Love me or love me not.

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sowhatnow
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I'm a Taurus and I dated a Capricorn. We've been going on for 1 year 5 months. He broke off in september over text. He has a lot of reasons. But a week before the breakup he told me that his parents does not approve of us being serious and they would disown him if he is. He didnt tell me any of it before. He said he thinks it's better if we seperate, but I told him to wait and he did. He also said he wasn't sure of his feelings. He also said I'm a distraction from his studies. Then a week after that, we had a fight. Not so big. Was just about picking a day to meet up and talk bout this. I pushed it a little and snap, he broke up with me. But next he said it's temporary, saying it's just so he'd take a break from love. And also to try to miss me. I let it be but then I got a bit desperate and stuff. But I stopped and let him be on his own.

But then he became wild, uncontrollable. Looking at girls a lot, flirting online, instead of studying for his finals he's out with his friends at the cyber cafe. Prom's coming up and he's claiming he likes this girl and is asking her out. She can't go with him but he even dreamt of making out with her. He loves it. Then, I don't know what he did to my letters to him when we were together, but he gave away a turtle plushie he got for me. I didn't want it cause it's costly and he knows a don't like expenive gifts, even if i like turtles. But I appreciated it and named it our 3rd kid along with other two plushies we both have for each other. He even bought me the same phone model as him cause mine was taken away, making us having couple phones. But he changed his phone already. Recently his blog says that he won't miss his exes, but will miss the memories. 6 exes fyi.

Then he posted bout his recent empty bank account saying "Then there was my girlfriend. Call me a romantic fool all you want, but it did seem rational at that time. Buying stuff and giving her phone top-ups. Bad move too. To describe my situation now based on a chess simile, I not only lost my queen, I lost all my pawns too. And the stupid horse could only do an L-turn." Honestly I never asked him to buy anything on me or spend on me. The only thing I like him to spend on me of is Lays Salt and Vinegar Chips. Our favourite. Now I'm confused. I havent contacted him since the end of september. Then on January he's moving to the other side of the country for college. His finals just finished so should I make a move?
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sowhatnow
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Posted by M
Is there anything else to add to your post?

It doesn't seem like a good idea. Plus he's going off to college, even if the stars aligned I don't see an ldr panning out. He's on his own path right now, and it's pretty well diverged from yours by the sounds of it. He will keep the memories, trust that.



I know I should just let go. But I cant help to think that this is how it ends. If I can't get back with him I at least want to feel his love again.
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Posted by StillWater
This is why being with a Capricorn hurts so much. THey give you the world so when they take it back, you are left so empty.



the thing i liked the most about my break up with a capricorn was how unpainful and easy it was. we took a few months and went back to being the best of friends.

i don't see what all the drama is on this board with male capricorns being satan.
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Now if only I could experience this as a Cap female with a Taurus male. It seems like they cut off all ties and you cant go back to nothing, well if they didnt get what they wanted ill assume.
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sowhatnow
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Posted by champranger
Doesn't it sound like he is pushing you away? Like doing things that he thinks would make you hate him, make you think he is a jerk? Perhaps he liked you but his parents didn't. Perhaps due to moving away to college (if he starts in January, I would think he would have gotten his acceptance letter already in August or September).



He is pushing me away. It's what he intend to do cause he couldn't stand being the one hurt throughout the relationship. My fault I didn't know how to comfort him. I'm bad at feelings and communication ._. And no, not exactly. He's just from there and he's just you know, moving back to his hometown. For his family and college.
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sowhatnow
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Posted by champranger
Doesn't it sound like he is pushing you away? Like doing things that he thinks would make you hate him, make you think he is a jerk? Perhaps he liked you but his parents didn't. Perhaps due to moving away to college (if he starts in January, I would think he would have gotten his acceptance letter already in August or September).



He is pushing me away. It's what he intend to do cause he couldn't stand being the one hurt throughout the relationship. My fault I didn't know how to comfort him. I'm bad at feelings and communication ._.



Can you expand some here? It seems like you know a great deal about where he's coming. What do you think he feels as of now towards you or thinks about the state of things? (I ask a lot of questions, pardon)

I meant wait until he's settled into his new routine post moving and into college. That gives time for everything to diffuse and your approach will seem less pushy and more in the spirit of reconnecting as friends.
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I think he just wants to drop everything and clear his mind. Ever since he moved here, he'd been having responsibilities and stress from the school. He had stress from his parents bout me too. But it was just brief. And I really am ot clear of his thoughts of me now. He's forgetting me that's all.
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sowhatnow
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Posted by lnana04
It seems you are leaving something out. You said he had his reasons for the breakup, what are they? Then you say you know he's annoyed by you and know he doesnt want drama...what does that mean?

Anyway Caps are wired a little different. He can miss you and still love you but that doesnt mean being together.



His reasons:
- no spark
- tired of relationships
- parents disagree
Those are the main ones

And now he just threw away my letters great
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Nala
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Something seems a little off here. Do you know how to post his chart?

This behavior is very unCap like. Making posts about money, especially not having any (unCaplike)
Telling you he threw away letters (unCaplike)
Posting about exes

This all seems very dramatic and I do not know one single dramatic Capricorn. It's just not who there are. In fact, I think they hate drama.

I have been with one on and off for nearly 4 years now. He is also Muslim and I could not see him doing any of the things you mentioned. He is the most private person I know. Just look on the cap board. I mean we know the people who post there but we really DON'T know the people who post there.

Maybe it's age. There is nothing you can do. The phrase "it's like moving mountains" had to be talking about Capricorns.

Post the chart you might get more help.