LibraSid
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Understanding the female crab...
Cancers communicate in their own way.
It takes time to figure it out.
If you're interested in a roller coaster ride, where you'll have no idea what's going on most of the time... Enjoy!
It takes time to figure it out.
If you're interested in a roller coaster ride, where you'll have no idea what's going on most of the time... Enjoy!
Posted by shellshocker
Cancers communicate in their own way.
It takes time to figure it out.
If you're interested in a roller coaster ride, where you'll have no idea what's going on most of the time... Enjoy!
So ineffective communication is typical? Is that what the "you'll have no idea what's going on most of the time" part comes in?
It might be your interpretation as ineffective... but it's how a Cancer does things.
If someone doesn't get it, we usually move on. The Cancer sign is often deemed as 'hard to get'.
Try...
not jumping to conclusions
not having expectations on how YOU think communication should proceed, or be
listening to what she tells you...
Communication with a Cancer is subtle. You need to try and pick up on her queues, because there is more to learn in her actions than her words.
You're a Libra? If this makes any sense to you... you may have a chance.
If someone doesn't get it, we usually move on. The Cancer sign is often deemed as 'hard to get'.
Try...
not jumping to conclusions
not having expectations on how YOU think communication should proceed, or be
listening to what she tells you...
Communication with a Cancer is subtle. You need to try and pick up on her queues, because there is more to learn in her actions than her words.
You're a Libra? If this makes any sense to you... you may have a chance.
Tasha is right! Libra Sid... i do the same thing all the time.. i made up an excuse ( not a lie ) that I need to "clean my room" for instance so I don't "have" to talk with a guy , or at least for him not to expect a call from me... just so he can "miss" me a little.. and he can see i have a life rather than daydreaming about "us" all day. It seems to me that she really likes you but she is being careful and take it slow, she reassured you that she wasn't blowing you off for any stupid thing...if it was me.. i would say that my car needs some work so you can offer your help with that... believe we put little tests like that to see if someone is really interested.. because we play the hard to get game at the beginning...
hope that helps
hope that helps
call your crab girl libraSid ... I am sometimes call a meanie because i use harsh words to people... or i give mean looks.. i just cant control it.. i get annoyed by a lot of things... but when people get to know us better you will see a softie...
I don't know LibraSid... I don't lie, play games, give mean looks or use harsh words with people.
I also don't believe in stringing people along... because I don't like to fuck with people's emotions.
I may avoid advances that I feel are superficial, but if someone is really interested in me... the reasons I use for not seeing them are real. They may be elusive, vague and confusing reasons... but they are real non the less.
I guess you never really know the kind of cancer you're going to get.
I also don't believe in stringing people along... because I don't like to fuck with people's emotions.
I may avoid advances that I feel are superficial, but if someone is really interested in me... the reasons I use for not seeing them are real. They may be elusive, vague and confusing reasons... but they are real non the less.
I guess you never really know the kind of cancer you're going to get.
Are you guys really trying to get a Libra with a Cancer—
Thank you all for the responses so far.
I did respond but just kept it light and easy. I can tell she is guarded and protecting herself from something. I am in no rush for anything so the "this takes time" comments don't worry me.
Tasha, (I think it was you who asked) I do not have self esteem issues. I mentioned being "blown off" a couple times because that was the basis of the original question. I do appreciate all the input.
And Mr. Crabby ... what's wrong with Libra / Cancer? One of my best friends is a cancer female.
I did respond but just kept it light and easy. I can tell she is guarded and protecting herself from something. I am in no rush for anything so the "this takes time" comments don't worry me.
Tasha, (I think it was you who asked) I do not have self esteem issues. I mentioned being "blown off" a couple times because that was the basis of the original question. I do appreciate all the input.
And Mr. Crabby ... what's wrong with Libra / Cancer? One of my best friends is a cancer female.
And Mr. Crabby ... what's wrong with Libra / Cancer? One of my best friends is a cancer female.
Yes, I wish I had understood that sooner. Friends is ok because the Libra feels desired enough with the flirty stuff, but anything more can't really work. That was crab man-libby girl, though. Maybe the opposite is different!
Posted by mr.crabby
And Mr. Crabby ... what's wrong with Libra / Cancer? One of my best friends is a cancer female.
Yes, I wish I had understood that sooner. Friends is ok because the Libra feels desired enough with the flirty stuff, but anything more can't really work. That was crab man-libby girl, though. Maybe the opposite is different!click to expand
The one who is a good friend and the one I asked this question about are different people. I guess I like to be around Crabs.
Well, we're peaceful creatures in general, that might be appealing to Libras at first, until you discover we're hard work and trouble.
Posted by moon_eyes
It can work really depends on the placements of the libra and cancer like duh people you should know this. What is hard is that at first libra and cancer are really good off, have good friendship and everything else, but the libra does not fully understand the cancer as much as other signs do. This is not to say that Libra and Cancer wont work. You just gotta try it if you really want to.
I am not scared of Cancer women. I have a strong grasp and understanding of my emotions (something that is not common for Libras... or men in general). I am a single father and am not the typical "social butterfly" Libra either. I have settled down and grown up a lot over the last couple years. My children have also taught me a great deal about patience.
I am not sure what all this means but somewhere earlier in the thread someone asked about my chart. If it helps the conversation you guys are free to inform me what this means (I am new to learning about astrology but am picking it up quick and am very interested).
Sun is in 02 Degrees Libra
Rising Sign is in 27 Degrees Virgo
Moon is in 15 Degrees Aries
Mercury is in 23 Degrees Libra
Venus is in 19 Degrees Leo
Mars is in 18 Degrees Scorpio
Jupiter is in 23 Degrees Virgo
Saturn is in 00 Degrees Libra
Uranus is in 22 Degrees Scorpio
Neptune is in 20 Degrees Sagittarius
Pluto is in 20 Degrees Libra
N. Node is in 19 Degrees Leo
Posted by moon_eyes
It can work really depends on the placements of the libra and cancer like duh people you should know this. What is hard is that at first libra and cancer are really good off, have good friendship and everything else, but the libra does not fully understand the cancer as much as other signs do. This is not to say that Libra and Cancer wont work. You just gotta try it if you really want to.
Yes, try it for 3 weeks. You probably won't get further than that, but it's always worth a try, especially if failure doesn't haunt you forever.
Well, I may as well throw my two cent in! Being a Cancer girl myself and looking back to when I was dating, I can definitely relate with how you describe this woman. We do a side step when things are starting to get a little too personal or touchy for us. In my experience, the more information I give away the less power I have. I don't know about other cancer girls, but the more I keep from my partner the safer I feel (I guess that's a good way to explain it). Also, I used to go through phases with guys, one moment I would love to talk and laugh with them and the next day I don't want to see or talk to anyone.
Confusing, I know, but it's worth it in the end. Once you understand her and can feel out her moods then you will be good to go. Ask her out again and be patient, don't push or she'll be long gone!
I hope this helps 🙂
Confusing, I know, but it's worth it in the end. Once you understand her and can feel out her moods then you will be good to go. Ask her out again and be patient, don't push or she'll be long gone!
I hope this helps 🙂
Posted by LunarLady720
We do a side step when things are starting to get a little too personal or touchy for us.
This sounds like what happened during some of our talks. People have always opened up to me naturally. It was not odd to me at all that while we were talking things started to get a little deeper/personal. The part that did surprise me was the sudden stop. Like I mentioned in the OP, it was like she "caught herself" doing it and did this sidestep you mention.
Posted by LunarLady720
In my experience, the more information I give away the less power I have. I don't know about other cancer girls, but the more I keep from my partner the safer I feel (I guess that's a good way to explain it).click to expand
I can understand this outlook as well. In the early stages of a friendship/relationship I would even see the benefits of it. Don't give away too much too soon.
It does raise another question though. When the relationship develops further, do you continue to withhold information? I understand protecting yourself while you are getting to know someone, but once the trust has been built do you open up then?
Posted by LibraSid
It does raise another question though. When the relationship develops further, do you continue to withhold information? I understand protecting yourself while you are getting to know someone, but once the trust has been built do you open up then?click to expand
Well one thing that you must know about Cancer women is that there will always be a part of her you won't fully know, we have to have our own private space in our heads. My husband is a Cancer as well, and I think that's part of our understanding LOL. However, I do share most everything else with my husband. I'm not overly chatty about everything that happens in my day, but he knows everything that's important and I think that's how most of us are. It will take time to get to that point, but you'll get there!
First thing's first, get another date before she gets away. 🙂
Posted by LunarLady720
First thing's first, get another date before she gets away. 🙂click to expand
Thanks for the replies. I am a very curious person and always like to know the "why" when things happen. I am not worried or anything, I was just looking for insight.
We have chatted a few times today and I have just kind of let it slide.
Posted by Tasha69
damnit
nevermind. anyways ask her out again and let us know how it goes
Dang it, I saw your hidden post but was replying in order. From what I saw of it, it is exactly what I was questioning. I was just about to re-read it.
I intend to do just what you suggest here and will let you all know.
Something about her interests me... I normally am not the type to seek outside advice like this.
Posted by Tasha69
i unhid it for u
Thanks. Yes, that is what I thought it said.
Thanks again everyone for the insight.
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