Things we learned from dating Caps (Dos and Don'ts)

Hi Caps and those that care for them! Let's share some advice and experiences, hopefully we can help each other. I'll start.. Do - give them alone time and do your own thing. They seem to always understand and respect if it's work related.
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  • pinkbird03
    Cancer 💕
    What's his Venus?
  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    Posted by Capri-sun
    Posted by Roana
    May I ask if there is a male capricorn that I am interested in, would me showing affection and interest and kinda taking a lead would be a DO or DON'T for him?

    Because since I am Pisces female I usually tend to be the submisive one, but with Capricorns it feels like the begining of the relashionship can be very very very slow, especialy in the stage of just trying to figure each other out. And I need certain feeling of certainty that I see he won't provide me if I won't push. On other hand I don't want to come across as crazy person being all over him Big Grin because that is like complete opposite of how I am.

    If he wants you, he will make it crystal clear. We really aren't that slow...I mean we can be, I've seen some that aren't.

    Be yourself.
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    Big Grin thank you I will try... God.. I just want to bash my head on the table.. But you are right!
  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    May I ask if there is a male capricorn that I am interested in, would me showing affection and interest and kinda taking a lead would be a DO or DON'T for him?

    Because since I am Pisces female I usually tend to be the submisive one, but with Capricorns it feels like the begining of the relashionship can be very very very slow, especialy in the stage of just trying to figure each other out. And I need certain feeling of certainty that I see he won't provide me if I won't push. On other hand I don't want to come across as crazy person being all over him Big Grin because that is like complete opposite of how I am.
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    Posted by Librajean
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Posted by Librajean
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Posted by Librajean
    Seriously I need and have been in need of a real man. He could be the one, seeing him tonight. He has offered his spare room for me to sleep in.


    How long have you known him? You're not going to sleep in the same bed?


    We've known each other for a few years but this is our second date. I'm driving to where he lives and he offered up his spare room to sleep. He is being respectful and a gentleman. Which is so sweet he told me to bring my pajamas. Lol. We are definitely going to be exclusive though, I'm totally into him. Any tips?


    Bring cute pajamas Tongue


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    How did it go? ?
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    It went really well, we are dating now exclusively so I guess it went well smile these guys know how to for it lol

  • Deedee86
    female
    Posted by SunMoonStars
    Hi Caps and those that care for them!

    Let's share some advice and experiences, hopefully we can help each other.

    I'll start..

    Do

    - give them alone time and do your own thing. They seem to always understand and respect if it's work related.
    - handle with gentle care in the morning. Let them have coffee first. Mine takes about an hour to warm up.
    - pay attention to how they make requests of you, and mirror that.
    - joke around with them, they need a laugh!

    Yes at the morning thing!!!!
    I thought my ex husband was just a dickhead in general.


  • LillyPetal
    ?No Excuse For Animal Abuse ?
    Wow! Loving this thread! A lot of good inout! I don't want to repeat anything but here is mine:

    Don't be afraid to embrace "classic gender roles" if that comes naturally to you. There is pressure on women to not want to cook and clean for your man but, if you do, do it. He finds the sounds of you clinging around in the kitchen for him SEXAY.

    Let him order for you some times when you're out at a restaurant.

    Don't take his advice personally if it seems he is criticizing, he only has your best at heart.

    If you think something is wrong, TALK to him about it; you'd be surprised at how off the mark your assumptions are and how sweet his intentions are.

    Don't try to have sex when he is super concentrating on his work. Believe it or not, he would appreciate you telling him to kiss you so he has the chance to mentally switch to focus on you, than for you to be in his face while he's working. Big Grin
  • I spent 15 years with a Cap and in retrospect one of the reasons that I think we lasted so long was because he wanted to feel adored, but he also loved the chase.

    I found early on that if I gave him all of the attention he asked for he would be happy for a while and then he would get bored.

    Luckily I'm easily distracted so when he would get bored I would find some activity to wrap myself up in and after a few days it would drive him crazy that I wasn't showering him with love and affection and he would start the chase.

    If I gave too much attention when he was bored, he would get annoyed. If it took me too long to respond appropriately to the chase we would have trouble, like chasing other women sort of trouble. He never cheated, that I know of, but boy would he chase until he caught and lost interest.

    I learned pretty early on when to entertain myself and when to entertain him.
  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by Capri-sun
    Posted by Lindaaaatje
    Posted by Capri-sun
    Posted by Lindaaaatje
    Posted by Capri-sun
    Posted by Yes
    Don't be a Cancer

    +1000000000 have yet to have a positive experience.


    come on....really ? We're so sweet....


    Yes, cancers are very sweet. I just haven't felt the connection in the ways I needed to. They left me cold in the bedroom, haven't connected on a mental level, some have a hard time with relationship boundaries.

    cold in the bedroom?????? It must have been another sort of cancer you've met then. :-)
    But then again, you have to look at other placements for "bedroom activities".
    Conclusion: i am DEFINATELY not cold lol :-)))


    Yes my scorp mars needs all consuming passion where our bodies become 1, before during & after.

    1 guy I kissed & felt nothing. No passion whatsoever. Like your first kiss in elementary school lol. We never had sex. He has a way of tapping into my sensitive side. Making me cry the past few times we talked. I know he genuinely cares.

    1 guy was 1 & done, I didn't get off very much just bland straightforward sex. He was too focused on the end goal. Very short time wise.

    Another guy was 1 & done before I came same scenario. Then when I was ready to go home, he got upset and asked me to stay. Only to divide the covers in between us as I cried myself to sleep (this is particularly what I mean by leaving me cold- no love & affection)

    The one cancer that did hold me was on his phone most of the time. I like undivided attention.

    The pisces spoiled me in the bedroom so I guess I have high expectations now. I'm over sex for the sake of sex. I really need someone I can connect with on all levels. He would withhold on cumming, we went multiple rounds into the night and next morning, wiped my tears, always made sure I was covered up with a blanket, had sex in & outside of the bedroom and outside of the house all together, knew what I liked to drink, always had good wine...I mean we could sex each with our eyes over a drink before either one of us laid a finger on the other. We had lots of fun together.

    This is only about cancer men, the ladies are cool so it might be different for you with the cap man / cancer woman dynamic.
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    +10000000000000000000000000000
    I couldn't agree more.
    I need " the merging" on all levels to feel fulfilled.
    Sex just for the sex? I can do it with "my light switched off in my head" but i don't like it.
    Scorp moon here , so feelings and passion is a must for me. Not always easy to find it....

  • scorpio24356
    Scorp Sun, Aries Moon, Gem Rising
    25 years old from USA
    Posted by sakuraflowers
    Posted by SunMoonStars
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Oh yea since they like being in control make them think they're the boss even if they aren't. Lol


    How can I do that??
    Subtlety is a bit of a weakness for me... Sad

    TY!



    Let them know of your feedback or preferences, but let them have the final say ... imo ...
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    I agree with this. Thats the best way ive found to communicate with a cap.
  • scorpio24356
    Scorp Sun, Aries Moon, Gem Rising
    25 years old from USA
    Posted by SunMoonStars
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Posted by SunMoonStars
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Oh yea since they like being in control make them think they're the boss even if they aren't. Lol


    How can I do that??
    Subtlety is a bit of a weakness for me... Sad

    TY!



    I was just joking lol it's either you let em be in control or you don't.


    Haha smile

    Why does it seem hard to believe that a Scorp (not you specifically) relinquished control to anyone?

    You must have really respected those Caps!

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    I did. Loved him too much. Until yesterday when i figured out that his friend had convinced him to download a tinder account behind my back and he was talking to other girls. And i was wondering why he suddely stopped being sweet and started acting like a jerk and kept talking about wanting to be single. He had even bought me a ring to propose. He suddenly had too much confidence. Well, f that sh. smile im tired of letting him cintrol me.

    Lol sorry...venting.
  • you need someone with a Virgo stellium, no one is that perfect .Lol
  • Queenofthepheasantfairies
    Rising Scorpio, Libra sun, Gemini moon, Virgo Merc & Venus, Cancer Mars & Jupit
    female from London
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Posted by SunMoonStars
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Joke around with them but not about them yes.
    Do something for them every now and then but make it consistent.
    Don't date them cause they're boring ?


    LOL!

    Thanks for the advice smile

    How long did you make it with yours?


    1 for 2 yrs the other for half just messin around with boring they're too serious for my liking.


    For me it's not just that they are serious. The complain to much and it's about EVERYTHING. Very controlling.


    lol good luck controlling a Scorpio ??at least they tried ?


    Huge battle of the wills Big Grin


    I can tell that one of the cap I went out with has never gone out with a scorp before cause she definitely tried to control me and I let it work for a very short time just cause I was trying to find out her weakness and bam when she lost control she didn't know what to do lol
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    How does this dynamic work otherwise. I hear often of these two pairing up
  • Queenofthepheasantfairies
    Rising Scorpio, Libra sun, Gemini moon, Virgo Merc & Venus, Cancer Mars & Jupit
    female from London
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Posted by SunMoonStars
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Joke around with them but not about them yes.
    Do something for them every now and then but make it consistent.
    Don't date them cause they're boring ?


    LOL!

    Thanks for the advice smile

    How long did you make it with yours?


    1 for 2 yrs the other for half just messin around with boring they're too serious for my liking.


    For me it's not just that they are serious. The complain to much and it's about EVERYTHING. Very controlling.


    lol good luck controlling a Scorpio ??at least they tried ?
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    Huge battle of the wills Big Grin

  • pinkbird03
    Cancer 💕
    Posted by Librajean
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Posted by Librajean
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Posted by Librajean
    Seriously I need and have been in need of a real man. He could be the one, seeing him tonight. He has offered his spare room for me to sleep in.


    How long have you known him? You're not going to sleep in the same bed?


    We've known each other for a few years but this is our second date. I'm driving to where he lives and he offered up his spare room to sleep. He is being respectful and a gentleman. Which is so sweet he told me to bring my pajamas. Lol. We are definitely going to be exclusive though, I'm totally into him. Any tips?


    Bring cute pajamas Tongue


    ?
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    How did it go? ?
  • Queenofthepheasantfairies
    Rising Scorpio, Libra sun, Gemini moon, Virgo Merc & Venus, Cancer Mars & Jupit
    female from London
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Posted by SunMoonStars
    Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
    Joke around with them but not about them yes.
    Do something for them every now and then but make it consistent.
    Don't date them cause they're boring ?


    LOL!

    Thanks for the advice smile

    How long did you make it with yours?


    1 for 2 yrs the other for half just messin around with boring they're too serious for my liking.
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    For me it's not just that they are serious. The complain to much and it's about EVERYTHING. Very controlling.
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