Sex or more

So it seems everything comes down to sex. When we talk through texts and i ask him something eventually he goes back to our sex talk...
I want to know at this point if he really likes me or it is nothing more than sexual attraction.

Do you caps have flings?
Do you get involved with someone just to satisfy your sexual needs?
Are there any signs for a woman to recognize whether she is more than for sex to a cap?

I know caps are very gentelmen like plus they dont open up and it is can be hard to tell...

I also wonder how important sex is for caps. More than emotional connection ?

Very physical sign. If this is all he seems to talk about, then most likely it's all he wants. Make sure you are not on a different wave length, cause you'll end up realizing that you deserved more.

Thanks inana 🙂 the problem is that I'm in love with him. And when we meet he makes me feel special and last time we met it really felt he missed me... I guess that's not what I wanted to hear...

I completely understand how you feel... I'm lost on cap men myself but from what I've heard from friends is that sex is incredibly important to them in a relationship but they can definitely seperate the two :/

My cap fwb is a total sweetheart when we're together, and even sends me messages the next day on how great of a time he had but according to his bestfriend, he just has a way with words. He's a charmer and incredibly good at it... He does seem to open up to me sometimes but i've learned that you can't take they're words for face value. They can lie with the best of them :/

I think its because all he wants is sex, if your sexting back and this is new than maybe he thinks all you want is sex— My cap man and me waited a month before we talked sexy let alone did anything... I am more sexual than he is, He told me once "Sex isnt everything,its fun but not the base of a relationship" he likes to wait a few days to go without because he likes the passion build up... But when we started talking he never mentioned sex, he was wanting something long term, and he was def worth the wait!... So if all hes talking about is sex, may be because he thinks thats all you want,and doesnt see you as the type to settle down with. And when your marked down as a sexual fling thats all you will be to him...This is the man you want to hold out on! Not for the same reason as Aries, but to show them you want more than sex from them.

Posted by CancerianGoddess
I think its because all he wants is sex, if your sexting back and this is new than maybe he thinks all you want is sex— My cap man and me waited a month before we talked sexy let alone did anything... I am more sexual than he is, He told me once "Sex isnt everything,its fun but not the base of a relationship" he likes to wait a few days to go without because he likes the passion build up... But when we started talking he never mentioned sex, he was wanting something long term, and he was def worth the wait!... So if all hes talking about is sex, may be because he thinks thats all you want,and doesnt see you as the type to settle down with. And when your marked down as a sexual fling thats all you will be to him...This is the man you want to hold out on! Not for the same reason as Aries, but to show them you want more than sex from them.

Awesome comment! I have never thought of it this way I think I will definitely mention that I want him for more than sex.
Also, I've known him for years and we started dating we went 6months before we actually started talkin about sex, even longer to get closer.
And he does comments like we fit or hugs me so special like he missed me and so on, little things that somehow make me that it is more than sex. Then again, maybe I'm just tricking myself.

I know for sure and always says that he loves the sex talk and had no one talked to him this way...

I guess we can only wait and see what happens lol 😉

Ah you were so right 😢

I sent him a message saying I'm in not just for sex and really like him and he ignored my words, responded to whatever else I talked about.

I feel stupid and very disappointed...
Why are men so cruel?

Cap or not hes a man so.. What do u expect? Lol.

All I wanted from my new Cap boytoy was a fling n hes taking it to another level wanting to take me out and stuff, being super nice, saying im his type, that Im cute, n curvy, attractive, etc.. Eventually, after all the initial FLUFF hes a man and wants to get his socks off lol

Thing is if you make him wait and he still sticks around? That could be a good sign right? Says he likes your company no?

I feel that he really liked me more before we got all the sex talk going, things were more special. Maybe I overdid it. Now it's like "talk dirty to me please" , so I think it was my fault, I set up the mood.
If I'm in, I'm in 100% and I always on the roll, getting things done. So in this case I did the same. We don't talk about feeling and why we see each other, we just meet and enjoy each others company. But at this point I want to see where I stand for him. And I'm not talking about love, just want to know that I'm not just some sex toy for him. And now I feel there no more to me...

Posted by ellessque
@PB

I've ran into your posts a few times today and you keep saying you are just looking for a short time fling with this cappy.

may i ask a question? (no offense intended)

are you trying to convince yourself that is all you want?

Must be mistake. I've never said that.

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Posted by saggie123
I feel that he really liked me more before we got all the sex talk going, things were more special. Maybe I overdid it. Now it's like "talk dirty to me please" , so I think it was my fault, I set up the mood.
If I'm in, I'm in 100% and I always on the roll, getting things done. So in this case I did the same. We don't talk about feeling and why we see each other, we just meet and enjoy each others company. But at this point I want to see where I stand for him. And I'm not talking about love, just want to know that I'm not just some sex toy for him. And now I feel there no more to me...

now hold on there, sex is nice lol why dont you like it? i mean that anther saggie was into the cappy only for sex lol but something happened with her lol and she made up some other shit lol about his penis being small of something... not sure what happened to her but she got scared me guessing here. its only sex for fuck sake. nothing wrong with it. one little secret lol. to US sex is important and i dont think he sees you as a sex toy but that how we are in sex, a bit of animals lol and then again sex is sex but we love it lol especially if you are sexy with a nice sexy hot body

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Oh there is nothing wrong with sex; sex is great, sex with my cap is even greater 🙂 I love it! His penis is perfect, fyi LOL

I just feel that I want to know that I mean more to him than just a girl he has sex with. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I am really attracted to this guy and ideally would be to know that he feels the same way.
I guess I would like to know where we stand at this point.

Cap sex - omg "nuff said 😉

Any way to ask about his past relationships? How they met why they split? that would give you a lot of insight to the things he says or does re you.

Hate to break it to you, but it sounds like he just sees you as sex. Cap or not, if a guy is bringing up sex all the time, that's all he sees you for. I'm surprised nobody even brought this up. I don't care how sexual Caps are, GUYS are sexual, but if they have any respect or consideration for you, they aren't going to bring it up non stop like that. If they saw you as a person they respected, they'd talk about anything and everything. Going directly to sex talk a majority of the time shows that they see you as a piece, not a person.

Been there a few times with guys and that's ALL they wanted in the long run. They disappeared rather quickly when they weren't getting what they wanted, either.

I tend to talk about sex a lot, but it doesn't mean I necessarily want it... it just makes for 'interesting' conversation at times 😉

Me and my cap went on 2 dates, and than one night he texted me asking me if i wanted to go to dinner, at that time i was looking to buy a new car,.. (newer out of someones yard of course as i like my crap paid off! 🙂 ) So he asked if i wanted him to go with and look, so he did, i told him to test drive it and see if he thinks its okay, after i did. He said "Good thing i came with, you dont want this one) Yea, if he wasnt there i woulda bought it! Anyways, that night we kissed,.. thats it,one passionate kiss that lasted 5 minutes... Next day he asked me out to drinks and karaoke, I said, hell yea.. i am a karaoke whore anyways, and yes i can sing LOL... He ran into a friend and introduced me as his girlfriend, i said "Wait,i dont remember you asking me to be yours?" he said "The kiss was an obvious imply that your mine" lmao.. Soooo in my expierience with My cap, and other caps i know... When you kiss,or have sex, they want all of you, and they wont sleep with just anyone, you have to meet their standards and pass their tests, rewards are awesome though.. So, yall have sex yet? lol 🙂

Posted by lildol
I tend to talk about sex a lot, but it doesn't mean I necessarily want it... it just makes for 'interesting' conversation at times 😉

You're female. Females work differently than males.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by lildol
I tend to talk about sex a lot, but it doesn't mean I necessarily want it... it just makes for 'interesting' conversation at times 😉

You're female. Females work differently than males.

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I am?? DAMN! You're right... *scratches head* the things I could do if I had a penis 😄 😄 😄

Posted by ellessque

Posted by lildol
I tend to talk about sex a lot, but it doesn't mean I necessarily want it... it just makes for 'interesting' conversation at times 😉

that's our mars in scorp.

some people can be so uptight 😛

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And I think that Mars is currently in Scorp which explains why I'm thinking about sex more lately and why a past someone who also has his Mars in Scorp has contacted me and wants to get together... this would also explain my aggressiveness and passion regarding other things as well.

@canceriangoddess That's the reason I'm still puzzled and started this tread. I agree that caps are different, if any other guy I probably would've came to the conclusion that he just has me to get laid. But because he is a 100% cap, with all the behaviour that assigned to them LOL, I'm still trying to figure it out.

I can tell this much, things have changed ever since we got into all the sex talk.
We were going to lunches for months, no kissing or anything like that and I did feel that he really liked me, he actually did say that, not directly but when I mentioned that I liked him, he said back "I obviously do" 🙂 and just recently he said that we fit and we had chemistry together. We did have sex a few times and it was awesome!
He waited almost 7months, so he did take it very slow and I patiently followed.

So that's where my confusion comes from. I also know that caps are not very open about their feeling ....

Well saggie123, Cap men may not look it, but they are shy and have fear of rejection. My cap man sat next to me in the car after saying bye for 2 minutes kinda staring at me,looking like he was gonna lean in for a kiss but was holding back, so i grabbed him and kissed him, pulled away than winked at him,than he pulled me in and kissed me for like 5 minutes. Sometimes with Caps, you just have to take the bull by the horns. I dont know why my Cap is shy,.. he has Saggie in Venus.. LOL

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Posted by lildol
I tend to talk about sex a lot, but it doesn't mean I necessarily want it... it just makes for 'interesting' conversation at times 😉

that's our mars in scorp.

some people can be so uptight 😛

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I'm with lildol, my venus is Scorp. But then some guys just take it the wrong way and think thats all I'm after. NOT!!!

Posted by ilyb

haha lol she does not understand you lol. she is not sexual like we are and most would not understand it. by the way, you can borrow mine 😛 that Virgo of yours aha

You know nothing about me, oh ignorant one. But thanks for the assumption. 🙂

Also, how do you know that I'm a "she?"

@capcsw You are right, thats exactly what I meant, so thank you.

Reading all the responses here i'm starting to come to thinking that there is no way for me to know where I stand with him is to ask him. The only problem with that is I don't want to scare him away... Besides I like that things have been developing naturally, without setting boundaries and all the discussions...

Posted by saggie123
@capcsw You are right, thats exactly what I meant, so thank you.

Reading all the responses here i'm starting to come to thinking that there is no way for me to know where I stand with him is to ask him. The only problem with that is I don't want to scare him away... Besides I like that things have been developing naturally, without setting boundaries and all the discussions...

Careful though. Not getting on the same page could lead up to some serious misunderstandings. You could think things are going well and if for some reason he feels the need to bolt, he'll change and start confusing the hell out of you. Then he can fall back on the whole excuse of never setting boundaries or communicating, so YOU assumed as much.

Not saying it WILL happen, but a lot of women have gotten themselves into the same scenario. Some guys are fine not setting boundaries because it gives them leeway to run and change whenever they feel like it and you can't really accuse them of squat.

Your best bet is to talk to him. It doesn't have to be a super serious talk, but casually ask where this is going and see how he responds.

If you're worried about scaring him away, you know that you aren't feeling very secure with the situation. Has he given you reason to think that questions like that will scare him away?

Is he okay hanging around or talking about stuff when sex isn't involved? If so, then you are good.

We only dirty talk through messages, when we don't see each other, when we meet we don't talk about sex...

Just communicate and I think yall are okay. 🙂

Capricorns are very serious and sexual. I would know haha but definitely let him know where your interests are. AKA more than just sex. We are pretty honest and understanding but we are also arrogant. If we think we can eat our cake and have it too, well, then we'll try for it.

You answered your own question OP when you stated that you just need to ask him. The problem is that you have to be woman enough to hear his answer. A lot of women on here make assumptions that if they confront the man they are interested/involved with that it will scare him off. Wrong. A man that has his head on straight and is into you not just sexually but every way that truly counts for any hope of a fulfilling lasting relationship will be glad you stepped up to the plate with your big girl panties on and put it out there that you know what you want and what you have to offer.

You say you are in love with this guy so give him the opportunity to prove he's worthy of that love by being honest and speaking your heart and mind. If he's worth it you won't be left hanging. All the best.

Well thank you all for your valuable opinions but I think I just got my answer... Asked if he wanted to meet and haven't heard from him, he is usually quick about letting me know, and nothing, so he doesn't want me even for sex LOL 😢

Woman! Don't be down on yourself and don't be down on the situation. If that's what he's all about shrug it off! They come, they go, there will be more tomorrow! 😉

When the right one comes along, he's not going to string you along!

Isn't that the truth !!!

I don't worry, I'm a sag, I move on... Quickly 🙂

There are so many men in this world can't keep every single one, only deserving stay 🙂

I had a hope for him, though... 😢

You're probably better off!!!!

Well my sexual appetite is just fine but I'm no one's ho and I don't want to be one.

Posted by ilyb

Posted by saggie123
Well my sexual appetite is just fine but I'm no one's ho and I don't want to be one.

saggie, its not that you are a "ho" and he does not see you like one but we like that shit in the bedroom and we cannot help it. when it comes to sex the animal side of the cappy comes out and as i have said it before most would not understand and it would look 2 freaky.

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Just be a freak in the sheets and a lady on the street!!! That's what caps like.

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Well my sexual appetite is just fine but I'm no one's ho and I don't want to be one.

saggie, its not that you are a "ho" and he does not see you like one but we like that shit in the bedroom and we cannot help it. when it comes to sex the animal side of the cappy comes out and as i have said it before most would not understand and it would look 2 freaky.

Just be a freak in the sheets and a lady on the street!!! That's what caps like.

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+1 My cap and I laughed about this very thing a few days ago. He loves that I am his own personal freak in the sheets and am so lady like in public. Turns them on to no end. LOL

capricorns can be very practical. So when you have a practical approach to sex it can just be something to do to keep frustration and/or loneliness at bay. So for them it might not be immensely opassionate or emotional. And often their can be a lack of embarressment too I think and feeling theres nothing wrong with 2 people enjoying themselves and each others company.
So it can appear cold and hedonistic maybe but in reality its just very honest and chilled out. Cappy are very competitive so maybe present this contradiction to him about how the best type of man makes a woman feel special not like a sex toy. They like blunt honesty so just tell him whats on your mind and hell like solving the puzzle its like climbing a mountain. Just tell him your not a porn star your looking for something a bit more special with a man. Its something you learn through life that although young men seem to just want sex talk..its not actually what they want or need.

What they need is regular sex....that comes from having a partner.....the partner they actually want is someoen who isnt an easy lay ie someone who wont cheat on them.....they establish that a woman who has sex fast, dresses sleazy, acts like a porn star is not going to be loyal and will be a source of cheating paranoia as well as a self centred diva....they then respect a woman who is the opposite and trust them feeling that they wont flirt with other men and can be presented to parents etc....they seek out that type so they can get a steady relationship and regular sex for a long time.

So my advice is show your not an easy lay, you dont just chat up any random guy ie you are doing this just for himand its special...otherwise you look like your just doing the rounds and he feels like just another guy and youve shared the same things with other guys. You have to treat those you like in a special way to make them feel special

Posted by saggie123
Isn't that the truth !!!

I don't worry, I'm a sag, I move on... Quickly 🙂

There are so many men in this world can't keep every single one, only deserving stay 🙂

I had a hope for him, though... 😢

Never have "hope" for the ones who are bringing up sex too soon. Always remember that. Like someone else said, guys are about sex. They will say and do quite a bit to get a piece of ass. Whether they like you or not is really dependent on their behavior. In this case, it was constantly making convo sexual. I don't care how sexual someone is, if they really like you, they won't be talking to you about that/treat you like that until something more solid has been established.

There's nothing wrong with talking about sex, but if a guy is bringing it up while you two are still in limbo about where you actually are in dating and he hasn't established his intentions, it tells you a lot about them instantly. It helps you weed out those with a lot of smoke and mirrors.

Keep an eye out if he comes back around. He may have run out of options...

I for one, will keep that in mind. Hope all you other gals will too! IceCream speaks the truth!

@rockyroad I agree with you. The thing is that he waited a long time before even kissing me, even longer to talk about sex.
When we started sexting, I think, he liked it too much, he even did say to me a few times that he loves the way I talk to him and no one ever talked to him the way I do. So I think that he maybe got too involved in all that sex talk. Honestly, I loved it too until it became in my way of figuring out what his real intention is...
By the way, he is 50 🙂

Well I did text him a few days ago saying that if he didn't want to see me anymore I would expect from him at least let me know that.

He texted back quickly saying it wasn't that all and some emergency happened at work, which I believe is possible to be truth knowing his job.

Yes I'm still hoping 🙂

Haha I'm so stupid !!!

Well I was driving today when noticed him crossing the street, not sure but I think he was going to the restaurant on the corner. When I went around the block I couldn't see him. I'm not saying he was meeting another woman, maybe family dinner, they do it often.

I wanted to stick around just to see, maybe was my only chance to know the truth, but I convinced myself not to.

As posted earlier last time we were supposed to meet he didn't respond to my text. So I sent him message saying he should at least be a man and say that he is not interested in seeing me, he responded right back saying it was not that at all, it was a work emergency. That was last week!!

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He is a coward, too afraid to admit he doesn't want me or too afraid that he does... Coward either way. I hate uncertainty...

Yeah, it's time to look at him for what he is. In the least, you should respect people to keep them updated or enough to give them closure. If he doesn't now he never will, so now you see what you've been dealing with and his potential. It may suck a bit, but it's best to move on from him.

Thank you guys! I feel better and at this point agree I am not opposed to just see each other every once in a while just to hang out, nothing serious but with no effort. Once I know it is nothing then there is no problem or hard feelings on my side, oh and also no effort 🙂

Posted by ilyb

Posted by saggie123
I feel that he really liked me more before we got all the sex talk going, things were more special. Maybe I overdid it. Now it's like "talk dirty to me please" , so I think it was my fault, I set up the mood.
If I'm in, I'm in 100% and I always on the roll, getting things done. So in this case I did the same. We don't talk about feeling and why we see each other, we just meet and enjoy each others company. But at this point I want to see where I stand for him. And I'm not talking about love, just want to know that I'm not just some sex toy for him. And now I feel there no more to me...

now hold on there, sex is nice lol why dont you like it? i mean that anther saggie was into the cappy only for sex lol but something happened with her lol and she made up some other shit lol about his penis being small of something... not sure what happened to her but she got scared me guessing here. its only sex for fuck sake. nothing wrong with it. one little secret lol. to US sex is important and i dont think he sees you as a sex toy but that how we are in sex, a bit of animals lol and then again sex is sex but we love it lol especially if you are sexy with a nice sexy hot body

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YES tis I THAT 'scared' Sag! LOL!

His penis was actually TINY, probably cause he was on roids. I'm glad I never slept with him adding a meaningless notch to my bedpost. The thing is I thought I could have casual sex but then I decided I just couldn't. It's just not me to have sex with no strings. He was too young and If I got attached I'd be fucked with him being younger than me and all. He was cute and all except no tact (that's a cap&age thing I'm guessing). Should I have continued to see him then SEX would have been out of the question due to his penis being 'tiny'. What would be the point of seeing someone for sex when their dick was too small, what would I have done with it? Ha

Cappy was more than willing I can tell you that. Ever the gent even at 21. Bless his little cotton socks.

Sorry to sound crude. Don't mean to cause offense to anyone. I'm an awfully classy lady as you may be able to tell.

P.S all the Cappy men I know (2 of them being my besties) are ever so charming, such gents. Very passionate. Yes they LOVE sex amongst other things.

Hope all is well with your Cap @ Saggie123