Virgo-Capricorn in need of help

Hello Virgos,
I'm new here and I need some advices.
I'm a Capricorn and I have been talking to this Virgo guy for 5 years.
Our relationship has been through a lot of ups and downs and I need to know what to do next.

He told me several times that he's in love with me, yet pushed me away enough to hurt us. Being the Capricorn that I am, I sticked with him through everything. Even the nights he told me it was over just to test me.

He lied to me just to see how much I cared. He flirted with other girls just to get a reaction from me. He insulted me just to get me to fight back for him.

Here was are, 5 years into a relationship that we both want.
The problem is that he doesn't believe me.
I told him I'm in for good, proved it to him more than I can count on 20 hands. He has such trust issues that it's destroying our relationship.

I don't know what to do next.
Oh have I told you we don't have a real relationship because according to him I don't love him? When I actually do and told him and showed him repetitively? Yeah. We've been an item, we're both not single and every time he confront me, telling me I don't wanna be with him and assuming everything worst about us and I tell him and show him that I wanna be with him, he push me away and tell me he doesn't believe me.
5 years later, he reached a point where he told me life is not worth living with me. He's being very (too) emotional and he wanna kill himself because he think I don't wanna be with him.
Only thing is, it's all in his head. Because I do love him, I do wanna be with him. He just don't believe me.

I don't know what else to do anymore 😢

Virgos, can you tell me what I should do?

Thank you.

He sounds like he needs some serious in patient care.This has gone beyond"Virgoness".He's paranoid and cut of emotionally.He is using your ties to him to keep you an emotional hostage.Unless you have done some major dirt to him and this is his way of getting even,these stakes are way too high to take a chance with.Run.Yesterday.If he was capable of caring,he wouldn't do this to you , spinning your heart areound.He has zero empathy for your wellbeing.I know,I know,you care about him,but if you valve your life run.He needs professional help.If you take him,he'll make all sorts of paranoid statements and blame you if things go"wronger".His family needs to get involved now.This is no way to live your life waiting for the next outburst.All this is big red flag behavior.Get out now.

The only thing I did to him is complicated.

He drove 10 hours to come see me, and I wasn't there when he showed up.
He had my old parent's address and made a mistake when he wrote it down.
He was very upset. He was in a city he didn't know and he had to sleep at the hotel, me being unable to meet him the same night.
The next day when I arranged to meet him and show him the new place, he was still upset
about me not being there and he's been accusing me ever since of lying to him about my parents address when I didn't.

It's a constant fight with him. Fights about me being someone I'm not and defending myself against his false accusations.

That's not a complicated mistake at all.All he had to do was call your cell phone.I'm sorry dear,but there is something wrong with him.He has some sort of chemical imbalance.He needs medication or he needs to take what he hasn't been.This is not to demean you in any way.You are probably very sweet and want things to work out.He needs help.I bet you can list story after story like this,but if they all have a dark and twisted ending,with the same theme is "you" did something wrong and he won't take any responsibility,that isn't good at all.Sweetiw,their is a lid for every pot,you are not his care taker or blaming board.ou Cap girl become attached and it hurts to start from fresh,but really you can't continue to live in waitng for his next drama.Talk to someone in your area,you don't need to deal with him alone.If you don't want to talk out here pm ,some of the Virgo guys ask them what a Virgo male is all about!

Posted by imkatherinehannah

..... we're both not single ....

At first I was wondering why you were still in the shadows of each other after 5 years ... then you said the above.

You're both losers ... you deserve the misery you are getting.

I meant it like, we're together without saying it. Not like, we're in relationships with other people. Sorry if I worded it wrong.

to deal with this issue, i would like to know what decan he is.

is he a Virgo 1st decan -24 august - 3 sept
2nd decan 4- 13 sept
3rd decan. 14 -22 sept

the reason why i'm asking is that there is a saying, which i have tested and proved right, that
only the 2nd decans understands capricorns

Also i would advise you to tell him exactly everything what you wrote here. The reason is that
somethings we Virgos don't realise we are hurting somebody as we don't reason with our emotions most of the time.

Also let him know that he must change,( be firm with him) otherwise you will leave him.(you need to show that
you are independent and worth-having)

if nothing happens after a couple of weeks, he doesn't deserve you

Posted by username
to deal with this issue, i would like to know what decan he is.
.....
Also let him know that he must change,( be firm with him) otherwise you will leave him.(you need to show that
you are independent and worth-having)

if nothing happens after a couple of weeks, he doesn't deserve you

He's 2nd decan. Sept 10.

I also tried exactly this. His answers? You don't love me, you're asking me to change because you don't love me for me. If you want to leave me alone, you don't really love me. And he will disappear for days, only to come back and tell me how much he misses me and we will have the same talk, same issues, same ol' same ol'.

Posted by imkatherinehannah

He told me several times that he's in love with me, yet pushed me away enough to hurt us. Being the Capricorn that I am, I sticked with him through everything. Even the nights he told me it was over just to test me.

He lied to me just to see how much I cared. He flirted with other girls just to get a reaction from me. He insulted me just to get me to fight back for him.

Here was are, 5 years into a relationship that we both want.
The problem is that he doesn't believe me.
I told him I'm in for good, proved it to him more than I can count on 20 hands. He has such trust issues that it's destroying our relationship.

I don't know what to do next.
Oh have I told you we don't have a real relationship because according to him I don't love him?

Has the thought ever crossed your mind that he wasn't testing you, rather .... you are oblivious to him not being into you, so he decided to just use you, since you don't seem to mind ?

I gather that you view yourself as some sort of hero for sticking to a man who would rather you didn't

What you should do next is leave him, fix yourself in so that you realize you're not suppose to be a rug .. then go find a man who is compatible with you.