Need help with ex capricorn boyfriend

Just need feed back from male capricorns and even female capricorns on whether or not this man cared and loved me or was just playing me for a year and a half. Met on dating site and talked for hours the first week. Then we talked at least an hour or more every night and some through out the day. We were just friends for the first 6 months and had no clue that he even liked me. He would let me know that he would come clear over to my apartment to see me and I would play with my dog and I had no clue that he was even staring at me. He was always there for me when I needed him. As I was also for him. Around the 6 month mark it became more. I do remember having a little quarrel and he said that he waited 6 months to be with me and that should mean something. I started to go to his house every weekend from the time he would get off of work till he would go to work on Monday. He let me borrow a large sum of money and didn't ask a question only how much and when do you need it. But he also had a dark side to him. He would say things to me that wasn't normal and even did something that most women would never forgive but I did because I truly thought he was sorry. I asked why he didn't ever introduce me to any of his friends and he said because he really didn't have any. Then I asked about why not his family. Then we kinda got into it and I told him I was done because I felt like some kind of a secret and hung up on him. The next morning he called me which I wasn't going to answer but I did and he told me to get ready because he was taking me to Sunday dinner to meet his family. I told him that no it was ok but he said if he had to he would come and get me and make me go and he said he had already talked to his mom and she wanted to meet me. So I went. He has told me that he really cared about me and didn't want to think about me not being in his life. He told me one night with a smile on his face that he was addicted to me, that he tried to fight it but no matter what he did it still won. I just told him addiction wasn't a good thing. I really don't know if he was meaning truly addicted or that he loved me. But at the end he said some pretty mean things to me, some scary things. Things I wouldn't think anyone would say no matter how mad you might be at someone but maybe that is just me. But i got tired of hearing him yell etc at me so i let him know in didn't have to listen to it and hung up on him. And about an hour later he texted me and said i know you got the same text that i just got from his ex wife and that he was scared and he wanted me to call him. But i didnt and called me but I let my sister answer the phone because I didn't care to talk to him after they way he just talked to me. I just told her to say I wasn't there. Then about 3 am I get a text from him saying, that if I truly care then call, so that is what I did. He went on to apologize about everything he said to me and how he treated me. But he said he didn't remember what he said because he saw red. But he has cried in front of me a few different times and again on the phone. He said how he loved to see me smile and was crying as he was saying stuff. But after talking for about 3 hours I asked him to let me know how his ex wife was doing and he said he would. And we even agreed to meet that Saturday and talk in person. But all I received was a text saying, she is going to be ok, we're still in love and going to try and make it work, I will never contact you again, goodbye then my name. My heart sank. He chose a woman that wanted nothing to do with him and cut him down every way possible and didn't want nothing to do with him until she found out about me. He did tell me that he was scared that she would do what she did if she found out that we were still talking and being he is the one that found her he was scared she would do it again. So I don't know if he chose her because he was scared that she would donit again but suceed this time or did he even love me or care a out me to begin with? But he did end up calling me Aug 2105, I did answer but I said I believe you dialed the wrong number. And there was silence so in said hello twice then I was able to hear men talking but he left his phone on for 13 mins before hung it up. I did text him and let him know that I know he didn't butt dial me because my number wouldn't be in his phone let alone his recent contacts plus his ex wife probably wouldn't like it to well. But I also said if he would like to talk that I would be up to that but never heard back from him. Except for the Sept the same year he was at my apartment complex but he never did come to my door and knock. So I don't have a clue as to what I was to him. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Also I have been thinking about going to his house to let him know I am sorry for anything that I have done that hurt his feelings but I don't knkw how to go about it. Can anyone give me any pointers? I'm just scared he might yell at me like he did the last day we were together. I hope he wouldn't and hope he was able to forgive and forget just like i have . Thank you for all your help. ?

Okay so 1, you thought he was over his ex wife and 2 she tried to hurt herself to be with him, he went to the wife instead of you, and your emotions are high right now.

Third sometimes people go back to their wives.

Fourth don't invest in someone who is still attached to his wife in any way. Or unavailable.

Third this sucks can't help it but fall in love with him, but you seem to recognize the red flags early on and you wanted to make it work.

But sometimes this are out of our control and you must stay strong, move on, and don't contact ever either. Stay single, go do something productive, and your lucky on a few points.

Why are you waiting of him? when you are going to leave and do better, and find someone better?

Don't you dare go over there and apologize to that man! He hurt you bad I can tell. He said things to you that you said you would never say to another person. Believe me I have a bad habit of forgetting things that people have done to me and they have only taken advantage of me later because of it. If you apologize he will forever be expelled of all wrong and everything turns out to be your fault instead of mutual blame. if you really must hear him out I say leave it the way it is right now because you told him that if he wanted to talk you would be there. Let him come to you hear what he has to say but be quiet most of the time and study his ass. And never forget that he went back to his ex-wife and he will go back again if you take him back. Right now he is in pining mode so you are at the forefront of his mind, but what happens when you stopping being at the forefront of his mind? Handle everything realistically. I normally don't say that because I act off of how I feel but you have done very well with standing up for yourself so far don't let that go don't go in defensive but go in with quiet open ears! Also what is his Mars and Venus?

Honestly I don't know really what any of his signs ate except capricorn and I only think his moon is libra because of where I believe him to be born. I guess I can look back at that chart and see what it says.

I just figured if I went to talk to him it would give me closure because of how he would treat me. If he treated me like a human then yes he still might not be a good person but maybe he has grown a little, but if he was to be mean and yell at me then I would knkw exactly what he truly is and my heart would be able to heal either way. There was a lot that happened that I didn't write for many different reasons. I just would like to know if he ever cared about me or did he use me the entire time and I figured that other capricorns would kinda know by the things that I wrote. Because I sure in heck dont truly know but that is because how he treated me when he was very angry at me but when he calmed down later that evening he told me that I had to know that he cared about me. But that is the thing, I dont....

Why not? I'm not going there to try and him back but to get the closure I need to help my heart heal, I'm not even going to bring up anything from the past because it take two to have a relationship and also two to make it fall apart and I know I did wrong also so I need to do this to move on. It will habe to do with the way he treats me that will give me the closure. Treats me like a human then I know he was just a man that has some issues. Treats me like trash then I know him to be the man that my gut tells me he is but I don't want to believe because my heart tells me otherwise. But either way I get closure.

I do hope they were able to work things out and are getting along better now then when they did when they were married because he told me all they did was argue and a lot of it was his fault.

To be honest I miss my best friend more then anything. And I don't know if I will ever be able to give that to someone else because the pain is to bad to bare.

But thank you for letting me know that he cared about me. It has helped more then you think.

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Why not? I'm not going there to try and him back but to get the closure I need to help my heart heal, I'm not even going to bring up anything from the past because it take two to have a relationship and also two to make it fall apart and I know I did wrong also so I need to do this to move on. It will habe to do with the way he treats me that will give me the closure. Treats me like a human then I know he was just a man that has some issues. Treats me like trash then I know him to be the man that my gut tells me he is but I don't want to believe because my heart tells me otherwise. But either way I get closure.

I do hope they were able to work things out and are getting along better now then when they did when they were married because he told me all they did was argue and a lot of it was his fault.

To be honest I miss my best friend more then anything. And I don't know if I will ever be able to give that to someone else because the pain is to bad to bare.

But thank you for letting me know that he cared about me. It has helped more then you think.

I'm kind of in a similar situation with a cap I used to date. We agreed to be friends and hang out. But I only want to hang out with him because I miss him. I know if I do see him, I'm going to be very sad and emotional again. However, it's hard to resist that urge. It's not a good idea for either of us to chase after someone who doesn't want to be in a committed relationship with us. But I don't blame you if you do decide to see him again. Just be prepared to feel sad and upset! It won't end well 😢

I don't believe it would be rude and if he was to ask me to leave I would. I don't see how you say he already gave me closure when we talked for a good 3 hours and he told me a lot of things, like we would meet that sat, to him being afraid his ex wife would do it again and he didnt want to be responsible of she did. If he did go back to her because he didn't want to take the chance in her trying to donit again well I can understand that.

I figured that if I was to get on a forum about a specific zodiac sign that it could give advice as to whether or not he loved and cared about me by things that I wrote.

Yes I know it should be obvious but I haven't been in but one relationship that was for 24yrs and I was 16 at the time. I dated one guy for 3 months and then I was with this capricorn man for a year and a half and he knew more about me then my ex of 24yrs did.

I woke up in the middle of the night because I felt something touching my face and when I opened my eyes it was him touching my face and hair and watching me sleep. He has done this a few times that I know of.

I asked him the next day on the phone after he left why would he be watching me sleep and he got all tongue tied and was like I don't know I think your pretty is there something wrong with that? I said no, I was just wondering and changed the subject.

He told me as he held me that I reminded him of his mom. This is before I got to meet her but I remember thinking is that a good thing or a bad thing. But he just had a smile on his face.

I don't know, there are just so many things that he said and did that could go either way on whether or not he cared or loved me.

And I don't think I would get hurt all over again just from getting closure. Yes it might hurt if he treats me badly but there is no way it will make me hurt all over again or hurt even worse. Actually it will help me heal because I will see the real him.

Hasn't anyone been so conflicted about someone they loved so much because of things that have happened, such as things that they have said and things that they have done and things that they have told you and things that you have seen when you were with that person?

Who knows, maybe I'm different, naive or even stupid because I don't want to see a person as a bad person unless I know for sure. I wish I wasn't like this, I wish I didn't care about people, I wish I could treat people like that have done to me and that is to forget about them as if they never existed but unfortunately that isn't me so that is why I am here......