Capricorn woman a bit aloof

I met this Capricorn woman some time ago and she seemed really interesting (and interested). We exchanged emails and I mailed her later asking to meet (over something or the other). But she was not in town. When she got back, she contacted me and we met up. It was really nice. I am a Capricorn myself and felt very comfortable around her. I feel she enjoyed herself too.

Later, I called her up and the conversations were short but friendly enough. I have asked her out twice (for a movie and lunch) and she said she had plans on both weekends. She even informed me about her unavailability on the coming weekend without me asking her! But she said we can always go to a book launch or some similar event together. "We'll figure something out," she said.

Now, my problem is that I never know when to stop. I don't want to bother her. Should I take a hint and stop? Should I keep asking her out? Help appreciated.

I've always appreciated persistence, but within reason and without pressure. Keep it fun, flirty and at a relaxed pace.

Slow and steady wins the race. That calm, cool and controlled demeanor that I pick up from cap guys is a *very* attractive quality. Use that to your advantage.

Keep trying. Don't be pushy, make sure that you "invite" her rather than act needy.

I have to admit that I am not an expert in cappie females. The best I got is a "great friend" with a cap moon. What you are seeing is what I have been watching for some time now. Just enough to keep me hanging in there, but not so much as for me to make "assumptions." She is interested, but you have to prove you are worthy.

Bottom line, poor sap, I hope you got a world of patience....

Posted by Octoberfrost
Not a Cap, but I would suggest laying low for now, and let her seek you out. You've already made two efforts, and she turned you down both times. She even made a preemptive strike in case you were to ask her out the following week. The "We'll figure something out" bit was probably her attempt to be nice. She declined lunch and a movie, and instead, suggested something much more casual and impersonal (in my opinion). That's the kind of thing I do when I'm not really feeling the guy. It sounds to me like she's only interested in you as a friend, but again, I'm not a Cap, so take it for what it's worth.

I think you are right on the money and I agree 100% .

After being rebuffed twice, I wouldn't ask again.

Keep in contact with her. She did make an alternative suggestion, so you're not ruled out completely. Who knows, maybe she really was busy and had already made plans at that time. If they were last minute plans, then of course she probably already had something else going on. Also, some girls don't accept dates that are last minute. They expect you to plan ahead. Take some time before you invite her again. Meanwhile, while you're contacting her, make her laugh. We can't resist someone who makes us laugh.

🙂

And see if she contacts you first. That would tell you her interest level as well.

Thanks everyone for the responses. I figure I will hold off for now and wait to see if she initiates contact. The last thing I want is to come across as clingy. 🙂

Well she did mention a bit of her relationship history when we met and she said she was single. I will admit I do not know if she is seeing someone on the weekends. 🙂

At any rate... play it cool. Got it. Thanks!

Exactly. If I have no intentions of seeing someone, I sure wouldn't say "we'll figure something out" or I wouldn't suggest an alternate plan. If I say or suggest this, then that means I'm really trying to fit you in.

Some people really are busy, ya know.

Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by truecap
Keep in contact with her. She did make an alternative suggestion, so you're not ruled out completely. Who knows, maybe she really was busy and had already made plans at that time. If they were last minute plans, then of course she probably already had something else going on. Also, some girls don't accept dates that are last minute. They expect you to plan ahead. Take some time before you invite her again. Meanwhile, while you're contacting her, make her laugh. We can't resist someone who makes us laugh.

🙂

If I say, "We'll figure something out", I mean we'll figure something out. Not a blow off. Like TC said, she threw out an alternate suggestion and a book launch is no more or less impersonal than sitting alone together in the dark for 2hrs. I like Creepy's comment. It's where my head was at.

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Thanks CheekyFaerie. That does sound like a more Cappie thing. I wouldn't say something like that to someone I didn't want to meet either, leading them on.

I'm a cap and she's probably feeling a bit standoffish because you seem so interested. We like what we can't have so make yourself unavailable or start giving her short responses. Capricorns hate to be ignored so she'll contact you.

Ok. Here is the latest.

She called me on the weekend and asked if I wanted to meet. Her weekend plans had sort of collapsed. She tried to plan a day out and when we couldn't settle on anything, we decided to just meet up for lunch. Tt was nice!

I gave her something I had got for her, something I knew she would like, and she did like it a lot.

She bought earrings and asked me for advice. I suck at this but still gave advice. She bought the one I suggested.

So all good I guess. I should probably not be in a hurry though. 🙂

Ok SOS again. She seems to have gone cold. She is not being responsive on the internet and didn't pick up my last few calls either. Any guesses why? Is this normal? I have heard Cappie women go hot and cold. Is this that? Or could it be her way of sending me a message?

Caprixoen sun, virgo moon,
Hers is dapricorn sun. Libra moon,

Posted by nord
Ok SOS again. She seems to have gone cold. She is not being responsive on the internet and didn't pick up my last few calls either. Any guesses why? Is this normal? I have heard Cappie women go hot and cold. Is this that? Or could it be her way of sending me a message?

I would assume she wasn't interested and move on.