Are caps meant to be alone

I'm a Capricorn woman, approaching 25 and I've become hopeless towards relationships. I know I'm still young and have my whole life ahead of me blah blah blah. I've been through a lot in my little years of dating. I am actually quite AFRAID to give my heart again. My longest and most serious relationship was with a Pisces and I fear that I won't be able to love someone else as much as I loved him. I gave a lot and I can't see myself giving again. I've recently fallen for this Virgo guy but I haven't been able to give him all of me because I'm afraid he'll just leave anyways.

Do any other Capricorns feel this way? Do you think we're truly meant to be loners like they so? I do want to be able to love and trust again, just not sure how.

Hello I am a cap lady sometimes I ask myself the same thing. I'm 21 and it seem so hard to keep a relationship.

Posted by stillwat3r
Imo, caps have a lot of inner work to do when it comes to love. They want too much predictability which is impossible to attain... not only in love but in life in. general.

You have to start believing in yourself and that you are strong enough to face whatever is ahead of you.

Thanks this really gives me hope!! And puts me on the positive front

Well if you put yourself into and it and take a risk, and it doesn't work out, so what?

I got completely effed by a pisces around your age as well, vindictive little buggers they can be

Posted by stillwat3r
Hello fellow cap lady.

Don't let fear paralyze you into inaction and doubt. Let hope guide you rather than despair. People feel despair when they stop having faith that in all things in life there is a lesson if not joy. That lack of trust of the thoughts that everything will be okay makes us feel sorry for ourselves.

Do you believe that you deserve love?

The word courage comes from latin word coraticum which means "heart" so have the courage to live from your heart. And hearts want to express love while your spirit has to be strong enough to deal with the pain that love comes with.

Sometimes at the end of a relationship, we miss not having someone to love more than someone loving us. So allow yourself that happiness and trust in yourself that even if it goes wrong you have the strength to overcome.

When it.comes to.doubt and fear, it's not that we fear/doubt others actions because without knowing them we have no clue, but we fear our own inability to be able to cope with disappointment. Dig deep and find that strength that you are strong enough to face disappointments.

Caps never stay down but only get better.

Sheet, you really have had your brain chemistry affected. Good for you.

Posted by hopelesscapricorn
I'm a Capricorn woman, approaching 25 and I've become hopeless towards relationships. I know I'm still young and have my whole life ahead of me blah blah blah. I've been through a lot in my little years of dating. I am actually quite AFRAID to give my heart again. My longest and most serious relationship was with a Pisces and I fear that I won't be able to love someone else as much as I loved him. I gave a lot and I can't see myself giving again. I've recently fallen for this Virgo guy but I haven't been able to give him all of me because I'm afraid he'll just leave anyways.

Do any other Capricorns feel this way? Do you think we're truly meant to be loners like they so? I do want to be able to love and trust again, just not sure how.

You seem like you're one that is likely to run him off in some kind of self fulfilling prophecy with this attitude. You don't know that he'll leave. But I'm sure he's getting the vibe via your attitude.

It's like if you tell a kid they're stupid, they'll think and believe they are stupid.

Don't do this to your relationship.

Quit feeling sorry for yourself and step up and do something about your situation. Kick that depressive, pessimistic thought to the curb and embrace optimism.

The only one that can make you happy is yourself. Once you are happy and confident with yourself, men will be coming out of the woodwork.

Posted by stillwat3r
BTW!!!! What is that movie with Tom Hanks and it's about him and his wife losing their kids, and then he dies so his wife commits suicide which means him and his kids will go to heaven but his wife will go to hell. So he travels to the depths of hell tp find his wife and bring her to heaven... what is the name of it?

I saw this movie 2-3 yrs ago and it gave me so much insight about despair, hope, trust, and faith.

I thought that was Robin Williams in What Dreams May Come

If I would have waited a minute, I wouldn't have made a redundant post. lol!

I like being alone, no strings attached and less heartbreak. Easier that way.

I have feelings like this. I have yet to be in a relationship, and I don't see it happening soon honestly.

Personally, I have too many emotional issues I need to get through before inviting someone in my life. I'm a perfectionist in that way. For some reason, it's in my mind that I have to be darn near perfect to be with someone, or at-least my best version of myself. I'm still light years away from that, so yeah.

My younger friend does not treat me right, but even he's mentioned my confidence issues, and how it will all be a self fulfilling prophecy, I guess, if we don't work out. The other day he drilled me trying to get me to get to the bottom of things, and really, all it did was make me want to push him further away. I really need to work on myself, and can't do that unless I'm alone.

Posted by lnana04
Personally, I have too many emotional issues I need to get through before inviting someone in my life. I'm a perfectionist in that way. For some reason, it's in my mind that I have to be darn near perfect to be with someone, or at-least my best version of myself. I'm still light years away from that, so yeah.

+1

Posted by eight67530nine
It doesn't matter, we're all going to die from Ebola soon.

Leave it to Capinc to make us all feel better in our misery LOL.

yeah

Posted by lnana04
I have feelings like this. I have yet to be in a relationship, and I don't see it happening soon honestly.

Personally, I have too many emotional issues I need to get through before inviting someone in my life. I'm a perfectionist in that way. For some reason, it's in my mind that I have to be darn near perfect to be with someone, or at-least my best version of myself. I'm still light years away from that, so yeah.

My younger friend does not treat me right, but even he's mentioned my confidence issues, and how it will all be a self fulfilling prophecy, I guess, if we don't work out. The other day he drilled me trying to get me to get to the bottom of things, and really, all it did was make me want to push him further away. I really need to work on myself, and can't do that unless I'm alone.

aww. That's the most honest, real thing i've heard, and shows how vulnerable you are, but you are already steps ahead by acknowledging this in yourself. You're doing great, inana.... you'll get there.

nature never intended us to be monogamous. Society has demanded that.

We should just do a ritualistic mating dance, mate, and hop off till next season like certain animals do.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
When I was reading though this boring thread (I have an aries moon too 😛)....I somehow merged these two posts together and had to take a second look......and had a quite the giggle -

Posted by Yeli04

Posted by stillwat3r
It doesn't matter, we're all going to die from Ebola soon.

Thanks this really gives me hope!! And puts me on the positive front

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LOL