Help this Capricorn!

Have any Capricorn male went through a stage that they were single and uninterested in anyone? I having that experience right now. I am single and shockingly, no girl is catching my eye or gives me that feeling. I am trying to be more outgoing instead of the same surrounding, but its difficult.

After chasing a certain Pisces girl endlessly with no avail, I am so numb. Despite I didn't get her after 6 long months of trying, the chase gave me what I was lacking in my life--passion. I didn't know a girl that was so friendly, beautiful, gentle, and easygoing.

And I not the type to fall in love at whim. Its rare that I even find people I like, but its extremely usual to find a girl I like.

Maybe I need to stop being in soulmate and just find someone that doesn't urk my nerves.

What do yall think?

We don't like Capricorn men much here!! LOL Kidding... ;P I'm a Cap. female and I know what you're talking about though. I can't give anyone else a chance and can't get motivated to date anyone. I'm forcing myself to try but I just keep letting guys down by dropping off and out of contact. You maybe need to take some time and just get over her/it, before getting back out there. why didn't you "get her"? 6 months.. that's not that long...

personally... if i ever feel disenchanted, i know i just need my time away from whatever it was that was numbing to me. Do the things that make YOU happy right now. Dont seek others, seek yourself. Enjoy some frivolity of it pleases you. Rejuve and perhaps without intention you'll meet someone who catches your eye while you are having fun.

I just feel that if I'm trying for something and it's just not working out, beating a dead horse isnt going to help. Painting for example... if I've been working endless hrs on a painting and am stuck at a certain state, the image isn't where I want it to be, I know it's time I took a break and worked on something else, put it away... whatever. Then I can come back to it with 'fresh eyes'

Now, woman... painting... I know arent the same, but my point is if you're despairing, or feel like you've tried every approach, then try giving yourself a rest from that world. you're a cap guy... i know it's hard for cappies to rest when you want something. but you should consider it. stepping back can most certainly be a step forward.

If you don't mind a scorp replying,i'd say your fine and nothings wrong with this picture besides the fact that your abit bothered by rejection from the one you did like....theres plenty of people everyday who sure,they may think this or that persons attrative or get along great with them(the other girls maybe) but aren't actually attracted to them"total package" type situation(like the pisces girl).Could have something to do with the "other" connections not nessecarly something wrong with you.Sounds like a "standing out" girl that you like on more than one level is whats mainly missing.

I say go figure out what you want out of life, then come back when you've emotionally matured and are ready to give..and thats ready to give whole heartedly..

Capgirl:

I don't have a clue why I didn't "get her". I wish I knew. I waited for her assent to make a move, but I never seen that assent.

Hear hear, I agree with those sentiments entirely.

I had a girl who seemed definately interested in me. I did in fact post on here about her, some of you may remember. She seemed perfect at the time, and she left a clear invitation for me to ask her out.

We had been talking about her friend who was having problems with her boyfriend, and she said "Not that I have that problem as I don't have a boyfriend." in a mock sad voice. She was blatently asking me to ask her out, as she was too ladylike to ask me.

A fair point though... girls are [seemingly] constantly vetting and testing men to see how high quality they are, and how dedicated they are to them. By me not stepping up to the plate, despite being given several opportunities, I have made myself look inferior to this girl.

Needless to say, she doesn't give me the time of day anymore, and rolls her eyes when I make converastion with her.

Lesson here is you need to make a move. Each time she drops a hint and you ignore it, the more frustrated she gets and the more inferior you look.

Oh yeah, please do it asap. Don't end up as bitter as I am now. Good man! 😄

Lol @ Capricous..why can't they all think like you..Not act like you (cos well you didn't act did you!) but think like you..make a move!!!!!!

LOL @ SB...you lot are crazy!...people are willing to give you love and you just won't take it...tsk tsk...

Maybe you need to show it more..

I crazy, because that passion I felt while chasing her inspired me to make power moves. The passion inspired me to ask for the raise that I deserved, it inspired me to work overtime for the cash I needed, and it inspired me to be more outgoing. However, its been 3 months since I felt that kind of passion. And now, I'm back to my old, everyday rountine of apathy.

Seems like nature working just fine.... anticipating attention from the opposite sex always brings out the best in each person.

Most motivations in life, even as simple as washing, working hard, learning, performing arts and working out are rooted in sexual attraction.

I read a study by some shrink which showed scientists who were single tended to have breakthroughs quicker than those who had already attracted a mate.

It would seem once you attain your target, and have been with her for a while, ultimately your motivations and work performance shall fall. If she challenges you, and you have to fight to continually impress her, thank her - she will keep your blood pumping and you fighting on in the world.

The inspiration to work hard, demand a raise (potentially facing negative treatment from your employer) and being more assertive are essentially your ways of showing to this girl how you can provide for her and protect her.

It's a bit like the modern day equivilent of the pecking order dating back to caveman times.

So Hollyhood "I crazy, because that passion I felt while chasing her inspired me to make power moves. The passion inspired me to ask for the raise that I deserved, it inspired me to work overtime for the cash I needed, and it inspired me to be more outgoing."

This sort of implies that you used her emotional/uplifting/challenging nature to revive yourself which in turn motivates you to do the things you otherwise would be slow to react to, yet you couldn't give her back what she wants. How is this fair?

"This sort of implies that you used her emotional/uplifting/challenging nature to revive yourself which in turn motivates you to do the things you otherwise would be slow to react to, yet you couldn't give her back what she wants. How is this fair?"

I don't know if its fair. but thats want happened.