Very confusing Cancer Male!

Hey theree I'm a Virgo female and I just recently started dating a Cancer male. We hit it off so well he took me on a wonderful date, he told me how pretty I was, he held my hand, kissed me on the foreead , and told me how much of a "cool" girl I was. The date ended at my place because he didnt want to go home just yet, we watched a movie and ended up making out ofcoure and he told me how much of a good kisser I was and so on. Simply beautiful....

I think he is a great person but it seems he may possess some jealous like aggressive qualities just something I noticed..you may think I'm crazy but I actually like it Ok long story short he made plans to hang out with me one night after our first date and canceled because he said he worked hard that day and was so tired so whatever I let him slide on that one, the days started to pass by and there were atleast two more times that he made plans with me and stood me up either because of work again or fixing up his apartment. So ofcourse I started to feel like he is playing games with me at this point to I quietly cut him off.

The day I decide to cut him off he texts me and tells me he's in my area, and wanted to know if I wanted to hang out with him and his 'friends' so ofcourse I gave in i did have plans so I did what I had to do then when and hung out with him for like an hour or so...when we saw eachother he was all over me kissing me on my head telling me "sorry" and that he didnt forget about me and that he's been sooo busy working on his "apartment". He started making out with me blah blah nice night. After that night he kept calling me more and more saying how much he misses me and thanks for going to see him and blah blahhh. Ok now he makes plans with me to hang out one saturday 6.28.08 into sunday...he never called all day saturday I called him no answerguess what he STOOD me up ONce again
I was so upset because I really like this guy and I just want to see him already geez ,so I say this is it whatever I'm done with him b/c obviously he doesn't like me like that right? b/c he can't even find time to see me and it's strange b/c he expressed to me that he was looking for a "female companion" so I thought I was "it". Guess not.

I heard from him that following Sunday and he instant messaged me on aim saying " sorry" ofcourse and that he was working on his apartment and that he is going to see me that day ...I told him I will believe it when I see it and he said "ok"

didn't really see a question so not sure what you are looking for. i am a cancer male and am dating a virgo female. if you want to know about his jealous possessive behavior then the answer is yes. we cancers do have that kind of steak in us which is a catch 22. it can be good but it can also be bad. the younger cancer males will probably show it more often as i was like that but now that i have gotten older i still have it but know how to control it a little more. it goes back to our emotions, insecurities, and fear of rejection. if you want to ask a more specific question about cancer males i can try and help answer it.

Sorry about the post my question at the end was cut off. You seem like. U know what u are talking about. My cancer guy is 23 and I'm 25 not a big age diffrence but I'm starting to think he's a tad bit immature. Who constantly makes plans with someone and breaks them? So my question is should I just leave him alone and move on? Bc he is acting like he doesn't like me like that what do u think?

I think you should just be upfront with him...tell him how you feel and let him know that you will not accept his behavior and if he wants to be with you, there has to be some changes...

I guess...I rather him leave me alone then if that's the case. I didn't write this in the first post but he always tells me how much he misses me and he wants me in his arms, and how he misses my tenderness...if he doesnt want to be with me like that why is he wasting his time and my time saying things like that?

personally i don't like people who can't stick my their word. don't make plans with me then break them then try to kiss my arse by telling me your sorry and how much you miss me. if you want to spend time with me then you will make the effort, plain and simple. i hate being jerked around and i will not put up with people like that. to me actions speak louder than words. i will say one thing and this may not be the case with him but we cancer males usually have a backup plan. not to frighten anyone currently in a relationship with a cancer cause you will know if he is into you or not. what i mean by backup plan is that he might be hanging on to you cause you are convenient for him at the moment. so if anything falls through with anyone else he has his back up plan which is you. again not saying all cancer men are like that but as for me i know i am always thinking ahead. so with that said i would be open and upfront with him and ask him what his intentions are with you. ask him if he just sees you as a friend or something more. once you have laid the cards on the table and if his answer doesn't meet your expectations then tell him you would not rather waste your time and you both just need to move on.

dear HeyItzShh, that is a bit disrespectful!!!don't fall for his words, he knows they work everytime!!!!if he wants to see you and he likes you, he will plan ahead, trust me....and not call you "when he is in the area"....that is not the way to treat a lady!!!!you should stand up for yourself, you deserve better!!!i am sorry to say this and i hope i am wrong but you are being played with and he is using you....

He could be... Scorpio978 you are right. He actually emailed me the night before last asking when he's going to see me again and why dont I answer his calls! What a LIAR! I actually gave him a piece of mind, I wish I could have told him in person but whatever. I basically told him that he's a bullshitter that makes plans and breaks them, and if he really liked me he would find time for me, and I told him I do not have time for his retarded games. Ofcourse he didnt respond but he sends me a text message asking what my work schedule is like this week. Little does he know I actually started getting to know someone else and he will soon be out of the picture b/c I am not going to put up with non sense anymore.

I would like to add something interesting when we first hung out I wasn't even into him like that as far as being attracted to him, but as the date went on I started to really like him based on the way he was treating me and his crazy personality, but I'm starting to realise that I can find that from any guy it doesn't have to be him.

my point was when we are ready to commit or enter into a relationship we wont jerk you around but i guess that is true in general. good luck heyit and hope this one dumb cancer doesn't spoil it for anymore who might happen to cross your path. i can honestly say that a cancer/virgo relationship is one of the better ones i have had.

I hear ya thanks for all your advice! But I will keep posting b/c for someone that's not ready to be with me he sure seems to keep in contact with me for some reason...I'm sure some more drama will come up with him!

I'm sure some more drama will come up with him! If he is an immature Cancer, drama is his first name. LOL!

well done, very healthy approach, now he realised that some of the things he was doing were wrong and he will do his impossible not lose you....wait and see.good luck to you in any relationship that you may decide to get in, cancers are ones of the best partners out there!!!!

Scorpio i agree, I'm a cancer woman with a cancer man and it's been great! I guess a relate more with him. Sometimes he has his days, but I just ingnore him then he comes around. Also I like space and we work alot. Another thing with cancers are you have to have deep conversations together we like to think and once we find someone who we can talk to as well as have great sex😉 then were not going any where!

Cancershorti27, i am so happy for you, i know exactly how you feel, keep it up, you're in for one of the best experiences out there.....i hope to hear about relationships like this from everyone, as everyone deserves to be happy!!!!
enjoy your cancer man....

Hey I'm back here's an update on my situation, since I last wrote I gave this confusing cancer male a piece of mind and all he can respond with is "what's your days off this week" ofcourse I responded just to see what he really has up his sleeve. Just want to add.. piece of my mind included telling him to leave me alone, and that I don't have time for his games, and if he really liked me he would find time to see me.

So far NOTHING tomorrow is my last day off and I have plans and I know we are not hanging out today (6.10.08) he would have made plans with me in advance, so I decided I'm done with him especially since I did some spying on him and found out he's on VACATION this whole f----- week what a loser and to top it off I've seen him playing Xbox online at least twice this week till like 2 in the morning when he could have been hanging with me...so I'm going to be the strong woman that I know I am and cut him loose.

Besides plan B is actually starting to turn out niceley...so this confused weirdo can kiss my @ss. 🙂

So far NOTHING tomorrow is my last day off and I have plans and I know we are not hanging out today (6.10.08) he would have made plans with me in advance, so I decided I'm done with him especially since I did some spying on him and found out he's on VACATION this whole f----- week what a loser and to top it off I've seen him playing Xbox online at least twice this week till like 2 in the morning when he could have been hanging with me...so I'm going to be the strong woman that I know I am and cut him loose.

Besides plan B is actually starting to turn out niceley...so this confused weirdo can kiss my @ss.

Um, Cancer men move very slow. They are very cautious and they don't just spend time with you to spend time with you. They are very challenging and elusive. If you like the guy let him take the lead and just keep your options open. Just don't be too readily available to him at all times. I wouldn't ditch him off alot of men require patience.

He responded " What's ur days off", Sounds like a cancer man. They don't like to argue they enjoy peace of mind and they love a woman that will also play hard 2 get because they want that challenge. If u want a cancer man u show him how independent u are, but let him be the man. Sometimes woman forget who they are in a relationship. Let the man be a man! Listen,If a cancer man is interested in u he will show u and let u know @ the same time. It sounds to me this "boy" doesn't want to be bothered, real Cancer "Men" don't play games with ur heart.

I guess he doesn't want to be bothered but why persue me and act like I'm your girlfriend? At one point he even told me I better not be "F----g with anyone else". He even told me I better not get back with my ex blah blah blah...just don't understand it so i'm not going to bother anymore.

Yes please, he's an ass. How old is u if I may ask?

I'm 25 he's 23.