why are all my Cancer girlfriends are Idiots!!

I've had my good share of Cancer friends (women) & OMG! What IS WRONG WITH YOU!?!??! These are the Cancer women I'm dealing with! - -

Cancer #1 The Ex-best Friend
She married a no-good, lazy, life-sucking Libra man 2 years ago, and since then.. she has gotten addicted to pills, takes harsh comments from him, her job ethic has literally diminished, lost all respect at work (we work together), makes ANY excuse to not come to work to stay home with her loser husband, who: got her addicted to prescription pills, has had 6 accidents in 1 year in her new car, bring home drug addicts home who he calls "friends", is looking to set himself up to never work again ("back problems"), which is is fine if he is hunting, hiking etc all the time, but "cant work".
She is in the verge of losing her job and looks like she has aged 15 years in the 2 years they have been together.

Cancer #2 The party animal
She went MIA but recently decided to dump her abusing boyfriend, who just rammed her head against the hood of her car.... before him, she made a point to sleep with all of her friends ex boyfriends, or any man that came around our group. HAS NOT SELF RESPECT.

Cancer #3 The perfect lady
She is so prim and proper, such a classic lady, but cannot stop seeing her ex boyfriend who is a drug using ex-convict who talks to her like she is a whore, along with man-handling her.

Is this just a coincidence? or what!?

I would look more into why you attract or pick these type of friends.

Well I'm a Cancer and I'm the shit lol just kidding.
Sometimes we ask the wrong questions. Honestly I attract open minded intellectual friends. Om... they need help there is a reason behind every behavior. That is unfortunate. I do know that if some Cancers are traumatized at youth or at the beginning of puberty, that can send them on the wrong track. And I've also heard the saying "To take abuse, you have to have seen abuse"

Goodness did I say butter? Lol I meant the shit so lets just ignore that entire little terrible sentence.

Lol yea last time. I've just noticed that we cannot swear.

Ow that must suck , do you have moon-Asc aspects? That attracts cancers or moon in the 7th?

To clarify... (clears throat) In regards to intellect, I was just simply describing the kinds of ppl I attract. I'm not the most intelligent by no means. My point was that all Cancers are not idiots. Sometimes there is something in us that attracts certain ppl with certain characteristics or problems. That is it. I am a social science major and I understand that.

To whoever started this thread, perhaps some counseling together to show support. If your Cancer friends are younger, they may be okay. Some Camcers most find out life the hard way. We are Cardinal and we do what we want regardless sometimes. Hopefully they will find their way. But it isn't just a Cancer thing though.

How did I miss this thread?

Sounds to me like we have a jealous Pisces in here, who her friends have decided to live their own lives instead of doing as she wants .. and she doesn't like it, and so came here to pass judgment on her friends.

::: shakes head :::

Posted by Jahlia

I suggest you send them to a women's shelter and rehab.

lol ... coming from a 16 year old

This place is getting fucking funny with all these kids in here not knowing shit

I'm not saying Cancers are idiots nor criticizing their intelligence . All these women were raised in wonderful homes, no drug abuse, and at one point were intelligent women. I've pleaded with them but they just seem to settle for the shittiest situations.

@P-Angel no one can be jealous of that.

Posted by SunPiscesMoonGemini

I'm not saying Cancers are idiots

That's exactly what you said ....

Thread Title: why are all my Cancer girlfriends are Idiots!!

And you being jealous is exactly why you got your panties wadded up your ass .... because whether you like it or not, those women are allowed to live whatever life they want to live.

You're jealous because the girls choose their men over you ... and you are that petty that you think they should have loyalty to you. We were just talking about this the other day .... there actually are women like you out there, who think of friends as a possession.

The only idiot in this equation is you

cancers secretly love to get treated like shit by the ones they care for.and its because they NEED something to complain about in life..if you act right, they will search for something to bitch about, or just continuously make a mountain out of a mole hill..so its better to just treat'em like shit & give'em legit reasons to be mad or sad instead of getting nagged to death

I think about that everytime it happens ... for many, many years.

and it happens more to this breed than any other

Posted by P-Angel
How did I miss this thread?

Sounds to me like we have a jealous Pisces in here, who her friends have decided to live their own lives instead of doing as she wants .. and she doesn't like it, and so came here to pass judgment on her friends.

::: shakes head :::

Fiyah

Posted by P-Angel
How did I miss this thread?

Sounds to me like we have a jealous Pisces in here, who her friends have decided to live their own lives instead of doing as she wants .. and she doesn't like it, and so came here to pass judgment on her friends.

::: shakes head :::

Fiyah

@p-angel
You're one of those people that correct people on their spelling or take metaphorical things and make as them as literal as you can online and gets feisty with the keyboard trying to irritate people off online, aren't you?
So you're one of those friends that sits back and watches friends destroy themselves with out an ounce of sympathy due to the shit life they are plunging into? i take it as NO.

I journaled this last week. Seems like a fitting place to re-post why dem bitches be crazy

I have a theory about Cancers and their love for pain. I think Cancer's high sensitivity makes them internalize any type of pain they experience early in life. They haven't learned how to shell up against it so they bring it into themsleves.

Any kind of pain really, so what seems to be trivial to someone else can be felt as huge to a Cancer. It's a nostalgic trigger, so to speak. This painful feeling then becomes a part of their being and they can't separate themselves from it. So, in order to feel alive, know they exist, they have to experience some elements of pain within their lives. External or Internal... create their own drama or surround themselves with it.

Let's say a cancer had a pretty easy childhood... but got teased by their siblings. If this event is the only real —pain?? they experienced when young... it is still —painful?? for them. This event will become the benchmark for their pain threshold. Meaning anything relating to or over this level of pain may be too much for them and they will loose it. (ie. criticism/teasing of any kind) Seeming very dramatic and unstable over the smallest things.

If a Cancer had a tougher childhood... their pain threshold may be higher so they need to reach the peeks to feel alive. This can make them seek out external drama but not much phases them because they can take a lot. Then you may experience an icy, cold, aloof Cancer on the outside

Because they like/need to connect... the most comfortable place to experience these painful feelings of being alive... is from loved ones.

So in relationship situations (even friendships/families) Cancers have a higher likelihood of being unstable.

You know what they say, if your in a room with 10 idiots there are 11 idiots in the room.

@loveorlust i've noticed both good points! Cancer women are exactly that when it comes to love