Advice on what i could do better

Posted by VirgoKhaleesi
You guys have probably heard a tonne of stories like this but alas, here is mine.

So i'm virgo woman and there's this absolutely, adorably, cool cap guy that i've known for over 4 years. We only see each other every month or so at parties/weddings/gatherings since were both quite busy but the connection is heaps strong. I'm talking prolonged eye contact, comfortable silence and a lot of smiling - lots of positive body language. He greets me with a very tight hug (like, he literally presses him self against me and envelopes me in his lanky arms as if not wanting to let go of me) and the conversation between us flows incredibly smoothly and he genuinely laughs at my jokes/humour. Now here is the problem:

At the end of the evening when we're out somewhere, he always says that we should meet up for a coffee or dinner and that he'd like to see more of me. But when i text him to arrange something or suggest we do something, he doesn't reply. Before texting, i even waited for him to initiate something cos i didn't want him to feel like i was too dominating (which i'm not). I see him put up photos of him with his friends (including some absolutely gorgeous women) so i know he's alive and whatever. But the next time we meet, he apologises for not replying saying he was busy and we're back to our insanely strong connection.

Now guys, what am i doing wrong? What could i do better? Is this normal behaviour for a cap guy?

t be a bit too wild/aggressive for the cap guy? as in telling him i'm waiting for him to do something and then winking? He's a pretty soft and gentle kinda guy, though i've heard cap guys like to be in charge and mostly dominant, that's why i'm asking.

Getting him drunk and just going for it? i like the way you think 😛

haha you caps are a great bunch 🙂

Posted by truecap

Posted by VirgoKhaleesi
You guys have probably heard a tonne of stories like this but alas, here is mine.

So i'm virgo woman and there's this absolutely, adorably, cool cap guy that i've known for over 4 years. We only see each other every month or so at parties/weddings/gatherings since were both quite busy but the connection is heaps strong. I'm talking prolonged eye contact, comfortable silence and a lot of smiling - lots of positive body language. He greets me with a very tight hug (like, he literally presses him self against me and envelopes me in his lanky arms as if not wanting to let go of me) and the conversation between us flows incredibly smoothly and he genuinely laughs at my jokes/humour. Now here is the problem:

At the end of the evening when we're out somewhere, he always says that we should meet up for a coffee or dinner and that he'd like to see more of me. But when i text him to arrange something or suggest we do something, he doesn't reply. Before texting, i even waited for him to initiate something cos i didn't want him to feel like i was too dominating (which i'm not). I see him put up photos of him with his friends (including some absolutely gorgeous women) so i know he's alive and whatever. But the next time we meet, he apologises for not replying saying he was busy and we're back to our insanely strong connection.

Now guys, what am i doing wrong? What could i do better? Is this normal behaviour for a cap guy?

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Stop trying. As in, next time he says "we should meet up". Don't text and follow up. When he says that, just say 'I'll be looking forward to hearing from you". That puts the ball back into his court. Then if he doesn't follow through, the next time he says we should meet up say 'You keep saying that. I'm just waiting on you to step up' and wink seductively while touching his arm. Still puts the ball in his court.

Or, you can always have a drink wi

Posted by truecap
What you're doing isn't working, is it?

No. So NOT aggressive. Very feminine.

Here's what I mean:
Hang out. He says We should do something. You say I'm looking forward to hearing from you.
He no call.
Hang out 2nd time. He says we should do something you touch his arm, say Sure. I've just been waiting on you to call me. Wink.

He calls. Great.
He no call. hang out, he says we should do something. You say, I don't think so.


Watch some old romantic movies from the 40s, 50s, 60s. See how those classy women do it. Even the "aggressive" ones back then are so not agressive for today's world. Watch Marilyn, Elizabeth, Audrey, Doris.... I think caps guys would go for that.

d up his Mars and apparently its in cancer - mine happens to be in libra.

He is a fairly busy guy, so i understand that sometimes he's too busy to reply, but over the span of 4 or so years, this has mostly been the case where he doesn't reply at all. Just to clarify, i don't bombard him with messages or anything too stalkerish, it's usually just a message or 2 every 6 or so months.

Just for some background, he's forgotten my birthday the last 2 years. My last birthday was a milestone birthday as well and i brushed it off thinking he's probably too busy seeing as my birthday falls around exam/assessment time and gave him the benefit of doubt. Although he never forgets any of our other mutual friends birthdays, even if they're close to my birthday which strikes me as a little odd.

Also, all the girls in the photos are usually the types of girls that cap men wouldn't go for - i don't mean any offence, but they're the very opposite of classy and feminine. and he himself has indicated that he's single the last time i met him a couple of weeks back, so i'm not sure whether he's telling the truth or what.

Posted by tripleCap

Posted by VirgoKhaleesi

At the end of the evening when we're out somewhere, he always says that we should meet up for a coffee or dinner and that he'd like to see more of me. But when i text him to arrange something or suggest we do something, he doesn't reply.

Is this normal behaviour for a cap guy?

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If his Mars (planet of action, drive) is in Sag.

From my own personal experience, they are notorious for

not following through. They usually have a lot going on and

are way too busy.

Signs aside, I'm not saying he's not interested in you

however, he is choosing not to respond to you.






Do you think he could be dating other women?

Posted by VirgoKhaleesi

I see him put up photos of him with his friends (including some absolutely gorgeous women) so i know he's alive...

Posted by JanuaryCappie
@Virgo

Your not doing anything wrong. You said you've known him for 4 years.

Meaning, he's respecting the friendship the two of you have.
You have to give him a signal that it's ok to proceed forward.

Posted by Romz
Capricorn may favor femininity in women however people mistaken femininity with weakness and the truest female is the Queen to her King.
She does not bow to him but rather she is at his side and in many respects his equal. She demands just as much respect as he does, a counterpart and a pillar of strength in her own soft way and never wavers from that stance.
Cap men need more stability than most require. If you seem uneasy in your choices, if you have no follow through, tenacity to complete your goals or self sooth yourself...you are deemed weak in a Capricorns eyes.

Virgos have this amazing impulse to dissect each interaction with someone down to the most miniscule statement or body movement and then go back into hibernation to analyze the new data and then come back with all sorts of self sabotaging conclusions.



Just from what you've said he might he uneasy with the connection you two share. You two share a deeper connection but when it comes down to meeting up and putting those connections to good use, he stalls the interaction which means he's probably uneasy with how much he likes you and either isn't ready for that sort of connection or hes waiting for more interaction with you to decide if he wants to invest those types of feelings into you.


One thing I learned about Capricorns is that they don't just fly into situations. They are just as calculating as a Virgo however they have something Virgos lack which is the gumption to go for what they want. So (if) or (when) he is ready...you'll feel it light a freight train hitting your cervix without an invitation.

Good luck