@virgoking
17 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo
Need gem women help give me the secrets please ;)
I can say, the one word responses, she's just being polite, but not really interested. You gotta get her to talk to you, and understand what she likes/dislikes. Simple coffee to understand her, ask her about her family, we like that, sport if any. Just try to understand us, and listen 🙂
Yeah I think you guys are right I think she is interested or falter because two of my friend that are girls told her i like her. But what she did yesterday made me think this. So sometime our job gives us food now she work way on the other side of me. But when she came back she made sure to pass me in my row she never comes down my row and She was looking hella good yesterday. I think she wants me to go up to her and I think that was a test.
Posted by xy
She's telling you to come and get it.
you see that's what I thought I just feel real nervous around her because she so hard to read.
I know you say she is more of the quiet type, however, what gets me early on is a guy who is confident and can hold an intelligent conversation. I don't mean being able to discuss rocket science, just perhaps something intriguing that no one else there can discuss with her. It's about laying the foundation for a type of connection. Connections with people are big with us.
I can't speak for all Gemini women, but for the majority that I"ve known, we have one thing in common. If you stimulate our mind FIRST, the rest will follow.
You could be the sexiest hunk of flesh we've ever laid our eyes on, but if what comes out of your mouth makes you sound less than intelligent, I will get bored in two seconds and walk off.
She may be testing the waters with you. If you're smart, (and being a virgo you probably are), you'll keep talking but just enough to entice her into the convo. If you know any common interests you share, bring that up. If not, bring up something that you can relate to at work and go from there.
Intelligent Communication + Sense of Humor attract Gems. If you are genuine, she's know and react positively. If you aren't, don't bother her then.
Gemini's loath facades.
Guys screw it up with Gems all the time by letting on that they're highly interested too early. Here's the secret: we're used to getting lots of attention from guys and we think you'll find us amazing by default. The intriguing guy is the one who is witty, smart, sweet, confident, and charismatic, but who doesn't automatically let on that we're "all that" to him. Be all of those things I mentioned...and a little flirty...but don't latch on to her energetically before she has made up her mind that she's into you. The trick is in figuring out when, exactly, that is.
Posted by gemini64
I know you say she is more of the quiet type, however, what gets me early on is a guy who is confident and can hold an intelligent conversation. I don't mean being able to discuss rocket science, just perhaps something intriguing that no one else there can discuss with her. It's about laying the foundation for a type of connection. Connections with people are big with us.I can't speak for all Gemini women, but for the majority that I"ve known, we have one thing in common. If you stimulate our mind FIRST, the rest will follow.
You could be the sexiest hunk of flesh we've ever laid our eyes on, but if what comes out of your mouth makes you sound less than intelligent, I will get bored in two seconds and walk off.She may be testing the waters with you. If you're smart, (and being a virgo you probably are), you'll keep talking but just enough to entice her into the convo. If you know any common interests you share, bring that up. If not, bring up something that you can relate to at work and go from there.
Intelligent Communication + Sense of Humor attract Gems. If you are genuine, she's know and react positively. If you aren't, don't bother her then.
Gemini's loath facades.
Very good points I'll try to remember that.
Posted by Whimsy
Guys screw it up with Gems all the time by letting on that they're highly interested too early. Here's the secret: we're used to getting lots of attention from guys and we think you'll find us amazing by default. The intriguing guy is the one who is witty, smart, sweet, confident, and charismatic, but who doesn't automatically let on that we're "all that" to him. Be all of those things I mentioned...and a little flirty...but don't latch on to her energetically before she has made up her mind that she's into you. The trick is in figuring out when, exactly, that is.
So gem women are like libra women and you have to play hard to get. I did tell her i like her she said something to effect that she doesn't like to date people she works with. Which I respect but the way she said it seem like she wasn't bother by me it's seem like she was flatter. I'm pull back and just flirt and be cool. I think she would be more open to it once she know I'm not like he rest of the guys at my job trying to pimp every girl at the job.
That's what my virgo thought. It's not about playing hard to get. He iced me out and went with the girl who showed him lots of attention. She was the one playing....and he got played a lot more than he could ever have imagined. It ain't always what it appears. Virgo's always looking only at what's right in front of you. Everyone has rules, but nothing is absolute.
Posted by gemeliorist
That's what my virgo thought. It's not about playing hard to get. He iced me out and went with the girl who showed him lots of attention. She was the one playing....and he got played a lot more than he could ever have imagined. It ain't always what it appears. Virgo's always looking only at what's right in front of you. Everyone has rules, but nothing is absolute.
We are very inpatient people see why we go out with Aries a lot. It's mostly because we don't want to look like a fool for person that has no interest in us.
all the men i was every attracted to (at first) were men who seemingly paid no attention to me.
honestly, with most of them it turned out that they were more than paying attention, and more than interested, but backed off cos i seemed aloof and hard to approach. from what i read in this thread it seems that your girl is kinda similar.
so try to play a bit with her, hot/cold, but be careful not to overdo it, cause if you do, she will lose interest and there's no turning back.
hope this helped 🙂
Posted by nngemini
all the men i was every attracted to (at first) were men who seemingly paid no attention to me.
honestly, with most of them it turned out that they were more than paying attention, and more than interested, but backed off cos i seemed aloof and hard to approach. from what i read in this thread it seems that your girl is kinda similar.so try to play a bit with her, hot/cold, but be careful not to overdo it, cause if you do, she will lose interest and there's no turning back.
hope this helped 🙂
Thanks again yeah I see what you mean I let my feeling be known through email she say she is not interested in dating men at work. But I feel she is lying about it. I lay off a bit but she always try to ignore me but I see her looking in the corner of her eye and whispering to her friend when I'm near by. very confusing I don't want to seem like a creep so I give her space. Sometimes I feel like she wants me to come up to her but other time it's like she try's to avoid me... I don't know.
Hope you didn't use the office email 😢
Posted by gemeliorist
Hope you didn't use the office email 😢
......... Ops what does that mean.
Might be subject to scrutiny..... at some point. We might be airy, but there's a lot of stuff crammed in there, so gems can be paranoid as hell. She also mentioned the work thing. Negativity is the death of gems, so if things go south the environment could become unbearable....toxic. Kryptonite. Plus it's not good to always be around the object of ones affection.
People have work to do🙂
Posted by gemeliorist
Might be subject to scrutiny..... at some point. We might be airy, but there's a lot of stuff crammed in there, so gems can be paranoid as hell. She also mentioned the work thing. Negativity is the death of gems, so if things go south the environment could become unbearable....toxic. Kryptonite. Plus it's not good to always be around the object of ones affection.People have work to do🙂
thanks for the reply I might just give up on her well there were some issue with our computers and we had to move to another room lucky for me I was able to sit next to her. She still stay quite but that's not why I'm giving up I have been trying to talk to her so I can see the real her. Women tone of voice tell you a lot about them especially if it's normal convo. So I was over hearing her speak to her friends I did hear a hint of bitchness in her voice but thought it was in my head. Until my friend came over next to me his is a handsome guy but there are others there to but she had her eyes on him like she want him to recognize her. But my friend always ignore women at his job plus he like white girls. Any ways I remember this thread and he is the only guy that did not pay her any attention didn't even look her way. But what turn me off wasn't that. his cuz works with us which is her friend They we're having a friendly argument and she buts in and he was pointing at her joking not even being rude. And she was saying don't point at me in a very rude maner. My friend said it best but I was trying to ignore it if you see a women that looks as good as she does and she single there something wrong with her oh well.
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So there is a gem girl at my job something about her is pulling this virgo her way lol. I tried talking to her she the real quiet type she only gives one word answers. And it not just me it's everyone. She reminds me of this sexy nerdy type her face could be what people say is nerdy but her body is off the chain. Man ever time I see her I have to look at her. So what's the best way to get gem girls interested in you let me know the secrets.