Can you relate?

Posted on Virgo board too, I thought I should see what you Gem's can relate too, is it me? my age? or common among all? IDK


I am in a relationship, that I adore. I am looking to open the doors to explore that I was invited into. I find myself shut down from the past,cant get past my own fear of "rejection" from this man in the past, fear of it coming again, and wonder how you men would feel if your lady was caught in this place? Do you see it? Have you been here? Anyone find a solution that worked?

Seems silly I am sure to think I got the invitation that I wanted, I got it late, I got it, by the same token, my own fears are holding me back, I am looking to get passed them and move forward, I have not quite figured out how to do that yet.

as for fears holding a myself back, i totally understand that. as for a solution, i have none. i'm still trying to figure that out.

there is this old, really bad joke that comes to mind tho....

a guy is meeting with his psychiatrist and he's telling him about his fears.
"i'm afraid of being burried alive! absolutely terrified of it!!"
the psychiatrist looks at him and tells the guy,
"well, quit obsessing about it or i swear to God, i'll burry you alive!"

sometimes i wish it were that simple. i think it is and i think it should be, but for some reason, it's out of my reach. lol!

Posted by misslissa
as for fears holding a myself back, i totally understand that. as for a solution, i have none. i'm still trying to figure that out.

there is this old, really bad joke that comes to mind tho....

a guy is meeting with his psychiatrist and he's telling him about his fears.
"i'm afraid of being burried alive! absolutely terrified of it!!"
the psychiatrist looks at him and tells the guy,
"well, quit obsessing about it or i swear to God, i'll burry you alive!"

sometimes i wish it were that simple. i think it is and i think it should be, but for some reason, it's out of my reach. lol!

Misslissa, do you find others will not get real w/themselves to admit they cant get past their own fears? Seems others think its a "wrong" to admit emotions or that "what you feel" is "wrong". I dont feel that way at all, but in talking w/other friends both male and female, its the "way to be or do it"
I am not made like that, and that is not the "relationship" I have built w/this special man.

Posted by emeraldgem
Never happens to me........seriously. I must be either the eternal optimist or the eternal idiot. Either way - I never let my past enter my present. It's always a brand new day 🙂

............LOL - I am even going to make myself ill now!

More like eternally blessed with this ability! I live just like you, but inside my head, those damn little voices get the better of me sometimes! They say "this aint real, he is not serious, players only love you when they are playing" LMAO

This is where i work to defeat them! Mostly, I win, but I find myself w/this issue I have not defeated to date! If I go see him, its not a issue, except, well, I dont go w/sweet things in hand like I would like too do, I know he is open to anything, yet, I find myself shut after a past experience, and I just realized it as well!

You are blessed lady, truly blessed by your ability!

Posted by Perfect Gem Angel

Posted by misslissa
as for fears holding a myself back, i totally understand that. as for a solution, i have none. i'm still trying to figure that out.

there is this old, really bad joke that comes to mind tho....

a guy is meeting with his psychiatrist and he's telling him about his fears.
"i'm afraid of being burried alive! absolutely terrified of it!!"
the psychiatrist looks at him and tells the guy,
"well, quit obsessing about it or i swear to God, i'll burry you alive!"

sometimes i wish it were that simple. i think it is and i think it should be, but for some reason, it's out of my reach. lol!

Misslissa, do you find others will not get real w/themselves to admit they cant get past their own fears? Seems others think its a "wrong" to admit emotions or that "what you feel" is "wrong". I dont feel that way at all, but in talking w/other friends both male and female, its the "way to be or do it"
I am not made like that, and that is not the "relationship" I have built w/this special man.

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i do find that all around me. also, within myself, as well. it's hard to admit we have fears for various reasons. whether we think it will seem really silly to others and we're just embarrassed by it, or it's just total denial due to pride.

i don't think it's wrong to admit emotions. why? we all have them. we all experience all of them at one point in our life time. and i just despise it when someone says it's wrong for me to feel a certain way. feelings don't even know the difference between right or wrong. it's how we react that's either right or wrong.

i'm not the just "do it" type either. i have to analyze it for hours before i even move an inch. LOL! i definitely don't like the "it's the way to be" thing either. that's a society standard and, well, society isn't always right.

i hope all of that made sense. i'm still trying to get my thoughts straight in my head. i've been struggling with jumbled thinking and it doesn't always come out right. LOL!

I tried to alter the boxes of grey, I did not do so well...........LOL!

It makes perfect sense to me! I am kinda "just do it" type of gal, I like spontaneous and spontaneity in my relationships. I absolutely adore the fact he said "come and see" I feel what I feel and I am okay with it, I, like you, hate it when others try to tell me "how to feel" or "how I should feel" and etc.......
I love to share w/others, but I do not expect them to act or react as I do. I totally gave and give room to live and be human, to have error and lessons in life, to understand and move on and move passed any situation, most are not "unforgivable sins" and I wonder how many people really walk through life, living for others, and not for themselves, true to their own wants, needs, feelings?

Standards, BAH HUM BUG, I am so outside of the box, I would DIE if I was put into a box and a boxed way of thinking, I also believe this is why I am NOT a scholar, nor educated.

i wish i were the "just do it" type of gal. i would love to have spontaneity in my all aspects of my life, but i'm always bogged down with responisibilities.

"I wonder how many people really walk through life, living for others, and not for themselves, true to their own wants, needs, feelings?"

put me down for # 1 on your list. lol! between three teenage kids and a man, i always come last. half the time, i don't even factor into the equation at all. here at DXP is where i get to be true to myself. then again, i'm always here, twice a day, but still, i hardly ever say/post anything. i think that's a whole other issue tho. lol!