What does this cancerian want?

We have been together 4 years.But have been taking things very slow. The only time I have ever met he's family is when accidently bumping into them in the movies etc. Where he would introduce me saying " this is my gf....then my name".

We just got back from a 3 week vacation. I got a bit suspicious of him on holiday when I laughed that I saw he's phone lock pattern. And he changed it to a finger print sensor to make sure I didn't get in.

So when we got back I told him that I suspected he might be cheating cause I dreamt about it again. And he doesn't deny it. So I told him u not denying it. R u cheating on me. So he got very sad said he had never cheated on me. Hugged and kissed me goodbye. That was it. Text him the next day asking if he wanted to talk he said no possibly never. I texted him a few times a day all week.
Never replied. Today he sent me a message saying no to take my car to he's shop for repairs go somewhere else. I tried to call him. He cancelled the call.

Is it officially over. Should I move on. I asked him and he did not reply

I would move on.

The argument was me saying he's suspicious a d probably cheating

Posted by cappygirl11
The argument was me saying he's suspicious a d probably cheating

That's not an argument. It's an accusation. For an argument, he has to be defending himself, which he barely even did.

Sounds like a super dick move. Wtf is up with cancers??

What a wicked douchebag!!! Who drops a 4 yr relationship over something as petty as an accusation? Whatever happened to talking it out? Wow! I'm speechless!!

Either you mean 4 weeks and not four years or he's just insane!!

Well you questioned something your gut or dream felt. You got your answer along time ago probably just ignored them like we usually do.. someone acts up and confronts it..it's usually the right answer..

Move on...

Ok move on it is then

Posted by Arielle83
Did you look at his phone or have a history of accusing him.

Sounds like there's a reason he locks his phone, or needed to update your ability to access it.

+1


i dont even bother or care to look at my husband's Phone. or his computer.

your dreaming it is probably your paranoia.


and honestly, OP, you saying you notice he changes his password or pattern in the Phone??

that means you are paying attention and being nosey. lol

although 4 years? O__O my gosh that's a long time though.

It is weird for someone, signs aside, to walk away from a four year relationship on the basis of one incident as you describe it.
I'm thinking there is more going on here that isn't being said.

There is more to this than you are telling us, Cancer's or myself can be fairly tolerant to things when things get to the point I will cut a person off. By the sounds of it your Cancer BF or I should say ex BF had enough of you.

Its done finished, like I said there is more to this than what you are letting on.

Ok the thing was. I was lying on he's tummy and he was putting on was using the screen lock to unlock his phone. I joked haha now I know ur pattern. As he had done with mine. But in the morning he had changed it to finger print sensor. And then didn't know how to use it and then I had to show him

Also I have only asked twice in 4 years. Right at the beginning when I didn't know if we were exclusive and now

And I have apologised like a dozen times. There's no reaction from him on anything except finance issues. And then I questioned everything on he's expenses summary yesterday

No no it was holiday expenses. He was making a summary so a friend could plan a similiar trip. Not household expenses.

But I think caster is right....its overs.

Thanks everyone for ur help