Capricorn Female Just Dumped Me...Is there Hope?

Hey everyone,

I am a libra male who was dating a Capricorn female for about 16 months until tonight when she broke it off with me through twenty minutes of tears. I honestly believed and still believe that this girl is my soul mate, and my heart is broken.

What is shocking about her decision is the fact that two weeks ago everything was fine between us and I thought we were both very happy in the relationship. Sure we had been fighting a little more than usual lately, but nothing that I thought would warrant her dumping me on the spot like this. I told her tonight that I know I am far from perfect, and not the easy person to deal with all the time, and that I was willing to do whatever is necessary to make this thing work, but so far she seems not to want to hear it. I've read from many sources that once a Capricorn cuts you out of their heart, you are done for good. I pray this isn't true.

Little background: No cheating between either one of us that I am aware of, her biggest complaints of me are my committment to doing things I am going to say I do and my timeliness.

If any Capricorns could please give me advice what they think the highest probability strategy I can take to get this Capricorn female back into my life, I would be greatly obliged and appreciative. The last thing she said to me tonight was that she would call me in 3 weeks. I don't know if this is of any significance. Please be honest in your opinions.

To crazy_lost_cappy:

My birthday is October 5th, hers is December 27th.

So you capricorn females think the best bet for me is to not call her and let her call me if/when she is ready? And then when we talk is it best to let her know how I feel right upfront, or should I just act reserved and okay with the situation?

crazy_lost_cappy, her year is 1990 and her birthplace is New Jersey. Not exactly sure about the birthtime unfortunately. In terms iof her planetary sure of her planetary positions or her exact time of birth unfortunately. Guess I'm out of luck? Thanks for all of your help regardless.

Steve I am a capricorn male but I have been in this situation with a Capricorn woman before so I may be able to offer you a man's perspective on it.

This is what you need to do. Are you ready? Nothing. You do nothing. Don't try to talk to her, don't try to write to her, and DON'T say you want to fix it.

Give her space. If you can do that. She will know you are listening and that is what woman want to think.

At the end of three weeks if she hasn't called you, give her a call and keep the conversation light hearted. When you meet up for coffee, if she brings up the relationship then apologise for what went wrong.

If you follow my advice, you stand a good chance at getting this woman back but maybe at the end of three weeks you will realize that she isn't the one for you.

It is possible to win a capricorn woman back, but it is not easy. It takes a strong and confident man to make it happen.

Response to CapGal about "20 minutes of tears":

We had been fighting more often recently, mainly I think because she felt I wasn't putting enough effort into the relationship, and in some ways my own life I believe (although she didn't say the second part). I showed up to meet her yesterday for coffee to discuss what has been going on with us lately and pull up next to her car to see her in tears already when I arrived. I spent the next 10 minutes letting her know that I was wrong to downplay her feelings as unreasonable, telling her that she is still the love of my life, and that I am willing to do what is neccessary to be a better man to her. (Her biggest complaints were the fact that I was always 5 minutes late to pick her up, my trouble making commitments, my families over involvement in my life, etc).

She responded to this that she felt like she was holding me back and that I need to focus on being the best I can be. To this I responded she was the best thing in my life and in no way is she a burden to me although I may have previously acted like it. She also mentioned that she can't stand the area we live in, and possibly wants to move away. She went on crying mostly saying how sorry she was, to which I responded she had nothing to feel sorry about, and that many of her complaints are valid. After the crying was done, she calmly said without tears that she will call me in 3 weeks and that she thinks this is for the best. I responded by asking her to please explain exactly the reason why she was breaking up with me, to which she really couldn't give a reason.

I am not sure where to go with this, except to say that I am truly devestated. I don't know if she secretely wants to date other people deep down, if she just needs time, if she really believes she is holding back, etc. I just don't know. What I do know is that I never loved another like I love her, and in someways I did take her love for granted, never thinking she would just break it off this quickly. (Literally 2 weeks ago we had much more laughter in our relationship than we did fights.) Who knows?

CapGal,

Okay, so you're saying you interperet it as she feels she is an uncommitted relationship and her effort and emotional attachment are no longer worth the effort. I understand. With this being said, if the guy truly wanted to be committed and be with you would you expect him to call you? Within what timeframe? Should he respect your space and let you call him, because you said you would call in 3 weeks? I really do want her in my life, and I want to prove to her that I am completely committed to her. How could I guy reassure of this, in your eyes? Thanks.

crazy_lost_cappy:

Good point, and I agree. At the same time I don't want to come across as a desperate, obsessed, weak man in her eyes. What is the optimal way to balance this? Wait 3 weeks for her to call and possibly give the impression that I am perfectly fine without her? Call 2 days later and come across as someone who doesn't understand that I really do need to change certain things in my life if I want her in it? Very thin line to balance in my point of view, no?

Thank you all for your insight. At least I feel that there is some hope here. I am going to take your advice and call her a week from now like you suggest, and I will let her know how I feel in a way that shows compassion yet strength on my part. I believe we are meant to be together. And the way she was hysterically crying last night, it tells me that her feelings for me haven't died out, there is just something about the situation that is intolerable for her. I hope I am right, and I hope she will allow me to be the type of man that she deserves in her life.

Capgal I see what you are saying. You being a Cap woman, you would know more than me about Cap woman. However I can't help but think his girlfriend wants her space from him. Maybe she is saying get lost, or maybe she needs time to figure stuff out. I think you could be giving steve bad advice because if his girlfriend isn't ready to reciprocate his feelings she won't. Steve could be in for a world of hurting if that happens.

But I guess he knows what he's doing so I wish him all the best.

Cap woman are like flowers. Each one must be handled with care.

:-)

UPDATE:

About 24 hours after she broke up with my I received this text from her (word for word exact transcript): "I know you hate me and that I am a horrible person but I just wanted to wish you a Happy Thanksgiving. Can you please call me when you are home from your mothers? You don't have to respond to this text message now or at all."

As she was breaking up with me the other night I told her how it wasn't right of her to just do this to people with no warning or explanation, how this would devestate my life, etc. You know, the typical emotional responses. Do you Capricorns think that she sent me this message because she thinks I may be a wreck because of what happens, and she wants to reassure me that I shouldn't feel bad? (You know, as a caring friend type thing). Or do you think that she may regret what she has decided to do?

It seems strange because remember, originally she said she would call me in 3 weeks, now she wants me to call her basically 3-4 days from now. I must say I do have a certain sense of relief right now, but I don't want to get my hopes up interpereting this in the wrong way. What do you guys think? Does this have a higher probability of being a positive or negative sign in your opinion? And do you think I should text her to let her know I will call when I return to my house, or not let her know and still call? Thanks for any insight.

Posted by crazy_lost_cappy
Respecting people space is sooo overrated when it comes to love. Sometimes people want you to be in their space and they don't even know it..

Really like it

" Do you Capricorns think that she sent me this message because she thinks I may be a wreck because of what happens, and she wants to reassure me that I shouldn't feel bad? "

No. Why is it so difficult to see ?

Just been there so many times so know it

Hey everybody, just to give an update about what happened between me and my Capricorn girlfriend that I originally started this thread about. Basically as I mentioned earlier, three days after we initially broke up she responded saying that she felt it was a big mistake and that "she didn't want to be with anyone else, and she didn't want to see me with anyone else." As a result of this, we were able to reconcile our differences and once again we were a happy couple, grateful to be back in each others lives.

Fast forward one month. Two weeks ago on a weekend we had plans to see one another, and once again something came up in my life and I canceled on her. I totally forgot what had got us into this mess in the first place was me not doing exactly what I said I was going to do. We wound up meeting a couple days later on Monday, and it was like Deja Vu all over again. Only this time, she broke up with me without the hysterical crying that took place last time. While she was breaking up with me she was telling me what a great person I was, and that how I will be find to which I responded "yeah, you are right I will be fine." (This cold response was due to my anger that she was once again using such a short fuse in our relationship. I noticed after I said this there was a displeased look in her face, indicating that she was disappointed that I said I would be fine.

Before I left to get out of her car and she told me that "you know I could never say no to you, but I feel like I am abandoning myself in this relationship." Then she proceeds to rub my neck and tell me that I will be fine, before leaning over to give me a kiss on the cheek. I responded to this by pulling away from her and telling her to get off of me. I got out of the car and left.

This took place ten days ago, and since this incident we have not spoken. I called the next day to apologize, sent flowers two days later, and finally I called for the last time three days after that; all to no avail. The unfortunate thing about our relationship is that both of us were extremely loving and caring to one another throughout the whole time we were together (1.5 years)

I don't know if any of you Capricorn women on this board have any insight into all of this at this point. I honestly feel a lack of closure due to the fact that she was touching my neck and went to kiss me on the cheek while breaking up with me. I personally have no broken up with anyone under those types of affectionate terms, n

(continued)...nor has anyone else I've known either. I really am feeling completely lost without her, and from all indications I find on the internet, once a Capricorn leaves, they leave for good. By why the affection towards me at the end? Why were we so happy, and she was so interested for so long and then like a light switch, nothing?

I have been talking to many, many, many people close to me during these difficult times, especially with the holidays. They tell me a variety of different responses. Some tell me I should show up at her house, some say to let her go completely, some say to keep making contact, others say to make no contact whatsoever if I want her to become interested in me once again. Some suggest that she has probably found someone else and is pursuing him for the time being.

Can anyone give me any advice at this point? Is the fact that she is completely ignoring my calls a sign that indeed she has moved on and expects me to do the same? Is there things a man can do to specifically attract a Capricorn ex back into their lives? Is she just confused and needs to process her feelings over a longer period? do she indeed want me to come chase her down at her house? I am very confused at this point. Thanks for all of your help.

ok, well, stop beating a dead horse already. i say let it go for the both of u. don't blink or u might miss the point! there were so many good lessons to be learned from this experience with her. u guys hopefully grew through each other to make u better ppl.

i had to stop talking to an old friend that i loved dearly for a good 6 months before i could resume our relationship again. things had gotten complicated and all i wanted to do was simplify it again. he also made my head and heart a mess. it was a good thing though! so i stopped and refused all contact. i was hurting and healing. sometimes it's necessary to fully let go. so, to me, it looks like she's honestly trying to let u go for good. i'm not a cap but i'm a woman.

OK Steve, its one of two things going on here.

1. Something about your relationship really bothers her and in her head she wants to leave, but in her heart she wants to stay. This is why she keeps going back and forth, it's a reflection of her own uncertainty. The guy I most recently left I did this to although not as dramatic as your lady. I KNEW he was bad for me for reasons beyond our control, but I loved/love him so much. So when I left him, I was affectionate as well and it took about 3 breakups on my part (all within a 2-3 month time frame) for it to be finally final. Why? Because I loved him so much that every time he came begging me to come back, I did. However, because caps tend to analyze and think with our heads and not our hearts I still couldn't stay despite the fact that I miss the hell out of him. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him and I can honestly say I'm still in love with him, no one compares to him; but the last thing I said to him was do not contact me AT ALL. I refuse to contact him as well, no matter what he does, not because I don't care (I do and trust me it hurts) but because in my head I know I am doing the right thing.

OR??_

2. She is frightened by the depth of feelings she has for you and is trying to sort it out while testing your loyalty. If this is the case you may win her back if you are persistent enough. If #1 applies you may want to walk away with your pride in tow, she will contact you when and if she's ready.

—Is the fact that she is completely ignoring my calls a sign that indeed she has moved on and expects me to do the same— Either yes she has moved on and wants you to do the same or she is enjoying the attention and wants to prolong it for as long as possible.

—?does she indeed want me to come chase her down at her house— Um, I don't recommend this. If your cappy is anything like me or the hundreds of cappies I know, this will not be seen as cute but as creepy. Remember while we like attention, we also like a challenge and demand someone we can respect, not someone we feel we can walk over.

Although I know you miss her, remember she is being extremely immature and needs to accept her role in the problems your relationship has as well. Stop taking all the blame or she will let you. Is this really a relationship you want to pursue?

Thanks everyone for all of your insights. Just to update you guys, I sent her a final email about a week after she broke up with me again. I recieved a response email the following day that was written to me in a way that you wouldn't have even thought we were in a relationship for the last year and a half. It was like a business letter you would write to an attorney. I won't rehash the entire letter, but one part that caught me off gaurd was when she said "I love you inexplicably, but we are not meant to be together." Ouch. After reading the email, I decided at that point that it was now time for me to go no contact.

I have recently begun to believe that she may have shown traits of borderline personality disorder during our relationship. Now I know what you guys are probably all thinking. "Wow, this guy gets dumped and he is so egotistical that he believes a woman would need to have a personality disorder to leave him; what a dummy." Believe me, I have thought the same thing. But please, just hear me out and tell me if this seems like normal behavior:

1) Writing a letter to someone on Novermber 15th telling them that "if anything came between you and your lover that you would die inside," and that your lover "completes you". This is followed by a "businesslike" breakup letter literally 4 weeks later.

2) Breaking up with someone while stroking their neck and leaning in to give them a kiss? If this isn't odd, it certainly is a cruel way to try to keep the person you are dumping emotionally emeshed with you while you reject them. (my opinion).

3) Eating disorder / drug abuse in her past.

4) Jealousy towards time I spent with family members. Telling me to "just call her when I get home, because I act like a different person when I am around them"

5) Sending me anonymous text messages now that I am no longer pleading with her to come back with me. Very atypical for the capricorn woman no?

6) During the relationship, constantly texting, calling me during the day. Getting angry when I didn't respond to every text message within 30 minute timeframe.

7) Deep fear of abandonment triggered by me saying things like "if we cant work on things, we will never make it long term," and "I feel like I don't know where I stand with you since our last breeakup." Truthfully, it was never me cancelling on her that lead her to breakup with me, it was me making these types of statements that always triggered her fear of abandonment.

so that is why we stand right now. I hope one day her heart can reach her capricorn mind and let her know that I would never abandon her, that I love her very much, and would for the rest of her life. As of today it doesn't look hopeful however. During our relationship she used to tell me all the time that "she would never leave me" and that "we were soulmates." Hopefully those feeling will return for her, as of right now I am not hopeful though.

SteveMC your an idiot! No she doesn't have personalitly disorder although you may you want to think so. Say what ever you need to say to get closure because you fucked up and didn't learn from your mistakes the first time around. Get it all out. Call her a bitch or a crazy woman. Whatever you need to say to make you feel like you are right for minipulating with her emotions. Because right from day one when you started this thread that's all you wanted to do.

When she broke up with you the first time, she told you exactly why. She wanted space so that you had time to work on yourself. She wanted you to think about what you did wrong so you can change that aspect about yourself. That's why I advised you to give her space but you lacked the maturity and the strength of character to do it. You projected the problem being with her instead of you.

Anyways she comes back to you and tries to console the situation and what do you do? You make her feel guilty.

Not surprisingly you did the same thing that got you into this mess. So now she feels she has no control over the situation. Once again she tries to console you, and you act like a child. Like a little boy throwing a tantrum.

There are two things you never do in a relationship. You don't reject your girfriend, and you don't make her feel guilty, especialy when she has nothing to feel guilty about. You did both twice. So that makes you an idiot. Your relationship is over. If she happens to take you back, I guarntee you will minpulate with her emotions.

You are bad news to this woman.

Eric,

Exactly how exactly did I "manipulate her emotions" and "make her feel guilty?" Because I calmly told her that I feel like I didn't know where I stood with her since our first breakup? What do you expect me to do exactly, spend the rest of my life like a deaf dumb mute and be fine with the idea that someone could dump me at any moment they choose, as they see fit? Sorry man, but I am not a charity case. I wanted to be in her life very much, but I don't need anyone to be with me who doesn't really want to be with me.

Maybe in your world that is acceptable but in mine the other person needs to address what issues they have and the two parties involved need to be able to communicate what they are feeling towards one another without fear that the other party is just waiting for the opportunity to jump ship. Without this, no progress can be made. If she won't let me know what is going on with her and what she wants, how am I expected to know exactly what she wants?

Secondly, you said that you "advised me to give her space but I lacked the maturity and the strength of character to do it," which is another blatant falsehood on your part. If you read my posts carefully you will notice that 3 days of no-contact after she dumped me the first time SHE was the one who initiated contact and told me to please call her; everything progressed from here.

Thirdly, you said I "rejected my girlfriend," another blatant falsehood. How exactly did I reject her since we got back together? Because I told me that I was concerned with where I stood with her? During this whole ordeal I have told her that I want to work things out between us and that I am willing to work on myself if she is willing put faith in me. Do I continue to make mistakes? Absolutely. Thank God I do. Have I ever verbally, emotionally, or physically assaulted my ex-gf? Absolutely not. Cheated on her? Absolutely not. Kept a slew of female friends in my phone book? Not a chance.

So please don't try and tell me that I am "bad news for this woman," because it is simply not true. I am a human being with numerous faults, some which have been easier to correct than others.

CapGal everything you sad, as well as other cappy girls here, is totally true.

Cap woman will never stay in a casual/open RLS more than 1 month. We need and seek commitment but commitment with personal freedom, with space for personal spiritual emotional growth, cause we do not wanna waste our precious time on just-for-fun guys (that we can have every Friday or sat. night in the city and it is not soo hot for us at all!), we have so much other things to do - dancing, fitness, climbing mountains, start a new project, reading, writing, painting.... to waste our time on a guy who will dump us 3 years after, or who is not emotionally available on a deeper level/or the one who cannot prove us or exactly show us his loyalty and maturity, or pure pure love. If we want an uncommitted RLS, or just hanging around with guy for drink/movie/sex,etc. we will tell you on our second date right on your face! or we will just stop answering your calls. We just adore and respect our personal freedom, we can anytime ba alone with ourselves, completely satisfied and content, and happy.
Second, our emotional reactions comes along when we are unable to speak out what we really want, literally. This is our problem in communication, cause we hard find the right words to express what we want, feel and what we expect from our RLS or guy we are with. Then we used to cry or get silent, or flee away (closing the door loudly!) . Our emotions sometimes comes before our words and our thoughts, that's because we usually call later or text we were wrong or feel ashamed. You must understand that caps women are very sensitive beings but at the time time our brain works as crazy, as Eric11 said - we are like a flowers, in any sense of this word. and this is cold truth.
Third, no cappy woman will left you without very good reason for that. never. We are basically loyal, unlike Libras which flirt and with one eye seek potential other/ideal mate. We are pretty sure when we are involved in RLS that is the right thing.
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But when we start to subconsciously feel uncomfortable with our man around (which means - less attention, unable to commit, insecurity regarding long term commitment, shut down activities or social gatherings or sex, no respect for our needs and ideas, feeling/treatment that "she is here for good, anytime", no longer being "special", not to say one-and-only to our man...etc. - when we still give and give and give more, not in sense that we try hard, but we want to GROW in our relationship, in terms "always more, never less than before" and it is not hard for us, we enjoy giving, - that is cappy in feelings, business, money, sports, anything, name it!...) so when we start to feel lack of "more" and experience more of "less" then we pull back and fall into resentment cause we cannot grow further with you and fulfill our open happiness towards life and joy. We do not need extra partners or meeting new man around, we can do some flirts but just to prove ourselves how much "woman" we are, but never emotionally or sexually involved with other man. We are not cheating. (Men cappys can do cheat, I know him LOL)
Fourth, it is notorious lie in case of every day's life that cappys are pessimists, specially not women. We enjoy life. We enjoy go to partys, dance, go out in the nature, sailing, helping people around (we are always very loyal friends), gathering family together, etc... these are not characteristics of pessimists. We just do not accept or go through the things with ease - and here any man can hurt us! why? because, deep inside we want to feel validation, and we want so deeply share this enthusiasm about life with our - of course - the most loved ones - man! We love to feel worthy, since we know we are, but we are glad hear from you, and at the same time we will never left you without compliment too. We are not like aquas who will always try to comment something about you or your ideas. We like to hear from you, but we will give you our respect without reciprocity or expectations. And if a cappy woman cannot feel this subtle things in RLS, she we start to feel distant and unsatisfied. Not because she needs you to make you happy, worthy, or something, (she can be that way anytime when she's alone with herself), but because she want to share this feeling and insights with you!
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ok, I had so much time and I cannot stop write...hehe... come back later, I like to read this forum, I learned so much....
SteveMC I will have a question for you too!!

Dear CapGal,

I am sorry that you and others feel like I am an idiot because I mentioned that I feel my ex may have exhibited certain characteristics of a personality disorder during our relationship and breakup. Truthfully, CapGal I have talked to half a dozen people outside of our relationship and they feel that both the tone and nature of her final letter to me, and the way she went about broking up with me while giving me physical affection were both odd, and mentally manipulative as well. A far cry from the "Caps are always straight shooters" persona's that I hear about from astrology forums.

I'm sorry, but the fact that she was telling me that "she would support me in anything," that I was "her soul mate" and that if anything came between us "she would die inside" literally 4 weeks before splitting with me, is odd to say the least. I believe in astrology to an extent, but no matter how cool and collected an individual may be, the ability to completely shut off ones feelings that quickly is odd to say the least. Not to mentioned she broke up with me literally 4 days before the biggest exam of my life, and she knew it too.

In response to Oakley, I understand what you are saying about the desires of the Capricorn woman. Truthfully, I was never the restrictive or jealous type. I always encouraged my ex to pursue her goals both professionally and socially. As a matter of fact, most recently before our breakup I was encouraging her to start her own online business, and offered to help develop a website for her if she wanted me too. The problems basically arose I believe because a) I was breaking my word and not doing things that I said I was going to do, and b) I became an increasingly larger focus in her life to the point that she abandoned her outside interests to focus squarely on me.

There is nothing I can do now about point "a", but in terms of point "b" I believe that she will realize that it was her choice to abandon her own life interests and focus on exclusively on me, now that she is free. Hopefully, she will realize that ultimately she needs to make the conscious choice in a relationship to balance her outside interests with her relationship with her significant other. Best case scenario she will realize that I really did nothing to hold her back from pursuing her own interests, and really can't be blamed from her cutoff from outside interests (cot'd).....

Dear Steve,
before I continue with some insights, let me kindly ask you, how old are you / your (ex) cappy?
And just make it clear, I cannot find you an "idiot", no way. I think is all about souls, desires, life energy and frequencies :-)
Regarding years, there's something worth to know about cappy women...

In terms of being a Libra, and the idea that "we all flirt, look for new women, cheat, etc" I can assure you in my case this simply is the furthest thing from the truth. My girlfriend knew my heart was completely with her and that I never would have pursued anything outside of my relationship with her. I cannot speak for everyone else, but I can speak for myself.

Oakley, CapGal, and others:

In retrospect I believe my relationship with my Capricorn ended because I failed to nurture it properly. Simple as that. I do also believe as my ex-gf matures she will realize that a certain level of tolerance is crucial within a relationship. Making your significant other choose between you and his/her family obligations is very unreasonable, and will making any partner uncomfortable. Things like this she will need to work on regardless of who she may date in the future, unless she intends to find a doormat as a mate.

Regarding my future with her, as much as others are telling me to move on with my life and "not to worry there is another one around the corner," I still have faith that her and I can be together once again one day. The strongest thing that her and I had going for us during our relationship was that we both had a mutual respect for one anothers character. I believe that is hugely underestimated in the realm of relationships, and a big reason why some fail and others don't.

She always used to say to me "you know what I love about you the most? The fact that your intentions are always pure, and that you always want to do the right thing." And I used to tell her that I respected the fact that she was so honest, reliable and dependable. This mutual respect has not gone away simply because we split up. And as much as Capricorns always "think practically before emotionally," I believe that matters of the heart will bring two people together if they are indeed meant to be together.

As of right now, we are on day 8 of no contact. I am moving forward with my life as if the relationship is over, and am taking this time to learn grow and improve my life. I still in the depths of my heart do believe that her and I were meant to be together. Hopefully, an extended period of no contact will help bring clarity to both of our lives, and once again can make one another realize what we had. When her and I do speak again, I will post here to let everyone know what happens. When that day will be? I have no idea..

Oakley,

I am 25 and she is 19. Before you say it about the maturity / different places in our lives, believe me, many have told me. But please, go ahead with any insights that you may have. Thanks.

uhuhuuuuu! 19
stubborn little goat!
I see...
I will continue, I have to go now to meet my friend on coffee, but promise I will return with something here....
Emotional maturity and mental approach.
Don't forget about cappys - you can have/catch us again, with lot of proving that you changed (uf, it's hard for Libra men nway!), but when is mess in our head, not because of our practical logical thinging but when it's caused by our emotions, you can step the mine and have very unpleasant experience, without your fault!
And don't forget - cappys as grow older they are calmer, more balanced, exactly know what they want with their lives and love, and go even better and better since years are passing... but when we are young! oh my god!!! I exactly remember me, and I can understand your girl now! Is a mess in her head, really, emotional mess and he would like to ruin the wall with her goat horns, but she is not able to see that. Believe me. She would like to embrace whole world if she could!
And, she will never ever forget you or stop loving you. She has to find her emotional balance with the time, and maybe one day... we often can rebound our past RLS when we SEE others peoples worth and uniqueness. We never could denied this.
I'l be bask 😉

sorry for my english, I am from Europe, and never learned engl. in school. :-)

Oakley, thank you so much for your insight. I look forward to seeing what you have to say.

CapGal,

The nature of our relationship was one where I never really pushed anything on her at all. As a matther of fact, two weeks before our last breakup she one day blurted out "lets just move in together" without me even mentioning anything, or ever mentioning it in the past. I really think a big piece of all of this was the fact that I became her entire social life towards the end of her relationship. She even said when we were breaking up that "you know I can't say no to you, but I have been abandoning myself in our relationship." Which in retrospect, I agree, she had been doing that. The thing is, she will soon realize that it was her that was abandoning her social life by her own choice, not me twisting her arm or trying to keep her away from outside interests.

At this point I am going completely no contact. I received a couple of "anonymous text messages" 3 days into the no contact, and suspect that she may have been the one sending them, but I am not sure. Let me ask you a question. If you decided to dump your boyfriend for whatever reason, would it make you think about or obsess about the person more if they no longer were making effort to contact you? Or do these types of things not have any emotional effect on Capricorn women? Most women I ask say that it would make the woman think about you much much more than if you were trying to keep contact open.

I'm a Libra with a Capricorn Moon. Capricorns will show a profound love when they feel completely stable. You not keeping your word is the opposite of stability. And there will be times when people do not keep their word, but you would exhibit growth by establishing a structure when agreements fall through. Moreover, why not have an unbreakable relationship with your word? When you have that, then any person you are in a relationship with will feel safe and know they can count on you. Life is full of peaks, but there are many valleys, and a woman can have a lot more to lose when her partner cannot weather these storms.

When she brings up the idea of moving in together, your response lets her know your level of commitment, and she requires a lifelong one. If you were not ready for this level of commitment, and you were not shopping for engagement rings, or you did not envision in a far-off future that this is "it"--that there's something missing--that you're unsure of something--then let bygones be bygones. Personally, the fact that you would project a psychological issue on her, because she truly cared for you but she needed to retain some dignity and be true to herself speaks volumes of you, and she's better off without you. I hope she finds great success and a man deserving of her undying adoration, and you find a girl with low self-esteem who doesn't mind someone breaking his promises. Good luck.

it's weird to see my own wisdom from 7 years ago lol

why does this old thread appear at top?