Cancer women act strange when they love you

Hello folks,

I've been smitten by this cancerian best friend of mine since a year now and while going through google in an attempt to understand this cancer chick more I came across this intresting forum. I need your help guys. Specially the cancer women in this forum. please guide me. So here goes my teenage love story -

There is this really pretty cancer chick that lives in my neighbourhood, barely 2 houses away. We've known each other since childhood but were never friends. But 3 years back, we started interacting more. We started hanging out together in a group of mutual friends and eventually got really close. With time we became best friends. So since past 3 years, we're kinda inseparable. We share all our secrets, complete each other's sentences, literally KNOW what's going on in each other's mind and funnily call ourselves 'soulsisters'(I wish it becomes 'soulmates' someday!). Eventually, I fell for her. She was just so pretty, funny, intellectual and the best person to be around with. I am scorpio and I know she' the one for me. I've dated 4 girls before in school - Virgo, cappy, pisces, gemini. But never found a woman like this cancerian woman! We connect to the soul.

Now the sad part comes in. I have never asked her out since the one year I've been falling for her. Not that we don't say I love you every now and then. But we've done that as bestfriends. Initially, I coudn't ask her out because I did not want to lose a Best friend, that too a clingy lovable cancerian. I tried to suppress my feelingsfor her. But when I couldn't hold it on any longer, and planned to blurt it out and take our relationship to the next level, a mutal guy friend brought a bad news. He showed me a snapshot of their chat where he was teasingly asking her who would she want to go on a date with? when he mentioned my name, she said - He's like a brother to me. I wouldn't go on date with him in a lifetime. Not even for fun!'

Here is my first question, does she really mean it or was it just an escapist behaviour to guard her secrets from this mutual friend? He's anyway a mere acquaintance who flirts with her and she doesn't really likes him and avoids him. She's told me before. Moreover, I'm wondering whether she likes me secretly and calling me her 'elder brother' is just a part of her Secretive strategy. For she does show signs of being attracted
to me. I can sense dat, I'm a magnetic scorpio, remember! 😉

Please help! This Scorpio is OBSESSED with this

obsessed with this moonmaiden*

Ok, ok let me get this straight... but you say you suppressed YOUR feelings for her, but then decided that YOU were ready to take the relationship to the next level... but then you found out she said "she only likes you like a brother and would never go on a date with you, not even for fun" I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just trying to get this clear.

Now you seem puzzled why she said that when you have already determined that she loves you... cause that's what your topic title says.

Are you confused because you thought she's been secretly lusting after you... since you are a magnetic Scorpio?

Did you become obsessed with her before or after you saw the snap shot of the chat?... with another guy that you know she doesn't like... because she loves you. Are you sure about that? And wth was he showing you a snap shot of their chat for? You guys competing?

your story is full of holes...

friendzoned.... no use now. its done.unless you start flirting and seducing her but its gonna take a complete image changeover in her mind.

Shellshocker, yes. I suppressed my feelings for I knew I'm already friendzoned but the feelings were too strong and I'm kinda obsessed with her.We hangout like every other day and we're best-est friends.

You might be seeing loopholes in my story because this is not the complete story! I slept. lol. sorry, my bad.

First thing, I kinda simplified the third guy thing just to make it easy to understand for ya people. Like a true scorpio, I kinda spy and stalk my crush and her suitors :p

So the guy she had a chat with was a fourth person and the guy who brought the snapshot to me was a third person mutual friend to the fourth person. Get it? He was acting like Dr. Watson for me :p

Anyway, that was my first question. Just wanted to know whether cancerian women lie to other people when they have a secret crush? Just to keep it as a secret, for the sake of their secretive cancerian tendency?

Please answer this.

The new developments and the second question follows in the next reply.

Posted by Odysseus

Anyway, that was my first question. Just wanted to know whether cancerian women lie to other people when they have a secret crush? Just to keep it as a secret, for the sake of their secretive cancerian tendency?

Please answer this.

The new developments and the second question follows in the next reply.

hmmm.. ok i'm your huckleberry

yes, a think a Cancer would lie to someone because they do not wish to disclose certain information on the topic.

The thing to keep in mind is the reason they lie can be vast. ie...not your business, i'm not in the mood, it's too complicated for your simple mind, you are only asking me this question for transparant reasons, i will lie to see what happens, etc.

If you are asking specifically if she lied... because she has a secret crush on you... who knows

The brotherzone thing I was talking about happened some months ago. There are some recent developments thar are puzzling me.
After getting all battered and bruised in the friendzone I tried every trick from Hagrid's beard to escape it. Became my alluring best. Tried becoming a stud, in front of her. She knows I've got women chasing after me and we used to bitch about them. Now, I've stopped talking about them and give my full attention to her when she's around. Took her for movies and outings. Earlier we used to hang out in a group of friends . These times, I took her alone. Only the two of us. I tried all I could do to transform myself from a 'best friend next door' into a potential boyfriend. And you know what? There's a sudden change in her behaviour when she's around me! We used to chill out earlier. Now when we hang out, she acts so fucking shy! We used to crack jokes, bitch about people, talk politics, share dreams and secrets, play poker, gossip, etc. Now it's all changed. It all gets so shy and kinda wkward for both of us when we're together.

What's more, I was discussing about us with a friend who knows I've got hots for her, and I mistakenly texted something to her which I shouldn't have. I was explaining my friend why I'm not moving on with her. It was like - 'I love her and know she loves me too. She just needs to realize it, bring it out from her subconcious. And for that, I gotta ignite her love'.

And this went to her! I covered it up and cooked up some story but I guess she got the hint whom I was referring to and what was it all about.

Since then, she's reduced her hangouts with me. Barely texts for 4-5 days then suddenly calls me up someday. Even when we text now she's usually shy and not like she used to be before. She retreats into her shell more frequently now. I have to coax her and initiate a convo or call her up for a hangout. All this is so sudden and unexpected.

In short, she's blowing hot and cold.

Is this a sign?

Is this sudden blowing hot and cold a sign of developing crush? Am I out or getting out of the friendzone? Should I wait and watch? Should I move on and consider it was never meant to be?

I'm really confused. Nothing frustrates more a Scorpio than an unsolved mystery. This woman is a mystery.

And even if I move on, I guess I'll remain a virgin bachelor all my life. That's the kind of obsessive love I keep for her.

And when we scorps say it, we mean it.

I feel for you I really do. I'll tell you what I think from my first initial response...

You changed your behaviour towards her and were no longer being your true self, but more of what you thought you should be to win over her affections. She liked you as you were. When you changed... she changed. Into what, who knows but it's pretty obvious it wasn't working for either of you. You knew what your game plan was and she seems to have put up walls trying to figure out what that plan was.

When she found out you were interested and now pursuing her for a relationship... she shelled up. For what reasons, once again that's for each individual cancer. Perhaps she missed that friendship, doesn't know how to take this new info or maybe she only sees you as a friend and doesn't want to hurt you or express it directly. A number of possibilities

In high school my best guy friend was a Scorpio, too. We had so much fun! He was dark, funny and mischievous but I never liked him more than friend. Looking back on some of his actions, I now wonder if he ever had feelings for me. holy shit... if so, I was oblivious

If a CANCER woman likes you she will NEVER PUT YOU ON THE FRIEND ZONE- She might either love you or be totally indifferent. Otherwise she will put you on the friend zone and hope you understand that is what it literally means the first time. I talk from personal experience because i've been too nice with guys and they get confused....then i have to automatically make it clear they are on the friend zone.....

Shellshocker, brofist to you.
I just end up with senior college. Will go to college this year. She's one year junior.

And you guys asumed she's all cold. No! She is sugar and spice what earlier used to be only spice.
I've not changed myself. Just stopped treating her like I used to.

Anyways, I can't ask her out and never know whether she loved me or not.
Because if I ask her out, and get rejected, I wouldn't be able to face her.

I guess I'll have to move on. Give her some space. Stay distant. And heal.

I guess I'm dying virgin. Hehe 🙂

senior school*

One more thing, could be a ray of hope, though I'm not hopeful now -

We went for a movie this monday. Haven't seen each other since then. I guesd she went back into her shell and I ignored and let her be.
But you can't really stay away when in love, or do you?

So yesterday(Friday) I finally texted her and asked where has she been and could we meet up? She said she's going for a slerpover with her girlfriends and she'll meet me on Sunday. I wss already pissed with her blowing hot and cold so I confronted her why she's been so away from me since lately? We had a small fight on text but resolved later. I said I missed you so bad and thsr you've changed. I miss the old you. She blamed me with the same accusation and said she missed me too. Now we're meeting tomorrow evening.

It will be same. Usual chitter chatter on random topics, nostalgia on old times and two shy water sign teens spending time under the moon.

I guess we're a gone case. But I still got HOPE. And an ocean of love.

shymoon, she did not put me in a friendzone. We're bestfriends since middle school. We've been with each other since the time dating is not a part of our age. So she never took me romantically nor did I. Now that we're grown ups, I developed feelings for.
Whether she did the same or not, is the question.

Posted by Odysseus
I wss already pissed with her blowing hot and cold so I confronted her why she's been so away from me since lately? We had a small fight on text but resolved later. I said I missed you so bad and thsr you've changed. I miss the old you. She blamed me with the same accusation and said she missed me too. Now we're meeting tomorrow evening.

It will be same. Usual chitter chatter on random topics, nostalgia on old times and two shy water sign teens spending time under the moon.

I guess we're a gone case. But I still got HOPE. And an ocean of love.

This is too sweet 🙂 Remember Scorpio... you are the one who changed things in the first place.

You're fear of rejection is holding you back from being direct...

Her fears are holding her back from responding in anyway...

At least, you have the moon

So what should I do?

1. Go on with the Scorp game I'm playing

2. Go back to being the nice guy best friend who's always available

3. Distance myself, see whether she makes a move, and then go ahead

4. Cut out myself completely and see if she comes back!

I'm soooo confused. Ain't there any signs I can watchout for that say that she likes me, secretly?

We like it when people are straight forward with us. Do you think perhaps deep down your intuition is telling you that all she is to you is a friend and that is why you are fearful to ask her? I think she meant it when she said you are like a brother to her, but you will only get a real answer from her. I have two best friends that are men and they are both pisces and I love them like family. I have been friends with each of them for over 13 and 15 years. But I would never kiss them or encourage any other feelings, even though they have both suggested such things, at one point or another. Just be straight with her and you will get your answer. And if doesn't go the way you hoped, you will always have her in your life as a friend🙂

Posted by CluelessCancer
We say what we mean and mean what we say.

Yep.

Especially when the madness in them is strong.

Woo, some insane things come out when Cancers get pissed (even when they don't have the right to be pissed).

The only problem is that few of them ever regret talking to people like that, and even fewer apologize for it.

Ok so I am 4 years late on this topic . I am just wondering how it worked out with your cancerian crush? I am a cancer lady , and I have been in love with two scorpios in my lifetime (not at the same time of course) and there's nothing like that deep emotionally connection. It's so insane that it's scary . And from my cancerian perspective, and my other cancer girlfriends agree, we love when a man owns up to his feelings and is bold with them . It's so sexy . Sure there's a chance she could deny you but once you tell her your feelings she will start thinking of you differently , like "wow he likes me I wonder what it would be like , should I take that route with him?" I'm pretty sure she called you her brother type because she's guarding her feelings . And plus it's nobody's business . Cancers guard their emotions like no other . Think of a crab. Hard on the outside , mush on the inside . Plus , I think you will regret it If you don't tell her how you truly feel . Best of luck, Scorpio!

I forgot to add , this may be irrelevant but Selena Gomez is a cancer and I can remember a time she was on the Ellen show saying Justin Bieber was like a "brother to her" then she ended him dating him. lol kinda weird but worth noting .

Posted by ScorpioFish

Posted by CluelessCancer
We say what we mean and mean what we say.

Yep.

Especially when the madness in them is strong.

Woo, some insane things come out when Cancers get pissed (even when they don't have the right to be pissed).

The only problem is that few of them ever regret talking to people like that, and even fewer apologize for it.

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I apologize for everything even when I shouldn't . I don't like conflict with people I care about . If by chance I don't apologize I'll still feel bad kinda .

-cancer female

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Posted by LunaSky
Ok so I am 4 years late on this topic . I am just wondering how it worked out with your cancerian crush? I am a cancer lady , and I have been in love with two scorpios in my lifetime (not at the same time of course) and there's nothing like that deep emotionally connection. It's so insane that it's scary . And from my cancerian perspective, and my other cancer girlfriends agree, we love when a man owns up to his feelings and is bold with them . It's so sexy . Sure there's a chance she could deny you but once you tell her your feelings she will start thinking of you differently , like "wow he likes me I wonder what it would be like , should I take that route with him?" I'm pretty sure she called you her brother type because she's guarding her feelings . And plus it's nobody's business . Cancers guard their emotions like no other . Think of a crab. Hard on the outside , mush on the inside . Plus , I think you will regret it If you don't tell her how you truly feel . Best of luck, Scorpio!

I just learned this about cancer women. The being open and bold with your feelings part.

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Yes I find it very sexy when a man shows his feelings . Men think they have tinge hard asses and emotionally detached but when a woman sees that emotional side of a man it's like we feel closer to the guy and unlocked the heart . Lol

Posted by LunaSky

Posted by Se7en

Posted by LunaSky
Ok so I am 4 years late on this topic . I am just wondering how it worked out with your cancerian crush? I am a cancer lady , and I have been in love with two scorpios in my lifetime (not at the same time of course) and there's nothing like that deep emotionally connection. It's so insane that it's scary . And from my cancerian perspective, and my other cancer girlfriends agree, we love when a man owns up to his feelings and is bold with them . It's so sexy . Sure there's a chance she could deny you but once you tell her your feelings she will start thinking of you differently , like "wow he likes me I wonder what it would be like , should I take that route with him?" I'm pretty sure she called you her brother type because she's guarding her feelings . And plus it's nobody's business . Cancers guard their emotions like no other . Think of a crab. Hard on the outside , mush on the inside . Plus , I think you will regret it If you don't tell her how you truly feel . Best of luck, Scorpio!

I just learned this about cancer women. The being open and bold with your feelings part.

Yes I find it very sexy when a man shows his feelings . Men think they have tinge hard asses and emotionally detached but when a woman sees that emotional side of a man it's like we feel closer to the guy and unlocked the heart . Lol

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Have to be hard asses**

Posted by confusingconfused
yea, Cancer women are weird af

Yes we are lmao

Well of course you would need to know and respect the person first . You wouldn't tell a stranger your deepest dark feelings . Haha!