Why cap men can't just move on (forever!)?

Ok, this might sound like a really stupid question, so sorry for possibly wasting your time; is this cap guy that still gives me likes from time to time on fb even though we don't talk. He has this thing, if I am out of his life for a long period of time he start to give me likes on what I am posting, but it's not because he really likes my posts, but rather a method to get my attention, like "don't forget of me" kind of thing.

Now we don't talk because of some mean comments he made more than a month ago.We are friends, but in the past we were kinda friends with benefits ( till 7 months ago) and last month he invited me at his birthday and he treated me lile we were more than friends (like we are a couple) in front of everyone and that made me feel very uncomfortable, but this isn't the big problem.The problem is that I spend that night at his place (just sleep) and the next morning he made (in front of one of his friends) some mean jokes,pointing out how I didn't sleep with him not even on his birthday (there were so many jokes ; about the lack of sex,about me not being able to make a coffee or cook, and of course, like a conclusion, how women, in general, are selfish and manipulative).

I know those comments came from a place of frustration, but I immediately told him either be a good friend to me or to fuck off.He apparently made his choice.

Anyway,I didn't heard from him from that day (14 jan.) Till monday, and then tuesday, when he liked some posts of mine on FB.

I know I gave a lot of unnecessary details, but the question is very simple; why this cap (and many others) doesn't move on and keep trying to come back everytime I wanna move on?

He sounds like an immature jerk. Caps are kinda slow to get a breakup message when they really like you or maybe you are leading him on. Just like with any man, you need to make your intentions clear that you have no romantic interest in him and block him.

I don’t see the correlation between fb likes and not ‘moving on’.

A ‘like’ on social media does not mean deeper feelings. It’s just a like...

I like posts all the time. Doesn’t mean I want to fuck the postee...or that I want them ‘back’ etc. etc.

Your really reaching here.

Yes,likes are not a big deal for most people, but I know him very well, he's not to generous with likes, and when it comes to me he usually gave me like 2-3 likes and then waits for a few days and then he texts me.That's what he does when he wants to talk with me again.It is a pattern, 'cause this is not our first "break".

Anyway, the likes or his mean comments are not immportant, I wanted to give like a backstory, but as I see it wasn't necessary.

It's more like a curiosity (and I am pretty sure I am not the only one who wonders) why caps act like that? Like they don't wanna let you go but they don't let you get closed either.

That's what I am trying to do (free myself).It is a toxic thing what we got here.

I will say the other half of truth, even though I am proud person myself.I had loved this man, really loved.Now I am ok, like 90% detached, I let the past be in the past.But there are still some feelings left,some regrets, and it s hard to accept that even to myself, that he still has an influence on me.

I can't delete/block him, that's not me, it would be too childish.I just wish he could go on his way and me on mine, like we never knew each other.

I am not good with forums, so sorry if I sound somehow self-absorbed.I don't even know what kind of advices/opinions I wait for here.The situation as it is could go on (and off) forever or I could just stop everything and resist his attempts of reaching out to me.

But I really like this forum and I am fascinated with all the stories I read here.So, if any of you have some stories/opinions I would love to hear them, if not, thank you for you time and your interest in my topic. 😇

Thank you for your replay ladies.

#RooSagicorn I am glad to hear about a happy ending 😻

#UnicornSag yeah, we are both guilty of not leting go, also we are both capricorns.

I wonder if the moon has a big influence on how a sign (in this case capricorn) deal with attachment and expressing of the feelings?

If you were a friend for a while then he’s not going to let it go that easy. Caps don’t give up. And on top of that it sounds like he kinda likes you but doesn’t know for sure (they’re indecisive) so he’s one foot in one foot out.