LMAO! Hell no.. I got my ass all the way in the "dog house" last time with my bitter ass text at 4 in the morning.. Learned my lesson.. & I'm glad he was forgiving.. BUT nah! hahah!
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Posted by youngaliI'm telling you.. OC.. SMH! LMAO!Posted by poison_ivy4am tho? — outta control. lmao!Posted by youngaliLMAO! Hell no.. I got my ass all the way in the "dog house" last time with my bitter ass text at 4 in the morning.. Learned my lesson.. & I'm glad he was forgiving.. BUT nah! hahah!Posted by poison_ivy— don't do it.Posted by youngaliLMAO! That's what I'm saying.. he's probably thinking the same with his aqua venus ass.. lol.. & me with my sag venus, I can get the same way.. ON TOP of me already being a freakin Scorpio smh.. I don't want the "petty" disputes for nothing.. LMAO! Cause I can def be a "petty Betty" If needed.. SMHPosted by poison_ivylol i definitely feel you on that. i know if i was to send something and get no response i start tripping. ?!Posted by youngaliI haven't been reaching out at all.. After our last "visit" about 2 weeks ago, we have had NoContact at all.. It's not like us.. But like I said, before my outburst post, we already had some high tension between the both of us.. & On every level.. Mentally, physically, sexually, emotionally.. I'm trying to avoid it at all cause...Posted by Rindaroothe stress is at an all time high right now. it's best to avoid any major interactions as it could easily lead to arguments due to them being on edge. i'd recommend giving them some space, but checking in by sending funny memes or something light hearted to make them laugh every now and then... even if they don't respond. but KEEP YOUR DISTANCE! avoid doing things to add to their stress. patience is key.Posted by youngaliAarghhh! I'm trying! He seems like he needs to know what's going on with me though. He has been acting weird for a month now like deciding whether to go forward, if I'm going to hurt him like his ex did, not wanting to let go of me.. and I have been the one not talking most of the relationship, more actions. But he needs to hear it? Don't Caps go off actions? Omg. And he's the one with the mixed signals!! Why I've been quiet. Ugh. I would love to just do the ostrich thing.Posted by poison_ivyfrom my observation, it seems like majority of the capricorn, taurus and libra males are going through it with this VR. i recommend that anyone in a relationship with any of these guys lay low.Posted by AerazoPosted by poison_ivyI take things very literal! lol when you said first date I was like what??!! seriously!! it takes ME more than that to date someone. Also, yes I'm stubborn, in my mind is not just If the guy wants to date me, I primarily have to see for myself if he's the guy I want. but yes I get your point.Posted by AerazoI'm 27, my cap is 32.Posted by poison_ivyPosted by WonderWoman14Right!! It took him NO time.. Even before our first date he would ALWAYS say, "You're mine.." Wasted NO time.. 😉Posted by poison_ivyI locked my cap down straight away ?, everything @youngali is saying about aqua Venus is spot on in my opinion, I can relate.Posted by @youngaliSo true..
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
My cap has Venus in Aqua and he made me his on our first date.. Never gotta guess with them..
Yup which is why it's been like this for 6 months.
How old are you?
only in high school I took relationships like that. you never know if he's tge one until you actually get to know the person. otherwise is just dating not a relationship.
He was taking things too fast at the beginning and I've been through a fast relationship that ended too quick too and we agreed on taking things slow and go with the flow.
Just because we werent official since day q doesn't mean what we have isn't real.
As an Aqua, being friends with my lover is a #1 rule, being able to be ourselves when we are together and that's something he says he loves about us.
Now, I do get what you say. Since day 1 we hang out together most of the time. if he goes with his friends he tells me to go and if I'm with my friends I do the same.
I get what you are saying. & I agree.. My relationships in the past went way to fast, were rushed and ended badly..
I think what myself and youngali and WonderWoman are trying to say is that with their aqua venus signs, they make it known right away that no one else can have you but them. Which is what my cap did. He's an aqua venus also.. He's still very slow paced.. not rushing.. But we are together right now. We have an obligation and commitment to each other but still getting to know each other as friends and eventually turn to lovers & friends.One day, hopefully, marriage..
IMO, I think you make it hard for your cap to know what you want sometimes. If my cap and I were just "dating".. or talking.. & he asked me if he should stop talking to the "new girl", I would say YES.. Because I want him and we already started something that I'd like to take further.. eventually.. I know you like this guy a lot.. & obviously he's not ready for a commitment, as he's told you, but there's nothing wrong w/ making it clear as to what you want for your future..
In the beginning, I would tell my cap that I really liked him.. Told him I was dating others and they wanted to take me out etc. but that I only had eyes for him.. He asked me if I wanted to go on dates with these guys and I told him that if he was dating others, I would go out but it wouldn't be fair to those other guys because I would be on those dates thinking about him.. He told me, honestly, that women give him attention but its easy to ignore them.. that we both got each others attention and it's clear as day.. We weren't in a relationship then, but we were both clear on what it is we wanted from each other.. & that was to eventually be together.. So often he would say I was his.. "You're mine mami?" & our first date, I officially became his. We're still building and my situation is quite different from yours being that I'm in a LDR.. but don't be afraid to put yourself "out there".. It's clear to others that he likes you as well.
Honestly, I don't think relationship have time limits.. but make it clear to him that although he doesn't want anything at the moment, you eventually do.
We will see what happens.
LOL! Yea I get you!
Nooo.. It takes me time too.. But we talked so much (Morning til Night) in the beginning.. being in a LDR, we had to talk often.. & our connection was real.. So by the first date I felt like I knew enough.. he asked for things to be committed and I said yes..
Yes girl don't be nervous.. Relationships are tough.. but at least you can say, "he know's exactly what I want and if he wants the same, the ball will be in his court.."
Honestly I been "laying low" during this retrograde bs.. I've been hearing about way too many issues between my friends and their S/O.. They obviously don't know what a VR is... but it's odd that things were so good now most of my friends are going through break up, arguing, issues.. etc. There are some high tensions between me and my cap at the moment and I don't wanna have one of my ":intense" moments. 🙂
best of luck boo! push through! ?
My "stress" is too much at the moment.. & I feel if I send something "cute" or "funny.. like a meme etc and I don't get a response.. I'd feel a certain way.. I know where we stand.. He wants me to move closer to him.. I'm not even thinking about moving at the moment with everything I've got going on at my end..
I just don't know what to do.
Sorry OP for us posting on your topic about our own issues..
But I really think you and your caps issues stem a little from the VR also.. Just my opinion tho. @Aerazo
and if i get to thinking too hard about it, i activate the "petty" and can take things too far by pressing the block button. (that fucking aqua venus i tell ya). ?? it's outta control.
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So yep.. During VR.. I'm silent..
Posted by AerazoPosted by lisabethur8There are idiots everywhere so is hard to find the nice guys. I'm naturally attracted to nerdy guys, and they are generally nice but since I've been separated I've only met one (Cap).Posted by AerazoPosted by Bubbles328lolPosted by lisabethur8For me I think it's an aqua thing we attract allot of signs even if we are not compatible we can still peak someone interest with our weirdness and energy.Posted by Bubbles328how is it all you girls on here date so many signs??
I don't attract that many to be honest, maybe cause i'm choosy in the past.
seriously?
"we" attract a lot of signs?
haha
i hope not.
i would rather attract the ones i am attracted to.
ya'll are funny. ^__^
Well i'm attracted to idiots and I get idiots I don't tend to notice the "nice guys" that like me they aren't even on my radar until they are gone and i'm left kicking myself. Also it's all good attracting them but I get bored too easy being tied up in a marriage pretending all is good and happy when it's not isn't for me and no relationship is perfect they all have their issues.
Of course, and is not that a relationship shouldn't have any issues, its how they handle these issues. and I understand you may just not be ready to date anyone yet.
Get divorced first, this is the first thing you should do, you need to feel completely free from this guy. you don't need his consent.
I'm not gonna ask you this but in some cases I know caps like to manipulate women with money, they all have their dark side. If you depend on Caps financially, that's their way to say that they control you.
the quote system is getting strange here...
anyway, i'm gonna be honest with you...
Earth and Water men.....they prefer to be the breadwinner, and the woman work at home and take care of children and family...but then I come from a family of that type.
I like it a lot and it soothes me, and makes me happy. but we have choices in our lives what we want
from what you sound like, tiki has been correct all along..
and youre not listening.
all you are doing is pointing mistakes and blames how manipulative and these guys try to keep these women under wraps by financial and homekeeping..
well if you don't want that. and it's not in your nature...
I would say bye bye.
you need a different family style than what you're saying.
because from your words you are calling them manipulative and it's a bad thing.
when from many women it's a wonderful thing.
this is called different strokes for different folks.
Yeah, but I'm not generalizing. I said specifically that I know a few who think that way because they do tell me that's how they see it and other Caps who are very laidback, it just depends on the person.
Which is why I said some caps. Yes. some women prefer that way and I'm not saying is wrong. This is where I say one thing and people take it differently. I was referring to Bubbles situation with her ex and how he is using the kids as well, this is not a Cap behavior, this is a Machista behavior regardless of his sign.
I like Caps bc we like both things, a family/ homekeeping and a joint venture.
I mean in the way they see me, not just as a wife but as a friend, a partner in life and crime. That's my ultimate relationship goal. 🙂 and he knows that of course.
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oh ok.
you want a partner in crime/life. cool then.
I specifically said to keep your emotions in check and everything would be smooth sailing. I had no doubt in my mind that this trip would have rolled over onto next level status had it been a pleasant experience. Instead, you decided to take a complete 180 and block him. Not only is it immature, but it is attention-seeking. A block isn’t necessary to enjoy your trip. You blocked him because you wanted him to know he was blocked, to feel it knowing in the back of your mind he’ll be hurt by it-it’s a manipulation tactic Earth signs are well are of and will not tolerate. You would have gotten farther and a more calm response had you been honest and direct with him about your feelings before the trip.
On the flip side, he has invested 6 months with you in whatever relationship it may be so there is hope he will not completely disappear. However, if given that opportunity, that means you are going to have to show a bit more vulnerability. He’s already put himself out there more than you’re willing to acknowledge.
On the flip side, he has invested 6 months with you in whatever relationship it may be so there is hope he will not completely disappear. However, if given that opportunity, that means you are going to have to show a bit more vulnerability. He’s already put himself out there more than you’re willing to acknowledge.
@Rindaroo
I get it! Both of you communicate in different ways and that does get confusing.. Me.. I'm like your cap.. I need to hear it.. But my cap is more action.. Find a way to compromise so that both parties get what they desire.. So if he wants you to speak up more.. do so.. & eventually your actions will make him follow your lead...
Honestly,
If your gut is telling you to be more expressive with him now... & he is implying that you say more.. I would.. if he gets "uncomfortable" then I would hold off..
I read :
Capricorn and Capricorn Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your fourth house of home and family. Relations with your family may be a little strained. You might want to wait until Venus is direct before you express your frustrations with family members! What you say now may be costly. Furthermore, if you take the time to think about things, your approach to dealing with these issues later is likely to be much more productive. The desire or need for warm relations with family members, or for support and a feeling of security, is especially strong but the path to satisfaction may be hard to find just now. This is a great time to think about how to improve your home, but not necessarily for going forward with projects. Venus-ruled areas of your chart are also affected–career, as well as relationships with lovers and children.
I also have cap placement.. (Cap rising) so it's also hard for me to express myself sometimes.. I get all nervous and shy.. and can't find my words... It's easier for me to express myself through text.. writing.. Then it is face to face.. but that is when my cap is more expressive.. he's not a phone person at all.. so there has to be a balance.
You 2 have to find a balance to make things work. Communication is key.
I get it! Both of you communicate in different ways and that does get confusing.. Me.. I'm like your cap.. I need to hear it.. But my cap is more action.. Find a way to compromise so that both parties get what they desire.. So if he wants you to speak up more.. do so.. & eventually your actions will make him follow your lead...
Honestly,
If your gut is telling you to be more expressive with him now... & he is implying that you say more.. I would.. if he gets "uncomfortable" then I would hold off..
I read :
Capricorn and Capricorn Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your fourth house of home and family. Relations with your family may be a little strained. You might want to wait until Venus is direct before you express your frustrations with family members! What you say now may be costly. Furthermore, if you take the time to think about things, your approach to dealing with these issues later is likely to be much more productive. The desire or need for warm relations with family members, or for support and a feeling of security, is especially strong but the path to satisfaction may be hard to find just now. This is a great time to think about how to improve your home, but not necessarily for going forward with projects. Venus-ruled areas of your chart are also affected–career, as well as relationships with lovers and children.
I also have cap placement.. (Cap rising) so it's also hard for me to express myself sometimes.. I get all nervous and shy.. and can't find my words... It's easier for me to express myself through text.. writing.. Then it is face to face.. but that is when my cap is more expressive.. he's not a phone person at all.. so there has to be a balance.
You 2 have to find a balance to make things work. Communication is key.
Posted by RindarooWow, my cap is a Pisces mars also.. BUT is also a Cap Sun, Aqua Venus, Taurus Moon.. But anyway, I can see what you mean about the Pisces moon.. Like that part of them needs to be "stroked" they need to hear it but very back and forth on plans.. They are very passive and prefer to let life "happen"..Scared to take the leap of faith and not willing to compromise because they are very sensitive.. BUT, on the upside they are VERY compassionate and full of love.. & they do like to show their emotions.. & try to understand emotions of others..Posted by poison_ivyYes agreed on the communication. He typically works through things verbally (well unless it's hard apparently). With the moving, asking if I'm happy, I'm happy to see him, something feels good etc, , stressing out about how much our Mexico trip cost.. me it's all inside & well I do way better writing too. It's like I think that way.
@Rindaroo
I get it! Both of you communicate in different ways and that does get confusing.. Me.. I'm like your cap.. I need to hear it.. But my cap is more action.. Find a way to compromise so that both parties get what they desire.. So if he wants you to speak up more.. do so.. & eventually your actions will make him follow your lead...
Honestly,
If your gut is telling you to be more expressive with him now... & he is implying that you say more.. I would.. if he gets "uncomfortable" then I would hold off..
I read :
Capricorn and Capricorn Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your fourth house of home and family. Relations with your family may be a little strained. You might want to wait until Venus is direct before you express your frustrations with family members! What you say now may be costly. Furthermore, if you take the time to think about things, your approach to dealing with these issues later is likely to be much more productive. The desire or need for warm relations with family members, or for support and a feeling of security, is especially strong but the path to satisfaction may be hard to find just now. This is a great time to think about how to improve your home, but not necessarily for going forward with projects. Venus-ruled areas of your chart are also affected–career, as well as relationships with lovers and children.
I also have cap placement.. (Cap rising) so it's also hard for me to express myself sometimes.. I get all nervous and shy.. and can't find my words... It's easier for me to express myself through text.. writing.. Then it is face to face.. but that is when my cap is more expressive.. he's not a phone person at all.. so there has to be a balance.
You 2 have to find a balance to make things work. Communication is key.
He is a Cap Sun, Virgo moon, Cap Venus, Pisces Mars. I wonder if the Pisces Mars has something to do with needing to hear it... and the back & forth making future plans, and then telling me what 'he' is doing not 'we'.
I'm a Sag Sun, Aqua moon, and holy cow on my Cap placements: Rising, Mercury, Venus & Mars!!!! This back & forth stuff makes me hesitant but at least not running away.
I think us both having Cap Venus causes issues too. We want the other to prove their love to us. ?
He also wants to go with the flow & hates planning! I want to plan at least my evening. I do think I need to tell him some things like why I've been so hesitant. And why I decided on the move differently than before. I thought I wanted to talk tonight so I send him a message asking if we are getting together tonight ( since tues/thurs are my free nights & he has off Tuesdays). And now he hasn't answered in 3 hours and I hate that!! Why do I even ask? Usually he's touching base after I'm off at 5 because he knows what his day looked like then. Ya know friends stop by & they go off for a motorcycle ride or other things. I know this but yet I want to push it & get back to my cuddly sweet Cap. Ugh I'm better off not doing that I think. Just go do my thing.. if he wants to see me fine, if not I'll be upset but I'll have had time to go to the gym lol. Ya know lay low lol.click to expand
Since you know that your Cap Venus wants the other to prove their love, couldn't you prove it to him first and he get use to it to the point where he's comfortable to let that part of him unfold? I know it's tough. But try to find a solution to that..
All caps may be that way.. My cap is very detailed and organized when it comes to work but when it comes to planning our time together, he wants to "go with the flow" be spontaneous.. and I hate that because in a LDR we can't just "go with the flow".. I have to know if we're staying at his place or driving back to mine, what time I should be there etc.. Not him tho .. & It's annoying lol. He's just like "meet me here.." O_O.. Babe, okay WHEN—? lol.. SO I get you. lol.
Try to be patient.. Maybe work for him is busier today.. That's why I say with my Stresses and emotions during this VR, I can't reach out right now because if I don't receive a response, I'd be in my feelings.. & now is not a good time for that..
Yes, Let him know you're still "there"... but lay low.. 😉
Posted by poison_ivySame But hiding from people haha I'm glad I had scheduled my vacay trip to help with it. 🙂Posted by youngaliLOL! SAME here! I was just telling @WonderWoman14 this.
i've also decided to lay low on social media for a bit...
I've been hiding out.. MIA on SM.click to expand
Brought down other issues too. You can't get away from the retrograde
Can I just ask something on this thread you guys seem to know caps well. What's this about them being dominate I read this earlier in the thread controlling finances etc?
Posted by poison_ivyWell you know what's going on with my cap and his family so I'm lying low but we are still in touch which is good but I'm just letting him deal with what he's got to. This VR has done me in from the start urghPosted by youngaliI agree.. He just seems so "out of it" ... Stressed out.. & I don't wanna add to it.. It seems like all earth sign men are going through.. Because 1 they aren't used to emotions and during this time is when emotions come up often.. They are trynna stay grounded, as usual, but are on an emotional roller-coaster..Posted by poison_ivyfrom my observation, it seems like majority of the capricorn, taurus and libra males are going through it with this VR. i recommend that anyone in a relationship with any of these guys lay low.Posted by AerazoPosted by poison_ivyI take things very literal! lol when you said first date I was like what??!! seriously!! it takes ME more than that to date someone. Also, yes I'm stubborn, in my mind is not just If the guy wants to date me, I primarily have to see for myself if he's the guy I want. but yes I get your point.Posted by AerazoI'm 27, my cap is 32.Posted by poison_ivyPosted by WonderWoman14Right!! It took him NO time.. Even before our first date he would ALWAYS say, "You're mine.." Wasted NO time.. 😉Posted by poison_ivyI locked my cap down straight away ?, everything @youngali is saying about aqua Venus is spot on in my opinion, I can relate.Posted by @youngaliSo true..
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
My cap has Venus in Aqua and he made me his on our first date.. Never gotta guess with them..
Yup which is why it's been like this for 6 months.
How old are you?
only in high school I took relationships like that. you never know if he's tge one until you actually get to know the person. otherwise is just dating not a relationship.
He was taking things too fast at the beginning and I've been through a fast relationship that ended too quick too and we agreed on taking things slow and go with the flow.
Just because we werent official since day q doesn't mean what we have isn't real.
As an Aqua, being friends with my lover is a #1 rule, being able to be ourselves when we are together and that's something he says he loves about us.
Now, I do get what you say. Since day 1 we hang out together most of the time. if he goes with his friends he tells me to go and if I'm with my friends I do the same.
I get what you are saying. & I agree.. My relationships in the past went way to fast, were rushed and ended badly..
I think what myself and youngali and WonderWoman are trying to say is that with their aqua venus signs, they make it known right away that no one else can have you but them. Which is what my cap did. He's an aqua venus also.. He's still very slow paced.. not rushing.. But we are together right now. We have an obligation and commitment to each other but still getting to know each other as friends and eventually turn to lovers & friends.One day, hopefully, marriage..
IMO, I think you make it hard for your cap to know what you want sometimes. If my cap and I were just "dating".. or talking.. & he asked me if he should stop talking to the "new girl", I would say YES.. Because I want him and we already started something that I'd like to take further.. eventually.. I know you like this guy a lot.. & obviously he's not ready for a commitment, as he's told you, but there's nothing wrong w/ making it clear as to what you want for your future..
In the beginning, I would tell my cap that I really liked him.. Told him I was dating others and they wanted to take me out etc. but that I only had eyes for him.. He asked me if I wanted to go on dates with these guys and I told him that if he was dating others, I would go out but it wouldn't be fair to those other guys because I would be on those dates thinking about him.. He told me, honestly, that women give him attention but its easy to ignore them.. that we both got each others attention and it's clear as day.. We weren't in a relationship then, but we were both clear on what it is we wanted from each other.. & that was to eventually be together.. So often he would say I was his.. "You're mine mami?" & our first date, I officially became his. We're still building and my situation is quite different from yours being that I'm in a LDR.. but don't be afraid to put yourself "out there".. It's clear to others that he likes you as well.
Honestly, I don't think relationship have time limits.. but make it clear to him that although he doesn't want anything at the moment, you eventually do.
We will see what happens.
LOL! Yea I get you!
Nooo.. It takes me time too.. But we talked so much (Morning til Night) in the beginning.. being in a LDR, we had to talk often.. & our connection was real.. So by the first date I felt like I knew enough.. he asked for things to be committed and I said yes..
Yes girl don't be nervous.. Relationships are tough.. but at least you can say, "he know's exactly what I want and if he wants the same, the ball will be in his court.."
Honestly I been "laying low" during this retrograde bs.. I've been hearing about way too many issues between my friends and their S/O.. They obviously don't know what a VR is... but it's odd that things were so good now most of my friends are going through break up, arguing, issues.. etc. There are some high tensions between me and my cap at the moment and I don't wanna have one of my ":intense" moments. 🙂
I read about my cap during the retrograde.. Emotions with family and relationships arise and its a time for them to consider or even reconsider some fine details.. Scares the shit outta me.. lol. Me being an intense Scorpio, I've been an emotional wreck too.. SMH. I have to look it up and post it.. It may help some.click to expand
Posted by poison_ivyYes I deactivated my FB and InstagramPosted by youngaliLOL! SAME here! I was just telling @WonderWoman14 this.
i've also decided to lay low on social media for a bit...
I've been hiding out.. MIA on SM.click to expand
Posted by poison_ivyI don't mind if you post about your issues, that's what we are here forPosted by youngaliI haven't been reaching out at all.. After our last "visit" about 2 weeks ago, we have had NoContact at all.. It's not like us.. But like I said, before my outburst post, we already had some high tension between the both of us.. & On every level.. Mentally, physically, sexually, emotionally.. I'm trying to avoid it at all cause...Posted by Rindaroothe stress is at an all time high right now. it's best to avoid any major interactions as it could easily lead to arguments due to them being on edge. i'd recommend giving them some space, but checking in by sending funny memes or something light hearted to make them laugh every now and then... even if they don't respond. but KEEP YOUR DISTANCE! avoid doing things to add to their stress. patience is key.Posted by youngaliAarghhh! I'm trying! He seems like he needs to know what's going on with me though. He has been acting weird for a month now like deciding whether to go forward, if I'm going to hurt him like his ex did, not wanting to let go of me.. and I have been the one not talking most of the relationship, more actions. But he needs to hear it? Don't Caps go off actions? Omg. And he's the one with the mixed signals!! Why I've been quiet. Ugh. I would love to just do the ostrich thing.Posted by poison_ivyfrom my observation, it seems like majority of the capricorn, taurus and libra males are going through it with this VR. i recommend that anyone in a relationship with any of these guys lay low.Posted by AerazoPosted by poison_ivyI take things very literal! lol when you said first date I was like what??!! seriously!! it takes ME more than that to date someone. Also, yes I'm stubborn, in my mind is not just If the guy wants to date me, I primarily have to see for myself if he's the guy I want. but yes I get your point.Posted by AerazoI'm 27, my cap is 32.Posted by poison_ivyPosted by WonderWoman14Right!! It took him NO time.. Even before our first date he would ALWAYS say, "You're mine.." Wasted NO time.. 😉Posted by poison_ivyI locked my cap down straight away ?, everything @youngali is saying about aqua Venus is spot on in my opinion, I can relate.Posted by @youngaliSo true..
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
My cap has Venus in Aqua and he made me his on our first date.. Never gotta guess with them..
Yup which is why it's been like this for 6 months.
How old are you?
only in high school I took relationships like that. you never know if he's tge one until you actually get to know the person. otherwise is just dating not a relationship.
He was taking things too fast at the beginning and I've been through a fast relationship that ended too quick too and we agreed on taking things slow and go with the flow.
Just because we werent official since day q doesn't mean what we have isn't real.
As an Aqua, being friends with my lover is a #1 rule, being able to be ourselves when we are together and that's something he says he loves about us.
Now, I do get what you say. Since day 1 we hang out together most of the time. if he goes with his friends he tells me to go and if I'm with my friends I do the same.
I get what you are saying. & I agree.. My relationships in the past went way to fast, were rushed and ended badly..
I think what myself and youngali and WonderWoman are trying to say is that with their aqua venus signs, they make it known right away that no one else can have you but them. Which is what my cap did. He's an aqua venus also.. He's still very slow paced.. not rushing.. But we are together right now. We have an obligation and commitment to each other but still getting to know each other as friends and eventually turn to lovers & friends.One day, hopefully, marriage..
IMO, I think you make it hard for your cap to know what you want sometimes. If my cap and I were just "dating".. or talking.. & he asked me if he should stop talking to the "new girl", I would say YES.. Because I want him and we already started something that I'd like to take further.. eventually.. I know you like this guy a lot.. & obviously he's not ready for a commitment, as he's told you, but there's nothing wrong w/ making it clear as to what you want for your future..
In the beginning, I would tell my cap that I really liked him.. Told him I was dating others and they wanted to take me out etc. but that I only had eyes for him.. He asked me if I wanted to go on dates with these guys and I told him that if he was dating others, I would go out but it wouldn't be fair to those other guys because I would be on those dates thinking about him.. He told me, honestly, that women give him attention but its easy to ignore them.. that we both got each others attention and it's clear as day.. We weren't in a relationship then, but we were both clear on what it is we wanted from each other.. & that was to eventually be together.. So often he would say I was his.. "You're mine mami?" & our first date, I officially became his. We're still building and my situation is quite different from yours being that I'm in a LDR.. but don't be afraid to put yourself "out there".. It's clear to others that he likes you as well.
Honestly, I don't think relationship have time limits.. but make it clear to him that although he doesn't want anything at the moment, you eventually do.
We will see what happens.
LOL! Yea I get you!
Nooo.. It takes me time too.. But we talked so much (Morning til Night) in the beginning.. being in a LDR, we had to talk often.. & our connection was real.. So by the first date I felt like I knew enough.. he asked for things to be committed and I said yes..
Yes girl don't be nervous.. Relationships are tough.. but at least you can say, "he know's exactly what I want and if he wants the same, the ball will be in his court.."
Honestly I been "laying low" during this retrograde bs.. I've been hearing about way too many issues between my friends and their S/O.. They obviously don't know what a VR is... but it's odd that things were so good now most of my friends are going through break up, arguing, issues.. etc. There are some high tensions between me and my cap at the moment and I don't wanna have one of my ":intense" moments. 🙂
best of luck boo! push through! ?
My "stress" is too much at the moment.. & I feel if I send something "cute" or "funny.. like a meme etc and I don't get a response.. I'd feel a certain way.. I know where we stand.. He wants me to move closer to him.. I'm not even thinking about moving at the moment with everything I've got going on at my end..
I just don't know what to do.
Sorry OP for us posting on your topic about our own issues..
But I really think you and your caps issues stem a little from the VR also.. Just my opinion tho. @Aerazoclick to expand
Hopefully is just that..
Posted by VirgoreanYes, I remember! is hard to keep emotions controlled sometimes. 😢
I specifically said to keep your emotions in check and everything would be smooth sailing. I had no doubt in my mind that this trip would have rolled over onto next level status had it been a pleasant experience. Instead, you decided to take a complete 180 and block him. Not only is it immature, but it is attention-seeking. A block isn’t necessary to enjoy your trip. You blocked him because you wanted him to know he was blocked, to feel it knowing in the back of your mind he’ll be hurt by it-it’s a manipulation tactic Earth signs are well are of and will not tolerate. You would have gotten farther and a more calm response had you been honest and direct with him about your feelings before the trip.
On the flip side, he has invested 6 months with you in whatever relationship it may be so there is hope he will not completely disappear. However, if given that opportunity, that means you are going to have to show a bit more vulnerability. He’s already put himself out there more than you’re willing to acknowledge.
Posted by AerazoOkay cool! ?Posted by poison_ivyI don't mind if you post about your issues, that's what we are here forPosted by youngaliI haven't been reaching out at all.. After our last "visit" about 2 weeks ago, we have had NoContact at all.. It's not like us.. But like I said, before my outburst post, we already had some high tension between the both of us.. & On every level.. Mentally, physically, sexually, emotionally.. I'm trying to avoid it at all cause...Posted by Rindaroothe stress is at an all time high right now. it's best to avoid any major interactions as it could easily lead to arguments due to them being on edge. i'd recommend giving them some space, but checking in by sending funny memes or something light hearted to make them laugh every now and then... even if they don't respond. but KEEP YOUR DISTANCE! avoid doing things to add to their stress. patience is key.Posted by youngaliAarghhh! I'm trying! He seems like he needs to know what's going on with me though. He has been acting weird for a month now like deciding whether to go forward, if I'm going to hurt him like his ex did, not wanting to let go of me.. and I have been the one not talking most of the relationship, more actions. But he needs to hear it? Don't Caps go off actions? Omg. And he's the one with the mixed signals!! Why I've been quiet. Ugh. I would love to just do the ostrich thing.Posted by poison_ivyfrom my observation, it seems like majority of the capricorn, taurus and libra males are going through it with this VR. i recommend that anyone in a relationship with any of these guys lay low.Posted by AerazoPosted by poison_ivyI take things very literal! lol when you said first date I was like what??!! seriously!! it takes ME more than that to date someone. Also, yes I'm stubborn, in my mind is not just If the guy wants to date me, I primarily have to see for myself if he's the guy I want. but yes I get your point.Posted by AerazoI'm 27, my cap is 32.Posted by poison_ivyPosted by WonderWoman14Right!! It took him NO time.. Even before our first date he would ALWAYS say, "You're mine.." Wasted NO time.. 😉Posted by poison_ivyI locked my cap down straight away ?, everything @youngali is saying about aqua Venus is spot on in my opinion, I can relate.Posted by @youngaliSo true..
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
My cap has Venus in Aqua and he made me his on our first date.. Never gotta guess with them..
Yup which is why it's been like this for 6 months.
How old are you?
only in high school I took relationships like that. you never know if he's tge one until you actually get to know the person. otherwise is just dating not a relationship.
He was taking things too fast at the beginning and I've been through a fast relationship that ended too quick too and we agreed on taking things slow and go with the flow.
Just because we werent official since day q doesn't mean what we have isn't real.
As an Aqua, being friends with my lover is a #1 rule, being able to be ourselves when we are together and that's something he says he loves about us.
Now, I do get what you say. Since day 1 we hang out together most of the time. if he goes with his friends he tells me to go and if I'm with my friends I do the same.
I get what you are saying. & I agree.. My relationships in the past went way to fast, were rushed and ended badly..
I think what myself and youngali and WonderWoman are trying to say is that with their aqua venus signs, they make it known right away that no one else can have you but them. Which is what my cap did. He's an aqua venus also.. He's still very slow paced.. not rushing.. But we are together right now. We have an obligation and commitment to each other but still getting to know each other as friends and eventually turn to lovers & friends.One day, hopefully, marriage..
IMO, I think you make it hard for your cap to know what you want sometimes. If my cap and I were just "dating".. or talking.. & he asked me if he should stop talking to the "new girl", I would say YES.. Because I want him and we already started something that I'd like to take further.. eventually.. I know you like this guy a lot.. & obviously he's not ready for a commitment, as he's told you, but there's nothing wrong w/ making it clear as to what you want for your future..
In the beginning, I would tell my cap that I really liked him.. Told him I was dating others and they wanted to take me out etc. but that I only had eyes for him.. He asked me if I wanted to go on dates with these guys and I told him that if he was dating others, I would go out but it wouldn't be fair to those other guys because I would be on those dates thinking about him.. He told me, honestly, that women give him attention but its easy to ignore them.. that we both got each others attention and it's clear as day.. We weren't in a relationship then, but we were both clear on what it is we wanted from each other.. & that was to eventually be together.. So often he would say I was his.. "You're mine mami?" & our first date, I officially became his. We're still building and my situation is quite different from yours being that I'm in a LDR.. but don't be afraid to put yourself "out there".. It's clear to others that he likes you as well.
Honestly, I don't think relationship have time limits.. but make it clear to him that although he doesn't want anything at the moment, you eventually do.
We will see what happens.
LOL! Yea I get you!
Nooo.. It takes me time too.. But we talked so much (Morning til Night) in the beginning.. being in a LDR, we had to talk often.. & our connection was real.. So by the first date I felt like I knew enough.. he asked for things to be committed and I said yes..
Yes girl don't be nervous.. Relationships are tough.. but at least you can say, "he know's exactly what I want and if he wants the same, the ball will be in his court.."
Honestly I been "laying low" during this retrograde bs.. I've been hearing about way too many issues between my friends and their S/O.. They obviously don't know what a VR is... but it's odd that things were so good now most of my friends are going through break up, arguing, issues.. etc. There are some high tensions between me and my cap at the moment and I don't wanna have one of my ":intense" moments. 🙂
best of luck boo! push through! ?
My "stress" is too much at the moment.. & I feel if I send something "cute" or "funny.. like a meme etc and I don't get a response.. I'd feel a certain way.. I know where we stand.. He wants me to move closer to him.. I'm not even thinking about moving at the moment with everything I've got going on at my end..
I just don't know what to do.
Sorry OP for us posting on your topic about our own issues..
But I really think you and your caps issues stem a little from the VR also.. Just my opinion tho. @Aerazo
Hopefully is just that..click to expand
Yes hopefully!!!
Posted by poison_ivyI told him that i initially went to talk to him about the trip and what was on my mind, and if he wanted we could still have that conversation. He said: there's nothing to talk about, you know how I feel about you. Let's be friends just how we were. I simply said okay ?Posted by AerazoOkay cool! ?Posted by poison_ivyI don't mind if you post about your issues, that's what we are here forPosted by youngaliI haven't been reaching out at all.. After our last "visit" about 2 weeks ago, we have had NoContact at all.. It's not like us.. But like I said, before my outburst post, we already had some high tension between the both of us.. & On every level.. Mentally, physically, sexually, emotionally.. I'm trying to avoid it at all cause...Posted by Rindaroothe stress is at an all time high right now. it's best to avoid any major interactions as it could easily lead to arguments due to them being on edge. i'd recommend giving them some space, but checking in by sending funny memes or something light hearted to make them laugh every now and then... even if they don't respond. but KEEP YOUR DISTANCE! avoid doing things to add to their stress. patience is key.Posted by youngaliAarghhh! I'm trying! He seems like he needs to know what's going on with me though. He has been acting weird for a month now like deciding whether to go forward, if I'm going to hurt him like his ex did, not wanting to let go of me.. and I have been the one not talking most of the relationship, more actions. But he needs to hear it? Don't Caps go off actions? Omg. And he's the one with the mixed signals!! Why I've been quiet. Ugh. I would love to just do the ostrich thing.Posted by poison_ivyfrom my observation, it seems like majority of the capricorn, taurus and libra males are going through it with this VR. i recommend that anyone in a relationship with any of these guys lay low.Posted by AerazoPosted by poison_ivyI take things very literal! lol when you said first date I was like what??!! seriously!! it takes ME more than that to date someone. Also, yes I'm stubborn, in my mind is not just If the guy wants to date me, I primarily have to see for myself if he's the guy I want. but yes I get your point.Posted by AerazoI'm 27, my cap is 32.Posted by poison_ivyPosted by WonderWoman14Right!! It took him NO time.. Even before our first date he would ALWAYS say, "You're mine.." Wasted NO time.. 😉Posted by poison_ivyI locked my cap down straight away ?, everything @youngali is saying about aqua Venus is spot on in my opinion, I can relate.Posted by @youngaliSo true..
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
My cap has Venus in Aqua and he made me his on our first date.. Never gotta guess with them..
Yup which is why it's been like this for 6 months.
How old are you?
only in high school I took relationships like that. you never know if he's tge one until you actually get to know the person. otherwise is just dating not a relationship.
He was taking things too fast at the beginning and I've been through a fast relationship that ended too quick too and we agreed on taking things slow and go with the flow.
Just because we werent official since day q doesn't mean what we have isn't real.
As an Aqua, being friends with my lover is a #1 rule, being able to be ourselves when we are together and that's something he says he loves about us.
Now, I do get what you say. Since day 1 we hang out together most of the time. if he goes with his friends he tells me to go and if I'm with my friends I do the same.
I get what you are saying. & I agree.. My relationships in the past went way to fast, were rushed and ended badly..
I think what myself and youngali and WonderWoman are trying to say is that with their aqua venus signs, they make it known right away that no one else can have you but them. Which is what my cap did. He's an aqua venus also.. He's still very slow paced.. not rushing.. But we are together right now. We have an obligation and commitment to each other but still getting to know each other as friends and eventually turn to lovers & friends.One day, hopefully, marriage..
IMO, I think you make it hard for your cap to know what you want sometimes. If my cap and I were just "dating".. or talking.. & he asked me if he should stop talking to the "new girl", I would say YES.. Because I want him and we already started something that I'd like to take further.. eventually.. I know you like this guy a lot.. & obviously he's not ready for a commitment, as he's told you, but there's nothing wrong w/ making it clear as to what you want for your future..
In the beginning, I would tell my cap that I really liked him.. Told him I was dating others and they wanted to take me out etc. but that I only had eyes for him.. He asked me if I wanted to go on dates with these guys and I told him that if he was dating others, I would go out but it wouldn't be fair to those other guys because I would be on those dates thinking about him.. He told me, honestly, that women give him attention but its easy to ignore them.. that we both got each others attention and it's clear as day.. We weren't in a relationship then, but we were both clear on what it is we wanted from each other.. & that was to eventually be together.. So often he would say I was his.. "You're mine mami?" & our first date, I officially became his. We're still building and my situation is quite different from yours being that I'm in a LDR.. but don't be afraid to put yourself "out there".. It's clear to others that he likes you as well.
Honestly, I don't think relationship have time limits.. but make it clear to him that although he doesn't want anything at the moment, you eventually do.
We will see what happens.
LOL! Yea I get you!
Nooo.. It takes me time too.. But we talked so much (Morning til Night) in the beginning.. being in a LDR, we had to talk often.. & our connection was real.. So by the first date I felt like I knew enough.. he asked for things to be committed and I said yes..
Yes girl don't be nervous.. Relationships are tough.. but at least you can say, "he know's exactly what I want and if he wants the same, the ball will be in his court.."
Honestly I been "laying low" during this retrograde bs.. I've been hearing about way too many issues between my friends and their S/O.. They obviously don't know what a VR is... but it's odd that things were so good now most of my friends are going through break up, arguing, issues.. etc. There are some high tensions between me and my cap at the moment and I don't wanna have one of my ":intense" moments. 🙂
best of luck boo! push through! ?
My "stress" is too much at the moment.. & I feel if I send something "cute" or "funny.. like a meme etc and I don't get a response.. I'd feel a certain way.. I know where we stand.. He wants me to move closer to him.. I'm not even thinking about moving at the moment with everything I've got going on at my end..
I just don't know what to do.
Sorry OP for us posting on your topic about our own issues..
But I really think you and your caps issues stem a little from the VR also.. Just my opinion tho. @Aerazo
Hopefully is just that..
Yes hopefully!!!click to expand
I'll see how this plays out in the next few weeks.
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