Cancer men do you try to make a FWB romantic all the time or do you get the lines clear?
Ugh I feel like this Cancer Man wants me to fall in love with him so he can bounce lol.
There really is no benefit of a FWB for a Cancer male. Speaking for myself, I will enter a FWB really just to have the touch of a woman. The sex, kissing, affection etc. is a low simmer at best. It sounds kind of shitty, but it is a FWB and I will leave it in the dust for someone I have true feelings for if she comes around. Rarely ever is this the person I'm involved with the FWB. It's not a double standard either. If someone comes around for her, and the benefits have to stop, I completely understand.
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There really is no benefit of a FWB for a Cancer male. Speaking for myself, I will enter a FWB really just to have the touch of a woman. The sex, kissing, affection etc. is a low simmer at best. It sounds kind of shitty, but it is a FWB and I will leave it in the dust for someone I have true feelings for if she comes around. Rarely ever is this the person I'm involved with the FWB. It's not a double standard either. If someone comes around for her, and the benefits have to stop, I completely understand.
So then why would the crab I know want or do this? Or want a one night stand ?
@crabra why do you guys push ppl away when everything is going great?
@HunnyBunniie
From my experience, it's an insecurity thing. I'm known for it as well, because when things are going great, I constantly worry about this person hurting me, ending the relationship, or abandoning me as everyone else has done who I have given my heart to.
I consider this the stage where you need to sink your feet in the sand to withstand the crashing waves of cancer that tries to push you right back to where you came from. Don't just give up thinking this crazy crab is playing with your feelings. This pushing is more than likely happening instinctually if things are going great for the most part like you say. Your Taurus sun will help so much with this. You have to work together to get past his defenses so he creates a sense of security with you.
From my experience, it's an insecurity thing. I'm known for it as well, because when things are going great, I constantly worry about this person hurting me, ending the relationship, or abandoning me as everyone else has done who I have given my heart to.
I consider this the stage where you need to sink your feet in the sand to withstand the crashing waves of cancer that tries to push you right back to where you came from. Don't just give up thinking this crazy crab is playing with your feelings. This pushing is more than likely happening instinctually if things are going great for the most part like you say. Your Taurus sun will help so much with this. You have to work together to get past his defenses so he creates a sense of security with you.
The Cancer I'm into tells me he has the same feelings....but he tries THAT MUCH to stay as alienated as possible one day and too much close the other. What's wrong with Cancer men?
I read you all about having long run, security etc... but this one says he's unsure whether he wants to get ever settled in life (he's 35 though).
As a result, i dunno if I should just tell him to hit the road or wait for him to be ready...
I read you all about having long run, security etc... but this one says he's unsure whether he wants to get ever settled in life (he's 35 though).
As a result, i dunno if I should just tell him to hit the road or wait for him to be ready...
Most cancer men are 35 and up and still not married...strange
Cancer men do this hmm. I guess men women r different 4 each sign?
I'm a cancer male. The answer to the original post, at least for me, is no we don't try and make a FWB romantic all the time. For me it can go that way, or not, depending strictly on the woman's behavior. For me, I'm reactive to the woman I'm having the FWB situation with. I've been in one where there was an undeniable emotional connection / chemistry, we talked alot and connected quick, so it evolved into dating her. But it was more me reacting to her behavior. The only other FWB I had was purely just sex, and it was awesome that way, and I knew I didn't like her romantically, and she was pretty much like a dude, no real feelings, just passion. So it stayed just the benefits, no real friendship part, and I never wanted more than that with her, and neither did she. So for me totally depends on the woman and how we connect. I would never try and make a FWB fall in love with me just for the hell of it if I didn't feel the same. But I'm older, mature, I think that plays a part. A 21 year old Cancer male could act very differently.
Posted by ladylibra21Yeah, thank you!!! I watch his blogues his advice is gorgeous!!! 🙂
but I might have a slightly different situation as we aren't actually dating to say something like that. I like this cancer a lot. But I don't think i will agree on something less than sincere commitment. So Matthew is partially right here 🙂
Posted by jayolmHow long did you date and how it ended if ended? ))
I'm a cancer male. The answer to the original post, at least for me, is no we don't try and make a FWB romantic all the time. For me it can go that way, or not, depending strictly on the woman's behavior. For me, I'm reactive to the woman I'm having the FWB situation with. I've been in one where there was an undeniable emotional connection / chemistry, we talked alot and connected quick, so it evolved into dating her. But it was more me reacting to her behavior. The only other FWB I had was purely just sex, and it was awesome that way, and I knew I didn't like her romantically, and she was pretty much like a dude, no real feelings, just passion. So it stayed just the benefits, no real friendship part, and I never wanted more than that with her, and neither did she. So for me totally depends on the woman and how we connect. I would never try and make a FWB fall in love with me just for the hell of it if I didn't feel the same. But I'm older, mature, I think that plays a part. A 21 year old Cancer male could act very differently.
You said yourself you just was responsive to her. Are you able to initiate yourself? Or cancers are just following the flow?
We initially dated about 4 months. She ended it in the nicest way possible, we parted on good terms. Our age difference was pretty big I was 15 years older than her, and she met a guy much closer to her own age she liked, so I was accepting of it, but it hurt. She then texted me 9 months later after they broke up, and we dated again last summer. I meant to keep it just casual dating but I started falling for her, so I asked her to commit, but she didn't feel quite the same, so I ended it then.
If you're asking just dating in general, I usually won't initiate until I get some signals from the woman first, constant staring, a smile, a hello, anything to signal to me she's open for me approaching her. So mostly yes, I do just go with the flow and look for signs before acting. But I have cold approached too on occasion, and that's worked for me very recently so am trying my best to be more brave about doing that. I hate to say I speak for all Cancer men in my behavior, every individual is different, but I'm sure some of my behavior is a common theme in many Cancer males.
If you're asking just dating in general, I usually won't initiate until I get some signals from the woman first, constant staring, a smile, a hello, anything to signal to me she's open for me approaching her. So mostly yes, I do just go with the flow and look for signs before acting. But I have cold approached too on occasion, and that's worked for me very recently so am trying my best to be more brave about doing that. I hate to say I speak for all Cancer men in my behavior, every individual is different, but I'm sure some of my behavior is a common theme in many Cancer males.
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