Cappy men are so confusing

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I've been dating this cap for 5mths, and he is so confusing, I have yet to meet any of his friends or family. He works a ton and I'm ok with that bc I work a lot too, plus i love how is career is such a priority because that's how I view mine. He tells me that he likes me a lot and very interested etc... but I feel like if you really like someone you'll make time. For instance one weekend I thought he was sleeping bc we worked really late so I went out and txt him late, he preceded to tell me he went to dinner with a friend then out but failed to txt or even call me, I felt so unimportant. I'm super busy too but make time, I'm not sure if this is normal behavior. I'm at the cross road where do i continue or not. I really like him and can be patient but I feel like he is just telling me things vs show me. I told him I liked but feel as though he doesnt his response was long work hours and his norm demeanor, yet he make time for everyone else. I have kind of pulled back and I'm sure he can tell, but I dont want to get hurt. Any advice on these hard to read, sweet one minute then aloof the next will be so appreciated!
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He texts me everyday to say good morning, or just see how my day is etc... however I have pulled bk, I usually respond soon bc I have my own office and have time, but today I waited till half the day passed and text something close ended and chort back to him. we see each other 1-2 a week, I'd prefer more but he works a lot but now his sch is calming down so I expected more, this hasnt happen :/
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@ at metoo I actually told him that yesterday and he said he almost said the same thing to me bc we both really are dedicated to our careers, so i took that as a compliment, but then he shocked me and preceded to tell me everything else he though was attractive about me, he kinda floored me bc he does not express himself like that. I am myself around him but am a bit guarded bc I cant really tell where we stand although he did mention how much he liked me then went semi MIA on me so i got confused again. These men are tricky!
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SO now I'm really confused!! We had a date last night and he started talking about his ex and how crazy she was etc... I asked how long he waited to start dating after they broke up after being together for over a yr he said two months, I kinda feel like a rebound, esp after he stated his family meet her and his friends a short time sfter thety started dating, I mean Ive been seeing him 5 months and nada. This really puzzeled me bc Im starting to care but now am not sure if he is over her although he kept saying how nutts she was, but some guys like crazy girls. any adivse would help
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Posted by cowpuncher
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Seems like a person is gettig out of her maid duties. Btw since I own the world and the Cap board is a minor part I expect you two puffballs to keep your romance slightly secluded. 😛



Whoa buddy... no "romance" til I'm sitting on that Indian Super Chief in leather. You can't go giving in to them before they pay up or they start expecting it all the time.
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Eithier im dumb or your lieing to me I heard marriage. I smell something fishy.
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Back to the OP, I think honestly, and dont let this scare you...he was hurt, really hurt by the last breakup.
He is just getting his feet wet again and is gun shy and has some walls up.

I wouldnt say your the rebound, dont even look at it that way...2 months is a good chink to be on your own and sort through some stuff.

Also, he doesn't trust you yet. This isnt a negative reflection on you per se, but he is getting there. It is not something you can fix, or do anything about but just remain steady, genuine, light hearted and HONEST. You'll meet the family when he trusts you, and also when he trusts THEM to be ready to meet you and forget that "your ex girlfriend uzie was always nice, what happened with HER"?

He is still in a very cautious place and there is no lighting a fire under a cap, no way to rush. His number one thing is trust.
Keep being genuine. Dont hesitate to open up, pick your battles, and enjoy the ride. Patience, and the benefit of the doubt to him will help you here.



All great advice there OP. Slow and steady wins you your goat at this point. Stop spazzing out, let things happen in their own time, and when Mr. Goat does find that he can trust you, you will have a very happily committed guy most likely.
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Agreed Goats are slow.

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