fullwaterpisces
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update: confused BFF Soap opera continues
She is still hurt but slowly coming around (as I said she would).. Don't drive yourself mad about what she meant by what she said..She is still hurt...Anyways give her space (more time to heal) and go form other meaningful friendships in the meantime. .Ain't nobody got time for her cookiemonstery-ness right now..but to me she sound like she wanna mend things so tell her you're willing to work through all the problems your friendship had and tell to consider your proposal.
You can also tell her to get off her pedestal lol
Ok I'm a Cancer and I've cut others out of my life no problem but only if there wasn't a deeper connection. I don't know your history but I assume since you guys are BFF it is rather deep...I also don't know what happened so I can't really assess the situation. All I can say Is your friend seems to be going a bit overboard with the drama of no talking for 6 months, deleting off FB and then sending that msg to you...that's hurtful I would never say that to my bf
Posted by crabRiot
She is still hurt but slowly coming around (as I said she would).. Don't drive yourself mad about what she meant by what she said..She is still hurt...Anyways give her space (more time to heal) and go form other meaningful friendships in the meantime. .Ain't nobody got time for her cookiemonstery-ness right now..but to me she sound like she wanna mend things so tell her you're willing to work through all the problems your friendship had and tell to consider your proposal.
More time??... you guys realize six months is like a half a year?, somewhere about 180 days? is a lifetime!!!!!... WTH!— if she wants to mend things... is great for me... but i would probably appreciate a little less attitude... Look at me talking like im talking to her...
You are right!! FUCK IT! I'm going out tonight and going to get plastered and have tons of freaking fun like this never happen, (DENIAL MODE) not that is not important for me but, I won't give her the benefit of manipulate me anymore if this is what she wants... I want our two sided nice friendship no matter if it takes me effort to get it back but if she is always going to treat me like I've kill her cat then I don't want it...
Posted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by crabRiot
She is still hurt but slowly coming around (as I said she would).. Don't drive yourself mad about what she meant by what she said..She is still hurt...Anyways give her space (more time to heal) and go form other meaningful friendships in the meantime. .Ain't nobody got time for her cookiemonstery-ness right now..but to me she sound like she wanna mend things so tell her you're willing to work through all the problems your friendship had and tell to consider your proposal.
More time??... you guys realize six months is like a half a year?, somewhere about 180 days? is a lifetime!!!!!... WTH!— if she wants to mend things... is great for me... but i would probably appreciate a little less attitude... Look at me talking like im talking to her...
You are right!! FUCK IT! I'm going out tonight and going to get plastered and have tons of freaking fun like this never happen, (DENIAL MODE) not that is not important for me but, I won't give her the benefit of manipulate me anymore if this is what she wants... I want our two sided nice friendship no matter if it takes me effort to get it back but if she is always going to treat me like I've kill her cat then I don't want it...click to expand
LMAO @ like I've killed her cat but fawwk it go have a ball boo, make friends, chill out...go have a fun life that she ain't apart of and I bet her ass goin be missing you then...and by the way 6 months is a long time yes but trust me when we are deeply hurt by something it takes us a while sometimes.. plus she knows she misses you🙂In the meantime ignore her ass and go find some new crabs to chill with and make her jealous lol
I already pegged her for being a people user. Just turn your back and walk away, she's not worth the drama.
Posted by Moonbutter
Ok I'm a Cancer and I've cut others out of my life no problem but only if there wasn't a deeper connection. I don't know your history but I assume since you guys are BFF it is rather deep...I also don't know what happened so I can't really assess the situation. All I can say Is your friend seems to be going a bit overboard with the drama of no talking for 6 months, deleting off FB and then sending that msg to you...that's hurtful I would never say that to my bf
You know!!! I was thinking of try to explain you in a little bit of detail.. but eff it... is too long, but summarizing we got a big fall out because she hurt me first, I flew 5,000 miles to her country for her birthday -she invited me btw- and once there she suddenly dished me there with a stupid reason even we planned this for so many months in advance, So after being drunk, hurt and angry I've hurt her back and then I regret it.. nothing insulting or anything just I called off our friendship, then SINCERELY apologized the day after (and a few other times after), she said she "forgive me" but asked me for time and space, and then she went on silent mode ever since then, we kind of talk few times months after but she just don't want me around... (I know I've hurt her, I fully aware)... but being this mad as she still is after 6 months is childish to begin with.
In other people opinion I shouldn't even be trying to get back to be friends because of the trip thing, but I value our friendship more than that...
Posted by crabRiotPosted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by crabRiot
She is still hurt but slowly coming around (as I said she would).. Don't drive yourself mad about what she meant by what she said..She is still hurt...Anyways give her space (more time to heal) and go form other meaningful friendships in the meantime. .Ain't nobody got time for her cookiemonstery-ness right now..but to me she sound like she wanna mend things so tell her you're willing to work through all the problems your friendship had and tell to consider your proposal.
More time??... you guys realize six months is like a half a year?, somewhere about 180 days? is a lifetime!!!!!... WTH!— if she wants to mend things... is great for me... but i would probably appreciate a little less attitude... Look at me talking like im talking to her...
You are right!! FUCK IT! I'm going out tonight and going to get plastered and have tons of freaking fun like this never happen, (DENIAL MODE) not that is not important for me but, I won't give her the benefit of manipulate me anymore if this is what she wants... I want our two sided nice friendship no matter if it takes me effort to get it back but if she is always going to treat me like I've kill her cat then I don't want it...
LMAO @ like I've killed her cat but fawwk it go have a ball boo, make friends, chill out...go have a fun life that she ain't apart of and I bet her ass goin be missing you then...and by the way 6 months is a long time yes but trust me when we are deeply hurt by something it takes us a while sometimes.. plus she knows she misses you🙂In the meantime ignore her ass and go find some new crabs to chill with and make her jealous lolclick to expand
Thanks for the advice... don't get me wrong i haven't been locked at home since this happened, but I've been sad...
I'm too old to play those games anymore... that stuff always backslash big time anyways...
Posted by MoonArtist
I already pegged her for being a people user. Just turn your back and walk away, she's not worth the drama.
While I don't claim, I've move on yet, I can tell you im in way better shape I was when this happened... and I refuse to go back to that dark hole again! not for her not for anyone. no matter how much I miss our friendship
This is strange indeed...you flew over to see her and she ditched you? Meaning she didnt value your time and effort to see her? Was it for a guy? I dunno that's really rude. She must have gemini and like Aquarius moon or something to turn like that. So then you left and said the friendship was over....well it seems she was being selfish. How long were you there that she ditched you? What was the excuse? And how long after did you leave? I'm just trying to get he big pic here 🙂
Disclaimer: not saying anything bad about gems or Aquas my best friends and bfs have been these signs just alluding to the aloofness, mind change sometimes attributed to these signs but love them anyways 😄
Posted by Moonbutter
This is strange indeed...you flew over to see her and she ditched you? Meaning she didnt value your time and effort to see her? Was it for a guy? I dunno that's really rude. She must have gemini and like Aquarius moon or something to turn like that. So then you left and said the friendship was over....well it seems she was being selfish. How long were you there that she ditched you? What was the excuse? And how long after did you leave? I'm just trying to get he big pic here 🙂
No guy or anything related to that here, she is married...
Cancer sun
Aries Moon
Libra asc
Gemini venus
That what I thought too, rude indeed, Its too looooong to explain... But we plan this visit like many months in advance, she was there 3 weeks prior me, although i found strange that we barely talk or exchange many text during that time, but at the same time I didn't want to take time from her family if I was going to see her soon, few days before my arrival she text me asking for my itinerary and asking me for dinner the day of my arrival....
she dished me the night that I arrived, I planned to be there for a week, She picked me up in the airport we had dinner and during dinner she mentioned all her plans for the week and I was like: so I came all the way here, to celebrate your b-day and now you are telling me you won't be available? she said you have to understand we can always hangout back home, she wanted to spend time with other people and she claimed she really had time to see in the previous weeks, and I was like, I'm not asking for your 24/7 presence, but well you could've told me that 3 months ago when I bought my tickets and save me the heartache and obviously the money... we got into an argument but we didn't resolute much... until we both decided to go home beside it was a long day for me I spend all day in airport and obviously the news didn't set me well either.
I still sent her a text for her bday and so... I mean to be fear, I know she kind of realize back then that she screw up and sort of try to fix it by sending me a text back but since my phone didn't have data all the time... and beside her text didn't say much other than "what are u up to?" she claims she was going to invite me over for lunch but I reply until hours later, so how am I supposed to imply all that out of a text like that? she could've say something like "when yo
she claims she was going to invite me over for lunch but I reply until hours later, so how am I supposed to imply all that out of a text like that? she could've say something like "when you see this would you be interested into lunch" or "call me when you get this" or something more substantial, I mean I didn't get back to her until I got data available so she took it wrong so basically we got trapped in a bunch of hard feelings and she never really explained to me what was behind of that random behavior... until today that remains being and enigma...
sometimes I think maybe her husband didn't like the idea of me being there or something, I dont know and this point really im sick and tired of dissecting all that shit, is in the past is not coming back, I decided to forgive her after that, just because this whole thing was out the blue, and I care about her but I cannot stop thinking that if there was an underlying problem underneath she could've being direct instead if that would be the case, we had that kind of relationship... so that was the reason I got upset
sometimes I think maybe her husband didn't like the idea of me being there or something, I dont know and this point really im sick and tired of dissecting all that shit, is in the past is not coming back, I decided to forgive her after that, just because this whole thing was out the blue, and I care about her but I cannot stop thinking that if there was an underlying problem underneath she could've being direct instead if that would be the case, we had that kind of relationship... so that was the reason I got upset
Posted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by Moonbutter
This is strange indeed...you flew over to see her and she ditched you? Meaning she didnt value your time and effort to see her? Was it for a guy? I dunno that's really rude. She must have gemini and like Aquarius moon or something to turn like that. So then you left and said the friendship was over....well it seems she was being selfish. How long were you there that she ditched you? What was the excuse? And how long after did you leave? I'm just trying to get he big pic here 🙂click to expand
No guy or anything related to that here, she is married...
Cancer sun
Aries Moon
Libra asc
Gemini venus
That what I thought too, rude indeed, Its too looooong to explain... But we plan this visit like many months in advance, she was there 3 weeks prior me, although i found strange that we barely talk or exchange many text during that time, but at the same time I didn't want to take time from her family if I was going to see her soon, few days before my arrival she text me asking for my itinerary and asking me for dinner the day of my arrival....
she dished me the night that I arrived, I planned to be there for a week, She picked me up in the airport we had dinner and during dinner she mentioned all her plans for the week and I was like: so I came all the way here, to celebrate your b-day and now you are telling me you won't be available? she said you have to understand we can always hangout back home, she wanted to spend time with other people and she claimed she really had time to see in the previous weeks, and I was like, I'm not asking for your 24/7 presence, but well you could've told me that 3 months ago when I bought my tickets and save me the heartache and obviously the money... we got into an argument but we didn't resolute much... until we both decided to go home beside it was a long day for me I spend all day in airport and obviously the news didn't set me well either.
I still sent her a text for her bday and so... I mean to be fear, I know she kind of realize back then that she screw up and sort of try to fix it by sending me a text back but since my phone didn't have data all the time... and beside her text didn't say much other than "what are u up to?" she claims she was going to invite me over for lunch but I reply until hours later, s
Posted by Zatte
Don't you swim away after awhile?
ask my stupid cancer clingy rising about that! LOL!!
Posted by Zatte
Detach? Should be easy for you to do.
No much... as you can see, obviously hahaha
my approach will be... I won't move an inch... and just stay where I am and see how thing develop from here.
You should be the one mad at her Full Water Pisces not the other way around..She is a messed up friend...I would leave her be with her emotions...Don't waste any more time on her..she was the one that abused and neglected both u and the friendship and is a jerk for that..I didn't know the full story till you wrote it..
Ahoy captain!!! Happy to report im trunking drunk!!!!! Hell effinnyeay!!!
Cheers for the all crabs that break us!!! Salud!!!
Cheers for the all crabs that break us!!! Salud!!!
Posted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by MoonArtist
I already pegged her for being a people user. Just turn your back and walk away, she's not worth the drama.
While I don't claim, I've move on yet, I can tell you im in way better shape I was when this happened... and I refuse to go back to that dark hole again! not for her not for anyone. no matter how much I miss our friendshipclick to expand
You're missing a mask. Her true nature came out and she side lined you as soon as her dickwad husband got her back. She's a user. The friendship part was just for her benefit, and she didn't even have the courtesy to spend time with you after she invited you to vacation with her in another country! Find a real friend to fill the void with. She's not worth your time and worry.
Posted by MoonArtistPosted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by MoonArtist
I already pegged her for being a people user. Just turn your back and walk away, she's not worth the drama.
While I don't claim, I've move on yet, I can tell you im in way better shape I was when this happened... and I refuse to go back to that dark hole again! not for her not for anyone. no matter how much I miss our friendship
You're missing a mask. Her true nature came out and she side lined you as soon as her dickwad husband got her back. She's a user. The friendship part was just for her benefit, and she didn't even have the courtesy to spend time with you after she invited you to vacation with her in another country! Find a real friend to fill the void with. She's not worth your time and worry.click to expand
_— true!!! I forgot that part... But as i say i didnt want repeat myself with ALL that story again... anycase i had so much fun last night... I have other friends and i have great time with them... And i realize on my drunkness that i think i dont missed her per-se... What i miss is our friendship before all three shit happened... But that was gone before I really realized... And you pointed all this long!!!
Thanks FWP - i can completely understand what you are going through as i have been there myself. Everytime I walk away from his drama he comes back with some more! I dont want to even think back over the good times because I think it was all a sham. When people disregard your feelings, its best to just leave it be. And i applaud you for trying to get away from this, because believe me I know how tough it is. Reading your post helped convince me that I was right to walk away last week. I needed your post _??
Posted by fullwaterpisces
Ahoy captain!!! Happy to report im trunking drunk!!!!! Hell effinnyeay!!!
Cheers for the all crabs that break us!!! Salud!!!
This is hilarious....Hope you had fun mate..CHEERS!!!
Oh shit!! I got hammered! and now im hungover big time....
Oh my god.... This shit got real... So yeasterday the cancer in question all of the freaking sudden and out of the blue start talking to me!!!!! Like literally nothing have ever happen and the last 6 months where last yesterday it is funny you cancers have no sense of time.
WTH—
She even was like asked me if i wanna go get coffee with her after work? Is this shit real? or am I in a fraaking candy camara or bizarre dream? I still love her but this is sooooo weird... my spidey senses are tingling something doesnt add up much...
I been hearing a lot about all those cancer like reapering out of the blue but i always thought it was an urban legend...
Dont get me wrong im curious about what does she wants to talk about or say over coffee... I havent say no or yes but must admit im super curious :-/
WTH—
She even was like asked me if i wanna go get coffee with her after work? Is this shit real? or am I in a fraaking candy camara or bizarre dream? I still love her but this is sooooo weird... my spidey senses are tingling something doesnt add up much...
I been hearing a lot about all those cancer like reapering out of the blue but i always thought it was an urban legend...
Dont get me wrong im curious about what does she wants to talk about or say over coffee... I havent say no or yes but must admit im super curious :-/
That's how they do. If you're truly in their heart they will always come back or let you come back
Now don't fuck this up. You have a fresh new start. No games
I don't play games, I'm going to let things happen if they are meant to be... at some point few weeks before this happen I already resigned to the hope of she ever coming back, so I went on with my life (little by little)... and nothing that I have planned will change... and things will fall in the rightful place whatever that is...
Its just that if she only know how hard the past 6 months have been for me, she would understand why I not jumping hops around this out of the blue thing, I mean I want this to happen, but also I don't like to leave lose ends, and i hope that one day we can sit to clarify things for the sake of a clean fresh start...
but oh well before going all crazy... i might observe a bit... just in case she decide to go back shell time again and let me hanging again...
Its just that if she only know how hard the past 6 months have been for me, she would understand why I not jumping hops around this out of the blue thing, I mean I want this to happen, but also I don't like to leave lose ends, and i hope that one day we can sit to clarify things for the sake of a clean fresh start...
but oh well before going all crazy... i might observe a bit... just in case she decide to go back shell time again and let me hanging again...
Told you she would come around. .I know how we are. Told you she missed you too! Now I wouldn't just jump back into a close friendship with her until I find out why she was giving you the cold shoulder and until you two iron out your issues and YOU air your grievances that you have with her..You have to make sure your voice is heard and you gotta say when you're not pleased with her behaviour. ALL THE BEST. .
My question is do you really want to do another round of crazy with her?
Also, I'm pulling her crab card. She's not living up to the hype and could ruin our reputation. It's been a year since I told my ex friend that she's dead to me and to never contact me again, and I'm happy to report that she's stayed true to that (good little Virgo bitch!) and I certainly won't ever contact her again. In fact, I'm hoping to cut all ties with her so permanently that I never meet her again, not even in another life. EVER. And that's how Crabs kick someone out of their lives.
Also, I'm pulling her crab card. She's not living up to the hype and could ruin our reputation. It's been a year since I told my ex friend that she's dead to me and to never contact me again, and I'm happy to report that she's stayed true to that (good little Virgo bitch!) and I certainly won't ever contact her again. In fact, I'm hoping to cut all ties with her so permanently that I never meet her again, not even in another life. EVER. And that's how Crabs kick someone out of their lives.
Told you she would. Like nothing happened.
Posted by MoonArtist
My question is do you really want to do another round of crazy with her?
Also, I'm pulling her crab card. She's not living up to the hype and could ruin our reputation. It's been a year since I told my ex friend that she's dead to me and to never contact me again, and I'm happy to report that she's stayed true to that (good little Virgo bitch!) and I certainly won't ever contact her again. In fact, I'm hoping to cut all ties with her so permanently that I never meet her again, not even in another life. EVER. And that's how Crabs kick someone out of their lives.
At this point of my life im not willing to go on another round of crazy with her or with anyone... all I want its to be fine, the past 6 months I was through hell... Im not going back to dark place again... reason why I'm not moving an inch.. is not pride.. is fear, she stomped on my feelings... I love her, but no more crazy... so im seated here just watching how things develop... beside coming back like nothing ever happen is not healthy!!... while I appreciate deeply her change of mind, I will really think there are things to discuss, before jumping back to the wagon just like that...
Updates for those who care... (taking it off my chest)
Two weeks ago I meet with a friend which I will call "Leo girl" a mutual friend who was part of our close friendship, told me on a moment of drunkenness, before my coffee meeting that she meet with cancer girl few days before and she mentioned to her how she missed our friendship and that she wanted to rekindle our friendship... but thought i forced myself not to build any expectations based on that comment because she was very drunk and she could have made up the story...
So, after that... I went to have coffee/wine with cancer girl last week... and it went ok, nothing relevant or anything... the conversation was more like catching up with the past few months... very casual... "how was Christmas?, how's work? and so so"... nothing really personal... or related to our relationship status, and I though it was OK not to talk about those things at the moment, maybe in a near future we could discuss further... we only had a little deep conversation about a little issue one of our mutual friend (Leo girl). and then that was it...
Then after meeting with her... is been weird... definitely she is back talking to me, more than hi or so but it feels awkward like there is sort of caution between each other... I wonder if we both are scare of hurting each other again or she is not really interested in being close friends anymore...
I really don't want to build hopes... but lately this got me restless again... and when i do... I hit the gym... to avoid thinking
Can cancers here give me a little bit inside about this behavior... im confused my head tells me one thing and my softy heart is telling me other... F*k
Two weeks ago I meet with a friend which I will call "Leo girl" a mutual friend who was part of our close friendship, told me on a moment of drunkenness, before my coffee meeting that she meet with cancer girl few days before and she mentioned to her how she missed our friendship and that she wanted to rekindle our friendship... but thought i forced myself not to build any expectations based on that comment because she was very drunk and she could have made up the story...
So, after that... I went to have coffee/wine with cancer girl last week... and it went ok, nothing relevant or anything... the conversation was more like catching up with the past few months... very casual... "how was Christmas?, how's work? and so so"... nothing really personal... or related to our relationship status, and I though it was OK not to talk about those things at the moment, maybe in a near future we could discuss further... we only had a little deep conversation about a little issue one of our mutual friend (Leo girl). and then that was it...
Then after meeting with her... is been weird... definitely she is back talking to me, more than hi or so but it feels awkward like there is sort of caution between each other... I wonder if we both are scare of hurting each other again or she is not really interested in being close friends anymore...
I really don't want to build hopes... but lately this got me restless again... and when i do... I hit the gym... to avoid thinking
Can cancers here give me a little bit inside about this behavior... im confused my head tells me one thing and my softy heart is telling me other... F*k
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