what do Cap men like in a woman?

I have about 4 Cap men around me, exes (that still love me (their words)) and a current one.

They all have the same behavior, they are with me, then leave, then come back, when I first ally got mad and left them they always came back but I just move on. (one ex is an exception)

I'm an aquarius.. and I believe the reason why we get so attached to Capricorns is because we are patient with them. they need their space and so do we.

But I just wanna hear from the Capricorn men...what do we (women) do that can keep you with us longer?

Most of us as willing to give you space because we need it too, but sometimes that space draws us away from each other.

Posted by Capri-sun
Have you checked the ask a cap male thread?

You're always comment .. which thread specifically? I mean I lived with a Cap and I have many around me but sometimes they just don't know how to make ME happy. I enjoy their company a lot (different situations) but when I'm with Caps, I do whatever to please them so I forget about what I want. I just want them to take the initiative once in a while.

How can I make them realize this on their own?

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https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/ask-a-cap-male-7195197/?checkpg=1

According to Gemitati dxp is my life....so, I try to help where I can, hence why I always comment lol.

I'm looking for one more, then I will respond to your question.

With my ex cap we were together since very young and I when we moved in together I always took care of everything in the house, rent, pay bills, etc. I also worked and took care of our kids. he worked 2 jobs to be able to learn and move up, when he finally made it, I thought it was time for me to rest and continue with my education but he was jealous of me going to school etc. he became possesive, I started going out more and realized the whole time I forgot about me and what I wanted. I always did everything for him so all he had to do was go to work and not have more stress. I put it all on my shoulders and he didn't appreciate it, during his free time he would either go to his friends or work on his car, he didn't want to spend time with us which is why being in a long term relationships too young was wrong.

Now he wants us to get back together, we have been separated for a year and I have never felt such freedom. I think I stopped loving him over the years of breaks and space.

Now this new cap, seems more family oriented, he likes to do activities although he's also very busy with work.

I met him 3 months ago and this gs are very slow, he seems insecure and some what possesive. He asks me questions that sound like he wants to know what I want or what I do as far as having other relationships, but he has not asked me anything about being together. Which is fine by me, I don't mind getting to know him first. But I always want him to know that I am interested but I don't want him to keep me as "possible gf" but not official.

I don't mind not being official, but at least between us..I want to know what he wants.

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Posted by Capri-sun
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/ask-a-cap-male-7195197/?checkpg=1

According to Gemitati dxp is my life....so, I try to help where I can, hence why I always comment lol.

I'm looking for one more, then I will respond to your question.

With my ex cap we were together since very young and I when we moved in together I always took care of everything in the house, rent, pay bills, etc. I also worked and took care of our kids. he worked 2 jobs to be able to learn and move up, when he finally made it, I thought it was time for me to rest and continue with my education but he was jealous of me going to school etc. he became possesive, I started going out more and realized the whole time I forgot about me and what I wanted. I always did everything for him so all he had to do was go to work and not have more stress. I put it all on my shoulders and he didn't appreciate it, during his free time he would either go to his friends or work on his car, he didn't want to spend time with us which is why being in a long term relationships too young was wrong.

Now he wants us to get back together, we have been separated for a year and I have never felt such freedom. I think I stopped loving him over the years of breaks and space.

Now this new cap, seems more family oriented, he likes to do activities although he's also very busy with work.

I met him 3 months ago and this gs are very slow, he seems insecure and some what possesive. He asks me questions that sound like he wants to know what I want or what I do as far as having other relationships, but he has not asked me anything about being together. Which is fine by me, I don't mind getting to know him first. But I always want him to know that I am interested but I don't want him to keep me as "possible gf" but not official.

I don't mind not being official, but at least between us..I want to know what he wants.

The old cap, I understand, my marriage was similar. Maybe attribute it to being young like you said.

New cap, what's wrong with talking to him about it the same way you're talking to us about it?

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I don't want him to think that I'm going too fast... he mentioned a few things to me a few days after we met and the way he behaves is confusing sometimes.

For example. We met in Sept. and I took him home (I felt the need to care for him) we kissed, he told me he liked me from the moment he saw me (business party) he asked me out to dance when he didn't even know how to dance. He keeps making a remark on the fact that I like to dance so he took me out the first few weekends, then stayed at his place and watch a movie too.

Everything was going well, but then he maybe thought I just wanted to be fwb. I always stayed at his house, but is hard for me to open up to people about my feelings. Then I had an issue and he's handling my case, (he's an attorney) and the first time I went to his office he couldn't contain himself and kissed me (there were cameras) then that night he told me that we can't kiss or have sex anymore until case is ressolved. I said ok, but I wanted to keep being friends and continue with what we had but he's being very distant lately, he cuts me off (in text) I saw him again after a whole month, he introduced me to his mentor and he said that he has been too busy and that they are not excuses.. then he said he wants to buy a house so I can spend time with him (lives in parents basement) I have stayed over and I have seen his mom, he introduced me to her one time (1st day we went out, we ran into her)

last times I've seen him he keeps distance but says things about a "future".

When I tell him that i miss him, he one day made a comment saying: "thats just once in a blue moon, im always busy"

I said: I didn't mean about us partying, I meant the times we are together.

He completely changed the subject. Sometimes he texted me a 5am (going to gym) I answer (I automatically wake up) and he asks "did you just get home?" (has happened a few times)

Sorry is too long but I see that he cares, but he is distant, he said at the beginning that he doesn't want to expect anything from me (fidelity) but he looks upto respect a partner and people he cares about and that he does care about me.

How do I show him that I respect him, that if I go out is just to have a good time with my friends not look for guys or anything like that.

Observing my mother with her Cap ex, there was definitely a Lot of freedom given that I think both loved.

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Posted by Capri-sun
Have you checked the ask a cap male thread?

You're always comment .. which thread specifically? I mean I lived with a Cap and I have many around me but sometimes they just don't know how to make ME happy. I enjoy their company a lot (different situations) but when I'm with Caps, I do whatever to please them so I forget about what I want.I just want them to take the initiative once in a while.

How can I make them realize this on their own?

Ok...

1. No one else should ever be responsible for making you happy. That is something we all should do for ourselves 🙂

2. "I do whatever to please them so I forget about what I want" so if you forget about what you want, how would they even know what makes you happy? Find balance. It's okay to compromise sometimes, just don't lose yourself in the process (things you want)

3. Making them take initiative...I can't too much relate to this because if I want to do something then I make it happen. Maybe mention what it is you would like and give them space and time to see if they do it. Choose your words carefully also. Example: "I would really enjoy going to this event, would you be willing to take me?" Idk, I understand straightforward and direct so it just depends on the situation. If someone important to me mentions something I try to pay attention and make it happen or follow through.

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1. Yes I learned that.! mostly during the time I was single.

2.Yup! I try not to, but when I fall for someone I always wanna make them happy. I like to impress them, I always dress nice and say nice things to them, cook, and make them feel comfortable, I even learn and enjoy the things they like too. I feel like is hard for people to like what I like or please me.

3. Ex cap, I was the planner, he goes where I said. New cap, is hard for me to get him to go with me to a place. 😢 the day before yesterday he sent me a picture with a free pass for his bday at a Speedway race track (he knows I love cars and racing) he said: You been? since he never really says anything for us to go, I said. nice! for your birthday, we should go! (maybe I killed it 😢 ) he never replied.. then I asked any plans for your birthday? (the next day he simply said No) I said, oh.. well if you're not doing anything I can stop by friday. ( still no answer today). his bday is Monday.

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Posted by Capri-sun
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/ask-a-cap-male-7195197/?checkpg=1

According to Gemitati dxp is my life....so, I try to help where I can, hence why I always comment lol.

I'm looking for one more, then I will respond to your question.

With my ex cap we were together since very young and I when we moved in together I always took care of everything in the house, rent, pay bills, etc. I also worked and took care of our kids. he worked 2 jobs to be able to learn and move up, when he finally made it, I thought it was time for me to rest and continue with my education but he was jealous of me going to school etc. he became possesive, I started going out more and realized the whole time I forgot about me and what I wanted. I always did everything for him so all he had to do was go to work and not have more stress. I put it all on my shoulders and he didn't appreciate it, during his free time he would either go to his friends or work on his car, he didn't want to spend time with us which is why being in a long term relationships too young was wrong.

Now he wants us to get back together, we have been separated for a year and I have never felt such freedom. I think I stopped loving him over the years of breaks and space.

Now this new cap, seems more family oriented, he likes to do activities although he's also very busy with work.

I met him 3 months ago and this gs are very slow, he seems insecure and some what possesive. He asks me questions that sound like he wants to know what I want or what I do as far as having other relationships, but he has not asked me anything about being together. Which is fine by me, I don't mind getting to know him first. But I always want him to know that I am interested but I don't want him to keep me as "possible gf" but not official.

I don't mind not being official, but at least between us..I want to know what he wants.

The old cap, I understand, my marriage was similar. Maybe attribute it to being young like you said.

New cap, what's wrong with talking to him about it the same way you're talking to us about it?

I don't want him to think that I'm going too fast... he mentioned a few things to me a few days after we met and the way he behaves is confusing sometimes.

For example. We met in Sept. and I took him home (I felt the need to care for him) we kissed, he told me he liked me from the moment he saw me (business party) he asked me out to dance when he didn't even know how to dance. He keeps making a remark on the fact that I like to dance so he took me out the first few weekends, then stayed at his place and watch a movie too.

Everything was going well, but then he maybe thought I just wanted to be fwb. I always stayed at his house, but is hard for me to open up to people about my feelings. Then I had an issue and he's handling my case, (he's an attorney) and the first time I went to his office he couldn't contain himself and kissed me (there were cameras) then that night he told me that we can't kiss or have sex anymore until case is ressolved. I said ok, but I wanted to keep being friends and continue with what we had but he's being very distant lately, he cuts me off (in text) I saw him again after a whole month, he introduced me to his mentor and he said that he has been too busy and that they are not excuses.. then he said he wants to buy a house so I can spend time with him (lives in parents basement) I have stayed over and I have seen his mom, he introduced me to her one time (1st day we went out, we ran into her)

last times I've seen him he keeps distance but says things about a "future".

When I tell him that i miss him, he one day made a comment saying: "thats just once in a blue moon, im always busy"

I said: I didn't mean about us partying, I meant the times we are together.

He completely changed the subject. Sometimes he texted me a 5am (going to gym) I answer (I automatically wake up) and he asks "did you just get home?" (has happened a few times)

Sorry is too long but I see that he cares, but he is distant, he said at the beginning that he doesn't want to expect anything from me (fidelity) but he looks upto respect a partner and people he cares about and that he does care about me.

How do I show him that I respect him, that if I go out is just to have a good time with my friends not look for guys or anything like that.

Okay, anytime I meet someone there is some conversation of "what are you looking for at this point in your life"...if you don't have that type of dialogue it leaves room for gray areas where things can be or lead to confusion like what you have now. If you don't know whether the 2 of you are on the same page then...it can leave you in a weird position.

You show him you respect him by doing what he asked you to do which is not kiss or have sex until the case is over.

If you want to go out, then go out. If you aren't doing anything inappropriate, I don't know why you would see this as an issue. He knows you like to dance...so either he accepts you for who you are as you are or he doesn't.

A healthy relationship isn't keeping a partner under lock and key, it's built on trust.

"Hey, I'm going out here with friends, I'll let you know when I make it back home"

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Yes, first thing we talked about was family. I have two daughters (he has asked me about them before, names, ages, dad info lol) He told me he wants 7 kids (he's always joking so idk if it's true, he's said it more than once. I said I have 2 so that's only 5 to go. he laughed.

He told me he's not about "the party life" anymore.

He said he's usually home or at work..

I don't go out that much either but sometimes I just have nothing else to do. I've told him this.

He knows I'm very social, I talk to a lot of people or one day when we went out, some guys would come to take me out or talk to me (he wasn't near me all the time, he liked to go dance on his own, but he always kept an eye on me. I was just being nice to the other guys declining their offer..but not flirty.

I respect his space as well, if he does this text me in 2 days or so..I don't text him..or I might just say "hope you have a nice day" or " I miss you" still, he doesn't reply but I don't complain or tell him anything about it.

Sometimes when he goes out with his friends he tells me he's going out to a certain place and went on saying his friends invited him, and they are taking him (like saying I didn't plan this) but he hasn't told me to go any place with him. so that makes me feel left out. but again it may be because of the case.

I brought him a home made snack to his office Monday, he said they were delicious and thank you. I replied and he didn't. then at 3am he sent me a text saying: Thanks again.

He told me he left the office at 1am.

He worked late last night and probably tonight again. Should I offer to bring him something to eat?

He worked late last night and probably tonight again. Should I offer to bring him something to eat?



Sure, if you would like to. Also be prepared in case he doesn't respond again.





Yeah I always think I'm ready but I still get the heartache when he doesn't reply or says he can't.

Posted by magikarp
i like aquarius women, they are light hearted?. when i'm afraid to pursue my true loves, i always look to aquarius or gemini girl for enjoyable relationships.

Are you a cap?

light hearted in what way?

true loves?? based on the zodiac?

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Posted by Aerazo

Posted by Capri-sun
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/ask-a-cap-male-7195197/?checkpg=1

According to Gemitati dxp is my life....so, I try to help where I can, hence why I always comment lol.

I'm looking for one more, then I will respond to your question.

With my ex cap we were together since very young and I when we moved in together I always took care of everything in the house, rent, pay bills, etc. I also worked and took care of our kids. he worked 2 jobs to be able to learn and move up, when he finally made it, I thought it was time for me to rest and continue with my education but he was jealous of me going to school etc. he became possesive, I started going out more and realized the whole time I forgot about me and what I wanted. I always did everything for him so all he had to do was go to work and not have more stress. I put it all on my shoulders and he didn't appreciate it, during his free time he would either go to his friends or work on his car, he didn't want to spend time with us which is why being in a long term relationships too young was wrong.

Now he wants us to get back together, we have been separated for a year and I have never felt such freedom. I think I stopped loving him over the years of breaks and space.

Now this new cap, seems more family oriented, he likes to do activities although he's also very busy with work.

I met him 3 months ago and this gs are very slow, he seems insecure and some what possesive. He asks me questions that sound like he wants to know what I want or what I do as far as having other relationships, but he has not asked me anything about being together. Which is fine by me, I don't mind getting to know him first. But I always want him to know that I am interested but I don't want him to keep me as "possible gf" but not official.

I don't mind not being official, but at least between us..I want to know what he wants.

The old cap, I understand, my marriage was similar. Maybe attribute it to being young like you said.

New cap, what's wrong with talking to him about it the same way you're talking to us about it?

I don't want him to think that I'm going too fast... he mentioned a few things to me a few days after we met and the way he behaves is confusing sometimes.

For example. We met in Sept. and I took him home (I felt the need to care for him) we kissed, he told me he liked me from the moment he saw me (business party) he asked me out to dance when he didn't even know how to dance. He keeps making a remark on the fact that I like to dance so he took me out the first few weekends, then stayed at his place and watch a movie too.

Everything was going well, but then he maybe thought I just wanted to be fwb. I always stayed at his house, but is hard for me to open up to people about my feelings. Then I had an issue and he's handling my case, (he's an attorney) and the first time I went to his office he couldn't contain himself and kissed me (there were cameras) then that night he told me that we can't kiss or have sex anymore until case is ressolved. I said ok, but I wanted to keep being friends and continue with what we had but he's being very distant lately, he cuts me off (in text) I saw him again after a whole month, he introduced me to his mentor and he said that he has been too busy and that they are not excuses.. then he said he wants to buy a house so I can spend time with him (lives in parents basement) I have stayed over and I have seen his mom, he introduced me to her one time (1st day we went out, we ran into her)

last times I've seen him he keeps distance but says things about a "future".

When I tell him that i miss him, he one day made a comment saying: "thats just once in a blue moon, im always busy"

I said: I didn't mean about us partying, I meant the times we are together.

He completely changed the subject. Sometimes he texted me a 5am (going to gym) I answer (I automatically wake up) and he asks "did you just get home?" (has happened a few times)

Sorry is too long but I see that he cares, but he is distant, he said at the beginning that he doesn't want to expect anything from me (fidelity) but he looks upto respect a partner and people he cares about and that he does care about me.

How do I show him that I respect him, that if I go out is just to have a good time with my friends not look for guys or anything like that.

Okay, anytime I meet someone there is some conversation of "what are you looking for at this point in your life"...if you don't have that type of dialogue it leaves room for gray areas where things can be or lead to confusion like what you have now. If you don't know whether the 2 of you are on the same page then...it can leave you in a weird position.

You show him you respect him by doing what he asked you to do which is not kiss or have sex until the case is over.

If you want to go out, then go out. If you aren't doing anything inappropriate, I don't know why you would see this as an issue. He knows you like to dance...so either he accepts you for who you are as you are or he doesn't.

A healthy relationship isn't keeping a partner under lock and key, it's built on trust.

"Hey, I'm going out here with friends, I'll let you know when I make it back home"

Yes, first thing we talked about was family. I have two daughters (he has asked me about them before, names, ages, dad info lol) He told me he wants 7 kids (he's always joking so idk if it's true, he's said it more than once. I said I have 2 so that's only 5 to go. he laughed.

He told me he's not about "the party life" anymore.

He said he's usually home or at work..

I don't go out that much either but sometimes I just have nothing else to do. I've told him this.

He knows I'm very social, I talk to a lot of people or one day when we went out, some guys would come to take me out or talk to me (he wasn't near me all the time, he liked to go dance on his own, but he always kept an eye on me. I was just being nice to the other guys declining their offer..but not flirty.

I respect his space as well, if he does this text me in 2 days or so..I don't text him..or I might just say "hope you have a nice day" or " I miss you" still, he doesn't reply but I don't complain or tell him anything about it.

Sometimes when he goes out with his friends he tells me he's going out to a certain place and went on saying his friends invited him, and they are taking him (like saying I didn't plan this) but he hasn't told me to go any place with him. so that makes me feel left out. but again it may be because of the case.

I brought him a home made snack to his office Monday, he said they were delicious and thank you. I replied and he didn't. then at 3am he sent me a text saying: Thanks again.

He told me he left the office at 1am.

He worked late last night and probably tonight again. Should I offer to bring him something to eat?

Aerazo, if I were in your place, I'd slow down and back off a little.

A sexual relationship between an attorney and a client is highly frowned upon. It can complicate matters and most of all it would impair his ability to represent you adequately.

He's trying to keep things professional and you must respect his decision. Your need to get close to him during this time might only push him away further.

I'd not burden him with expectations right now. And your actions are doing just that.

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Well, that's the reason I'm here asking these questions. I do not bother him, I just wait for him to show up and I just act normal, I have experience with other caps so I know about them leaving and coming back.

I wanna know what things cap man like, so that I can just slowly show him I'm interested when I see him, but that are not too compromising. I give him the space he needs.

I bought him a gift, hopefully I'll see him tomorrow and give it to him. also as a thank you for handling my case so well.

Posted by Aerazo
I have about 4 Cap men around me, exes (that still love me (their words)) and a current one.

They all have the same behavior, they are with me, then leave, then come back, when I first ally got mad and left them they always came back but I just move on. (one ex is an exception)

I'm an aquarius.. and I believe the reason why we get so attached to Capricorns is because we are patient with them. they need their space and so do we.

But I just wanna hear from the Capricorn men...what do we (women) do that can keep you with us longer?

Most of us as willing to give you space because we need it too, but sometimes that space draws us away from each other.

Mommy/daddy they are looking for.

Wash their feet and drink the water!