Have you ever thought about it?

I've always had this feeling whenever I get into a relationship. I feel like I'm happy to start out and would love to be in a relationship, but there's this other side of me nagging me. The other side says that maybe I don't to be in a relationship. It's the only thing that ever stops me in relationships. I don't run away from my problems because only an idiot does that. But me, it feels like I want to do something but something is stopping me from doing it. Maybe I'm to used to being single or just nervousness. What do you think?

Inexperience and conflicting thoughts. A lot of people view relationships as something entirely different then being single, so they panic they will not have the same freedom with their schedule.

I experience this.

Libra Mars
Scorpio Venus

I'm always at war within. If I get close to something being "real" I panic and take 20 steps back, then my venus kicks in and I take 25 steps forward, then 30 steps back..and it goes back and forth, til I have nothing to work with.

I get a little scared to think I'm starting to lose my freedom and independence. Then, I realize I still have them and all is good again. Just go with the flow and if you need time alone, take it. If she doesn't understand that, then she'll never understand you.

Really good thread.

I love dating, but then I inevitably think I should get in a relationship. Because that is what people do. And I want the security of being in a relationship, if I like the person, also, I think I want to pin the other person down.

But then once I get into a relationship, I have this feeling like I need my freedom, like this is not what I signed up for, like I was better off by myself, etc.

I also think part of it is noticing the other person's flaws; coming down from the initial high of infatuation and starting to see the person for who he really is.

So if all goes well, then you should be able to live with the flaws of the other person. If not, then you move on. I just think that's a natural part of dating though, and maybe everyone experiences this.

Cap Venus/ Sag Mars

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Really good thread.

Really good comment. xD

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lmao I agree good thread and good comment.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Why can't caps just be simple and be cool with FWB. I'm down with that. Never done it before, but im down.

I have and we do. It gets old. Eventually there's a desire for more. More of another person, more at stake, etc. This is where i'm at anyway.

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I agree. Plus, it's empty. I tried it. Beised, my scorpio venus can't handle it.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Why can't caps just be simple and be cool with FWB. I'm down with that. Never done it before, but im down.

I have and we do. It gets old. Eventually there's a desire for more. More of another person, more at stake, etc. This is where i'm at anyway.

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Yes. As I said before:
" I love dating, but then I inevitably think I should get in a relationship. Because that is what people do. And I want the security of being in a relationship, if I like the person, also, I think I want to pin the other person down."

Lol.

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Really good thread.

Really good comment. xD

lmao I agree good thread and good comment.

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Glad you guys liked my insightful comment 😉

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Really good thread.

Really good comment. xD

lmao I agree good thread and good comment.

Glad you guys liked my insightful comment 😉

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Yeah, you were so helpful! 😉

Posted by CluelessCancer
Too old for love, but not for a good time.

You're NEVER too old for love!

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Why can't caps just be simple and be cool with FWB. I'm down with that. Never done it before, but im down.

I have and we do. It gets old. Eventually there's a desire for more. More of another person, more at stake, etc. This is where i'm at anyway.

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I would do FWB. But I want something more meaningful than that. And besides, it just feels awkward. What's the point of having sex if you aren't in love? (Just my two cents).

good thread to reference whenever all the other poor saps come onto the cap board wondering WTF

venus in cap
mars in aqua

Posted by CreepyPants
good thread to reference whenever all the other poor saps come onto the cap board wondering WTF

venus in cap
mars in aqua

Can you explain what you mean by "poor saps"?

so this is what goes through the mind of a venus in aqua? do you feel that you'd be more free outside a relationship? a guy has said that to me and i was so bewildered.... as if you're imprisoned at the moment or something...?

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so this is what goes through the mind of a venus in aqua? do you feel that you'd be more free outside a relationship? a guy has said that to me and i was so bewildered.... as if you're imprisoned at the moment or something...?

I guess so. I like relationships and want to be in them. It's just that thing that holds me back that I won't have enough space to breath. I don't cheat, I'm not that stupid to do something as crazy as that. I just tell them it's off and state why I feel that way. It's better than breaking someone's heart by cheating.

yeah no... i'm going to avoid venus in aquas like the plague from now on.

The only thing worse than Venus in Aqua is probably Venus in Gemini.

Posted by Sn1p3r187
The only thing worse than Venus in Aqua is probably Venus in Gemini.

LOL!

Venus in Aqua, dating Venus in Gemini here.

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Posted by CreepyPants
good thread to reference whenever all the other poor saps come onto the cap board wondering WTF

venus in cap
mars in aqua

Can you explain what you mean by "poor saps"?

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those in love and love's wondrous confusion

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yeah no... i'm going to avoid venus in aquas like the plague from now on.

why?

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i think mostly because i have some shortcomings i need to manage first... learning to be patient and stuff because i feel like you'd need that with a venus in aqua. i'm not really a patient person at the moment :/

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Posted by CreepyPants
good thread to reference whenever all the other poor saps come onto the cap board wondering WTF

venus in cap
mars in aqua

Can you explain what you mean by "poor saps"?

those in love and love's wondrous confusion

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Ah! That's a nice poetic answer 🙂