what i hate about being a cancer!

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i hate that im so clingy, over emotional and i get too attached too quick UGH! why why why! lol but so serious sometimes i wish i was cold hearted lol and not so nice and soft and caring =P because thats how people walk all over me and take me for granted. i don't let people walk all over me i can stand up for myself i just hate that some people take my kindness for a weakness....>😢
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Posted by ArticleL
Don't worry about shit you can't change and what's up with the guy?



well he's an aries =P and he hasn't yet talked to me about our relationship and where it's going. if he really wants a girlfriend or if he just wants us to be friends. i hate "dating" either we're boyfriend/girlfriend or just friends we've been dating and messing around for the past couple months and i'm not getting anywhere with him. i don't know what kind of relationship we have. sometimes he'll call me his girl or his babe, but i don't feel like i'm his girl. he flirts and have conversations with other girls (and i don't care about that) but his flirting makes me feel like he doesn't really want me......
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Posted by lovelivelife11
i hate that im so clingy, over emotional and i get too attached too quick UGH! why why why! lol but so serious sometimes i wish i was cold hearted lol and not so nice and soft and caring =P because thats how people walk all over me and take me for granted. i don't let people walk all over me i can stand up for myself i just hate that some people take my kindness for a weakness....>😢




I've been like that my entire life. Sometimes I ask myself why I worry about things that are just not worth it, and why I over think things, so just get over it, because that's just the way we are, and we can improve ourselves in that area , don't expect to change completely. :/
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i'm always over thinking things and i hate it 😢
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Don't worry about shit you can't change and what's up with the guy?



well he's an aries =P and he hasn't yet talked to me about our relationship and where it's going. if he really wants a girlfriend or if he just wants us to be friends. i hate "dating" either we're boyfriend/girlfriend or just friends we've been dating and messing around for the past couple months and i'm not getting anywhere with him. i don't know what kind of relationship we have. sometimes he'll call me his girl or his babe, but i don't feel like i'm his girl. he flirts and have conversations with other girls (and i don't care about that) but his flirting makes me feel like he doesn't really want me......
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Seems like he's cool with rolling with the flow I do this sometimes to sometimes there's no need to search for shit. Ask him what this is press a bit and if he doesn't give don't huff and puff just say ok. Figure out the next move if your going to keep going with him or ween yourself off.
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Posted by lovelivelife11
Posted by ArticleL
Don't worry about shit you can't change and what's up with the guy?



well he's an aries =P and he hasn't yet talked to me about our relationship and where it's going. if he really wants a girlfriend or if he just wants us to be friends. i hate "dating" either we're boyfriend/girlfriend or just friends we've been dating and messing around for the past couple months and i'm not getting anywhere with him. i don't know what kind of relationship we have. sometimes he'll call me his girl or his babe, but i don't feel like i'm his girl. he flirts and have conversations with other girls (and i don't care about that) but his flirting makes me feel like he doesn't really want me......



Seems like he's cool with rolling with the flow I do this sometimes to sometimes there's no need to search for shit. Ask him what this is press a bit and if he doesn't give don't huff and puff just say ok. Figure out the next move if your going to keep going with him or ween yourself off.
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@ArticleL - are you a Pisces?
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Don't worry about shit you can't change and what's up with the guy?



well he's an aries =P and he hasn't yet talked to me about our relationship and where it's going. if he really wants a girlfriend or if he just wants us to be friends. i hate "dating" either we're boyfriend/girlfriend or just friends we've been dating and messing around for the past couple months and i'm not getting anywhere with him. i don't know what kind of relationship we have. sometimes he'll call me his girl or his babe, but i don't feel like i'm his girl. he flirts and have conversations with other girls (and i don't care about that) but his flirting makes me feel like he doesn't really want me......



Seems like he's cool with rolling with the flow I do this sometimes to sometimes there's no need to search for shit. Ask him what this is press a bit and if he doesn't give don't huff and puff just say ok. Figure out the next move if your going to keep going with him or ween yourself off.



@ArticleL - are you a Pisces?
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Nope.
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my cancer guy and i have the best connection that i've ever felt, chemistry-wise





I never had a strong connection before with anybody else the way I have it with my crab. First day we met, he was staring at me and introduced himself my body was shaking I ran for the hills. I got scared, never felt something that strong.

Crabby was telling me the other day that he never felt like that either. Sometimes we just stare at each other we just stay close and we don't have to say a word to one another. It's scary. Never experienced something like that.

I'm so blessed to have him. I'll have him now everyday. Yayyyyyyyy
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Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 😛
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he isn't on the cusp but his moon is in aquarius and he has a sagittarius rising

my moon is in pisces...and i have a scorpio rising



This will explain why you have a strong connection...I think whenever someone has water in their chart specifically the important ones... the moon ...venus... rising...thats when the understanding of the water signs come into play...at least I feel you will have some of the emotions of a water sign...

For myself I prefer someone with water as the main bearer [sun]...because generally those that don't cannot bare the intensity of waters emotions or even thought process...

this is my thoughts on that anyway...and why I stay close to my water buddies Pisces and Cancer...not so much Scorpio I think they are a breed onto themselves...
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i definitely have intense emotions and overthink things.....
i have a lot of empathy as well

for my cancer guy, i don't always understand him intuitively but if he starts to explain anything, i can always see his perspective and empathize.

the only thing that is really difficult is that i am really direct and i feel that makes him uncomfortable.
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Posted by ArticleL
Don't worry about shit you can't change and what's up with the guy?



well he's an aries =P and he hasn't yet talked to me about our relationship and where it's going. if he really wants a girlfriend or if he just wants us to be friends. i hate "dating" either we're boyfriend/girlfriend or just friends we've been dating and messing around for the past couple months and i'm not getting anywhere with him. i don't know what kind of relationship we have. sometimes he'll call me his girl or his babe, but i don't feel like i'm his girl. he flirts and have conversations with other girls (and i don't care about that) but his flirting makes me feel like he doesn't really want me......



These things take time...and not everyone is on the same speed to commit as a gf/bf in the early stages...

If he is doing everything that you want...let it flow...however the flirting could he just be friendly ? what type of flirting ? is it a hey baby what you up to tonight honey? to other girls ? or is it a friendly chat ??

This was my epiphany the other day ..

"The problem with girls they are never happy when they have a guy that does everything the right way ...time to appreciate what you have and look at the positives"

Don't force or push for something that he may not *yet* be ready...if he is doing everything that a bf is doing I don't see any problem continuing on with how that is until you are both at the same point that is gf/bf ...it is a title at this stage...kinda a control to have the guy as *yours*...

Are you happy with him ? have you both set boundaries as in seeing only each other ? Does he give you any talk at all for the future ?

Don't make the mistake of being needy this will do more damage and not worth the negative aspects of it...trust I have been there done that...over being that way...
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i guess it may be harmless flirting but then again maybe its not he's just telling certain girls their cute or he'll say they should text him sometime ugh even tho we're not at the stage of boyfriend and girlfriend i don't talk to and flirt with other guys i just don't want to. and i dont want to force him to do anything he doesn't feel he s
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Posted by lovelivelife11
idk why it cut me off on top but anywho as i were saying...... i don't want to force him to do anything he doesn't want to do the reason why i'm so worried about where our relationship is goign is because i don't want to get too attached to him when we're not boyfriend and girlfriend and then if something bad happens it'll hurt me



Hmmmmm seems your at a road block move foward or don't move your heart is what is going to scream in need though. Does it want to be loved? If so you must move forward but do it slowly and you still need to ask him wtf he wants.
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he isn't on the cusp but his moon is in aquarius and he has a sagittarius rising

my moon is in pisces...and i have a scorpio rising



Oh, my moon is in aquarius and I love sagittarius becz they're loads of fun. Plus your moon in pisces may give him the security his cancer sun needs, so you know it makes sense. 😉 😏
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thanks claire!
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idk why it cut me off on top but anywho as i were saying...... i don't want to force him to do anything he doesn't want to do the reason why i'm so worried about where our relationship is goign is because i don't want to get too attached to him when we're not boyfriend and girlfriend and then if something bad happens it'll hurt me



Hmmmmm seems your at a road block move foward or don't move your heart is what is going to scream in need though. Does it want to be loved? If so you must move forward but do it slowly and you still need to ask him wtf he wants.
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i think im going to just move on if he wants me he'll let me know or he'll come chasing after me otherwise i think im just going to move on and worry about myself. i dont want to make him do anything especially if he doesn't want a relationship.