How Cap men handle breakups?

My Cap male and I broke up a little over two weeks ago. We had our issues and decided that we needed to go our separate ways for a bit (although he initiated it). I'm a Cancer and slowly I've been realizing how much of a best friend I had in him, how much I took him for granted, and also how much I want to make things work with him.

I've heard that Cap men often don't look back after ending a relationship, is this true? We haven't been in contact very much, he called me on my birthday and helped me with car trouble one day but that's about it. I figured no contact would be best for a while.

Caps handle break ups stoically. And once I, for one, am done, I am done. Might still be friends, but once the romantic feelings are gone, they don't come back easily if at all. However, like Capgirl said, it depends on who broke up with who.

If yall give it another shot, it will take him longer to trust and he will be more cautious than before.

@truecap That's what I thought was true, which is really unfortunate. I'm moving forward, I just keep realizing he's not someone I want to give up on (in a non-crazy or clingy way).

@metoo Okay thanks! I've been pretty good at just focusing on me so I guess that's all I can really do right now. I know I can't convince him of anything, but I was hoping that maybe it wasn't impossible for him to come back (since he's a typical stubborn Cap).

@cowpuncher @chance11 I'm his first serious relationship since he tends to just play the field so I figured that might be a make or break circumstance. Since we've barely talked since the breakup I can't really tell how attached he is to me now, although he was very much so before. I'm not sure what you mean by jumping through hoops? I feel like anything I do directed towards him would just make him run away. When we were breaking up, we talked about being friends and seeing if we grow apart or grow together but I think I'm growing more and more apprehensive as nothing is really happening. As of right now, all I feel like I can do is be happy and let him see but I guess that doesn't make you guys second guess.

@cowpuncher lol this was entertaining. I know you Caps have big hearts, it's what I fell for. But it seems I have no hope then with what you are saying? I will not jump through hoops, that's basically reducing myself to a doormat. I know he still cares for me but in the end it's not for me to drag him back or wait forever. If there's anything I can do with dignity I'd do it. But I completely appreciate your honesty, I'd rather it than someone feeding me BS!

@cowpuncher We ended on civil terms. We've never been the serious fighting type couple, we just had disagreements and made up shortly after. He would send flowers and make it up to me, or I'd apologize. Things weren't going well but it mainly seemed to be because he was giving it his all and didn't feel like I was--it was his biggest complaint. When I wanted to, it was too late, things just got too far. I didn't want to maintain any sort of contact but he insisted that we keep it open. So since then, he's called me on my birthday and drove three hours to help me with car trouble one day. But that's basically it, he seemed to be holding a lot in. Friends noticed and would tell me that he looked like he was having issues with his emotions just because he wasn't normal. Even during the times I've talked to him he's just tense, sometimes sounds sad. And just not happy, it's weird. I hope I didn't do that to him lol

It probably is hard for him but he'll get over it. Not trying to sound harsh but I'd think it was a process for everyone. Some move on slower/faster than others, but he'll be okay if that's what you are wondering.

@lnana404 I know he'll be okay, I know I'd be okay. It's just a matter of whether or not I want to just let something like that go or not.

@cowpuncher Sadly sometimes it takes losing something to really appreciate it and that's what happened in my case. I would be willing to definitely open up more and show him that side of me, and I told him that when we were breaking up. He knows I wanted to work on it, but he didn't want to keep trying. He just seemed exasperated and as much as I said I wanted to do it he said it can't just be forced like that, because that would make it worse which he's probably right. We definitely needed this time apart. I got everything I needed, I'm just a very, very guarded person--even moreso than he was when we were together. But the time apart for me was a realization that I had something really good in front of me. It could have been the opposite for him, who knows.

We said things about us potentially starting over again after becoming friends but in the end but I just don't know whether or not that's actually something that he'd commit to.

There is no such thing as a cap men breaking up with someone, there is only partners living in denial about something the cap decided a long time ago 😛

Haha it seems like everyone has a different opinion about it, but some things stay the same. Basically the fact that he's going to be stubborn seems to be apparent. So any attention he's given me since the breakup--liking photos on FB, calling me, or helping me out is for what purpose then? He's never treated me badly throughout the entire relationship so it's hard for me to believe that a switch will all of the sudden just be flipped and he'll turn into a manipulative ass. But I've seen it happen so I know it could be possible

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lol, capricorn already finding ways to make money & puting fishes to work..!!!

---I no cleaning fish.. I the business fish #8 w/scorpio moon..

Well if your business was cleaning messy Capricorn workshops in skimpy lingerie, I'd be able to help you out wouldn't I? *shrug* :p

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But yall wouldn't get any "work" done!!! It be even messier by the end of the day!!!
Bwahahaha!

Yeah, you're a man. And you're going to ignore the skimpy lingerie? hahahaha!!!!

Agreed that's why we have buckets this is the equivalent of dogs and leashes.