fellow aries, what would you do

Posted by RamOfPeace
Sounds stupid. Don't go.

That's what I said!

@AriesJo

11 Years500+ Posts

It sounds like a joke, and I think you can do much better, why doesn't he think about what you want? Why is he angry? He just sounds selfish. You are the lady, remember that.

And if he's scared about living with you after going out two years, then I think you should think about seeing what other guys are on the market. Maybe that is a bit drastic, but I would definitely take a step back. Under no circumstance would I go, you are not a possession he just tells to go live there and then in a different house, so he can have you when it suits him, and not give you any commitment. The problem is either he doesn't love you or he doesn't have balls.

maybe it's us Aries, but if you truly love someone you move in together, you don't waste time, waste life, it's boring! Two years is a long time for an Aries, tell him you want him to stay with you and not move to another state, if he loves you he will? If not it's his loss.

@RamOfPeace

10 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by ariesheart

Posted by RamOfPeace
Sounds stupid. Don't go.

That's what I said!
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After dating for two years?..

"Honey, lets move to a different state, but oh we cannot live together, you'll have to deal with staying at a different place, so sorry."

I had a similar issue. But reverse. I told my cancer tha He should move to where I am but live separately. For me it was mainly to also take time and make sure he was moving for himself and not for me. So if it didn't work out he wouldn't resent me. Because that's a lot of responsibility to have someone to move somewhere with you. Now if we had been together for 1 plus years then living together wouldn't be a question but it was still a young relationship. And although I loved him a lot it was a huge commitment and a lot to ask out of both of us. Plus i believe it would put a huge strain on the relationship to be so dependent so soon on a person you barely know but have strong feelings for. I was sure it would ruin the relationship if we mo Ed too soon too fast in a new relationship. You don't get a chase to build a strong relationship. Trust me I had a friend do that and to this day they are still trying to build that foundation and are struggling after so many years.

Hope that helps

Posted by RamOfPeace

Posted by ariesheart

Posted by RamOfPeace
Sounds stupid. Don't go.

That's what I said!

After dating for two years?..

"Honey, lets move to a different state, but oh we cannot live together, you'll have to deal with staying at a different place, so sorry."

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What makes it even crazy, he told his grandma if I move there he's gonna propose. I think he's just insecure

I know he loves me. I'm the only woman he's ever introduced to his whole family. Even his ex wife only knows his mom, but he was raised by his grandma and aunts. Including his son. His last girlfriend of 3yrs didn't even meet him

Posted by xtina
I had a similar issue. But reverse. I told my cancer tha He should move to where I am but live separately. For me it was mainly to also take time and make sure he was moving for himself and not for me. So if it didn't work out he wouldn't resent me. Because that's a lot of responsibility to have someone to move somewhere with you. Now if we had been together for 1 plus years then living together wouldn't be a question but it was still a young relationship. And although I loved him a lot it was a huge commitment and a lot to ask out of both of us. Plus i believe it would put a huge strain on the relationship to be so dependent so soon on a person you barely know but have strong feelings for. I was sure it would ruin the relationship if we mo Ed too soon too fast in a new relationship. You don't get a chase to build a strong relationship. Trust me I had a friend do that and to this day they are still trying to build that foundation and are struggling after so many years.

I think ima just let this be a break. If he can't decide on us living together, than its over. Sad, but it is what it is

Posted by RamOfPeace

Posted by ariesheart

Posted by RamOfPeace
Sounds stupid. Don't go.

That's what I said!

After dating for two years?..

"Honey, lets move to a different state, but oh we cannot live together, you'll have to deal with staying at a different place, so sorry."

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Didn't read this... Yeah what's his deal?

You are right to question.

,aye make it a condition. You'll only move there if you live together.

If not. Forget it.

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Posted by xtina
I had a similar issue. But reverse. I told my cancer tha He should move to where I am but live separately. For me it was mainly to also take time and make sure he was moving for himself and not for me. So if it didn't work out he wouldn't resent me. Because that's a lot of responsibility to have someone to move somewhere with you. Now if we had been together for 1 plus years then living together wouldn't be a question but it was still a young relationship. And although I loved him a lot it was a huge commitment and a lot to ask out of both of us. Plus i believe it would put a huge strain on the relationship to be so dependent so soon on a person you barely know but have strong feelings for. I was sure it would ruin the relationship if we mo Ed too soon too fast in a new relationship. You don't get a chase to build a strong relationship. Trust me I had a friend do that and to this day they are still trying to build that foundation and are struggling after so many years.

I think ima just let this be a break. If he can't decide on us living together, than its over. Sad, but it is what it is
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