should I or shouldn't I?

My post is about a capricorn woman, I don't know much about capricorn women, and I am not usually one to look at a star sign to find answers - however this woman is very different to other women I have known - so am a little confused. I would really apprieciate if some of you capricorn women would be able to help decipher my situation: here it is:

I have known this capricorn woman for a year now, we get on very well, often times talk about meaningful deep things in life like, relationships, family, spirituality, emotions, and goals. When we first met - it was platonic, we were working on a project together - long distance ( so emails, phone, texts that kind of thing). However my role in the project ended and so I carried on about my business...and if I'm honest didn't really think much about the conversations that we had, other than we got along and that we had some good communication, plus have never met her face to face and I was in a realtionship with my ex gf at the time.

she contacted me a month after the project to see how I was etc, and I replied casually asked how she was left it at that, but she kept contacting me every month. she kept up this regular contact with me, just pleasantries etc...and asked about life, love etc, then this jan she contacted me asked about life, love, and I told her that I had broken up with my gf at the time. After that point she communicated a lot more with me, instead of once a month, it was twice,and then 3 times a week, and most recently near enough every day.

However, she is always referering to me as baby, sexy. However I had an issue with her communication, she did the whole hot and cold thing, and I didn't enjoy the feeling of being left hanging part way through a conversation, and expressed that to her, and I also asked her if she liked me, as she was confusing me with her comuunication with me - she said no, she is like that with everyone. So we had a month or so after that confrontation whereby we didn't communicate, and I had enough of the ambuigity - however, she contacted me again, and we pretty much started afresh with communication, she even made an effort to let me know exactly when she would be contacting me next (as she had a really busy job) which she has stuck to, and has genuinely made a big effort, and has said that she can't and doesn't want to forget me. I'm confused as I think that she likes me, but she denyed she did before - what do you make of it?

Uhm...okay. I think she genuinely likes you, but only as a friend. If she is denying it like that...then don't read much into it. When I find someone I enjoy talking to, its something I wana hold onto. Not in a clingy way, but we don't exactly click with alotta people hey. It could be that you're just what she needs right now, a friend to talk to, to laugh with, and not be worried about when to set the next date since its a distance thing. She likes you, as a friend. You found your guardian, and she will be around for a while.haha
Don't read anything deep into it. Trust me, you do not wana go all paranoia on her as and scare your friend away. she's just being a typical capri woman. Baby might be a way of lightening things during a conversation. idk. Yeah, but thats just what I think.lol

shaka...hes is a long distance friendship...dinner may not be an option. i wouldnt worry to much. keep a distance for now...you may have startled her but im sure if she realy does take a romantic interest it wont die so quickly. cap women take thier time i guess. just be friendly dont think about romance. friends friends friends...then maybe one day she will decide if the friendship can move further. but dont go by my words alone...leila is the female here lol. but i know women and they love a good friend to talk to...and yes they will want you to stay in thier lives as long as possible. thats how i feel about many relationships.

yeah...😢

i dont feel bad bro lol. its true though. im still young and naive.

I disagree Shaka. I say screw the Cap thing. We are all adults. Happy Cappy can be right too. NOT ALL CAPS ARE ALIKE. People have rising signs and all other influences. If she say she not interested then leave it at that. She probably enjoys talking to you, you mite have peaked her interest but the long distant thing was like a deciding factor so she said no to just even it out.

Don't take it personal, just live your life. But people can be friends and then get into serious relations. I have told guys that I wanted to be friends and I wasn't interested because of reasons but really liked them and wanted to date.

Men are from Mars, women are from Venus

Happy cappy you a nice guy and we ALL learn about the opposite sex by doing, not all women and people are the same. Some people just think they know it all and can say what they want to feel superior.

From your previous post I know you know about women. But to completely generalize is kind of retarded to me. Yes signs have similar traits, but no 2 people are the same. You gave good advice 😉.

Posted by HappyCappy
i dont feel bad bro lol. its true though. im still young and naive.

Oh 😛 HappyCappy, it's fine, I'm only slightly older than you dear 😉

But I have Saggie placements too so I understand where Shaka is coming from, he totally didn't mean any harm lol

However, she is always referering to me as baby, sexy. However I had an issue with her communication, she did the whole hot and cold thing, and I didn't enjoy the feeling of being left hanging part way through a conversation, and expressed that to her, and I also asked her if she liked me, as she was confusing me with her comuunication with me - she said no, she is like that with everyone. So we had a month or so after that confrontation whereby we didn't communicate, and I had enough of the ambuigity - however, she contacted me again, and we pretty much started afresh with communication, she even made an effort to let me know exactly when she would be contacting me next (as she had a really busy job) which she has stuck to, and has genuinely made a big effort, and has said that she can't and doesn't want to forget me. I'm confused as I think that she likes me, but she denyed she did before - what do you make of it?


I don't know how I missed this but ...

From what I've read, it seems as if you made her nervous. When I get nervous, I start to back off as quick as I can. Nothing personal but if I think neither one of us our on the same page, I think it's best to stop things right where they are and figure out what's going on. But that's just me.

i'm going to have to agree with shaka on this.... she was progressing, steadily, as most caps do, and you thwarted her. no matter....i mean, it kinda seems like you're not really interested in her anyway, right? if you are, you need to step it up. if not, enjoy her friendship - cap women are very loyal and steadfast - you really couldn't do better! ...of course, i'm very biased... 🙂

cap women have good cooking. only reason to be friends with them is to get into thier dishes. yeah i know he was jocking. i know women but at the sametime im naive. 22 and havent had...anything yet. lol. so in that area i suck..but understanding them, that i am good at.

also being in the friend zone is where im best at...the man hurts them, i can sit there and comfort thier wounded hearts with my healing voice and calming mannerisms. then later on they forget i ever did anything like that....bad experience with a cancer friend. 😢

Ohhh Happy Cappy. I'm sorry to hear that but 1 rule of thumb that u should remember with women is, if she is crying over another guy on your shoulder then she probably really care for the guy she's crying over. You never want to be the rebound guy. That's when u really know you're in the friend zone. Maybe down da line when she's over da guy. But da worst thing to be is da rebound guy.

I'm at training and using my phone, hopefully this goes through. Cap guys get better wit age. Trust me ur lack of experience isn't a big deal, only in the sack! We all learn by doing. Just buck up and stay motivated seaman. Women will always be around. Just do you.

thanks sophs. haha

thanks for all your comments i appreciate it! i do like her, she is lovely, but it's this uncertainty that throws me. what is this friends friends zone and friend for now zone - who can you tell? yes i asked her, as i was still coming to terms with me and my ending of a relationship with me ex. yes I was cautious, but you would be wouldn't you?

she is a nice person, and something intrigues me, she comes across as so confident, that I felt that I could ask her, and she would be able to articulate it...SINCE she has been so forthright with everything else. but when she denyed it, I thought maybe I got it wrong, but she made more of an effort, and has revealed alot more of her intimate side, in things that matter to her. She is a special woman, no doubt, and hence why I don't want to mess her around or hurt her.

i feel this push and pull with her, she doesn't want to walk away although, she had the chance to, and she doesn't say she wants more directly although she has indicated that she wishes i was around. i just need to know what i should do next, as i like her, and the impression she gave was is that she likes me more than a friend. and i am wondering now, what can be done to show her that i have healed and am ready...i mean she is still here guess she wants more...but how to get her to go that next step - as I know has been hurt before?

shaka is full of wisdom. i like that.

I think she is ether a stalker or Russian spy or maybe both.

i could charm you out of....anything. XP