To my ALLLL Cappy Men!!!

I want to know from my Capricorn men (and women who are/have dated Capricorn men), what kind of attention do ya'll like from a woman? What is TOO much attention and TOO little (not enough)? What kind of things would you say makes you or would make any other cappy male feel special? I want some ideas

Oh, and what would be something that would make you feel like she's the kind of girl I want?

Lol alright. Don't you find yourself liking the same thing. I like that kind of generous attention. But it depends who is giving it and how they are giving it

Yea I hear you. I think that's a natural thing with us. In some ways we try to be perfect but we need to be told or praised about our achievements or what not fire us to fully believe we did the right thing. In some ways we care very much what people think

Ya'll are so right, my cappy said he wants more txt from me etc...but I feel like I'll come off all clingy and stuff. Its so weird they need their space, but need validation at the same time, then get their feelings hurt or distant when you distant yourself looking for them to be more attentive, one of the hardest sighns to please in my opinion, but gosh they are captivating and seem to have got mt attention.

I'm dating this cappy man, my first Cap. And I'm hooked, I just wonder if he's just add hooked as me sometimes. But I don't want to ask him just yet...but yet, I'd rather him tell me himself. But he is a great guy so far.

I'm the same way too Cat34, I just don't want to come off too clingy. But then again, what is clingy for a Cap man anyway?

I kind of do feel like he does respond slower, but sometimes I think it might be because he is working...or maybe he is getting annoyed with me. But then if he doesn't hear from me all day, he ends up contacting me.

Something that I've noticed is that he doesn't really ask me about personal questions and I don't know if its because he doesn't want to know or what. Yet, I do see that he tells me when he missed me and whatnot maybe I'm just getting too ahead or myself

Attention talking everyday or every other day to much attention a billion tears, pettiness, emotions, helplessness, dumbassness, repetitiveness, sticking your hand in my cookie jar, not respecting my standards.

The number one respected quality is intelligence without it you get a kick in the face out the door down the steps and into whatever form of transportstion you used to arrive in. I refuse to walk in circles.

So true so true

Oh wow...that's too bad. I just usually do the usual how is your day or thinking of you messages and what not. And then sometimes I'll ask him questions about himself but not all of the time.

I think they like to know that they are on your mind. Doesn't have to be an hourly text-a-thon but a daily just thinking about you or some random bit of info to share seemed to work for me.

Okay that's good. Do you feel like they need constant reassurance about you liking them?

Cowpuncher you should be a personal instructor. Clean and to the point..that's makes so much sense, Thanks

And please please please .... get ahold of your emotions! If you don't want them to offer a solution to the problem, don't even bother telling them about the problem, because they can't help fixing thing....protecting and fixing its what they pride themselves in. Shut up with all that crying...or go do take some time to collect yourself and call them back.

Posted by CuteCapri
Okay that's good. Do you feel like they need constant reassurance about you liking them?

I think the reassurance comes when you let them know they matter.

I Don't think my woman can give me TOO much attention. It's when she backs off i get worried. If she ignores me, That pisses me off! Makes me wonder where she is getting the attention from. Bad quality i know. I Love my woman's affection and attention. Hugs and kisses at least 6 times a day. Cuddle at night. Yes. You heard it. I Love attention from my woman. Those soft touches drive me insane.

Goodness..not this again lol.

Posted by lnana04
Goodness..not this again lol.

girl you know how it is...lol

Posted by Cap4Life
I Don't think my woman can give me TOO much attention. It's when she backs off i get worried. If she ignores me, That pisses me off! Makes me wonder where she is getting the attention from. Bad quality i know. I Love my woman's affection and attention. Hugs and kisses at least 6 times a day. Cuddle at night. Yes. You heard it. I Love attention from my woman. Those soft touches drive me insane.

wow that actually surprises me. But what about if you're having a bad day or if you're stressed out about work? Would you rather her leave you alone or what?

Women naturally smother you because they need someone to another them. I think i'm going to create a teddy bear with a controller in the form of I to ease there pain.

I have had THOSE days. I rather hibernate in the room and watch TV. I Stay to myself. She usually comes in the room and lays on my chest. As i channel surf and stroke her hair. She joins me in silence. Until i am ready to talk. It's nice that she GETS me.

I like/need the validation but I don't want to be smothered with it. Too much makes me doubt the sincerity of it, not enough makes me worry and feel insecure. It's a fine line. Complements are nice and very appreciated, but don't go overboard with them. Show me actions to back up the words. I like cuddling and affection - lots of it! But there's a time and place for everything.

Mr. aqua spoils me rotten (and I love it!). However, he very rarely gives complements (I would like more), but when he does they mean so much more! I've asked for more contact and he is giving me just the right amount.

Hmmm, alright that sounds pretty nice. I recent;y found out that he has been working very very much this week and so have I. So I understand that he may be tired but I noticed that he stopped doing a few nice things he used to do before like wishing me a goodnight or a good morning. Or he would ask to see me more often, but now its slowing down and I dont know if I should bring that up to him and tell him that I miss those kind of things. I don't want to come off as clingy but I'm a woman and I like that kind of affection/attention.

One of my friends told me that maybe he might be testing me to see how much I really care. I really really really do care but I also dont want to cross that line into unsexyness..lol

I dont react when I dont hear from him, I just try to be my bubbly self and assure him that I miss him and to be careful that he doesnt work so much. Do you guys think thats bad?

Plus, I've been really wanting to find a new place where I will be more comfortable for me and when I have visitors over, especially for him. I want to cook something for him but I havent even been able to do that for myself, I've been to busy (and broke) to cook (or buy groceries). And that is MOST DEFINITELY not something I want him to know about me. I'm afraid he will think that I only like him for his wallet but I have my job. And I'm afraid he will stop being attracted to me because of my minor financial setbacks. What do ya'll think of that and what he would think/do/or say?

Well, as for the nice things you want him to do: Don't nag or accuse. Just mention how good it makes you feel when he does ________. Like when he texts you good morning, just say something like "I know how hectic things get in the mornings, it feels so nice that you took the time to think about me and text me that". In other words sincerely appreciate what he does do and let him know. Don't go overboard (he'll think its fake), but everyone likes to feel appreciated and it makes me want to do more for someone. Wording it like that is not clingy or needy, it just lets him know how you feel.

As far as your financial state, its okay if you're struggling. Just get a plan together or a goal and a time frame. You can say something like "I plan to be debt free, with the exception of my car, in one year". That will show you are responsible.

I swear! I didn't see CP's response when I typed that!!! I think we are saying basically the same thing. He's just wordier than me!!

Hahaha!! Luv ya CP!

Those are some very good suggestions. I also have another concern, we aren't exclusive, though we have just recently began being intimate. I mentioned to him that there have been a few men making passes at me, asking me if I had a boyfriend and I said I was seeing someone, but it made me wonder if we WERE exclusive? I told him that and his response was, "Well thats what we're working towards, aren't we?" I said yea, and that I just want him to be honest with me if anything changes.

Now because of that, it makes me wonder if he may be seeing other women. I met him online and we began talking for a few months, but I recently noticed that his account was still active and it shows that he was online. Should I bring that up to him or just leave it alone? I'm wondering if I'm the only gal he is seeing but I'm not sure if I should bring it up or how I should mention that either?

Yea I've thought about things like that. Money is just so tight because of the transportation I have to pay for going to my new job and plus rent. I feel like I am doing sooo much/ tooo much all at the same time. But I don't want to lose him because of this set back. Sometimes, when we go out, I offer to pay because I dont find it fair if he pays for everything allllll the time to I pay for what I can once in a while when we go out, but I dont know if that makes him feel uncomfortable. I had explained to him that I just want to do something nice for him since he pays for me most of the time.

As far as, me going to his place CP, he says he has family staying with him and his apartment is filled with so many people. From the sounds of the way he was explaining, it was as if he was ashamed if I saw his house with a bunch of family staying there and it probably being a mess. He even mentioned that sometimes he tries to find a way to stay out of the house because it gets to be too much for him.

This is the thing, for the times that we have gone out, we stay out very late talking or what not. I mean til like 4,5,6am so....i dont know, I jusy feel like giving it to him straight forward and telling him whats been going through my mind

He does live in the same city as me. And he when we do talk outta not usually over the phone because one of us is usually working abbe can't talk on it

He does live in the same city as me. And he when we do talk outta not usually over the phone because one of us is usually working abbe can't talk on it

hmmmmm...... What does your gut instint tell you?