what does it really mean??

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Cancerian men, please help me answer my questions

I am currently with a Cancer man. We have been messaging a lot and hanging out together.
Been together for a while but he has not said "I love you" to me yet. As he said, those three words very big words for him to say and nowadays ppl out there say it all the time , and to anyone in face they do not actually have that real feelings for the one they love. He said he would say that to me once he got ready for it.

Last night, he sent me a message. In the end of the message, he wrote "Much Love" ( and inserted his name). For some reasons, this makes me really confused because even these two words, he has never said it to me in person or even in the text. Never before!!!

what does he really mean this time?? what signal did he want to send to me??

Can you please let me know what Much Love really mean?

Thank you .
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Posted by caster721
He's getting closer to you and he's becoming comfortable. Consistency in your character will eventually make him trust you. Just be happy and trust the process. Remember, we are slow and we walk side ways. Whatever he does, just hold your ground because he's observing you in detail without your knowledge. Above all, be yourself.

Btw, what sign are you?



Aquarius
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I'm dying X) hahahahhaa I'm an aqua too and I'm still "struggling" to get my cancer back.. well I just let him be now for a week or so.

Interesting though because I read more and more about cancer/aqua and in the first place I NEVER thought this would work not even for attraction. But it does.... very nice!

Trust his words, never doubt him, enjoy the progress, be open and blunt without pushing him for answers. That's what I learned now with my cancer guy...
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Posted by Stihl46
Aqua and a Cancer not really a good match I can't really explain it but its not a good match you air signs just don't go well with Cancer's.



+1. Cancers have a way of suffocating air signs and expecting too much. The emotions they require is exhaustive for us. In the beginning it's cute and all but eventually we get tired and miss our alone time.
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Just as some Cancers find some Aquas insufferable in their certainty about the way things should be (but often aren't).

@OP: Don't overthink it. The other Aqua on this thread has it right. Granted, it is a pairing that takes a little work, but the good things always require it.
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Please help me in this case as well

I and my bf start to spend less time on talking, hanging out and msging each other since he got a new job, very very busy (pilot). Of course we still contact each other but not too much like we used to. So he started to feel so bad n sad coz not really a good bf to me. And one day, when we chatted, at first he said sth like wanted to have a breakup, but then he admitted he did not want to let me slip away and we said good night after that. I meant the chat be us on that day was really confusing. I sent him an email after that just tried to calm him down a bit. After five days , he replied me a short msg and in the end of the msg was the phrase of Much Love.

Very confusing , right??

I do not know what he wants and how he feels for me now...

whats ur opinion in this case??
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I asked him " so u meant, u wanna have a breakup??..is that what you want?"

Asked him that question twice but he did not answer that question at all, kinda avoided it and kept saying sth else.

Then I asked if you still want me in your life and still want this relationship work??..He said "yes, I do babe but got too much in my life,, so much on my plate now,, dont want to let you slip away"

Now you see how confused he was, right—

Note: Those questions I asked on the day we chatted (then I sent an email the following day and after 5 days he replied with a short msg with the phrase Much Love as I mentioned in the previous thread)
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I think you should show that you are persistent and loyal by telling him that whatever he might go through you??ll be there for him and that you don't mind that he puts his focus on work for a while — he might think that you feel rejected or abondened cuz of his focus on work, so I??d try to show that eventhough you are around and there for him when he needs down time with you??_
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Hey AquaNextDoor,

Thank you for your reply.

whatever you just told me to do above, I actually wrote them all on my email n sent it to him last Thursday (things I wrote was to support him to focus on his work first, settle down with it first, calmed him downetc)..so thats why he sent me a msg after 5 days.

I think I need to learn to be more patient with him...its hard for me tho but got no choice
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Seems like this guy has been hurt a lot maybe and has a problem with trust like most cancers even though I'm a fool for love I can fall pretty easy for someone nd start saying I love them but everyone is different. I think he wants to say it, I think he wants to trust u but just not yet so my advice is give him more time. As long as he's showing his appreciation of u nd u to him that's good enough for now. I've been realising that I love you is just a phrase for us insecure humans that need to be told they're love. Being shown love is much more important and then when u rarely say it, a couple learns to appreciate them more.
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Posted by alfabutt
Seems like this guy has been hurt a lot maybe and has a problem with trust like most cancers even though I'm a fool for love I can fall pretty easy for someone nd start saying I love them but everyone is different. I think he wants to say it, I think he wants to trust u but just not yet so my advice is give him more time. As long as he's showing his appreciation of u nd u to him that's good enough for now. I've been realising that I love you is just a phrase for us insecure humans that need to be told they're love. Being shown love is much more important and then when u rarely say it, a couple learns to appreciate them more.
Alfabutt




Hi Alfabutt,

Thank you for your comment.

Yes, as u guessed, he got hurt so much from the past relationship regarding trust. Thats why when we are together, he is always in Vigilant mode. And as he admitted to me that , he used to say I love you to his ex (they were together for 7 yrs), but she cheated on him. So he said to me, he got scared of saying I love you again...he says it needs to take more time for him to speak it out.

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Hey Hawaiiangirl,

For me, with cancer man work something like this: stay stable, and fight for relationship that you want to have with him not for him.. I know that sound crazy, but from perspective that you fight for relantion with him not for him( he will understand very well this ) you don't put pressure on him and this show that you appreciate the relation that you have with him and trust in this relantion.

For me this work..
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Posted by Arki
Hey Hawaiiangirl,

For me, with cancer man work something like this: stay stable, and fight for relationship that you want to have with him not for him.. I know that sound crazy, but from perspective that you fight for relantion with him not for him( he will understand very well this ) you don't put pressure on him and this show that you appreciate the relation that you have with him and trust in this relantion.

For me this work..




Thank you so much for ur comment
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Posted by aquarius09
Posted by Stihl46
Aqua and a Cancer not really a good match I can't really explain it but its not a good match you air signs just don't go well with Cancer's.



+1. Cancers have a way of suffocating air signs and expecting too much. The emotions they require is exhaustive for us. In the beginning it's cute and all but eventually we get tired and miss our alone time.



Depends. Aquarius is one of those signs that actually works out with aquarius even though the books say they shouldnt, same with sagg and cancer.
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ive researched and seen some successful pairings of this, but that's because the aqua has water placements/water houses and understands. And the cancer sun usually has air and/or fire in personal planets.

but like all pairings, there's got to be that "hidden synastry" for that "oomph!!" and "i can't live without you!!" feeling. Otherwise, it's like all the other pairings, friendzoned.