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Why are Cancer women so Negative?!?
Posted by CluelessCancer
She needs time to be alone, i hate when i'm forced to engage with others, when i feel so bad about myself, that's when i'll start projecting.
but ya some of us can be negative and mean, its our Achilles heel, i think main reason why i just got dumped by a Virgo...
no emotional control.
Although I felt extremely bad that she thought I was trying to be high and mighty towards her I still ended the convo with a message saying I am truly sorry if I hurt your feelings. It wasn't my intentions to do so. I told her I hope she felt better. But I know she will just find something negative to say about that too.
Posted by PiscescorpPosted by MissD312
My Cancer BFF lost her job about six months ago because someone reported to her corporate boss that she has a very nasty attitude. So she has been in a bit of a rut because she has no income besides her unemployment checks. I recently asked her to go out with me and have some drinks everything was on me.
She complained about EVERYTHING! The drinks weren't good, the waitress was slow, blah.. blah.. blah.. It got so bad that I couldn't wait to take her back home. The time before this I sent her the video of the Secret. I thought maybe she would understand that the negativity she puts out into the Universe is the same negativity she is receiving. Nevertheless I tried to tell her that her negativity was bringing me down. I told her to focus on her blessings instead. She got so upset and said I was being all high and mighty and she start bringing up my failed relationships. I don't understand. Where did I go wrong?
You didn't do anything wrong.
And that was very nice of you to try to make her feel better, but being around a person with that kind of attitude is not healthy for as Pisces. Guard yourself from this person. when cancers get like this, is something I just can't handle.
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You are so right I think I will just distance myself from.her for now. She really made me feel worse about my own problems.
Posted by CluelessCancer
I just got invited to my friends place for some summer bbq thing or whatever with other friends on fb, i notice they started having conversations and my fb was being lit by msgs.
i went in there and wrote "Sounds good to me, I'll talk to you soon"
EXIT Conversation....now that might seem rude, but i don't give a flying frak, why am being dinged on fb, by females i dont care about, when my whole world has crashed down on my head.
now i wasn't rude to her for asking me to come hang (it's sweet of her), but i also didn't want to be bothered by people and their upbeat annoying personalities and yes upbeat is annoying.
But why is upbeat annoying? Im sorry I just laughed a little at this!
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by MissD312Posted by CluelessCancer
She needs time to be alone, i hate when i'm forced to engage with others, when i feel so bad about myself, that's when i'll start projecting.
but ya some of us can be negative and mean, its our Achilles heel, i think main reason why i just got dumped by a Virgo...
no emotional control.
Although I felt extremely bad that she thought I was trying to be high and mighty towards her I still ended the convo with a message saying I am truly sorry if I hurt your feelings. It wasn't my intentions to do so. I told her I hope she felt better. But I know she will just find something negative to say about that too.
Look she sounds like she needs boundaries and you need to give them to her, no matter what is going on in her life, she has no right to be rude to you.
there is no excuse for that kind of behavior. You're a very good friend.
Honestly tho when a Cancer is down like that, partying ain't going to alleviate the problem, our main goal is security, so next time maybe do a vision board at your place with wine and food, or maybe introduce her to people she might be able to network with....
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Yeah im going to leave her alone for awhile. I try not to let her stay angry for to long without talking it out because Cancers have a tendency to hold grudges. We have been friends since 1998 and this chick can hold some grudges. So im going to let her chill for awhile and then call and talk to her later. But for now she is toooooo negative I can't deal.
Posted by kalin
my mom is a cancer, totally a nagger. she is either complaining or angry. very negative and annoying. i'd just stay away.
Right! I don't get why someone would want to focus on the negative so much! That baffles me. I would take happiness over misery anyday!
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by MissD312Posted by CluelessCancer
I just got invited to my friends place for some summer bbq thing or whatever with other friends on fb, i notice they started having conversations and my fb was being lit by msgs.
i went in there and wrote "Sounds good to me, I'll talk to you soon"
EXIT Conversation....now that might seem rude, but i don't give a flying frak, why am being dinged on fb, by females i dont care about, when my whole world has crashed down on my head.
now i wasn't rude to her for asking me to come hang (it's sweet of her), but i also didn't want to be bothered by people and their upbeat annoying personalities and yes upbeat is annoying.
But why is upbeat annoying? Im sorry I just laughed a little at this!
To be honest with you i wrote it cause i thought it was kind of funny in a cynical way...nothing is wrong with upbeat, as long as its not pretentious.click to expand
Oh ok lol I get it. Im not always upbeat but I try to focus on the positive more then the negative if I can help it.
Im still learning honestly. It is very hard to do bit I read inspirational quotes on pinterest a lot and focus on the the things I have that are blessings. I myself use to be very negative. But I got tired of feeling down. I will put on a funny video on YouTube. Look at sum standup comedy anything that makes me feel better and laughter is always the key.
Posted by PiscescorpPosted by MissD312
Im still learning honestly. It is very hard to do bit I read inspirational quotes on pinterest a lot and focus on the the things I have that are blessings. I myself use to be very negative. But I got tired of feeling down. I will put on a funny video on YouTube. Look at sum standup comedy anything that makes me feel better and laughter is always the key.
That is really good. 🙂
hey by the way that pisces symbol you have on your profile is what I have on my left shoulder blade. I liked it a lot when I saw it online and gave me my tatoo as my birthday present last year.
I was so sad on my birthday last year, I had no where to go and didn't want anyone to see me like that, so I stopped by a tatoo shop and laid there face down getting my pisces tatoo and my two 8's. lol
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I have it on the back of my neck! The same exact symbol as well. Lol that's super cool
Ok cool! Im going to ur profile now. Lol good night love
No no no!! Telling her that her negativity is bringing you down and to focus on her blessings, they are what you shouldnt have said. Crikey me thats a red rag to a raging bull. Her negativity is a barrier she will have put up because she is feeling like the whole world is against her now and if the most simplest thing doesnt seem to be going right, she will take it personally and she needs you to understand that, so telling her what you did, will never make her feel better. You really need to be on a par with her inner most feelings. Now dont missunderstand me, we are not cry babies, quite the opposite infact, but it does take a certain amount of tact and diplomacy to make us smile when we are feeling so low. Can you deliver these? If you honestly can and from the heart and she sees it, she will also feel it and her barriers will slowly come down, but it must never be rushed.
We would all take happiness over misery any day!!!! We do not focus on the negative. Unfortunately, its just the first thing we feel when something goes wrong thats not in our control, and unfortunately again, this feeling with stay with us until our inner strength begins to take over and we step back and look at what happened in a rational way.
Xmoonman, why do you live in Australia!!! Get yourself over here you are music to my ears! Are you in a relationship?
Posted by CluelessCancer
She needs time to be alone, i hate when i'm forced to engage with others, when i feel so bad about myself, that's when i'll start projecting.
but ya some of us can be negative and mean, its our Achilles heel, i think main reason why i just got dumped by a Virgo...
no emotional control.
This helps me understand why you were so vicious and racist toward us the other day.
I see.
Posted by MissD312
Im still learning honestly. It is very hard to do bit I read inspirational quotes on pinterest a lot and focus on the the things I have that are blessings. I myself use to be very negative. But I got tired of feeling down. I will put on a funny video on YouTube. Look at sum standup comedy anything that makes me feel better and laughter is always the key.
Sounds like you have a pretty good understanding of how to manage your thoughts and feelings and stay positive; use those skills and don't let her negativity bring you down, separate yourself from that energy. You can still be supportive but right now she is not going to welcome you telling her to stay positive, understand where she is coming from, keep telling yourself that she is doing the best she can with the knowledge and experience she has, you cannot make her want to be positive like you, those changes come when the individual is ready like you did.
When my Cancer used to get super negative I just kept saying "I understand, it sucks you are feeling thtat way" I never offered advice unless he asked me, never criticized his negativity, and then I would change the subject or read a book and let him be miserable and negative, to be honest I just ignored him lol. I was still there with him, I was still my positive happy self, I just ignored the negativity and complaining and if it got too bad I would just let him be for a while.
Wow. I wouldn't stereotype. I'm more so of a positive optimistic person. I do have a "happy " personality. Ive been through hell & bck so now that I'm free, I have no reason to live negative life.
I do notice unhappy Cancers & that's so sad. Life is a work of art. It's whatever you mke it. I choose nothing less than greatness.
I do notice unhappy Cancers & that's so sad. Life is a work of art. It's whatever you mke it. I choose nothing less than greatness.
Sounds like you tried to be her friend on more than one occasion by pointing out how negative she is. I'd steer clear of this one--misery loves company. She'll drain you.
I had a friend like that always whining and complaining. I listened to her at first and then I noticed she seemed to be loving being miserable and I ditched her. I'm a happy, positive person; I don't have time for those who want to dwell in misery. My motto is, for everything that happens to you even if it's bad--find something good in it! It works!
Posted by MissD312
She complained about EVERYTHING! The drinks weren't good, the waitress was slow, blah.. blah.. blah.. It got so bad that I couldn't wait to take her back home. The time before this I sent her the video of the Secret. I thought maybe she would understand that the negativity she puts out into the Universe is the same negativity she is receiving. Nevertheless I tried to tell her that her negativity was bringing me down. I told her to focus on her blessings instead. She got so upset and said I was being all high and mighty and she start bringing up my failed relationships. I don't understand. Where did I go wrong?
You did a very pisces thing to try and hep out someone in pain. Very appreciable effort on your part. She is the one completely in the wrong here, so don't internalize her ungracious behaviour as if it has something to do with you. Some cancers can be whiny cunts like that. Go Fishies!!! 😉
I wouldn't take it to heart. I'd say this is more of a depressed woman thing rather then a cancer being negative thing. Trust me I have 4 gfs going through job issues/men issues/living issues and they are extremely negative at the moment. And it is very draining talking these women out of their sadness. But as was said, if you don't feel you understand or can't help it's probably best to give them some space.
Sorry to hear about you and virgo cc. You ll do fine with time.
Ya i m cynical sometimes... But what people call negativity and so called whining is actually just our cautious attitude towards future....
Ya i m cynical sometimes... But what people call negativity and so called whining is actually just our cautious attitude towards future....
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by krebbsmann
Ya i m cynical sometimes... But what people call negativity and so called whining is actually just our cautious attitude towards future....
Thank you. EXACTLY!click to expand
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Not all cancer women are negative. I can't stand it. My mom and brothers can be negative and carry a "woe is I" attitude. It gets on my nerves
But yet I can be moody. And when I am , I want to get away from myself. I feel moody. I am grumpy and I want it to stop but I can't. Then I get more annnoyed - and with myself but my kids are near they annoy me.
I find it best to just be alone and let the mood ride out. I am also sarcastic -- moody or not and when I am am in a grumpy mood, that sarcasm is lethal. In a normal mood it is humorous.
Sometimes people are negative - it is they way they are raised. I've seen it in families. I once said hello to a young kid about 19 I knew his family. After saying hi, in the same sentence he gave me every health issue he had. lol then when i walked up to his house, and said hello to his dad, same thing and then the mom, same thing -except she could wait a few lines in the conversation to list out all the problems she had.
Funny thing was - they were the same problems 7 years prior. Just now the kids were doing the same thing.
I wanted to say, ah quit whining, it feeds the negative spirit.
But yet I can be moody. And when I am , I want to get away from myself. I feel moody. I am grumpy and I want it to stop but I can't. Then I get more annnoyed - and with myself but my kids are near they annoy me.
I find it best to just be alone and let the mood ride out. I am also sarcastic -- moody or not and when I am am in a grumpy mood, that sarcasm is lethal. In a normal mood it is humorous.
Sometimes people are negative - it is they way they are raised. I've seen it in families. I once said hello to a young kid about 19 I knew his family. After saying hi, in the same sentence he gave me every health issue he had. lol then when i walked up to his house, and said hello to his dad, same thing and then the mom, same thing -except she could wait a few lines in the conversation to list out all the problems she had.
Funny thing was - they were the same problems 7 years prior. Just now the kids were doing the same thing.
I wanted to say, ah quit whining, it feeds the negative spirit.
a free spirited cancerian, hard to pin down but fun to keep up with. Hold on there!! Cook n sew yep, only ever chopped veg could learn to chop fire wood i guess.
Posted by elaine67
No no no!! Telling her that her negativity is bringing you down and to focus on her blessings, they are what you shouldnt have said. Crikey me thats a red rag to a raging bull. Her negativity is a barrier she will have put up because she is feeling like the whole world is against her now and if the most simplest thing doesnt seem to be going right, she will take it personally and she needs you to understand that, so telling her what you did, will never make her feel better. You really need to be on a par with her inner most feelings. Now dont missunderstand me, we are not cry babies, quite the opposite infact, but it does take a certain amount of tact and diplomacy to make us smile when we are feeling so low. Can you deliver these? If you honestly can and from the heart and she sees it, she will also feel it and her barriers will slowly come down, but it must never be rushed.
I agree it was not the right thing to say because the message she sent later..Well lets just say we will never be friends again. She called me every name in the book and said I was all high and mighty. She said screw me but of course she said the big F word and she is done with me. So I say good riddens she was bringing me down anyway.
Posted by Dafna79Posted by MissD312
Im still learning honestly. It is very hard to do bit I read inspirational quotes on pinterest a lot and focus on the the things I have that are blessings. I myself use to be very negative. But I got tired of feeling down. I will put on a funny video on YouTube. Look at sum standup comedy anything that makes me feel better and laughter is always the key.
Sounds like you have a pretty good understanding of how to manage your thoughts and feelings and stay positive; use those skills and don't let her negativity bring you down, separate yourself from that energy. You can still be supportive but right now she is not going to welcome you telling her to stay positive, understand where she is coming from, keep telling yourself that she is doing the best she can with the knowledge and experience she has, you cannot make her want to be positive like you, those changes come when the individual is ready like you did.
When my Cancer used to get super negative I just kept saying "I understand, it sucks you are feeling thtat way" I never offered advice unless he asked me, never criticized his negativity, and then I would change the subject or read a book and let him be miserable and negative, to be honest I just ignored him lol. I was still there with him, I was still my positive happy self, I just ignored the negativity and complaining and if it got too bad I would just let him be for a while.click to expand
Yeah I wish I would have ignored her now but the type of friend I am I would rather give you the honest truth so that you can work on yourself and be a better person. But when I finally read her last message she was so harsh saying I am done with you bitch you so high and mighty blah blah blah... I couldnt believe it. So I blocked her number and she is forgotten. She was the negative force I needed out of my life. There is no help for her. She has lost nearly all of her friends. No one wants to babysit a negative Nancy all the time.
Posted by djbuck1
It's not just Cancer women. Cancer men can be real downers, too. I had a Cancer roommate for two years in college. I loved the guy like a bro, but man could he get negative. I'd usually make one (1) effort to bring him around, but if he was determined to do the sand-burrowing thing I'd just say, "Okay. Burrow `til you hit bottom, then if you want to talk about it, let me know."
Of course, being a Pisces I'm not always a ray of sunshine either.
Lol we arent a ray of sunshine most times to ourselves but I must admit we work hard at making others feel good. I am very good at that.
Posted by Vero23
Wow. I wouldn't stereotype. I'm more so of a positive optimistic person. I do have a "happy " personality. Ive been through hell & bck so now that I'm free, I have no reason to live negative life.
I do notice unhappy Cancers & that's so sad. Life is a work of art. It's whatever you mke it. I choose nothing less than greatness.
Thats great maybe you should seek to inspire others. It amazes me that people actually like being down and out. Like why would you dwell in such misery!
Posted by GemStar05
Sounds like you tried to be her friend on more than one occasion by pointing out how negative she is. I'd steer clear of this one--misery loves company. She'll drain you.
She has literally drained me enough. We are no longer friends. I can't take such negativity. Even after she cursed me out I told her I wouldnt read another negative message that she sends and I that I hope she feels better. She replied F you Bitch im done with you. Smh and just like that our friendship is over! I refuse to be in the company of that negativity any longer.
Posted by GemStar05
I had a friend like that always whining and complaining. I listened to her at first and then I noticed she seemed to be loving being miserable and I ditched her. I'm a happy, positive person; I don't have time for those who want to dwell in misery. My motto is, for everything that happens to you even if it's bad--find something good in it! It works!
I LOVE THIS MOTTO 🙂
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by MissD312
She complained about EVERYTHING! The drinks weren't good, the waitress was slow, blah.. blah.. blah.. It got so bad that I couldn't wait to take her back home. The time before this I sent her the video of the Secret. I thought maybe she would understand that the negativity she puts out into the Universe is the same negativity she is receiving. Nevertheless I tried to tell her that her negativity was bringing me down. I told her to focus on her blessings instead. She got so upset and said I was being all high and mighty and she start bringing up my failed relationships. I don't understand. Where did I go wrong?
You did a very pisces thing to try and hep out someone in pain. Very appreciable effort on your part. She is the one completely in the wrong here, so don't internalize her ungracious behaviour as if it has something to do with you. Some cancers can be whiny cunts like that. Go Fishies!!! 😉click to expand
Why thank you 😉
Posted by ChrisNews
Not all cancer women are negative. I can't stand it. My mom and brothers can be negative and carry a "woe is I" attitude. It gets on my nerves
But yet I can be moody. And when I am , I want to get away from myself. I feel moody. I am grumpy and I want it to stop but I can't. Then I get more annnoyed - and with myself but my kids are near they annoy me.
I find it best to just be alone and let the mood ride out. I am also sarcastic -- moody or not and when I am am in a grumpy mood, that sarcasm is lethal. In a normal mood it is humorous.
Sometimes people are negative - it is they way they are raised. I've seen it in families. I once said hello to a young kid about 19 I knew his family. After saying hi, in the same sentence he gave me every health issue he had. lol then when i walked up to his house, and said hello to his dad, same thing and then the mom, same thing -except she could wait a few lines in the conversation to list out all the problems she had.
Funny thing was - they were the same problems 7 years prior. Just now the kids were doing the same thing.
I wanted to say, ah quit whining, it feeds the negative spirit.
Lol that is funny!
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by krebbsmann
Ya i m cynical sometimes... But what people call negativity and so called whining is actually just our cautious attitude towards future....
Thank you. EXACTLY!
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@incandescent
Is being irritating a basic function in your behavior? Lol
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She complained about EVERYTHING! The drinks weren't good, the waitress was slow, blah.. blah.. blah.. It got so bad that I couldn't wait to take her back home. The time before this I sent her the video of the Secret. I thought maybe she would understand that the negativity she puts out into the Universe is the same negativity she is receiving. Nevertheless I tried to tell her that her negativity was bringing me down. I told her to focus on her blessings instead. She got so upset and said I was being all high and mighty and she start bringing up my failed relationships. I don't understand. Where did I go wrong?