Male Cancer still communications with his ex!!!

So here's the story:::
Ive been really closed with this guy (he is a Cancer) Im a Pisces btw. We hit it off really well( weve known each other est childhood)...two years ago feelings started to appear. 1year and half ago he asked for us to be exclusive BUT I decline being that I was leaving for college and most importantly i didnt wanna ruin a great friendship. RECENTLY he has brought up this issue about us dating he stated" We have a great understanding and a great friendship that could lead else where" then he texted me later saying""It's never about me or you, it's always about us and I respect that about you.Speak so that you may be heard, and at the end of each day, we learn from each other!"

I asked on here advice regarding dating someone thats basically your "bestfriend"
I came to the conclusion that if The question pops up again I will accept🙂

BUT::: I found out today he still communications with his ex/ first love a girl that left him a couple years back and had a child with someone else, and also he communications a female that he dated years ago that feels she needs a second chance and hasnt moved on. But the girl has wrote facebook notes saying he said he didnt want to date her he is involved with someone. My bestfriend who is also a cancer said maybe 1) maybe he doesnt he said that because he doesnt want to date her 2) maybe he is seeing someone 3.) maybe he reserve that girlfriend spot for me...

I dont know what to think maybe hes just reconnecting himself to his past...but should I be concerned? Btw Idk its my place to ask why he talks to them we're not official and it makes me look insecure....GIVE ME SOME FEEDBACK!

my cancer guy still talks to his ex.

but, he said that his feelings for her have changed and now he cares for her more like a sister. they don't speak often and there is no flirtatious tone.

he also has to keep in contact with her because they had a dog together that she kept and so he still sees the dog. but he is more of someone she goes to for advice about her new relationships.

it seems like a healthy friendship to me and not like he is holding on.

i still communicate with some of my ex's...my first is included in that list.

i have the wherewithal to recognize that where my actions may be innocent/purely friendly, that may not be the case for the other party and by virtue of that, have to create boundaries within those friendships as to not offend my bf.

should you be threatened? maybe. take a look at how he handles the friendships, the contexts of them, how often they speak, do they see each other physically...?

the point is, if he talks to an ex once a year, maybe you're overreacting and should respect his friendship.

however, if he meets with the bitch every other weekend so that they can take a walk together at their favorite park...

well a few months back he asked me am I single and he said just wondering . I responded" I am single at the moment"...he then texted me sayin.He's glad that I'm single He is also riding solo at the moment.He texted me saying"These females now-a-days want to have the whole cake and eat it too. This **** not hard!!Loyalty is hard to come by!!When my one come by though, which will be soon or later, I'm gonna make sure to shower my love and appreciation in every way I can. She'll definitely be the 8th wonder of the world bringing displayed(smiling) You already know"...I kinda felt like he went into a HUGE detail about how he'll treat a woman, I wonder was he tryna impress me and let me know indirectly that's what he'll give to me??

I responded to him saying he was a good guy and just be patient and remember friendship first,lovers later...After I responce he dissappear for like two weeks( thats when I discovered the whole cancer push and pull/disappear act) I learned later that maybe that wasnt the response he wanted to hear...maybe a confession

@ Cali::: Love the name btw

he doesnt psychially see them...but one of the girls still has feelings for him...she recently posted a facebook note saying she told him how she felt but he rejected by saying he was seeing someone...I asked my bestfriend who is also another cancer could he be seeing someone and not telling me she said this:::

1) maybe he doesnt want to date her so maybe thats why he told her :"Im seeing someone"

2) maybe he is seeing someone and I just dont know

3.) maybe he reserve that girlfriend spot for me...

should I go out my way to ask if he is single?

@iLove2dream:: Im so scared...what should I say?...any suggestions as how I should approach?

he has also been subtle in saying::he wouldnt mind"waiting his turn"...I know he's like come the fuck out! Im scared to make the first move!

Im gonna read that and get back to you.

a few months back he had asked to see my poems twice. I finally let him read some. One in particular was about him. After that he disappear for like 2 weeks and then said he takes major breaks in between being that he hasnt been around alot of ppl lately he feels ppl are too disebgaged he barely has anything to say and its sad...In my head Im like what does that have to do with me IM NOT disengaged Im keep in touch all the time even though Im away in college.

Oh and he never mention the poems again NOT even telling me if he liked it or not.
So that right there put me at a stand still with voicing my feelings🙂...I havent been completely maked to my normal romantic, compassionate self with him lately...but I do let him know I appreciate him that NEVER goes unnoticed.

him: Sun: Cancer
Moon: Sag
Rising: Aries((YIKES)) LOL
venus: Gemini
Mars: Aries

I get the part about him being venus in gemini where always conversing and he says he loves that we learn things from each other!

Mines: Sun: Pisces
Moon: Gemini
Rising: Sag
Venus: Aqua
Mars: Cap

Is there anyway that I can see if our venus signs are compatible.

Btw Our birthdays are are the same date of a month meaning
Mines: March 5th
His: July 5th...does that mean soulmate or just coincidence...who knows!

aww thank you maddy...have you ever been involved with a cancer?