we are long distance and we are going through a rough patch. he won't call or communicate and neither will i. honestly, i am angry and upset and i want to tell him why although i am sure he already knows. i don't want to call him just to bring this up. i like to keep the peace, but he needs to know where i stand. i am sure my silence is saying a lot and i know that is why he is hesitant to contact me as well. we are both stubborn! thoughts?
Communication is key but, if hes not calling you then it means hes got a gripe or some gripes to go over with you too. And is really probably not tryn to hear what you gotta say unless you agree to cordially hear his piece also.
Id txt first always...just to avoid the dialtone in case.
If he texts back then ya'll are in the ballgame. If not, then......well then theres your final answer.
And you didnt even have to speak a word. Clean break to me. Unless you crave resolution, reconciliation, closure etc.
Always try to not be stubborn and reconcile. But to do this you both must be able to be objective and non-prideful.
Everything is easy to talk about when you just want the truth and dont care about being wrong, in this way you show that youre for the good of the relationship and just lack clarity at times. Not a problem. Open your minds to the FACTS, and go get to the bottom.
Its amazing how people cant simply do this.
In our hearts we all know whats right and wrong bc you cant stop feelings...If youre with someone who cant "feel" ya and adjust accordingly....then you have to bounce. You gotta do the same though.
AND DONT LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLE!! haha
I always think...
What did I not do to prevent this? What could they have done to help themselves? Would I want to be in your shoes.....etc
Theres more introspective questions but im not listing them all
How about starting off with WHY DID YOU DO WHAT YOU DID? Then they have to justify it. If they cant, or just argue back and point fingers, insult, whatever, then you have a problem on your hands. Solve the problem. Now you know what that person is about (control, blamegame, insecure, power playa, bickering, the works. This moment is pivotal because its going to direct, influence, and mar every other situation afterward. If you lose and youre right, then the rest of the journey is just going to be a plain lie. With you losing all the time when youre right. Ive been through this, but so I dont get any bad comments.......THIS IS ONLY MY EXPERIENCED OPINION.