Capricorn Woman Insight - In Need Of

Recently, my Beautiful Capricorn Woman has told me that she needs space, even that she may work on herself to become The Woman/Spouse that I need/deserve, because she doesn't feel like she is on my Level, and that she doesn't want to bring her Luggage/Baggage into our Union. [She insisted on clarifying with me that we are not breaking up].



At little Backstory:



My Capricorn and I have never fought or had an argument. In fact, by her own admission, no Man has ever made her feel as Happy as she feels I have made her feel. [Humbly, this may be why she refers to me as 1 of her 3 favorite People: herself, her Mum, and Me; and why she refers to me as 'The Best.' We've been together for 10 months now.]

Indeed, our relationship is Divine.



Now my Capricorn is a Very Hard worker; unforunately, my Capricorn's work is The Source of most her Stress - by her own words.

However, recently, my Capricorn has been having bouts of extreme doubts, centering on her self-worth, stemming from the one year anniversary of her miscarriage [July/August], and from another ex that has cheated on her. [Before August, none of these issues have surfaced.]

Regarding her miscarriage, her ex simply was not around to support her; yet whenever she tried to talk to him about her mkscarriage, he would run from such discussions. Before this, she was cheated on by another ex, resulting in serious self-esteem isshes within her. [Now when we began dating, I was clueless about these self-esteem issues, even though she early on - after two weeks - explained her miscarriage experience to me. She seemed to very much trust me.]

So, she recently admitted to me that she felt inadequate as a Woman because she didn't understand why she was cheated on and why she miscarried at 21 years old; and that she was still blaming herself for both Events.



Naturally, this broke my heart, even as I began to understand why she asked for time to work on herself - a break/space. She has blockage that is troubling her.



[Given my experience with Woman, I have never experienced such Honesty/Candor/Honor/Mindfulness/Self-Awarness with a Woman. Perhaps this is a Capricorn thing.]

All in All, My Intuitions tells me that she is telling The Truth, even though I recognize that there is a culture of Cynicism says otherwise. My reasoning support my intuitions.



After we first talk about this, she left and texted me: "I can't stop crying; Am sorry; I know I'm breaking your heart in the process; Am really sorry; I didn't mean to do this; but I really need this; I need to be a better person not only for you and I but for everyone else."



She mentioned that it was not about me and that I have done nothing [wrong] but that she needs her space just "to work everything out." For clarification, I asked whether there was someone else involved and she said no, not at all. [ In fact, she said that she wished that it were that easy/simple; and that if that actually were the case, then she would have ended our relationship long ago.]

I've esponded by telling her that I understand and that I am here or if she needs me; and that I will wait for her to reach the other side of the fence.

She told me: "I'll will deal with it."



Lastly, I've mentioned that "I just Hate to throw away a relationship that is Very Valuable/Promising; but I understand that you have some things to work out."



She responded: "Good you understand."





Last August was a Hellish month for a lot of folk, especially due to Mercury Retrograde, the lunar eclipses, the solar eclipse etc. Now couple this with the one year anniversary of her miscarriage, and her words seem to loudly ring of Truth.

In short, I think my Capricorn is telling the truth.



But perhaps a fellow Capricorn Woman can help clarify otherwise. I simply desire clarity, even that I may support her in the most healthy/non-pressuring way possible.



My Capricorn is clearly worth me being patient - one of my gifts. I have just never dealt with a personality like hers.

But that she has even open up to me in such a manner strikes me as a very favorable sign, even as I know that many Capricorns, especially her, are quite guarded with their emotions/feelings.



Humbly,

PatiencePatience

well hmmmm - what is her moon and what is your sun and moon ?

not sure how to answer or what perspective to give - I mean it's nice that you are giving her the time she requested but that sort of leaves you standing out in left field wondering what gives

I don't think it's fair - not that I can't understand what you described she went through - but how long is this going to take - seriously - one does not just deal with things in say, like 30 days and then they are all better - has she proposed that she might be going to counseling or pulling some other sort of magic trick to get over whatever it is she needs to get over ?

could it be that this is all rushing her too fast and that she has reached that point of no return and in lieu of asking to slow down, she put the brakes on which is ok then - of course I'm working my mind through this

I would let her know that what you need during this period of time that she is "getting herself together" - say a date once a week or a day once a week - whatever you need ... then I can see that it would be more fair for you and for her it would show her that you are still there and that is comforting

Ya what is her moon and your sun/moon signs. That would give quite a bit more insight into your situation.

Your lady is very young and it would not be easy to come with terms with all the feelings inside her from the previous episodes. She needs to analyze and put it in rest at least what I do when I am overwhelmed with feelings. Need to turn them off and apply logic that way I can "clarify-comprehend-digest and reset" myself. I would give her the space she requested but in the same time I am sure she would appreciate knowing you are around and checking on her.

Posted by cappiegirl
Your lady is very young and it would not be easy to come with terms with all the feelings inside her from the previous episodes. She needs to analyze and put it in rest at least what I do when I am overwhelmed with feelings. Need to turn them off and apply logic that way I can "clarify-comprehend-digest and reset" myself. I would give her the space she requested but in the same time I am sure she would appreciate knowing you are around and checking on her.

I agree.

You have both echoed and confirmed my very intuitions, reasonings, and observations/experiences regarding her behaviors.

My Cap's very own intutions, reasonings, observations/experience/ are consistent with that which you have just echoed/shared.



Interestingly, my Cap's now speaking, or refering to, 'Happiness' as being an Inner-State of Being, even a Choice that is to Not Be influenced by Outside factors.

Sounds very familiar.....

It's almost as though my Capricorn has Awakened a High Priestess within her being, preparing her for Peace & Blessings.....

Posted by tcta
well hmmmm - what is her moon and what is your sun and moon ?

not sure how to answer or what perspective to give - I mean it's nice that you are giving her the time she requested but that sort of leaves you standing out in left field wondering what gives

I don't think it's fair - not that I can't understand what you described she went through - but how long is this going to take - seriously - one does not just deal with things in say, like 30 days and then they are all better - has she proposed that she might be going to counseling or pulling some other sort of magic trick to get over whatever it is she needs to get over ?

could it be that this is all rushing her too fast and that she has reached that point of no return and in lieu of asking to slow down, she put the brakes on which is ok then - of course I'm working my mind through this

I would let her know that what you need during this period of time that she is "getting herself together" - say a date once a week or a day once a week - whatever you need ... then I can see that it would be more fair for you and for her it would show her that you are still there and that is comforting

My Sun and Moon are Libra and Libra, respectively.

My Cap's Sun and Moon are Capricorn and Leo, respectively.



Now back in May, my Cap has experienced/expressed a minor version [out the emotional bout] of that which she appears to be going through right now.

Back then, she asked whether it was alright to talk about her 'emotional bout' with me some other time [because she said she was not in the right position to talk about it at the time, and that she was just 'going through something' but that I 'haven't 'done a thing' and the she 'just needed to fix' herself Sounds very familiar.]



Identically, I have given her that which she has requested. Once feeling better, she apologize for her remarks, stating that it was 'unfair to me'; but that once she got her mind settled, she'd would share that which was troubling her with me.



Very Interesting....

Posted by cappiegirl
Your lady is very young and it would not be easy to come with terms with all the feelings inside her from the previous episodes. She needs to analyze and put it in rest at least what I do when I am overwhelmed with feelings. Need to turn them off and apply logic that way I can "clarify-comprehend-digest and reset" myself. I would give her the space she requested but in the same time I am sure she would appreciate knowing you are around and checking on her.

My Cap even seems '[Happily] Surprised' that I have [Peacefully yet Firmly] reacted/responded to her moments of Crisis in the manner that I have, even in full support in her process of Self-Growth.

Posted by PatiencePatience

Posted by tcta
well hmmmm - what is her moon and what is your sun and moon ?

not sure how to answer or what perspective to give - I mean it's nice that you are giving her the time she requested but that sort of leaves you standing out in left field wondering what gives

I don't think it's fair - not that I can't understand what you described she went through - but how long is this going to take - seriously - one does not just deal with things in say, like 30 days and then they are all better - has she proposed that she might be going to counseling or pulling some other sort of magic trick to get over whatever it is she needs to get over ?

could it be that this is all rushing her too fast and that she has reached that point of no return and in lieu of asking to slow down, she put the brakes on which is ok then - of course I'm working my mind through this

I would let her know that what you need during this period of time that she is "getting herself together" - say a date once a week or a day once a week - whatever you need ... then I can see that it would be more fair for you and for her it would show her that you are still there and that is comforting

My Sun and Moon are Libra and Libra, respectively.

My Cap's Sun and Moon are Capricorn and Leo, respectively.



Now back in May, my Cap has experienced/expressed a minor version [out the emotional bout] of that which she appears to be going through right now.

Back then, she asked whether it was alright to talk about her 'emotional bout' with me some other time [because she said she was not in the right position to talk about it at the time, and that she was just 'going through something' but that I 'haven't 'done a thing' and the she 'just needed to fix' herself Sounds very familiar.]

Identically, I have given her that which she has requested. Once feeling better, she apologize for her remarks, stating that it was 'unfair to me'; but that once she got her mind settled, she'd would share that which was troubling her with me.

Very Interesting....

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- she's just trying to sort through it all and not burdening you with the anxiety - she will hopefully get her head straight and you are a dear to be so patient

if I told others what my head goes through sometimes I think they would lock me up - I only have Cap Moon so my other placements take the front and sides a lot to counter-balance

Posted by tcta

Posted by PatiencePatience

Posted by tcta
well hmmmm - what is her moon and what is your sun and moon ?

not sure how to answer or what perspective to give - I mean it's nice that you are giving her the time she requested but that sort of leaves you standing out in left field wondering what gives

I don't think it's fair - not that I can't understand what you described she went through - but how long is this going to take - seriously - one does not just deal with things in say, like 30 days and then they are all better - has she proposed that she might be going to counseling or pulling some other sort of magic trick to get over whatever it is she needs to get over ?

could it be that this is all rushing her too fast and that she has reached that point of no return and in lieu of asking to slow down, she put the brakes on which is ok then - of course I'm working my mind through this

I would let her know that what you need during this period of time that she is "getting herself together" - say a date once a week or a day once a week - whatever you need ... then I can see that it would be more fair for you and for her it would show her that you are still there and that is comforting

My Sun and Moon are Libra and Libra, respectively.

My Cap's Sun and Moon are Capricorn and Leo, respectively.



Now back in May, my Cap has experienced/expressed a minor version [out the emotional bout] of that which she appears to be going through right now.

Back then, she asked whether it was alright to talk about her 'emotional bout' with me some other time [because she said she was not in the right position to talk about it at the time, and that she was just 'going through something' but that I 'haven't 'done a thing' and the she 'just needed to fix' herself Sounds very familiar.]

Identically, I have given her that which she has requested. Once feeling better, she apologize for her remarks, stating that it was 'unfair to me'; but that once she got her mind settled, she'd would share that which was troubling her with me.

Very Interesting....

- she's just trying to sort through it all and not burdening you with the anxiety - she will hopefully get her head straight and you are a dear to be so patient

if I told others what my head goes through sometimes I think they would lock me up - I only have Cap Moon so my other placements take the front and sides a lot to counter-balance

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That would be most Honorable of her. So, [at the very least], my Cap would deserve [sufficient] Honor in return too, even in the form of Peace [Patience].

Your words are very kind...

Posted by tcta

Posted by PatiencePatience

Posted by tcta
well hmmmm - what is her moon and what is your sun and moon ?

not sure how to answer or what perspective to give - I mean it's nice that you are giving her the time she requested but that sort of leaves you standing out in left field wondering what gives

I don't think it's fair - not that I can't understand what you described she went through - but how long is this going to take - seriously - one does not just deal with things in say, like 30 days and then they are all better - has she proposed that she might be going to counseling or pulling some other sort of magic trick to get over whatever it is she needs to get over ?

could it be that this is all rushing her too fast and that she has reached that point of no return and in lieu of asking to slow down, she put the brakes on which is ok then - of course I'm working my mind through this

I would let her know that what you need during this period of time that she is "getting herself together" - say a date once a week or a day once a week - whatever you need ... then I can see that it would be more fair for you and for her it would show her that you are still there and that is comforting

My Sun and Moon are Libra and Libra, respectively.

My Cap's Sun and Moon are Capricorn and Leo, respectively.



Now back in May, my Cap has experienced/expressed a minor version [out the emotional bout] of that which she appears to be going through right now.

Back then, she asked whether it was alright to talk about her 'emotional bout' with me some other time [because she said she was not in the right position to talk about it at the time, and that she was just 'going through something' but that I 'haven't 'done a thing' and the she 'just needed to fix' herself Sounds very familiar.]

Identically, I have given her that which she has requested. Once feeling better, she apologize for her remarks, stating that it was 'unfair to me'; but that once she got her mind settled, she'd would share that which was troubling her with me.

Very Interesting....

- she's just trying to sort through it all and not burdening you with the anxiety - she will hopefully get her head straight and you are a dear to be so patient

if I told others what my head goes through sometimes I think they would lock me up - I only have Cap Moon so my other placements take the front and sides a lot to counter-balance

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"- she's just trying to sort through it all and not burdening you with the anxiety"



You are right.



She is currently going through the death of a dear member of her family. I know this because she has posted this info on a public social site, of which she and I haunt, even on my birthday.

Yet when she recently has wished me a happy birthday (privately), even on the same day that she is currently going through the death of a dear member of her family, to which I have thanked her for her sweet words [i.e., 'happy birthday'], I have asked how she, Mum, and work have been doing but she is yet to reply - 1 Day Ago.



So, your words have been proven True. She is trying to sort out that which she needs to sort out, even without overburdening me with her anxiety.

I'm most grateful for her Honor/Honesty [Consistency] because I better understand why she has asked for 'space.'

Her Solitutde is how She Balances her Equation[s].

I understand.