Desperate for Good Advice

Dear Dr. Bill:

About two weeks ago, I told my boss some of the things a co-worker, I?m going to call her Holly, had said about her. I was hoping it would make the boss like me better, but in the end things are worst ? especially because I added a few things that weren?t true.



Holly and the boss now seem to be best friends after they spent hours together behind closed doors. Now Holly won?t even look at me and more and more of my co-workers are ignoring me.



I tried to apologize, but got laughed at. It?s hard to work in this hostile environment.



Help me, Dr. Bill. I can?t quit this job. It pays too much and I don?t have a good enough car to look further down the road.



What should I do?

Desperate for Good Advice

I'd love to answer this post, but I'm not "Dr. Bill", so I don't think I'm supposed to...

answer away, that's exactly what you're supposed to do 🙂

lol. Alright. First of all, while I despise lies and liars, we all occasionally make a mistake. You made a bad decision by embellishing and telling mistruths all for your personal gain, and I tend to think that what you put out into the world ends up coming back to you, somehow, some way. This is what has happened. "What a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to decieve". If you truly want to keep this job (and I'm suprised you're still employed by the way), you are going to have to swallow every ounce of pride you have, and be extremely humble because you are the one who stirred things up. Do not lash out at them or hold them (your boss and co-workers) in contempt for being wary of you--they really have every right to be, until you prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that you are not a liar and that you can be trusted. My advice is to try to talk to both the boss and "Holly" privately, and when you do, own up to everything you said and did, and make it clear to them that you realize how lucky you are to even still be working there, and also make it clear that their fogiveness is important to you, not to clear your own name, but to resolve the tension that your actions caused in the workplace. Do not be suprised if they are cold to you or seem suspicious. Again, they have a right to be. In time, if they are people you want to work for, they will forgive you once they see you repeatedly go out of your way to be an upstanding person. But, you absolutely cannot ever do this again. You made a mistake; one that I hope you don't make on a regular basis. You need to learn what you can from it, and try to rise above being the person who did this.

I wish you well,
Heather