Virgo girl needs advice about her cappie :(

I've fallen in love, or something even deeper...with this cappie..
We met allmost 2 yrs ago, instant connection, attraction, opened up about our whole lives.
The problem is distance between us, like 4,5 hrs drive. He's way too buissy with his career to even think about me, or so it seems...

We had some dates, it was...undescribable, like peace for the soul...But then he stopped contacting me, I tought it was weird and I tried to reach out but felt ignored. That made me sad for a while so I moved on, during the last 1,5 years I had 2 boyfriends and the cappie tuned in ocassionally to check on me, didn't seem too happy about me being in relationships. I was friendly, but didn't take him seriously anymore, I saw him as fake and a complete opposite of what he'd showed me during those dates.

When I became single he came to see me again, and it was like being thrown back in time. Reliving those dates such a long time ago, but better. Actually I didn't want to see him at first because I was afraid I might like it too much, but I couldn't stop myself it was like my soul wanted to. We actually spent some days "living" together too...The weirdest thing is nothing happened, nothing. Believe it or not, all we've ever shared were some quick kisses on the cheek, unfortunately we're both kind of shy..But I like it that way, I feel comfortable with things going slow.

Anyway, when we split he wanted to be in touch with me as much as possible and was opening up about how much he likes me, wanting relationship with me, missing me, how he didn't dare to make any move on me because he was afraid it might scare me away from him and so on. Eventually I opened up too, it was really really really difficult among else because of my earlier experionce with him. But I told him I like him and miss him too. Then he said he's afriad to commit to me because of the distance, that he's afraid of getting atrong feelings for me and not being able to see me when he wants, and dissapointing me by not being able to come and be with me when I need it. I said it's impossible to say how it might turn out, but that I miss him...

Since then, he tuned out, contacting me less....Again, like last time, I've tried to reach out without him seeming to care. He just makes excuses that he's been so bizzy lately but he's tought of me, without me even mentioning or asking anything. But I've grown tired of this, It's been like this for 1,5 months now. Exactly like last time I'm feeling like

like he's someone completely different now, it's undescribable...I feel ignored..I'm not even willing to try and contact him or confront him again about it, I've said enough. But at the same time I think it's such a waste, this connection when we're together is...heavenly...nothing I've ever experionced before...It's like paradise for the soul, peace, harmony, attraction, safety, trust..so relaxing, inspiring. It's bliss. It's a connection I've allways wanted and dreamed of but everyone told me it doesn't excist.

But I don't understand him, he makes me feel so unwanted with this behaviour. I've never seen anything like it...So perfect for me when we're together, treating me like a goddess, but like this now...I feel like walking away and NEVER going back, which is what everone I've talked to has adviced me to do. Walk away and keep walking, never look back.
So I'm asking you guys now, anyone with similar experionce? Anyone who'd like to share with me, give me a good advice?
Help...if you can, because I don't see any further than this..It seems hopeless.

This reminds me of an "out of sight, out of mind" thing although I'm sure you cross his mind a lot. Its probably just hard for him to deal with caring as much when he's away.

Personally, I would cut him off completely, but that's just me.

Women complain about not getting enough attention from Caps, and the Cap will live 10minutes away, so being 4-5hrs away will do the situation absolutely no good.

Aren't Capricorn rumoured to be goal-oriented, hard working and tenacious by nature;it means these qualities not just apply to their professional lives but personal too, meaning when they want something they try to get it with full determination.so when a Capricorn man is not trying to get you,it means his feelings are probably luke warm. so why to compromise on what you deserve ?

He can go and get whatever he wishes, I wish him all the best, may all his dreams come true.
I just wish he didn't say all the things he said to me, when I was clear that I wanted us to be friends because I sensed deja vu coming at me...he said he wanted much more and that he wanted to leave his town and come move to me and so much more but it doesn't matter now.
I don't regret partly beliving him, getting some hopes up, just wish he kept his mouth shut.
I'm not a girl who needs attention or approval, I have great selfesteem, I get more than enough attention that don't mean sht to me, others can have it. I want the real deal, I want it all. He knows all that, he's aware I'm getting lots of male attention even tho I deny it. Guess something happened in his mind that switched off whatever he felt for me so he gave up. That's ok, not his fault.. That's life and life goes on.

Kind regards to everyone🙂

I agree that he should have kept his mouth closed. That part of it does seem very confusing.

The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. When he returned to you, did you ever have a serious talk about what happened the last time, ask what kind of relationship he wants, express the relationship YOU want and have a meeting of the minds of what he/you are willing to give this time?

Or did you stick your head in the ground and *pretend* like it didn't happen and avoid it?

Hey girl...
Am really sorry about what ur going through...

Imma be straightforward with you.

He likes you...he really does. He wouldn't take time sayin all those things to you if they didn't exist...I think he feels the connection too.

But, the distance is a greater issue than u know. He not only feels he won't be there for you, but that it will be hard to feel like you two are actually in a relationship when ur so far apart. Cap knows he needs a partner who is there...whom he can turn to for support, and offer his support in return. He needs a partner by his side, and he knows you do too. He said somethings that moved your heart, because he meant them, but when he gets back to reality he's gotta work, deal with the fact that he can't be with u like u both deserve.

In moments of weakness, or during a crazy connection, we say things we mean, but we don't think of the consequences.
Distance is a deal breaker...cap is a passionate lover...who needs someone there physically in order to feel like he's really in a relationship, and this goes hand in hand with trust. Without distance, trust is already an issue for a cap, add some distance and u have a disaster.

U need to move on...because he knows he cannot give u what u want, and u know you deserve to be treated better.

Hi guys, tnx for all advices! 😉 thats really sweet of you to take your time. BGP: No, didnt have that talk, nor did I mention anything its been such a long time I assumed he had forgotten the reasons by then. I also assumed he'd try to feed me B.S n didnt want to go there, tht would only make me get up n leave feeling disgusted. But he brought it up, said he's shocked by how quickly time has passed he hadnt noticed its been too long, he kept himself too bizzy. Tht he remmembers I called once n tried 2 be in touch but tht he messed up cuz he sux at keeping contact. He remmembered details from those dates tht I'd completely forgotten, he said it seems like just few months ago. I made no coments. Anyways, he has family here and was planning to move. Saying he dislikes the town he lives in n only his stabile job keeps him there. But I dont know what to think now, I count actions not words. I've stopped analizing n trying 2 read ppls minds. It's been a week now since we've been in touch n Im thinking its better tht way. He wants 2 push me away n forget me, I'll make it easy 4 him, Ive no plans replying to him anymore. Sorry 4 the bad grammar, typing from my phone 😉 he's like an angel, but he's not, so Im letting go. You're really of help 2 me, kind ppl😉 wish u all heeps of heavenly love and a wonderful day!

Btw, I wish that none should ever have 2 experionce having found something special only to be separated from it by distance. I wish none should ever come to this 'place' Im at right now, its not any comfy. I can already se myself dating others, but I cnt see myself forgetting tht somewhere out there is the one my soul craves and yearns 2 be next 2. Since the 1st time I saw him, I knew tht I knew tht I knew... However that sounds, he right away felt like home to me, only way 2 describe. I didn't forget during tht 1,5 year of dating others, how will I ever..? But if he can, so can I.

I would never replace it, if I could have it. But all he kept saying to me is that he cant see it working if we would see eachother once every other week or once a month, and that it devostates him. But I've been crying too many days now, not constantly crying but at least 30 sec a day, and it's painful. Because I KNOW in my heart if he really wanted me, he wouldn't llet fear stop him. If it was up to me, we would be together nomatter if it's only once a month or 2 months or once in 2 weeks. But that's only because I like him more than he likes me. He hasn't even invited me, I've invited him heh...but he's got no time, travels with work at weekends etc. I really belive it's gonna work out for you guys, you probably live closer. I'm cheering on you, thanks for your share 🙂

Well I am pretty sure that you know im doin the cap on cap thing now in the relationship department ANd everyone on here has already said what I was about to , WHEN WE WANT we go full force with it . THEN if it is to easy or too hard we get fustrated with it . Normally if I want someone I will try to be around them as much as possible, I wil ldo what ever it takes to make sure I please them as well as myself . If I do not view them as important anymore then it is on to the next . I dont think that he is tryin to avoid you and hurt you purposefully, I think in my own opinion that he has began to see someone else that is near him and that if he were in your area it would be you . We need love, and are not gonna go without attention for tooo too long..

Maybe there when he gets back around you but maybe it is just too much of an uncomfortable equation who really knows. Personally if it were me then that just meant that you are someone to me and i would soo do you but it is something wrong keepin me from you but if i want you i will get you if i can but if i cant why cry over spilled milk .

Posted by leilaxxlovez
Hey girl...
Am really sorry about what ur going through...

Imma be straightforward with you.

He likes you...he really does. He wouldn't take time sayin all those things to you if they didn't exist...I think he feels the connection too.

But, the distance is a greater issue than u know. He not only feels he won't be there for you, but that it will be hard to feel like you two are actually in a relationship when ur so far apart. Cap knows he needs a partner who is there...whom he can turn to for support, and offer his support in return. He needs a partner by his side, and he knows you do too. He said somethings that moved your heart, because he meant them, but when he gets back to reality he's gotta work, deal with the fact that he can't be with u like u both deserve.

In moments of weakness, or during a crazy connection, we say things we mean, but we don't think of the consequences.
Distance is a deal breaker...cap is a passionate lover...who needs someone there physically in order to feel like he's really in a relationship, and this goes hand in hand with trust. Without distance, trust is already an issue for a cap, add some distance and u have a disaster.

U need to move on...because he knows he cannot give u what u want, and u know you deserve to be treated better.

ITA!!

I moved to be with my virgo after a long time friendship and we both found ourselves single. If the two of u entered into a relationship it would probably work as you have the friendship foundation down first..exactly what works for both caps and virgo's.

capbaby: we both know we would be great 2gether, we've even stod in front of the mirror complimenting what a perfect fit we are, he did anywas. As for the friendship, its perfect, we can def open our souls to eachother in trust. Its just the distance, he cnt handle it n doesnt want to try but doesnt want to be direct about it so Ive figured it out myself. We're doomed, I g2 do the dirt job, the kill. Im happy u guys made it tho, best of luck🙂 Capgal: seeing some1 else and feeding me the sweettalk, hmm.. Def not what I respect. But it doesnt matter even if it is like that because Ive cut him out. Told him this makes me sad n I have to let go. He wanted to sneak around beating around the bush as usual but I told him hes a great person n i totally get where hes coming from, but tht if he really liked me everything would be different. No more execuses n that Im making it easy 4 him. This Virgo is leaving 1st.