go through their stuff, it's just they way they are and they don't change. So just relax in knowing he loves you and focus on other things in your life, like your career and he will love you more because of it.
Read above comment. Sorry, it got messed up somehow when I was writing it out.
Posted by LunarManWhat do you consider "pestering of text messages"? I try not to text my guy too much, every two days or so, which I don't think is too much. Like today, I texted him (I saw him yesterday, but this was after two weeks) and he never replied. What is he saying with his silence you think?
Feeling pressured,stress,constant pestering of text messages and phone calls,being made to feel guilty for wantng alone time.
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