Dating a capricorn that is 40 years my senior.....

WE actually have a lot in common, but he has cold and hot tendencies -- He has a lot of responsibility and is still a professor and has many engagements --
he is busy - we were introduced by mutual friends and we have dated a few times and discussed him being open to more - he is quite a catch -- and very active - LOL!

We have discussed traveling together and enjoy each others company but he is a cap with a sag in venus-- and he goes hot and then cold (No contact for a week or two)

I am a scorpio and very nurturing but he again seems like he is lonely but yet soooooo slooooowww -- Its been almost four months and I feel like we are the same place emotionally that we were four months ago -- My concern is we don't have forever -- health is not an issue but 81 is 81 -- Yes he was married but that was many years ago--

Im not worried about being hurt -- just not sure if I can teach an old dog new tricks -- He is a cappy and think he is stuck in his ways -- Hard to figure him out -- cause he does go cold-- but wanted to see if you cap gurus have had experience or thoughts on an old cappy -- Last weekend was great and asked me stay with him 3 times but had a long drive home --
Then all week nothing-- texted him 3 times and left a message once -- needed info for a favor he asked me to do for him -- after last texted expressing him that I missed him and wanted to hear from him-- He texted back -- Got to get up early to go to speaking eng in Texas and will call you when I get back -- Huh? Oh! when wld that be sat sun monday ?

COLD

Love your posts very insightful

The next time he goes lecturing, invite yourself along.

Wow he's still working at age 81? Props to the man.

No walker -- LOL and he seems to be responsive to what he needs== he teaches, lectures, and advises -- Im way ahead -- I asked if I cld go with him and he said no-- some trips yes but this one was no -- he seems to like to travel solo when doing business --

any more insight to his behavior

no he is not rich -- he is wealthy == LOL

What is your reason for wanting to be with someone in their 80s? I have never understood why Hugh Hefner did that, but I know the girls he dated did it to gain fame and money. Same with Anna Nicole Smith and the millionaire she dated. You say he's wealthy, but I doubt you're in his will.

What is it about him that men within 15 years of your age won't do? I just am asking so I can understand this dynamic.

I have my own means-- and he functions well == cooks , drives, and tree trucking -- is great! The question is why not -- Im single and I like him and he has lot to share and offer in terms of stimuli and he is prestiges!

Your asking me lots of question about my motives but yet Im trying to figure him him out -- and that what I came her for not be judged or to discuss he wealth - I answered your question -- If that would help in understanding the dynamics of the situation -- He is a man just like you -- he functions -- I wld love to share his golden years

I'm not a man, but I catch your drift. Honestly, his coldness and not responding doesn't have to do with this sign but rather his age. Others here will probably disagree with me. I do wish you luck however.

By the way, people around here love to judge. It's just how it is with this site. 🙂

You cld have a moment -- do know many 80 years old -- lol so I dont have a point of reference? Thought being a capp may have the bearing -- dont mind the questions but was just looking for some insight --

yea== i think he gets cranky too {)

I worked for an old Cap.He was stubborn.He had one wife and that was it for him.He had many women sidling up to him.None got past the wall.Some ladies would show up for lunch.They wouldn't be happy to see me there.I'd be like,ha won't be seeing you gals again.Nah you ain't getting into the will.

Why do you get the wall?He's a professor,correct?Lectures,yes? Hint = prestiges is spelled prestigious.Not to make you look foolish,but you've got to bring your A game or don't bother to come.Enjoy your time with him,you'll learn alot tho'.

Goodness. Its as if your trying to rush his emotions in hopes that you will get "in." Thank goodness he's not making it easy for you. He seems to be running hot/cold for good reason, and don't try to make yourself feel better or needed by assuming he's lonely. You just wrote he's very active and seems very busy, plus him not being up your behind sounds far from a lonely man.

Can we say he's not splitting his money with ANYONE at his age, he's old not an old fool.

I mean honestly what does a 40 year old woman want with a 81 year old man, try slow x's a million. Get what you can get out of it and leave the rest alone plus you may not be the ONLY ONE he's dating at the moment, again he's old but he's a man and he probably have other women equally as impressed with his status, money, prestige, can't text but 1 at a time probably without getting frustrated and just end up saying fuck it, I'll get back to her when I can. Cold equals old, your lucky he's not in a wheelchair and making you feed him with a bib, be proud of your man and not so demanding, he is not trying to allow you or anyone for that matter to wear him down and put him in his grave so he's slow.

LOL OMG Let me quit while I'm ahead.

LMAO! Oh my goodness...

Green, as I said yesterday, people around here love to judge. 🙂

🙂

LOL @ getting grossed-out. 😛

Scorps seem to come equipped with a workaround for such emergencies.

HP You are judging yourself. You put a post up about this man not wearing his ring and now you're kissing him, don't tell the world your glowing over him not wearing his wedding band and then come back with an update about kissing, it doesn't matter who kissed who, you kissed him and he's OFF LIMITS (PERIOD) it doesn't matter if he instigated or you instigated the kiss, we don't have to tell you how wrong this is, you said you weren't going there and YOU WENT THERE, woman up and own your shit wrong or right. People expressed a thought, an opinion and now your guilty conscious is projecting onto us as judge and jurors, I'm not judging you at all, so cut the crap.

Remember that Sex In The City episode were Samantha Jones was dating this 80 year old billionaire, she was so excited until she saw him butt naked and got the hell out of his house LOL! His maid was standing outside the door holding her purse and coat LOL! Hilarious episode.

Posted by tiki33
Can we say he's not splitting his money with ANYONE at his age, he's old not an old fool.

I mean honestly what does a 40 year old woman want with a 81 year old man, try slow x's a million. Get what you can get out of it and leave the rest alone plus you may not be the ONLY ONE he's dating at the moment, again he's old but he's a man and he probably have other women equally as impressed with his status, money, prestige, can't text but 1 at a time probably without getting frustrated and just end up saying fuck it, I'll get back to her when I can. Cold equals old, your lucky he's not in a wheelchair and making you feed him with a bib, be proud of your man and not so demanding, he is not trying to allow you or anyone for that matter to wear him down and put him in his grave so he's slow.

LOL OMG Let me quit while I'm ahead.

i just laughed so hard i think i broke something

I think you are looking at this from the wrong angle. He's probably working you over AND an even younger woman is most likely sitting in his lecture hall not realising she is being pursued by a man who is pursuing you as well!. This guy is an old fox. A viagra fuelled cunning old fox.

Oops pardon me! That should be a viagra fuelled cunning OLD GOAT :-)

The mere thought of seeing an 81 year old man naked makes me want to wash my eyes out ----


WITH BLEACH.

Liken the whole thing to a blood sucking vampire (him) who needs the flesh and the love in a young woman's eyes to keep him alive.


It's that simple. It's what is happening. Don't feed the vampires.

as for body issues...sometimes money, intellect, prestige, success can make a woman look the other way real fast LMAO!

Clearly this man must look pretty decent for his age or why else would a younger woman look his way, he has a younger woman deeply involved with him, I can't knock what I've never tried.

I agree Tiki about HPs situation.

I agree thx about him probably not being in a place for the drama. Let the man be and continue to enjoy his life.

Love how the cappy women on dxp pretend they dont have daddy issues 😛

Guys, go to the first page of this thread. I told this chick what I thought just as you all have, yes I judged her. And when I implied people around here love to judge, I meant myself as well. We do judge around here - it's just as common as taking taking a shit after inserting an enema up your ass.

If I wanted to address your comments about my own situation, I'd do it on the threads I created - not bogarting this person's thread.

OMG -- U guys have got me RLMAO -- You are funny -- sagging nuts -- not so bad but the rear view leaves me a bit confused-- Im glad it is spiritual-- -- I have so many comments to make -- but most importantly the comment about my spelling? trust on me -- a typo is a typo -- after all-I am not here writing my thesis -- One thing I gave depicted from these comments is the stress of dating someone physically could actually effect his health and that is not something I want to do-- 🙂

This made me chuckle. Lol

She's a Scorpio, so I guarantee she's more attracted to his power/status than the money itself. Scorps aren't generally materialistic like leos, but we're drawn to people in power or highly respected. It's admirable to us.


You are so right about that fact that I am more impressed with his power/status -- money is not an issue-- I found him admirable, but looking in retrospect it does sound a bit ridiculous but as someone stated -- You would have to know the person to understand-- The man reads better, drives better and remembers better than I do -- when we go to restaurant I am the one pulling out my reading glasses and gets a boner like no other -- I wonder did he have a surgical implant and eye surgery LOL-- Amazing and fascinating -- Scorpios like puzzles, but he is an old man -- and truth be it told I can get the distance if he wants to pace his life out 🙂

Thanks for the great and funny feedback!

Well I can understand if it's spiritual. I can overlook the physical thing to a degree but not to the extent of a generation or two generations gap lol. If I really cared about him, I'd keep a distance so the physical and emotional drama that comes with a real relationship of my age wouldn't affect his health and shorten his life.


As I mentioned he is still running his own ship and based upon his accomplishments -- I doubt very seriously if I have that power to shorten his life -- which is why I am here - -I keep it light and breezy-- We don't discuss such things -- ergo the reason I posted the thread. I am not looking for anything from him but companionship -- the few comments about I am not getting anything and I have my own money- pay my own bills and take care of myself. I appreciate the feedback but I guess it sounds a little ridicules to think of him as a companion, but maybe we can still be friends!

Spelling.Yes.Why?Because,you are in the company of a teacher.If the way that you communicate here,is how you communicate with him,trust me,he's wincing at you behind you back.If you're falling short on other things on his must have list,you'll always be a "student" to him.You'll be chasing his level of intellect,thus you're not going on many of his lecture circuits.You can "trust on" that.He knows exactly what he is doing,so did the Cap I worked for.His wife was very accomplished,the gals that circled in on him,were looking for a bingo partner and a hot lunch ,so don't cancel your rental agreement anytime soon.No matter how many knee pads you work your way through,you're still going to be on the outside trying to get in.Play on Eliza DooLittle play on.

Damn she's allowed to be lazy, must she write accurately all the time...Give the woman a break. Hell@81 he's lucky to even get a conversation at his age LOL. I think she's doing okay if she has to keep up with him and not the other way around.

She not getting in his will, he's old not an old fool.

Posted by TidalWave
lol @ at this thread

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Spelling.Yes.Why?Because,you are in the company of a teacher.If the way that you communicate here,is how you communicate with him,trust me,he's wincing at you behind you back.If you're falling short on other things on his must have list,you'll always be a "student" to him.You'll be chasing his level of intellect,thus you're not going on many of his lecture circuits.You can "trust on" that.He knows exactly what he is doing,so did the Cap I worked for.His wife was very accomplished,the gals that circled in on him,were looking for a bingo partner and a hot lunch ,so don't cancel your rental agreement anytime soon.No matter how many knee pads you work your way through,you're still going to be on the outside trying to get in.Play on Eliza DooLittle play on.

First of all Ms Bitty! -- you certainly seem to be have quite a sharp spirit and you seem to be taking this way too seriously -- If I felt that I needed to convey a message that was serious I would certainly revert to an expert not some dried up nasty bitter old lady. And yes he is a teacher and inspires me as I have stated over and over again. As far as me being on his intellect we have very long and philosophical conversations, but then again I have nothing to prove to you. I just find your arrogance amusing. If you read my thread you would see that he asked to meet me not the other way around and as far as me canceling my legal agreement. I own my home have several cars and travel extensively and for the record I am a trust fund baby and I don't need his money. He has his and I have mine. I actually really care about him. I know that may seem twisted to you. As far me being on my knee pads your wrong he is the one needing the knee pads -- Oh! and as far as his lecture circuits -- I would much rather tour the south of France with him -- RLMAO

-- I do not proof my posts cause its just not that deep -- and I am not wearing my glasses LOL!

Do some people have keyboards without a space bar, or perhaps don't understand the function of the space bar? Their postings look like claustrophobic rambling, and unreadable.

Just wondering.

Posted by ellessque

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Love how the cappy women on dxp pretend they dont have daddy issues 😛

hey shaka. good news/bad news

bad news...we won't be passing thru your place on the way to paris, afterall 😢

good news...you'll save lots of money on my shrine. i hope you kept your receipts 😄

click to expand

NOOOOOOooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo 😢 its not fair, so much awesomeness gone to waste.

Thank you Mr Cappy -- You go boy -- he does look young , and yes we have a great time! Spoken like a true Cappy! Graceful and dignified! WHich is why I am so crazy about this 80 year old man !

We are used to your pms tirades QS LOL

I didn't even notice the spelling or punctuation stuff when I was reading it. I was too busy wondering if the 80 year old man was just a joke someone had decided to play on posters here, combined with the soul destroying visual of an 80 year old man popping viagra and then dumping me 'cos "I" was crap in bed.

Oh the horror!

^At least this story has helped expanding your mental horizons quite a bit, as far as I can see^

Green, this thread has spiraled out of control, so please answer a few questions so at least I can get back on track:

1 - What are you hoping to establish with this gentleman?
2 - Do you two live in the same city?
3 - Is he widowed or was he a long-time bachelor?
4 - Has he told you what intentions he has with you - friendship, companionship?

I am going somewhere with these questions, so just entertain me with answering. 🙂

Posted by ellessque
he's not a virgo, he's a capricorn.

sure, her spelling is atrocious but a cap would take that as an opportunity to teach.....not correct (or "wince", like you virgo's say)

Yup,I know.Spelling is just an example of how she's not bringing her A game to get her beyond what's not going on with them now.Sheez

Posted by greenisreal

First of all Ms Bitty! -- you certainly seem to be have quite a sharp spirit and you seem to be taking this way too seriously -- If I felt that I needed to convey a message that was serious I would certainly revert to an expert not some dried up nasty bitter old lady. And yes he is a teacher and inspires me as I have stated over and over again. As far as me being on his intellect we have very long and philosophical conversations, but then again I have nothing to prove to you. I just find your arrogance amusing. If you read my thread you would see that he asked to meet me not the other way around and as far as me canceling my legal agreement. I own my home have several cars and travel extensively and for the record I am a trust fund baby and I don't need his money. He has his and I have mine. I actually really care about him. I know that may seem twisted to you. As far me being on my knee pads your wrong he is the one needing the knee pads -- Oh! and as far as his lecture circuits -- I would much rather tour the south of France with him -- RLMAO

-- I do not proof my posts cause its just not that deep -- and I am not wearing my glasses LOL!

Okay, Miss Who Touches Old Mans' Skivvys-You missed the point,the old Cap that I know had a wife that had many talents.If you want to get closer to him,you need to show your talents to raise his interest ,to get him out of the zone that you are in to the one that you want to be in.And gosh,I'm the one who knows a 90 year old Cap.Just talking from RL here.

I think my "arrogance" is humorous as well.Interesting how you side step peoples'question,to focus on my little point.You are inspired,we get that.Who's amusing now.

Yup,nothing says caring like joining in the joking with everyone here.I directed the spotlight on you for a minute,about how your actions affect your chances of catching him ,you turn around focusing why HE'S not taking your bait.If you seriously answered some of the questions here,you might get some real help.


I'm glad you have yours.That also separates you two ,trust fund vs his earning his money now.If your trust fund is earning great dividends,to keep up with his earnings,you're in great shape,otherwise,he might be worried that if you blow through yours ,you'll be coming for his.

You just said you asked to go on his business trips and he said no.If you didn't care,yo

u wouldn't have asked.Keep believing it's about getting him to change HIS way and not its' about what you're bringing to the table.

O-O

Thank you Quiet Storm and please forgive if I didn't spell your name properly or space bar appropriately. I am actually college educated and I must say this will be my last post at DXPNET. You are right no one ever really answered my question or read the thread. All they see was a gold digger, which I am not, but seeing how the vast majority have found this thread so disgusting I think you have answered my questions, and since he being a lot older and wiser probably feels the same way-- silly. It was not about the sex

As far as being evasive and side stepping questions, which ones are you speaking of how repulsive it is to be with him physically. I have heard so many comments but very few questions. Trust I can go toe to toe with the best and I have many talents, which do not require knee pads. I came here for some thoughts and yes I pointed out your thread cause they were the nastiest, meanest, cruel comments made!

YUP,NOTHING SAYS CARING LIKE JOINING IN THE JOKING WITH EVERYONE HERE.I DIRECTED THE SPOTLIGHT ON YOU FOR A MINUTE,ABOUT HOW YOUR ACTIONS AFFECT YOUR CHANCES OF CATCHING HIM ,YOU TURN AROUND FOCUSING WHY HE'S NOT TAKING YOUR BAIT.IF YOU SERIOUSLY ANSWERED SOME OF THE QUESTIONS HERE,YOU MIGHT GET SOME REAL HELP.

What are you talking about we have been on 3 dates which were fun and great and we have lapses in between? What bait he was behaving the same before bait and after bait he is busy? We talk maybe once a week, but I have taken measures in reading more diverse topics, NY tImes and Post.

I'M GLAD YOU HAVE YOURS.THAT ALSO SEPARATES YOU TWO ,TRUST FUND VS HIS EARNING HIS MONEY NOW.IF YOUR TRUST FUND IS EARNING GREAT DIVIDENDS,TO KEEP UP WITH HIS EARNINGS,YOU'RE IN GREAT SHAPE,OTHERWISE,HE MIGHT BE WORRIED THAT IF YOU BLOW THROUGH YOURS ,YOU'LL BE COMING FOR HIS.

Why are you so tree trunking concerned about our money, you don't know my money is blood money- both my parent are dead as result of that money you simple Azz Bit
he does not know what my portfolio consist of and its none of his dam business -- This is really counter productive

YOU JUST SAID YOU ASKED TO GO ON HIS BUSINESS TRIPS AND HE SAID NO.IF YOU DIDN'T CARE

I asked as a joke I knew he was traveling with the president of the university - he is not just a lecturer he is a trend setter now spew your venom on your own thread , but I wont forget your kindness?

DEUCES as my son wld say!





How's that for spelling it was fun at first and now it

I don't think your thread is disgusting Green but I did get a few LOL'd out of it. Gotta have a sense of humor around this place and that good ol' ignore button works really well too LOL, someone getting on your last nerves, click ignore user VOILA gone just like that.

Green you should definitely stick around...Write the way you wanna communicate...2 middle fingers blazing to the rest.

Green, this thread has spiraled out of control, so please answer a few questions so at least I can get back on track:

1 - What are you hoping to establish with this gentleman?
2 - Do you two live in the same city?
3 - Is he widowed or was he a long-time bachelor?
4 - Has he told you what intentions he has with you - friendship, companionship?

I am going somewhere with these questions, so just entertain me with answering.

!- companionship/travel partner/best friend/ father/teacher/friend
2- No we are 2 1/2 away
3- divorced (1) bachelor for 16 years married for the same amount
4--yes I asked and he said thats what we are trying to figure out (After second official date)

If we speak again - plan to revisit the last question - thanks for even asking