Capricorns Being TOO nice

Hello All

As Capricorns, do you ever feel as though you're too nice? WE are very caring people because Saturn has put us through a lot. So I don't know about you, but when I see people in need I can't help but want to rescue them, even if it means that I have to compromise my own needs... which is so unhealthy. But I've always been like that.

What about you?

This is the first I'm hearing of this.

Or read, to be honest.


But none of the Caps in my family allow others to take advantage of them. And they will only go out of their way to make an effort for loved ones.

It dawned on me how large my family is. Crazy large.

Don't get me wrong, my Cap family members are VERY devoted to family members. If I called my Cappy auntie right now and told her that I needed her to help me pay off my school loans, she'd do as asked, no questions. She'd work double-overtime just to help me. She's always been the breadwinner of her family, despite her blue-collared husband. Breadwinner isn't even the word to describe her.

Or read, to be honest.


But none of the Caps in my family allow others to take advantage of them. And they will only go out of their way to make an effort for loved ones.

This is true ScorpSuperior, I remember when I didn't let others take advantage of my kindness. Then a friend told me I was mean. So I made a decision to be a little more giving. But now I want to revert back to being a stingy cookiemonster. Because some people if not MOST people, mistake kindness for weakness.

So maybe that's why Capricorns are cautious of other people. I can't stand feeling used or taken for granted.

I cannot by nature let people walk over me forever! I might not realise it initially (has happened quite a few times now...) but eventually i will and then things are different!

Yeah I hear you SimplyMe

I am at that point today, where I'm like... HEY, I've been nice to you buzzard head mfers, but you don't seem to understand that I am capable of being the meanest person you've ever known!!! The only thing stopping me, is my belief that the Creator wants people to be loving and giving. But one can only give so much.

What I notice about giving people, is that they compromise their own needs to keep others happy. So I'm truely thinking about going back to being me. And that's mean, stingy and cookiemonsterish. lol

Hi CM, I'm cappysweetie 🙂

YES! People say I WAY too nice and that I will never get anywhere in life with my nature -- they say I'm far too sweet and I need to harden up more. 😢 😢 😢 So yes, the same thing is told to me, it's like a weekly thing.

Is it just me or are all caps suckers for charm?

Yeah, I agree. I think that I am a sucker for charm SOMETIMES. At other times, when I am just sitting back observing a person's behavior and attributes.. I can definately see through it.

I do not trust charming people. Maybe because my mother is that way (a scorpio) and she is very manipulating. She can't help it though, she's been a sales agent all of her life. She can sell a motorcycle to a one legged elephant. She's very charming which is a softer form of being in control.

Hi CM, I'm cappysweetie

YES! People say I WAY too nice and that I will never get anywhere in life with my nature -- they say I'm far too sweet and I need to harden up more. So yes, the same thing is told to me, it's like a weekly thing.

Hey Cappysweetie ! I like that name.

It is trueeeee. When I was meaner and stinger, I got more stuff done. I focused on myself and the results were amazing. But somewhere along the way, I found myself attempting at being self-less, because I believe thats the way God wants us to be.

But it doesn't feel so good. I don't understand the logic in it all, other than the fact that God blesses us for being a blessing to others. But what I'm starting to understand is that maybe it's okay to give.. as long as your cup is full and overflowing.
And once your cup is overflowing, you should give from the overflow.

Hi CapMermaid,

Hello all!
Yes Caps are very nice! To nice! TO TO Nice. To perfect. Yes Caps will go out of their way to take care of you and deny themselves if they really love you. YES! But, if you show appreciation and be sincere they just won't mind being kind.

Cap men once comfortable make it very hard for the ladies in their lives to leave or walk out of the relationship. Very hard. And the sad part about it, is if you compare him to MANY other men out in the world, he is worth every bit of his kindness. Pushover kindness, No he will not let you take advantage of him. But, he will need let you go without what you need or desire. No, he will risk doing for himself just to see someone he loves have a happy face.

But, he will need let you go without what you need or desire. Sorry, I am human, I make typo errors. Don't be offended please!

I meant he will not let you go without what you need or desire and he will deny himself in the process of being kind. Yes Caps want a perfect relationship.

You'll get your rewards in the end.

I never worry about it (being a cap myself). Capricorns have the perfect balance of niceness, and knowing exactly when to fight back, and when they fight back, they will, or rather MUST fight till the end (unless somewhere in the middle of the death match we don't have to.) If you're scared of being too nice you probably have too many nice/deserving people in your life. Also sounds like you're in the mood for a quick rumble in the jungle? Oook.

I know my Cap is certainly like that. He's too nice and soft spoken for his own good and people take advantage of that. I've been encouraging him to defend himself where it matters most and he's been a quick learner. People are beginning to notice his take-charge attitude more and he's been getting more of the respect he deserves. Bet your bottom dollar that so long as I'm around, no one's gonna take advantage of my sweet little Cappy again! Whether it's my Pisces sun, Cap rising, or Gem moon... I'll never know, but I'm extremely protective of those I care about and those who cannot defend themselves (like children or animals) I would both kill and die for all the right reasons. Perhaps it's because I never had anyone to protect me that my instinct to shield others has become what it is today.

My Cappy is truly amazing in my eyes. I've never met another with such a selflessness. I'm reminded daily of how wonderful he is, a diamond amidst coal. He touches me in ways that hands never could, and that is the touch that lingers, the touch that transcends to become a love like no other. He sacrifices so much, yet thinks to make others happy. He works hard every day and never complains about pain or fatigue, though I see it clearly in his eyes. He is so giving that I could never take from him in good conscious. He works so hard that it makes me want to hold him in my arms and take away all his discomfort. This love makes me want to give him all the things he's never had, all the things he won't give himself. His dedication makes me want to give him a love like mine... a love he will attest is like no other. True, nice guys finish last, but they also finish best.

Mermaid ...

You've nailed a lot of aspects.

Too nice? Well, we do go out of our way to show the people we care about that we care, deeply.

Get taken advantage of? It goes with the above. There's always someone out there who will take what someone gives them and twist it, and leave the well-meaning Cap feeling foolish.
And when that happens, then the "wait-a-minute" side comes out and we'll make sure people know we will not be disrespected and treated like crap. This is always where I've had issues in relationships. When I legitinately call someone on their actions as being unfair or manipulative or disrespectful, they're shocked to learn the sweet guy has a backbone.

I always say women don't want a sensitive man, just a man sensitive to them. And when the Cap does eventually show his emotions---which we have, deeply, and will show, slowly---she doesn't know how to deal with them, or chooses not to.

Charming: I dated a woman who was incredibly "charming" who came on to me strong, and I fell. And when I realized that she was misrepresenting her self and playing a role, I called her on it, and the relationship fell apart overnight.

A person can't change who they are. Take confidence in your strength and your emotions and understand your weaknesses. You'll be able to walk in and out of relationships with your strength intact.

bob aka ddsk

I feel you 100% I'll give my last to help someone out and then i'll put myself in a bind. I hate it but can't help it. I feel like I give and give and give and then get pissed when all is gone and no one gives two sh@ts about me. Then I give again, cause i can't help it.

I definitly go out of my way for family or anyone I love, and if I ever feel like Im being taken advantage of or they are being ungratful of my efforts then I repress everything ( because you know capricorns are quite passive aggressive) then after a few months I explode like a volcano with anger! haha its not that I need praises for helping my loved ones out, but when they turn around and act negative towards me I get my feelings hurt... I do try to be as nice as possible, I hate confrontation, I would rather get along with the people I love then not.

"I definitly go out of my way for family or anyone I love, and if I ever feel like Im being taken advantage of or they are being ungratful of my efforts then I repress everything ( because you know capricorns are quite passive aggressive) then after a few months I explode like a volcano with anger!"

Very accurate. Nothing makes me feel worse than reaching out to someone and having that person short-arm me in return. And I bury the anger because I'm mostly p-o'd at myself for putting myself in a position to be treated like that.

My Virgo gal is wonderful in most every sense --- except in reciprocating the emotions I show for her. I'm trying to be patient and let this relationship grow, which is what she says she needs, but it's hard. I have this image of investing two years of emotions and having her say "it's been fun, it's not working." I don't need to set myself up for that kind of fall, not at my age ...

bob/ddsk

The cappy guys I know can be too nice to family members or friends.

Those are the only ones worth enough to get our kindness for free.