Cap girl Insecurities?

My scorpio ex had an affair with a younger Capricorn female (Moon in Libra , Asc in Cap)

I started getting weird texts from my ex. I told him hes gonna deserve what he gets in the ex and he can keep her
because she'll never amount to me and all i've done.

months later my ex comes to me with a message from her to "leave her alone" (I hadnt contacted her or anything as I had
moved on and started my life over without him) then he tells me to change my password because she somehow got access to my
email from HIS account as he decided to be sneaky and break into my first account in which i made a new one and thought
i had left them behind.

I ignored him and wrote her a LONG letter and sent it to myself. telling her how she should get him in check cuz i dont know what lies he's telling her but he's not planning on divorcing me and how she was either delusional or plain dumb since she should see that i have no interest in him or her from my messages. and a bunch of other things. (none of which was a lie he kept telling me he wanted to work things out which i dont believe but he's being difficult and making it harder to file for divorce as he has a bunch of my documents he claims he doesnt have anymore) i saw it clicked in my inbox seconds later.
and the next day, the message was deleted from both my inbox and my sent messages.

they kept annoying me so finally i sent him a text in which she (me thinking it was him) kept telling me to not text so late at night. (which was weird as everyone texted him late. and i was texting him about his kids!) it angered me.
finally i figured she'd be with him so i sent him a msg saying "to answer ur question, yes i am still all urs"
just so she could see it and go nuts. well she got it instead. and wrote me a long msg pretending to be him.

he found out and he sent her away. so far hasnt spoken to her in the last week and a half. and he's been tehre more for his kids since she's been gone. and has been more responsable at responding when it comes to his kids or updating if he cant make it.

before that she apparently insisted he go back and work things out (yet she was still in the pic, i figured of course shes going to pretend to be teh good one but if it were real, she would have said it, stepped back and gone away if thats what she truly wanted. because if she has said leave them and stay with me. he would have obviously done the opposite. but my ex being as smart as he is... didnt see that)

I was with my ex since i was 16, so we had a lot of history.
at first she was convinced she was sweet and innocent. but she's much darker than he sees. ive always been good at seeing past masks.

anyways. my question is. she's had him for about a year. i have made no attempts in the last 8 months to try to get him back or anything. so why is she continuing to try to dig through my email and send me messages when i havent even bothered to really speak with him except on rare occassions when the kids have a parent teacher conference or they need something?

he said the last thing he wanted was someone controlling jealous and possessive (though which is exactly what it seems she is unless he doesnt see it)

My moon is also in Libra but im all about Justice and fairness and peace. my asc is in taurus. (I had told him he wants her to keep her but he's not keeping us both as im leaving)
she pretended to be nice to my kids, but i told him if she wanted kids to pop out her own cuz she's not touching mine. so i said if she's gonna be around he's going no where near my kids. and thats the way it stayed. he could only see them without her. my youngest hated her. the kids knew exactly what went on and didnt like her.

it takes a lot to really push me to do something nasty. but with her it seems thats all she is. just wondering how the cap mind thinks. i know he was convinced she was a virgin. (I have many cap friends and most have pretended to be virgins as well they said they thought it was funny when the guys were shocked how they good they were at it for their "first time")
and my mom she's also a cap and i've seen the games she's played with men. she laughs when i mentioned it and didnt deny it. she just shrugged and went off giggling! though are all caps focused on finances? i know my mom and my gf's are. Im not at all. my ex brought this girl to the house and we had a really nice house so im not surprised if she looked at everything and saw $ signs instead of hearts floating around her head.

well she is about 6 years younger than me. I did try to help her at one point but my ex thought i was going to do something bad to her when really i just wanted to give her some advice. which i know none of my girlfriends would have ever done.
but as a parent. if that were my child who was doing it, id want someone to give her advice. as my ex had no right to go and do what he did either as i even tried telling him she was a baby and she has no idea what she wants in life. though he kept coming to me with their issues and in the end i just said i dont want to hear it. so i wouldnt be surprised if he went to her with whatever things he had with me. (bad thing about him is he tells one sided stories he'll change it leave things out put other things in ... he did this one at a social gathering ... with me BESIDE him ... about a story of how difficult i was. in the end most of the story didnt even happen. i usually interrupt with that part didnt happen but that one time i wanted to see what his head came up with) of course he never told anyone what he had done first to make me react in that way.
though now ive learned to respond instead of react =] yay me!

Wth? I'm not really following the story. Either way, he's the one you should be dealing with. Really, all of this is between you and him, and if you think she should be handled in any way, then he should be the one telling her to back off. If anything, this ALL sounds like his doing. This girl can be minding her business for all you know. It seems he's going to you with what she's saying etc. but if you are not seeing her do any of this with your own eyes, then you probably shouldn't go by what he is saying.

Also, is your ex a multi-millionaire? If not, then I highly doubt she's stunting his money. Capricorns rarely waste time, so if we are going to waste time and "use" someone for their money or what they have, then they better have a lot of it. She probably don't want his heart, but I doubt she wants his chump change either. It really isn't that simple with Capricorns when it comes to generalizations about us and using people.

I know for a fact she's not minding her own. (plus my MIL would also get news in which she'd inform me on) that much I know for sure. I know the way he writes. Plus his friends still talk to me and fill me in. not that i ever ask but for some reason they always do. i tend to have eyes and ears everywhere. for some reason peolpe even if i dont talk to them much or havent in years, stay loyal to me (possibly because of the way i treat them and are there when they need me) - Besides the few interactions i did have with her at first. she is the type to do something. not to mention my brother had an affair on his ex with a cap Just like this one - my gut is rarely wrong. the only thing is i use to doubt myself and think it was nothing.
but i was right. and this girl. she was malicious. he ended up trying to pass up a child that was not my brothers as his. she took off on her child. eventually he took the child in. she came back after 2 months instead of saying "how's my son?" she called him with "Where's my money?" (what money? child support ... she wanted money for the child who was in HIS custody that SHE was not taking care of) My girlfriend tried hooking me up with her aries friend telling me "you should date him, he has lots of money!" i told her i didnt care i wasnt into him. she kept insisting. My mom? advice she gave me as a teen "why dont you date someone who has lots of money instead?" O_O ... mmm dont waste time? not in it for money? im sorry but these are just a FEW of the MANY stories like this that all revolve around capricorn women. the thing is they try to do it underhandedly. and if someone gets in their way. they get nasty.

But by the looks of it - someone like her it did seem like he had lots of money. though her mistake.
thinking it was all his. it was mine. so i had mentioned if she had wanted the $ she should have had affair with me instead. =] - my brother (taurus) didnt have a whole lot (at the time) yet he saw how well he treated his cancer ex and she wanted it. and even now she seems tot ry to get him to pay for her other 5 kids that arent his cuz the other men she choose who seemed to "have money" wont do it for their own kids.

capricorn men on the other hand. i have noticed they do treat their women like queens (usually get used and screwed over unfortunately) for me ive always been uncomfortable with peolpe doing things for me. i prefer to stand on my own two feet.

and if it matters, my ex and i did have a lot

of friends who do fall into the "multi millionair" catagory. took her out to meet some of these people saw the life style our friends had and saw we were on the same path. so yeah i wouldnt be surprised.
of course that path got delayed as when we parted the businesses we had together, broke down. as i refuse to continue with him on board. so now rebuilding. he was motivated with me. with her he seems to have lots it all. no more goals. no motivation. guess "behind every great man is a great woman who stood behind him" seeing as he no longer has that drive... well i can see how great she truly is.

yes i agree you may not ALL do it. but from the Many that i've come across or stories ive heard. there does seem to be a patter of digging. tauruses do, do it somewhat. but they tend to have their limits. they're more give and take not just take.

I found something as i did get curious:

" Here is a little warning: Be aware of the Capricorn Gold Digger. It is a minority, however they are the exception. Few Capricorn's who are unable to achieve their material needs on their own might suppress their true emotions and marry for the money."

Found this on some site (I have seen many sites that do mention women tend to go for guys when they see material or monetary gain) so apparently its a minority ... but boy have i found plenty. maybe the minority has all been shipped off to my area! lol

What is this really all about? Do you still want your ex back? This has spiraled into something other than what you intended, Im sure. By the looks of it, this thread should be titled "Virgo Girl Insecurities." I'm not saying she's not insecure, or crazy, or money-hungry, but truth is, I'm just not about to sit up and believe a bunch of stuff I didn't witness. What I am witnessing, however, is that it seem you have or are trying to convince yourself that you are the better woman, the better person, and that you are above it all, when really, you seem very bothered by her and the situation in general, as you should be. Make that clear to yourself first, then try to deal with it from there. The focus on this Capricorn girl, which has turned into a focus on Capricorn women to prove your point about her, shows that you feel threatened in more ways that you would like to admit. What if she's not malicious, or just in it for his money, or this person you've somewhat created her to be? Then what? If she's this evil person, that's for him to see and for you not to be so bothered by, right?

Your issue, more than anything, should be with yourself and him. It sounds like you have unfinished business. Really, I could understand your ties to him, especially with your history, but it shouldn't be that hard at all to completely X her out of the equation, yet she is the main focus when she really is not the root of the problem. You still hear about him and her through the grapevine because you want to, nothing more or less. Figure out what you want from him.

im sorry you feel so defensive Inana .. did i trigger possibly a quality that you yourself have as well? =]

the only cap men i have noticed that dig are the ones who go for the "older women" due to being more stable in their careers.
(so they of course get get them stuff)

Nope. don't want him back at all. Being the person I am, I have no issue getting bigger and better. one quality most like about me, is that i dont expect a lot from them.(in a demanding, high strung snobbish way) i can handle my own. and in doing so. it makes them want to give me more. (which always makes me feel strange - as for me it feels as if it takes away my independance. so ill only accept on a few occassions IF it's reasonable)
(when usually they wouldnt when they'd notice the digging type). Funny thing is for some reason (we've broken up twice once was years back when we first started) I was with someone else, and the girl he had been dating then kept contacting me trying to cause issues (as me and him were still friends) she'd make up all sorts of things to try to make him break ties with me.
I told him to take her and go away. (this girl was a former friend of mine and i know how she worked)

I only know of one other girl who gets harrassed by his current gf's and that's his ex (two ex's before me) who in many ways we are very similar. we let things go and try to be nice to the others but always end up being accused of wanting him back or this or that. her and i are now friends which is awesome (Bonus of a trade in!)we both agreed he was better off without him.
she's doing much better now and so am i.

the only thing is. whoever he's with always resurfaces as soon as we get some peace and quiet. so considering she's digging through my emails when there is nothing in there that involves him. yet telling me to leave her alone when she's the one snooping? she obviously wants to know something and trying to get answers yet pretending as im the one after her.
instead of just coming out and asking. o.O

CAPRICORN ARE THE "DEVILS ADVOCATE", THIS IS HOW MOST OF THE OTHER PEOPLE DESCRIBED THEM....BASED TO MY EXPERIENCES FROM THE PEOPLE AROUND ME, THEY HATED THE PERSON WHO IS A GOLD DIGGER AND A SCAM, CORRUPT AND TAKING ADVANTAGE TO THE INNOCENT PEOPLE...NOW I FOUND OUT THAT THESE PEOPLE HATED ARE CAPRICORN.....I HAD A BAD BAD EXPERIENCED WITH 3 CAPRICORN.MY STEP MOM, MY STEP SISTER AND MY EX BF.....NO MORE CAPRICORN IN MY LIFE, HELP ME GOD!!

@ VIRGOLAYDEE; IF YOUR EX WILL MARRY THAT WOMAN, YOU BETTER WATCH OUT OF YOUR KIDS; TRUST YOUR INSTINCT IF U DONT FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH THIS WOMAN BEING WITH YOUR KIDS....

I have to say something.... Lol!

I do not think Inana is being defensive at all. I think what she is telling you is right. Regardless what sign you are, this woman is or your ex is, Stupid is stupid, and this situation sounds flat out....well....stupid! Lol. Like Inana so kindly said, I understand your ties to your ex. You have a long history and children together. Of course, he has to be in your life, but she does not. Why is HE ALLOWING her to do anything that has anything to do with you. Lets say she is this evil manipulative woman trying to pry in your business. Lol. OK fine. The REAL question is why is HE allowing this? Why doesn't HE check her? It is not your responsibility to say anything to her. Besides, she obviously is not going to listen to you anyway. Lol. Sounds like a waste of energy and time to try and figure her out. Let his ass know he needs to check this broad ASAP, simple as that! It's not your job to say ONE word to her. That is why I say the situation sounds a bit stupid.

Women kill me contacting one another. A man cheats on two women and THEY start contacting one another? I don't get it. Somehow the man and his responsibility and level of accountability get lost in the shuffle of things, and all the attention is placed between the two woman, telling each other off, or stalking each other. Lol. That's insane and ridiculous. I wish a woman would call, email, text, IM, write (or anything else) me about a man who is/was playing us BOTH. Lmao! Um yea, thanks, but no thanks. I wouldn't say a dam thing to her!!! That is obviously what she WANTS. She wants drama and conflict and I am not the one to provide her boring life with entertainment. BUT I would check him and tell him to get is broad on a leash and carry on with my business.

Bottom line you do not know ALL the details. Who knows, she might be snooping she might not be. He might be adding some fuel to fire the fire that you do not know about, he might not be. That is NOT the issue. The point is, it is not YOUR responsibly to be playing detective and trying to figure it all out.

If she is dumb, immature and insecure allow her to be dumb and immature by herself. Don't feed into it by trying to figure things out. Just let him know that he needs to take care of business and wash your hands of the situation.

I have to agree with Inana. Something seems a little off here. And, I too, believe you are threatened on some level! (it's ok, many people are threatened by Cappies, so I'm sure you're in good company).

In any case, it sounds to me that you are being manipulative and trying to interfere with you ex's life in some way, shape or form in anyway you can. Why did you not change the password on the email account if you knew it was compromised? Or, simply delete it if you were no longer using it? Why bother writing an email to her, using that email (under the belief that she will see it) suggesting he wants you back unless you are trying to stir shit up? God only knows what other crap you included in it. And, whether true or not that he says he wants you back, what difference does it make if you don't want him back? Also, what is with you trying to dictate to your ex who he dates and what he does with his time with the children or who he does it with? It doesn't sound like there is any mistreatment of the children, and if there was, there is legal recourse. By the same token, you deny the children the right to see their father and his right to see them, he has grounds for legal recourse! By the way you are talking it doesn't matter who the 'she' is in his life, now or in the future, you will try to use those children to control him and who he sees. Tsk, tsk.

You clearly have NOT moved on; you are being jealous, manipulative and vindictive! *smh*

I am not going to say that OP wants her ex back or is jealous. IF she is, like lildol said, that is PERFECTLY fine. That is actually human to be a little jealous in this type of situation, as long as that jealousy is controlled and does not manifest into something greater. So yes, it is OK to be jealous for a little bit, as long as you work through those emotions. And if you are not jealous, that is EVEN BETTER.

The point is when most women are TRULY over a man and could really care less what he does and who he does it with, they are not as easily angered or bothered by this type of foolery. I understand OP does not want Cap in her business or to have access to her email account. So, change the email account info, tell him to check is chick, and keep it moving.

Am I oversimplifying the situation?

Lmao @ "I don't care whether she is a cap or hat to be honest."

I didn't get a chance to read the second half, but I'm not surprised. Or at least from what I've seen from capricorn girls. Both seemed to be mentally unstable. Which is a shame because the male caps seem very fun and social people I enjoy being around. Cap girls...can be social, but they go craaaaazyyyy from what I've seen. Sorry you had to deal with that.