Any insight Capricorn men??

Im a Virgo woman and i met this Capricorn man. He flirted with me as soon as we met. We would see each other 3 to 4 days a week but very briefly. However he continued to flirt so i finally responded to his flirting (he is very attractive btw). He backed off. Things went cold for awhile. But with us seeing each other so frequently when other guys would approach me he would run them off (staking claim??). Ive met his brother and the brother asked me out. I immediately let him know i was interested in the other. His response when asked "oh yeah this babe" while wrapping his arms around me. He is always just a phone call away when i need a friend or hug. But at times, he has this ignoring me mechanism (that gives me doubt) that throws me off. 
We dont talk much on the phone. Text convos are very straight to the point and done fast. However in person, i get his undivided attention. He gives me little thoughtful friendly gifts outta the blue. And in these moments he shows me interest, tells me im beautiful, tells me "you make it hard for me to focus. You throw me off my game sitting here talking to me. Ive never had a woman do that to me."
Now, he never gives me this. He is always so calm and seem unbothered by me. We talk laugh and joke like old friends all the time, we just flirt on the side. He has asked me about having his children i didnt aggree but i didnt oppose. Its so much but so little because we dont go out together or do the dating thing. Im really interested in him. The way he carries himself, he is laid back, the way he makes me feel safe when he is around has got my attention. But we have been doing this (testing phase thing as i call it) for a bit to long i think. 8months or more. 
Is this normal? Finally last week he told me he thinks of us very often and its coming soon but he has been cold as ice every since. I just dont seem to understand this style of "getting to know someone" or this way of doing things. Im so confused. If he wants to move things along why does he say it then become unresponsive? I wont tell him how i feel toward him until i know he is serious. Ive been hurt before. Its all a game to me until i know he is being sincere. And then theres that thought of i could just move on, right?

I am a Cap woman, relationships are a big deal. We take it seriously, especially if he is infact serious aboit YOU. We wamt to make sure it won't be some short term romance. You mentioned that you male it hard for him to focus. In that scenario maybe you really do, amd he needs his space to get things done and to really analyze everything before he makes that commitmemt to you.

Maybe the missing piece is you're not telling him how you really feel about him.

Let him continue to show interest...

The thing with a Cap is he won't say how he feels unless he knows a million percent your into him...I actually wouldn't say it first...


Caps are highly sensitive ppl, they play it cool on the surface but trust their deeply sensitive

A cap man is use to women sweating them...your different stay different and let him make a clear and direct move...as in hey I would like for us to be exclusive or date exclusively..

Your a virgo...your prob gorg and intelligent...most caps like very beautiful woman who are successful and have their life together

When a cap man wants you, he makes it clear!

8 months is a long time to be pu33y footing around making things exclusive and official...

date other ppl...keep your life going...I would never put my dating life on pause or not entertain other suitors waiting for a man to decide on ME...

Good luck.

I'm sorry, I would not.take this advice. You will crush everything.

Ive made it clear that im interested in him. Its just that if he wants something with me why is it taking so long? We see each other everyday now, still briefly. If we dont see each other, he sends me videos requesting me to stop by. When i get there, he doesnt know why he wanted me to stop by.

Posted by Greentea
I am a Cap woman, relationships are a big deal. We take it seriously, especially if he is infact serious aboit YOU. We wamt to make sure it won't be some short term romance. You mentioned that you male it hard for him to focus. In that scenario maybe you really do, amd he needs his space to get things done and to really analyze everything before he makes that commitmemt to you.

Maybe the missing piece is you're not telling him how you really feel about him.

He actually admitted to liking the way i throw him off his game. Said my presence demands his attention and thats powerful.
So i cant help but think that he is maybe scared to explore what this might be between us.

Posted by Greentea
I'm sorry, I would not.take this advice. You will crush everything.

I agree.

Posted by sassylady176
Ive made it clear that im interested in him. Its just that if he wants something with me why is it taking so long? We see each other everyday now, still briefly. If we dont see each other, he sends me videos requesting me to stop by. When i get there, he doesnt know why he wanted me to stop by.

Hey he got you there, right? He wanted you to be with him, that's why.

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Posted by Greentea
I am a Cap woman, relationships are a big deal. We take it seriously, especially if he is infact serious aboit YOU. We wamt to make sure it won't be some short term romance. You mentioned that you male it hard for him to focus. In that scenario maybe you really do, amd he needs his space to get things done and to really analyze everything before he makes that commitmemt to you.

Maybe the missing piece is you're not telling him how you really feel about him.

He actually admitted to liking the way i throw him off his game. Said my presence demands his attention and thats powerful.
So i cant help but think that he is maybe scared to explore what this might be between us.

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I think he's inlove with you tbh. Taking time to process it.

Posted by whale09
im here to know whats up with cap man too!

What sign are you?

Posted by sassylady176

Posted by whale09
im here to know whats up with cap man too!

What sign are you?

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I think also a virgo, like you.

I cant agree with greentea-do NOT see other men if you want to make this work out with your Cappy. Its a very big mistake and one that will be unlikely to correct (unfortunately speaking from experience)

It's been 8 months or more and they see each other everyday

She would be a fool to wait around for him to come around.

But I'm sure she'll be just fine after all its to the point where she is on a message board seeking advice versus dating other ppl

But yeah this situation looks very promising lol 8+ months and nothing!!! Keep doing what your doing its obviously working in your favor.

Posted by Greentea
I'm sorry, I would not.take this advice. You will crush everything.

I agree when a Cap wants you for real, it's not wishy washy. They make it really clear. It sounds like he's unsure, or you're both playing it too cool. If you want him, let it be known to him clearly. Don't be passive.

Well, i just officially got asked out on a date. A Valentines weekend get a way. I will be nervous as all hell. Wish me luck guys. And thank you all for your input it is valuable even if its not what i wanted to hear its always great to see others point of views. So ty all. And i will continue to update you all on "My adventures with this Capricorn".