Dating a capricorn that is 40 years my senior..... (Page 2)

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tiki33
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LOL WELCOME TO DXP! You are officially indoctrinated...Gotta have a thick skin in this place. And honestly I never pay attention to how people write online, it's online, no one here is writing essays for a grade, lighten up, if you really like this guy or feel you could have a future with him all jokes aside, GO FOR IT, you are a grown 40 year old woman and if you want to get his engine burning then maybe you should ask an older Cap male, someone in his late 50's or 60's b/c frankly I have no idea what a 80 year old man is really thinking about, if he really wants to experience love again, he's been around the block a few times, seen it all, probably done it all and he may just want to do his intellectual University thing and be happy with a little female companionship (nothing heavy), you have to get to know him and it's only been what 3 dates and a few text messages? Listen to him and learn, that's how you'll know how to get closer to his world.

Hmmm speaking of Gem's I should pay them a visit, I never go over there anymore.
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It's all starting to come together;


1)Has son that is 10?,20? years old who's going to need college tuition paid .Check.
2)Read NY ? Washington ? Post . Check.
3)She "hopes" English is her only lanquage . Check.
4)But wants to vacation in the south of France. Check .
5)Has own home but it could be parents home or sold it to buy this one. Check .
6)Has stayed with him "3times" and knows what his butt looks like "confusing from back". Check .
7)Then wonders why she's on the FWB fast track . Check .

*YAWNS*
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TheBeautifulStruggle
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If he's 80..formerly married and a capricorn with a venus in saggitarrius..he's probably at a stage in his life where he's not wanting to go in an uber deep relationship with someone.He's probably been there already.. Just enjoy the company of him, and don't even sweat the fact of where you think the relationship is going. And if he's a professor that is very busy ethier with classes, or lectures or his research, that's just something that comes with the discipline. It's more than likely not you....he's probably geuinely very busy and consumed with his career. And if he's a professor and attractive, charming enough to hook up with a woman much younger than him..he's prolly eccentric and that could explain the hot and cold.. chances are, he probably does that with everyone. So I wouldn't take it personally. There is also the possibility he has other obligations in place, like family for instance..just so you know..those two things are probably going to go above you...whehter you are willing to accept that is on you.

My father in law has dated plenty of women and broken up with them as soon as the woman wanted to get too close, his response (paraphrased) "I've had six wives...I am not looking to get married"

And truly, if he's 80, why can't he get a pass on that? It isn't like you suddenly don't want to have companionship and become asexual after age 50. A man/woman can't just look for someone cool to hangout with? Enjoy relationships for the sake of?

But anyway..you should look up venus in sag in general..you'll probably find out that the experience is probably half of the fun in relationships.

And come on people..not everybody looks for a soul-mate in a relationship and not every relationship is a failure or de-valued if the relationship doesn't end in marriage. As far as I'm concerned, the relationship between those two, there doesn't seem to be a problem other than what I specified above.

And children...for any individual who's dating, after Age 30...there is NO age gap. Ya'll are all grown.
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greenisreal
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I will do my best to provide clarity:

Houston Peach -- She's said more than once she doesn't want to marry the guy (in so many words). She is intrigued by him and wants his friendship and companionship. Why is this thread still going—

You hit the nail on the head just keeping it light and breezy, I am not interested in marriage or anything serious just wanted to try to figure out the inner workings of a 80 year old man -- that I found intriguing for his age.

JUST A LITTLE INSIGHT I am actually 48 just rounded off to even number to keep it simple, but as far as I am concerned 20, 30, 40 it is difference. Agreed

BEAUTIFUL STRUGGLE:

And truly, if he's 80, why can't he get a pass on that? It isn't like you suddenly don't want to have companionship and become asexual after age 50. A man/woman can't just look for someone cool to hangout with? Enjoy relationships for the sake of?

But anyway..you should look up venus in sag in general..you'll probably find out that the experience is probably half of the fun in relationships.

And come on people..not everybody looks for a soul-mate in a relationship and not every relationship is a failure or de-valued if the relationship doesn't end in marriage. As far as I'm concerned, the relationship between those two, there doesn't seem to be a problem other than what I specified above.

And children...for any individual who's dating, after Age 30...there is NO age gap. Ya'll are all grown.

Thanks for the refreshing insight -- I just hope if and when I get his age that Im not alone cause based on the response here they should just put me out of misery. I am not looking to figuring out where we can go just where we are and wow did I start a lot of controversy. )o I wish I could share with who he actually is you would all be surprised and maybe understand a little better why I have an interest.

MORNING
Well I do understand the intellectual and mental connection thing to someone 40 years you're senior but date someone that old? I think you are looking for a meal ticket. Marrying someone for prestige is as good as marrying someone for money because you can cash in on their death. I guess if he was your 80 tear old neighbor people here would have taken a more romantic outlook. But you started by pointing out that he was prestigious. And most of the things you like about him has nothing to do with who he is. " he's functional" was how you described him. Frankly you set the tone of this thread
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greenisreal
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Vulcan ass oh! my bad lass

It's all starting to come together;


1)Has son that is 10?,20? years old who's going to need college tuition paid .Check.
2)Read NY ? Washington ? Post . Check.
3)She "hopes" English is her only lanquage . Check.
4)But wants to vacation in the south of France. Check .
5)Has own home but it could be parents home or sold it to buy this one. Check .
6)Has stayed with him "3times" and knows what his butt looks like "confusing from back". Check .
7)Then wonders why she's on the FWB fast track . Check .

*YAWNS*

If we are boring you so much then get off of the thread

My son college is paid-- ergo trust fund?
who cares what I read, where I vacation, my sense of humor, and my commenting on his but (a joke) and staying with him 3 times is not what I said -- rather then concern yourself with my punctuation and my spelling or spacing why don't you actually read my thread because you sound like you are either really bored or stupid cause you seem to put your own spin on everything I said? My son is neither 10 or 20 where did you get that again I have my own means for the 4th time. Is your life that empty because in this brief interlude I have been to a fund raid for the president, my sons football game, a two dates with a man 50 and one 39 in addition to meeting with the board of education and a BBQ where I was introduced to a 42 year old surgeon, please get a life cause I do have one and it does not revolve around this thread or this 80 year old man I respect not love RESPECT!
The only reason I am responding is because i posted the thread and feel that I should finish it out, but really if you don.t have anything positive to say just do not say anything at all! RLMAO
I am a scorpio and I will never be ac victim
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greenisreal
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Try and Guess

dated someone that was 20 years older than me (money actually had nothing to do with it), but I felt alot of pressure to keep us a secret. In the end, it was not worth it. I say that if you both have equal respect for one another then it could be a good thing. Just don't expect it to last a long while....

I really busy which is why i have not inserted proper spacing please be patient with me guys sometimes I get on a roll and just go with it!

But I can see why it visually is confusing. I actually appreciate all your comments good and bad!

I agree with try and guess it would have to be a secret if I were to see him, which I am not as of this moment! I don't think it would be viewed with respect! I will be discreet with my friendship a little disappointed but a realistic. He is old and yes fragile and I do not want to add any undue pressures on him. I had not expectations just wanted to know if I could understand him a little better, based on these responses I will admire him from a distance. People are in fact narrow minded not all but to many in this world. I joked with him one day and said Im not as strong as you are and He said, "I know". By the way he is not skivvy only your mind VULCAN ASSL!

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greenisreal
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One last comment please note the typo correction fund raid should read fund raiser (LOL), and all who don't like my typos and or proper spacing. The option is just don't read my thread.

I am really waaaay to busy to take the time to do spell checks so just re read it and repost it for me that I would greatly appreciate. My thought in life is lets find a solution not keep discussing the same problem, and that is something of have yet to hear, but from a few people on this site!
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Posted by greenisreal
WE actually have a lot in common, but he has cold and hot tendencies -- He has a lot of responsibility and is still a professor and has many engagements --
he is busy - we were introduced by mutual friends and we have dated a few times and discussed him being open to more - he is quite a catch -- and very active - LOL!

We have discussed traveling together and enjoy each others company but he is a cap with a sag in venus-- and he goes hot and then cold (No contact for a week or two)

I am a scorpio and very nurturing but he again seems like he is lonely but yet soooooo slooooowww -- Its been almost four months and I feel like we are the same place emotionally that we were four months ago -- My concern is we don't have forever -- health is not an issue but 81 is 81 -- Yes he was married but that was many years ago--

Im not worried about being hurt -- just not sure if I can teach an old dog new tricks -- He is a cappy and think he is stuck in his ways -- Hard to figure him out -- cause he does go cold-- but wanted to see if you cap gurus have had experience or thoughts on an old cappy -- Last weekend was great and asked me stay with him 3 times but had a long drive home --
Then all week nothing-- texted him 3 times and left a message once -- needed info for a favor he asked me to do for him -- after last texted expressing him that I missed him and wanted to hear from him-- He texted back -- Got to get up early to go to speaking eng in Texas and will call you when I get back -- Huh? Oh! when wld that be sat sun monday ?

COLD

Love your posts very insightful






WAIT WAIT WAIT......i'm still trying to wrap my head around this. you're fucking an 81 year old man? do his nuts hang low, do they wobble to and fro, can ya tie em in a knot? can ya tie em in a bow??
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Posted by euroar
You know.. I have a similar story to this one..

I was modeling for a show and met a handsome guy that invited me to come out with his friends after the show.
I agreed and took a girlfriend of mine.

It ends up that the handsome man is not single and his friend was flirting with my girlfriend promising her that she can come up to Vegas to work for him.

Until, me the big mouth goes to his friend;

"so obvious you want her...." he answered "no, I really need someone to work for me"...

3 months later I receive a phone call from him that ends up with a 3 hour long distance call.
I did not know how old he was, nor did I care that much.

I end up going to Vegas and working for him and 3 weeks later he comes up to see me from the States.

Turns out into romance, love, passion, relationship, etc.. Everywhere we went, traveled, etc.. we were husband and wife.

The only problem is that I was 18 and he was 46. He looks amazing for his age (around 35), very built, no white hair (he did not color it), but we knew that on the long term it would not work so that's why we split.

If it wasn't for age and me wanting children in the future i'm sure we would still be together.

We still talk and are extremely attracted to one another still till this day. He is everything. 🙂





is he on Megan's Law too?