Hmm, is he testing me?

Hey y'all I've posted before and here I am again with another question!

So me and Cappy have been consistently talking, like pretty much everyday. Of course through out the course of a day the topic of sex will come up. Even though we are "talking" (being friends first..what have you) I told him that I understand that while he's talking to me, he may sleep with other women and I'm not going to give him flack for it because for 1. he's not my man (yet) and 2. I'm not gonna be giving up the coochie anytime soon so if he needs to handle some business he needs to do that.

Well he's told me multiple times that he hasn't had sex in a few months and no longer sleeps with the women he was sleeping with. He said he would wait for me until I was ready..well I was honest and said that it will probably be a long while. I made a promise to myself that the next time I have sex it's going to be in the confines of a relationship. Of course dealing with a Cap man that could take forever lol.

But I notice he jokes a lot and says little things like oh I can just swing by the house real quick, or one day he text me about 4 in the morning (because he was supposed to call me earlier that night and fell asleep) and mentioned something about booty call hrs. Pretty much every time he hints at things like that or directly says stuff like that I told him that I don't get down like that and I'm not interested in fwb. He tells me that he doesn't care if we have sex or not..if he wanted to have sex he could just call one of his females that would "help" him out, but he doesn't want to. Uh is he testing me to see if I'm easy or is he truly trying to get me to go to bed with him this early in the game?

First of all, he's a man so he's def. lying when he's trying to play it off like he isn't interested in sleeping with you. That may not be all he's interested in, but nonetheless, if he's attracted to you, then yes he wants to sleep with you

That's what all men do. In the same way that women naturally saw "awwww" when there's a cute baby around, men naturally wanna screw the women that they are attracted to & interested in. That's nothing to be upset about.

Secondly, understand that a lot of women play the "I'm just not ready/innocent" card but end up bent over like a stack of books 2 days later. Lots of women front like they are above having sex too early, but end up giving it up anyways. Men know this, so don't be so surprised that he's somewhat testing you. And he should b/c actions speak way louder than some women swearing she's a certain way.

I'm all for these kinds of tests b/c a man has just as much a right to see if the person is just all talk, just like women use different/similar tests on men all the time.

Now if it gets to a point where you've proven yourself & passed the test, & yet he's still testing you, then that is a sign that he's not so serious about you & is just "gaming" you to see how long it'll be before you finally give in. Him constantly testing you means that sex is more on his mind than other things. It's like dude, do 1 or 2 tests, get your answer, then STOP lol

Thirdly, I suggest that you still be open to & prepared for him still sleeping with other women. Of course he's gonna tell you that he's not sexing anybody else. He believes that that's what other women wanna hear. Women swear it doesn't bother them, but men know better. The min. a chick starts catching feelings, all of the sudden she gets upset. Men know better

If he's still sleeping with other women, of course he can hold out on having sex with you. If other women are meeting his sexual needs then of course he'll seem like a great guy for waiting a whole year for you lol when the truth is that he only waited so long b/c other women were filling that void

Very rarely will a guy hold out for a lonnnnnng time & become celibate all for 1 woman, if he's not in love with her or committed to her. Hell, it's hard enough for the men who are in love & committed to hold out!

Posted by krysrenee7

Thirdly, I suggest that you still be open to & prepared for him still sleeping with other women. Of course he's gonna tell you that he's not sexing anybody else. He believes that that's what other women wanna hear. Women swear it doesn't bother them, but men know better. The min. a chick starts catching feelings, all of the sudden she gets upset. Men know better

I made it pretty clear that I fully understand he'll sleep with other women, I even suggested he get some from those other women to help him out cuz I'm not ready for all of that yet lol. Also as far as the sex talk, after the 3rd time of bringing up something pertaining to it I made it clear again that that's not what I'm about and we should stop talking if we're on a different page. The sex talk for the most part stopped. It's just recently he's started up again with the jokes. It's not too often, but still I remind him of what I'm looking for and that I'm not interested in just a sexual relationship and if that's all he is seeking he can exit stage left lol. I'm actually all for him filling that void for a year with other women, because that gives us a chance to build a friendship and get to know one another before we jumping into anything. I told him that I wanted to take things slowly and he agreed. I refuse to be a jump off or to be seen that way! Especially with him because he is a good one!