Carolz
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Negative Feelings All Around
You cannot put your faith in any.other people. You put your faith in God and yourself. People will always let you down.
Posted by KittenLaRouge
You cannot put your faith in any.other people. You put your faith in God and yourself. People will always let you down.
I pretty much agree with this.
On the other hand, keep in mind that people can't read your mind so if you need some support, ask for it.
When it comes to being able to count on people I never expect anything back and I use my gut feeling when it comes to deciding when enough is enough. Must admit to being pretty tolerant, but when the line is passed, it's passed.
It takes time to heal. I do think you may be worried unnecessarily, though. I am willing to promise you that a lot will happen during these times of your life - exciting things. Have faith.
It takes time to heal. I do think you may be worried unnecessarily, though. I am willing to promise you that a lot will happen during these times of your life - exciting things. Have faith.
For the first time in my life I asked my leo friend for help and in clear words that I need her right now and you guys know what she did was she forgot to call me back because she was busy talking to her boy friend . It seems like I am the stupid one waiting her to call me.
Even after that she didn't asked me back again what was the reason or if I need her or not. It was so hurtful for me because I have even given her priority on my ex (when we were in relation). If ever she needed me I got some excuse from him and get to her as soon as I can.
Seems she passed your line...?
I doesnt seem to me a fair dealof friendship anymore
That isn't a fair deal of a friendship. She sounds far too childish and insensitive to provide you with a satisfying friendship.
What can I do to heal this as soon as possible ?
I honestly think it feels like you're on the right track and there are no quick fixes - but it will pass.
Keep yourself busy, yo.
Focus on getting ready for school, dabble with a hobby, anything to keep you busy.
I'm going through this atm with the lovely "your parent died? Oh, that's just too real and a downer for me to handle. I'm out" response from "friends" of mine.
Not too surprised with some because they showed serious character flaws ages ago that told me they'd do something like this. Doesn't make it any less maddening because it's just fucked up and selfish to do.
So I just keep busy doing stuff. Been working on the house and gradually working on handling all my mom's personal belongings, dabbling a bit in my photography hobby, etc. Like you, I'm fine with doing my own thing, but because I've been preoccupied with things, I don't really think much of these flaky pieces of shit.
In regard to your Leo friend, it doesn't surprise me. I've noticed that some people who are fixed signs will essentially abandon friends when they get into a relationship. Nobody else matters except the dick they're riding. It's sad. You can't just ditch and neglect friends because you're in a relationship. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. I get the whole honeymoon thing, but when you start screwing over friends for a relationship, good luck finding them when/if that relationship goes south.
In regard to the concern about making new friends, just let things happen. As you get to know them, you'll start to pick up on characteristics that they will/won't be the reliable/self absorbed type. It'll give you an idea of what kind of expectations to have with these individuals. All I can say is look back over the history of your two friendships and see what kind of things about your friends would have been telltale that they aren't reliable and self absorbed.
Focus on getting ready for school, dabble with a hobby, anything to keep you busy.
I'm going through this atm with the lovely "your parent died? Oh, that's just too real and a downer for me to handle. I'm out" response from "friends" of mine.
Not too surprised with some because they showed serious character flaws ages ago that told me they'd do something like this. Doesn't make it any less maddening because it's just fucked up and selfish to do.
So I just keep busy doing stuff. Been working on the house and gradually working on handling all my mom's personal belongings, dabbling a bit in my photography hobby, etc. Like you, I'm fine with doing my own thing, but because I've been preoccupied with things, I don't really think much of these flaky pieces of shit.
In regard to your Leo friend, it doesn't surprise me. I've noticed that some people who are fixed signs will essentially abandon friends when they get into a relationship. Nobody else matters except the dick they're riding. It's sad. You can't just ditch and neglect friends because you're in a relationship. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. I get the whole honeymoon thing, but when you start screwing over friends for a relationship, good luck finding them when/if that relationship goes south.
In regard to the concern about making new friends, just let things happen. As you get to know them, you'll start to pick up on characteristics that they will/won't be the reliable/self absorbed type. It'll give you an idea of what kind of expectations to have with these individuals. All I can say is look back over the history of your two friendships and see what kind of things about your friends would have been telltale that they aren't reliable and self absorbed.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Keep yourself busy, yo.
Focus on getting ready for school, dabble with a hobby, anything to keep you busy.
I'm going through this atm with the lovely "your parent died? Oh, that's just too real and a downer for me to handle. I'm out" response from "friends" of mine.
Not too surprised with some because they showed serious character flaws ages ago that told me they'd do something like this. Doesn't make it any less maddening because it's just fucked up and selfish to do.
So I just keep busy doing stuff. Been working on the house and gradually working on handling all my mom's personal belongings, dabbling a bit in my photography hobby, etc. Like you, I'm fine with doing my own thing, but because I've been preoccupied with things, I don't really think much of these flaky pieces of shit.
In regard to your Leo friend, it doesn't surprise me. I've noticed that some people who are fixed signs will essentially abandon friends when they get into a relationship. Nobody else matters except the dick they're riding. It's sad. You can't just ditch and neglect friends because you're in a relationship. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. I get the whole honeymoon thing, but when you start screwing over friends for a relationship, good luck finding them when/if that relationship goes south.
In regard to the concern about making new friends, just let things happen. As you get to know them, you'll start to pick up on characteristics that they will/won't be the reliable/self absorbed type. It'll give you an idea of what kind of expectations to have with these individuals. All I can say is look back over the history of your two friendships and see what kind of things about your friends would have been telltale that they aren't reliable and self absorbed.
Omg! You're mom died? I'm so so sorry for your loss! How are you doing? ...if that is something you would feel comfortable sharing here, ofc.
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Thank you so much @rockyroadicecream this actually helped me a lot ..And I really feel sorry for your mom .. May God rest her soul in peace
Thank you so much @rockyroadicecream this actually helped me a lot ..And I really feel sorry for your mom .. May God rest her soul in peace
Posted by HappyCapper
Omg! You're mom died? I'm so so sorry for your loss! How are you doing? ...if that is something you would feel comfortable sharing here, ofc.
Thanks.
Been okay, considering. I have my moments, but my brain has a tendency of tuning out whenever I start to think about the situation with her.
Posted by Carolz
Thank you so much @rockyroadicecream this actually helped me a lot ..And I really feel sorry for your mom .. May God rest her soul in peaceclick to expand
Thanks.
Glad it could help. It can be pretty shitty and rough when friends turn on you like that. I first went through that bs when my mom was diagnosed. People just up and disappeared because shit got too real, and because THEY felt uncomfortable in how to even be a friend, they just left.
Honestly, people are so self absorbed anymore it's not really surprising when crap like this happens. As bad as it sounds, I consider most people/friendships temporary because of this disturbing trend in our society. It's just a matter of "when" that temporary friendship/acquaintance will end.
Oh sorry one more thing .. I don't know for last two days I have a serious headache only in my forehead, I just want to sleep and sleep more and won't eat anything .. Is this just normal stress? Or I should see a doctor . I havent told anything to my family so its like pain growing inside
Yes, these are symptoms of stress/depression.
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