I Told This Cap I love Him !

We had spent only 4 days together but he introduced me to all his friends and he was acting like my boyfriend, it was just perfect! Next time we met, I observed him flirting with another girl so I told him I was in love with him, and we wouldn't see each other again because I realized he didn't feel as strongly about me.

I know it was way too soon, but he kind of liked it. Although he didn't say that he loved me back, he was still acting like my boyfriend, trying to change my mind, that we should keep seeing each other. Then I texted him 2 days later that it was over, the spark was gone. He didn't really believe it. 4 days later on my birthday he called me that evening and wanted to meet. I said he should have called earlier. 2 days later he called again to meet. I gave the same excuse.

Do you think I'm acting like an idiot ? Am I expecting too much too soon ?

btw I'm a scorpio sun and we have great chemistry in the bedroom 😉

I'm gona go out on a limb here and just say *Calm the Fuck Down*...

You've known him just a little while, then pull out the "I love you" card when he interacts with another female? That's a bit rough and sounds emotionally unstable to me.
You offer love and act jealous /then pull away and text the spark is gone, he pursues - you respond, you withhold - he responds, I mean, at what point are you both going to just grow up and put your cards on the table?

How old are you both if you don't mind me asking?
Capricorn men are amazing, and Scorpio has fantastic potential with this pairing (some say) so relax a little and try to slow it down a tad.
I'll be honest, he sounds keen! If a guy behaved the way you did with me though I'd be turned off a little personally... but that's just moi.
Good luck =)

Lol guys, I'm not sticking around for the sex ! 😄 I'm not sticking around at all, my first reaction was to forget him completely. Then I realized, we only met a week ago, am I overanalyzing his actions ?

Wagtail- thanks for believing in us 🙂 we are 23-24. We both had long-term relationships before.

Tigercap, you are right about summer romance - she is also inquiring about the heart of a Virgo in the other threads... so maybe not too much thought needs to be put into this...

"I observed him flirting with another girl so I told him I was in love with him, and we wouldn't see each other again because I realized he didn't feel as strongly about me."
Weird time to say that. Please don't tell me you tried to make him jealous.

"trying to change my mind, that we should keep seeing each other. Then I texted him 2 days later that it was over, the spark was gone."
&
"Do you think I'm acting like an idiot ? Am I expecting too much too soon ?
btw I'm a scorpio sun and we have great chemistry in the bedroom "

Sigh, my first thought?
GET YOUR ACT STRAIGHT!

You love him, you hate him, you push him away and you still expect him to come back?
Any normal guy would run, or at least be angry.
The ones who keep trying? You hurt his ego and he is chasing to catch you.
That great chemistry in the bedroom...

Where did you meet him? This sounds like a summer romance story to me.
Other than that I agree with what Wagtail said.

yeh beggars I think you may want to reconsider investing in the Cap if you are not serious...

I mean, they are not to be trifled with and he sounds decent, maybe just ask him if he is on the same page uncommitted wise and move on.

Posted by beggarsblanket
Lol guys, I'm not sticking around for the sex ! 😄 I'm not sticking around at all, my first reaction was to forget him completely. Then I realized, we only met a week ago, am I overanalyzing his actions ?

Wagtail- thanks for believing in us 🙂 we are 23-24. We both had long-term relationships before.

Also, just a heads up, I personally feel it is not his actions which need analyzing but your own,
I would definitely have a long think about my own behavior if I was announcing love one moment and then cutting off the next... I mean, I dont see the point -but I understand it's all in good fun so no worries.

Ok guys, the Virgo was months ago, he called me tonight and I was just wondering about his motive.

I'm in love with the Cap !

it's not a summer romance. We met at a party a few months ago. Then he showed up at a Hallooween party (he knew I would be there) and came right up and well, ended up spending the following 4 days together !

I just felt over-emotional and so scared because the more I spend time with him, I'm more in love 😢

Posted by beggarsblanket
Ok guys, the Virgo was months ago, he called me tonight and I was just wondering about his motive.

I'm in love with the Cap !

In that case, make sure you know what you want from him before you take this any further.
I enjoy spending time with someone I am interested in as well but it will take a very long time to say it back.

Slow down and take an honest look at his actions instead of idealizing him in your head as you are doing right now. And calm down. If you keep going at this pace you will only end up hurting yourself.

okay, even on here I am getting conflicting messages -

"Lol guys, I'm not sticking around for the sex ! I'm not sticking around at all,"
then

"I'm in love with the Cap ! "

I can tell you right now, regardless of Star Sign - this does not resemble "love" to me...

Simply put, you're screwed.

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Posted by beggarsblanket
Then I realized, we only met a week ago

Posted by beggarsblanket
We met at a party a few months ago. Then he showed up at a Hallooween party (he knew I would be there) and came right up and well, ended up spending the following 4 days together !

So which was it?

Troll or a horribly stupid person.

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I hate to say it, but this occurred to me too... ouch...

Wagtail- I haven't met him after questioning his behaviour ( flirting with the other girl). I want to meet him like mad but I'm trying to calm down and realize what I want from this and what he can offer.

We 'first' met at a party a few months ago. I had a bf then, so nothing happened.

Then , we met again last Halloween , and this happened.

Cool, just remember you got plenty of time... Enjoy!!

Did anyone else think "flake" when they read this?

OP you're acting stupid and immature. Talk to him about your feelings, your actions and the thought process behind them. Explain yourself. Otherwise its a stupid game which he will tire of quickly.

By the way, a cap most likely won't say I love you for a long time unless he has his moon or venus in an impulsive sign.

That must be embarrassing as fuck

And shut the Virgo down now! If you're flattered by the attention while you dangle carrots in front of the Cap -BAD MOVE

Posted by truecap
Did anyone else think "flake" when they read this?

I was thinking something a whole lot worse. Had to tone down the first draft a bit.

Posted by Synapse
SOMETHING TO NOTE: ACTING LIKE YOU'RE DATING DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE DATING AND BOTH OF YOU ARE FREE TO DO WHAT YOU'D LIKE. You didn't make anything official.

Exactly, first you make it official and then maybe I love you. For next time, keep it in mind.

I would have never said it so soon, but I had to tell him and he found it cute and it wasn't awkward.

It's just that my IQ drops when I think about him.

Posted by beggarsblanket
I would have never said it so soon, but I had to tell him and he found it cute and it wasn't awkward.

It's just that my IQ drops when I think about him.

Ah ok so what's the problem?

I'm used to relationships where the guy calls me everyday and asks me to be his gf right away.

Are Caps like that or do they take their time first ?

Some of yall are so mean smh.

Yes, I think caps are like that when they are interested and pursuing. They like challenges. Are you a challenge?

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Yes, I think caps are like that when they are interested and pursuing. They like challenges. Are you a challenge?

She's already proved she's not. Just terribly wishy washy, which isn't a challenge, just a headache.

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The benefit of the doubt...

As a scorpio, (or as a girl), when you tell someone you love them, it's up to that person to do anything with you !

Now this guy is very caring and kind, and I could still be a challenge. I know he was jealous of me the week before, even when I was talking on the phone he came and kissed me every time ! Or when I was talking to another guy he did the same.

I did something similar to a Capricorn before. I was too in love and too proud to give in so our relationship ended and despite his attempts, I couldn't handle my emotions so I just wanted it to be over. 😢

So have you guys never been overwhelmed by your emotions at the beginning of a relationship ?

And are you all Capricorns ? 😛

Posted by beggarsblanket
So have you guys never been overwhelmed by your emotions at the beginning of a relationship ?

And are you all Capricorns ? 😛

Yes, I have been there that's why I can give you an opinion. Keep those emotions in check for someone who really cares. I am not a cap but I have dealt with them.

Posted by Synapse
I'm a Cap..

Even if I'm overwhelmed, I keep them in check.

High five

Maybe I will just tell him he got me confused and I'm dating someone else.

and we'll meet again months later or something, if it's meant to be 😛

Posted by beggarsblanket
Maybe I will just tell him he got me confused and I'm dating someone else.

and we'll meet again months later or something, if it's meant to be 😛

Why do you have to tell him anything, did he ask?

Why do you say that?

I'm confused about this Cap guy. I just wanted some insight on how they would react or think in such a situation.

I just don't know what to do next time he calls me.

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Posted by beggarsblanket
Maybe I will just tell him he got me confused and I'm dating someone else.

and we'll meet again months later or something, if it's meant to be 😛

APC, this is why I don't give people like her the benefit of the doubt.

On another note.. troll, again.

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I give up...

I give up too

Posted by beggarsblanket
I give up too

Awww listen, when he calls let him talk, you don't have to settle anything. Let him lead. What's bugging you? That he hasn't said he loved you?

Well he could be a bit more aggressive.

I agree, it's up to him now I guess..

Posted by Impulsv
Ur behavior is excactly what people complain about scorps. Your all over the place. Rule number if u want stressless relationships say what u mean. Don't make up
Shit like I don't love u anymore the spark dead now, I'm dating someone. When u want him. That's game playing n ur complication shot when it doesn't have to be.

+1 I notice some water signs do that, makes them seem very unstable

Posted by beggarsblanket
Maybe I will just tell him he got me confused and I'm dating someone else.
and we'll meet again months later or something, if it's meant to be 😛

Stop the childish, immature, game playing little Scorp.
It's not sexy. It's not mysterious. And it certainly isn't alluring.
He'll see right through it.
You're not 16 anymore.

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Posted by Impulsv
Ur behavior is excactly what people complain about scorps. Your all over the place. Rule number if u want stressless relationships say what u mean. Don't make up shit like I don't love u anymore the spark dead now, I'm dating someone. When u want him. That's game playing n ur complication shot when it doesn't have to be.

+1 I notice some water signs do that, makes them seem very unstable

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He called again but I didn't hear it so I have to call him back now.

I think I'm back to being a cool girl. What if he knows how I feel, maybe he just thought it was cute afterall.

I doubt he thought it was cute.

If you don't be careful you're going to be labeled as one of those crazy psycho girls that guys will screw, until they get their fill, then disappear on when someone classy and stable comes along.

Ok, from the phone call I can say he still cares about me and he doesn't think that I'm nuts. He is so cool 😢

What about pride ? Do Caps really try to impress others by how hard they work ? He likes talking about his achievements at work.

I like how you're ignoring the feedback...

Not.

You see people like this all the time, they are only here to vent and read anything that is agreeable with them and what they want to hear. The ones that point out the negatives the things they aren't willing to hear they completely ignore...normally they are the nutters and come back time and time again with new stories and/or new love interests and the same story!

Why is it they do this

Yeh you may 'love' each other after 4 days but theres still the rest of life you both have to get to. Maybe it would be best if you go your separate ways and meet with other people

Not all but some of the advice was good, thanks.

I will try to be cool if I meet him again.

Maybe it's because I wasn't able to share all the details that made you go wtf

After I told him I loved him, he was really sweet. But I expected at least a call the next day 2 days. He was rather cold, didn't call or text. This drove me nuts and so I was like, let's don't meet again, the spark is gone. He asked ' do you think we will never want to see each other again?' I said yes. But he doesn't believe me ! And has been caling me. Not just for sex, he wants to hang out, too, but I know he will never want to talk about feelings.

He saw me in my most vulnerable state so he knows I'm mad about him, and I feel like he is playing with my heart. So no matter how much I want to see him again, I'm trying to figure out what I want and what he wants.