LostintheSauce
@LostintheSauce
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Gem Femme Fatale or what—
BTW... Here's the kick in the nads that just drives me insane. She shares her secrets with me. If she's crying over something she tells me she's been crying. But she never tells me what's it about. She only let me help her once with her problems, but after that first time she has told me only when she's upset. It's like playing tug of war or something. I don't pry, but being the type of guy I am I would do anything to just make her happy. She knows this but she doesn't seem to want to let me in too deep. Am I playing with fire or what? I don't know if she wants me jealous or wants me to help her or if she just wants me to leave her alone. I do know that I'm hanging around her more than I usually bother with any other girl I've been around. I want her gaga over me. Guide me int he right direction. lol I know it isn't fair to try to go about it this way but I really want this gem girl and I think she wants me too. Why is she fighting this harder than I am?
You're right. I'm going to start today. Believ it or not I actually am scared to do tthis. I feel like there's so much to lose and I haven't even touched her yet...lol
Ok... I'm on it. I'll listen to the professional...lol I just wish you at leastgave me a money back guarantee or something..
— Gem girl (usually) contacts me in a chat site after she finishes playing a game I believe she uses to relax herself. But during the game she flirts so hard with the other guys playing it that it turns my eyes green. Sending kisses and calling one specific other guy baby. hmmmm.??
^^^^ first thing you have to understand about the gem. Flirting is really just a part of our character.It is as much a part of what makes us who we are, as our DNA. And I bet that's even how she got you initially.
Generally the flirting is harmless. If you watch her and pay attention, you will notice she is like that with everyone??_men, women, children, everyone??_doesn't even matter the age??_it is just a part of how we communicate. I come from a family of seven other siblings, and when we were kids, I got my ass whipped less than any of the others simply because of that ability to flirt even then as a child. My siblings always tease that I had that charm I would use on my parents. Call it charm, whatever, I flirted and talked my way out of shit and also got what I wanted.
Most people, if you ask them to describe the traits of a gem, will automatically say we are too flirty??_ So why do people who cannot accept this still get involved with us? Go figure. If you know you absolutely cannot stand this, please don't even waste your time. You will be hurt over and over at you own expense I might add, because the gem is never doing it to hurt you deliberately.
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^^^^ first thing you have to understand about the gem. Flirting is really just a part of our character.It is as much a part of what makes us who we are, as our DNA. And I bet that's even how she got you initially.
Generally the flirting is harmless. If you watch her and pay attention, you will notice she is like that with everyone??_men, women, children, everyone??_doesn't even matter the age??_it is just a part of how we communicate. I come from a family of seven other siblings, and when we were kids, I got my ass whipped less than any of the others simply because of that ability to flirt even then as a child. My siblings always tease that I had that charm I would use on my parents. Call it charm, whatever, I flirted and talked my way out of shit and also got what I wanted.
Most people, if you ask them to describe the traits of a gem, will automatically say we are too flirty??_ So why do people who cannot accept this still get involved with us? Go figure. If you know you absolutely cannot stand this, please don't even waste your time. You will be hurt over and over at you own expense I might add, because the gem is never doing it to hurt you deliberately.
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?? She contacts me only after she finishes playing her game and then she acts like I mean something to her. Strange but ok.??
^^^^First off you need to understand. As much as she may like you, that gem is never going to stop —doing her?? she obviously likes to play games on this chat site, and that is exactly what she is going to do, that is exactly what she is doing. The fact that she knows you are online is not going to dictate her having a need to only communicate with you. If you want her to pay attention to you, just start up the conversation, she will respond just as she is responding with other members on the chat, she will also keep the communication going with the other members at the same time, Just don't expect her to only chat with you because you happen to be online.
A word of advice here??_ don't let your jealousy of this whole issue with how she acts with other members online be an issue. Gems like to know you care, but generally we don't get all caught up by that, and ultimately it repulses us to the point of leaving you so fast, all you will see is the dust cloud.
—She's has me on punishment for this test my cousin did on her. It was to check how serious she felt towards me. She somehow verbally admitted no interest in anyone seriously to my cousin, but when I confronted her she told me she loved me and I hurt her by testing her. So I apologize and accept this punishment which is exile from her friendslist.??
^^^^ from your other post about this gem gal, I did wonder your ages??_ The above quote kind of answers that question for me. My second bit of advice. STOP WITH THE DAMN TESTS. Gem will not like this at all. In fact, you keep doing this and you are going to see the results, and you will not like them. Accept a gem for who they are, call a gem out on their shit, ask a gem the question for which you need answers, but don't ever ever ever try and test a gem. Know that we are intelligent enough to spot it head on as soon as it starts to happen. Yes, please believe that we are manipulative to pass —all of your test.??
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^^^^First off you need to understand. As much as she may like you, that gem is never going to stop —doing her?? she obviously likes to play games on this chat site, and that is exactly what she is going to do, that is exactly what she is doing. The fact that she knows you are online is not going to dictate her having a need to only communicate with you. If you want her to pay attention to you, just start up the conversation, she will respond just as she is responding with other members on the chat, she will also keep the communication going with the other members at the same time, Just don't expect her to only chat with you because you happen to be online.
A word of advice here??_ don't let your jealousy of this whole issue with how she acts with other members online be an issue. Gems like to know you care, but generally we don't get all caught up by that, and ultimately it repulses us to the point of leaving you so fast, all you will see is the dust cloud.
—She's has me on punishment for this test my cousin did on her. It was to check how serious she felt towards me. She somehow verbally admitted no interest in anyone seriously to my cousin, but when I confronted her she told me she loved me and I hurt her by testing her. So I apologize and accept this punishment which is exile from her friendslist.??
^^^^ from your other post about this gem gal, I did wonder your ages??_ The above quote kind of answers that question for me. My second bit of advice. STOP WITH THE DAMN TESTS. Gem will not like this at all. In fact, you keep doing this and you are going to see the results, and you will not like them. Accept a gem for who they are, call a gem out on their shit, ask a gem the question for which you need answers, but don't ever ever ever try and test a gem. Know that we are intelligent enough to spot it head on as soon as it starts to happen. Yes, please believe that we are manipulative to pass —all of your test.??
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And please stop involving cousins, sisters, brother, whoever??_ You know there is a song that rings very true —DON??T ASK MY NEIGHBOR?? really, if you wanna know something come and ask. That third party BS is so juvenile. Just sayin dude.
—She shares her secrets with me. If she's crying over something she tells me she's been crying. But she never tells me what's it about. She only let me help her once with her problems, but after that first time she has told me only when she's upset. It's like playing tug of war or something.??
^^^^ What? This shouldn't be a tug of war at all. You are making it to be. For a gem to share her secrets, you should know she must consider you her inner circle, or important enough to hold something as valuable and fragile and well guarded to her, so for this you should be appreciative. HOWEVER??_ sharing her secrets and frustrations puts her in a vulnerable position. (a place gems don't like to be??_we are a masculine sign that has to portray strength at all times — male and female), so know that she shares because she just wants you to listen, that's it??_she does not want you to try and fix the problem (actually this is true of most women in general, we just want the man to listen), know that if she wants your help, she will communicate that in no uncertain terms.
But also know that most times a gem won't ask for help because there is always the very real chance that you might fail. She would much rather believe that you could and would help, than to put you to the task and then you disappoint her anyway. This is so much worse.
Gems are never looking for a —white knight in shining armor?? to come riding in. For the most part, we can take care of ourselves rather nicely. So don't try to fix her world. One thing that rings true of most gems, at least with me anyway, we accept people for who they are, and will really wish people would stop wanting to change/fix us.
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—She shares her secrets with me. If she's crying over something she tells me she's been crying. But she never tells me what's it about. She only let me help her once with her problems, but after that first time she has told me only when she's upset. It's like playing tug of war or something.??
^^^^ What? This shouldn't be a tug of war at all. You are making it to be. For a gem to share her secrets, you should know she must consider you her inner circle, or important enough to hold something as valuable and fragile and well guarded to her, so for this you should be appreciative. HOWEVER??_ sharing her secrets and frustrations puts her in a vulnerable position. (a place gems don't like to be??_we are a masculine sign that has to portray strength at all times — male and female), so know that she shares because she just wants you to listen, that's it??_she does not want you to try and fix the problem (actually this is true of most women in general, we just want the man to listen), know that if she wants your help, she will communicate that in no uncertain terms.
But also know that most times a gem won't ask for help because there is always the very real chance that you might fail. She would much rather believe that you could and would help, than to put you to the task and then you disappoint her anyway. This is so much worse.
Gems are never looking for a —white knight in shining armor?? to come riding in. For the most part, we can take care of ourselves rather nicely. So don't try to fix her world. One thing that rings true of most gems, at least with me anyway, we accept people for who they are, and will really wish people would stop wanting to change/fix us.
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Go and —do you?? dude. Sure, offer help, or ask how can you help? (Gem ladies adore chivalry and true gentleman), if she responds like this, —I'm good, I got this,?? accept that you have done your job just by listening to her. Hell, that's a plus in your favor, because Gems appreciate when people let them talk, and then listen sincerely and attentively to them.
—We've been talking for six months and we always express interest in each other, but how would I know if she just considers me some guy she thinks she can keep waiting on a shelf while she gets her rocks off. I'm not the one.??
^^^^ Really? It's only been six months. Yeah, gems have a way of getting all up in your heart fast.
I cannot really fathom how you see her, as keeping you on some kind of shelf, while she gets her rocks off??_ From everything you have written, she has only expressed herself in true Gemini form, it is you who have played games already, put her to tests already, had an ex GF call and verbally harass her??_come on dude, you are lucky that gem lady is still even around, much less interested.
You have to understand that if you want to keep that gem around, don't be acting like her life has to change now that you have plopped in her world (especially after only six short months) Don't ever make her feel like this - - - - > now that you two are dating (Can I assume exclusively?) she has to act like she fell off of mars and never knew others before you, and that she better not dare look in the direction of another, and she better be attentively catering to you at all times, and basically she better sit still some and stop all that flitting around to and fro. This to a gem gal is like telling a butterfly to duck tape them wings. Trust and believe!
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—We've been talking for six months and we always express interest in each other, but how would I know if she just considers me some guy she thinks she can keep waiting on a shelf while she gets her rocks off. I'm not the one.??
^^^^ Really? It's only been six months. Yeah, gems have a way of getting all up in your heart fast.
I cannot really fathom how you see her, as keeping you on some kind of shelf, while she gets her rocks off??_ From everything you have written, she has only expressed herself in true Gemini form, it is you who have played games already, put her to tests already, had an ex GF call and verbally harass her??_come on dude, you are lucky that gem lady is still even around, much less interested.
You have to understand that if you want to keep that gem around, don't be acting like her life has to change now that you have plopped in her world (especially after only six short months) Don't ever make her feel like this - - - - > now that you two are dating (Can I assume exclusively?) she has to act like she fell off of mars and never knew others before you, and that she better not dare look in the direction of another, and she better be attentively catering to you at all times, and basically she better sit still some and stop all that flitting around to and fro. This to a gem gal is like telling a butterfly to duck tape them wings. Trust and believe!
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Last but not least, don't ever put a gem girl on a pedestal. I promise with my whole heart, she does not want this position, unlike some sign (no offense Leo ladies)🙂 and if you put a gem there she will fail you every time, but most times if you don't hold her to expectations (otherwise known as boundaries), she will meet every one of those expectations that you didn't hold her to in the first place.
^^^^ But, this is good, because gem girl won't place you on a pedestal either, or see the relationship through —rose colored glasses?? nor place expectations on you. That is why really, we gems are able to quickly get over our anger, and we typically won't hold grudges. We understand that, shit happens and we all fall down. Now, when you think about it, dealing with a person like this makes it so much easier to be who you are, without fear of castrated if you do make a mistake. Just sayin. That's probably why many people say being around a gem is so easy.
—I want her gaga over me.?? < - - - - if she ever feels this, you??ll never know it anyways. Just sayin
—She always makes it a point to talk to me right before I'm going to walk away.?? Of course, she must get the last word in. 🙂
—I don't know if she wants me jealous?? HELL to the NO!
—Am I playing with fire or what— Nope. What you are doing is trying to catch air and keep it tightly sealed in a jar.
I hope I didn't come across as —Hard on you?? I'm just trying to give some serious advice coming from one who is a gem lady who is living the gem life every single day, since you did say you wanted. —a little guidance concerning this woman.
^^^^ But, this is good, because gem girl won't place you on a pedestal either, or see the relationship through —rose colored glasses?? nor place expectations on you. That is why really, we gems are able to quickly get over our anger, and we typically won't hold grudges. We understand that, shit happens and we all fall down. Now, when you think about it, dealing with a person like this makes it so much easier to be who you are, without fear of castrated if you do make a mistake. Just sayin. That's probably why many people say being around a gem is so easy.
—I want her gaga over me.?? < - - - - if she ever feels this, you??ll never know it anyways. Just sayin
—She always makes it a point to talk to me right before I'm going to walk away.?? Of course, she must get the last word in. 🙂
—I don't know if she wants me jealous?? HELL to the NO!
—Am I playing with fire or what— Nope. What you are doing is trying to catch air and keep it tightly sealed in a jar.
I hope I didn't come across as —Hard on you?? I'm just trying to give some serious advice coming from one who is a gem lady who is living the gem life every single day, since you did say you wanted. —a little guidance concerning this woman.
Whew!!!!!!!!!!!!!!damn, I know I'm gemini, ruler of communication. But maybe I talk too damn much. Just sayin 🙂
Posted by GeminiLovesVirgo
Are you talking about me? LOL. Sorry... I'm very much like that. Actually, I think she hasn't really decided yet if she wants you badly or not ( yes, we are extremes. We don't just like people, we want them badly. We don't just don't like some people, we hate them ) so I think the best you can do is suddenly ignore her. Pretend you are busy. Don't give her the same attention you've been giving her and that will make her think. 🙂 she will contact you if she realizes she misses you.. 🙂 give her a timeframe but ofcourse don't tell her. Say, 7 days of no contact. If she doesn't contact you, please expect the worst. After 7 days, say hi and see if she missed you or not. You will feel it for sure 🙂
I agree,gems have this annoying trait of not really wanting you if you "over" like us...However,the whole give her "timeframes" sounds to much like boundaries, rules and consequences.
I don't know about you, but when you tell this gem girl "what she can and cannot do," "what she must and must not do" that's when this gem will do the total opposite of what you wanted me to do.
What is this?... "the best you can do is suddenly ignore her. Pretend you are busy. Don't give her the same attention you've been giving her and that will make her think" "just don't tell her about the timeframe" You are kind of trying to teach virgo how to play games with the gem, and this is never going to work.
And she is a gem...don't worry, she believes in communication, so there is never a threat of long periods in between calls, but witholding calls from her for the sake of trying to make her want/miss you more...absence don't make our hearts grown fonder...it actually makes our mind start wonder, then we get the hell up and wander (away from you). Just sayin 🙂
@ gemlovesvirgo
—I need help figuring out these course of actions because I just no longer understand what's going on. Someone please explain to me whether I'm just being a fool for this Gem girl or not. Her actions have me confused beyond reason and I'm just not sure my Virgo mind is thinking right.??
^^^ this was the OP comment??_he is not asking where he stands, he is asking what to make of the gems actions and what they mean. Why gem is acting the way that is or isn't, and how to get her to act differently??_ as in —I want her gaga over me.??
—I really want this gem girl and I think she wants me too. Why is she fighting this harder than I am—
^^^ This sounds like he knows where he stands??_.he knows the gem girl likes him. So, as I stated, he wants to understand gems actions. Does this make sense?
Here is your comment to me??_ —@gem: the Virgo guy wants clarification on where he stands so I suppose he will get it if he uses the timeframe thingy? I dunno but in my case, it works.??
How is the whole timeframe thing suppose to clarify where he stands?
—Gems doesn't like mind games but let's admit that it keeps the excitement?? If it is clear that we don't like mind games, how the hell can this be exciting? We like games of tease per se, to get the other inspired romantically, such as sexy texting, or to be politically correct —Sexting?? but not games to test our loyalty to another.
I do share your thoughts about space, Yes, we gems need that like the air we breathe??_but we can have this and still communicate all the while. Space is not the issue as much as Lack of communication is. I can go weeks if necessary without seeing my guy, as long as there is constant communication even during the apart time. So you telling him to not call her for periods of time is not the ideal solution.
For gems, if we miss you and wanna talk to you, we pick up the phone and do so, and in reverse, we expect that if the other person is feeling that way, just pick up the damn phone and call. Never mind who called who last, or how much time has lapsed, since my last call to you. If he starts out of the blue not calling her for awhile when this has generally been his way up until now, gem will see this as a game. Trust that she will outlast you on the silence game.
—I need help figuring out these course of actions because I just no longer understand what's going on. Someone please explain to me whether I'm just being a fool for this Gem girl or not. Her actions have me confused beyond reason and I'm just not sure my Virgo mind is thinking right.??
^^^ this was the OP comment??_he is not asking where he stands, he is asking what to make of the gems actions and what they mean. Why gem is acting the way that is or isn't, and how to get her to act differently??_ as in —I want her gaga over me.??
—I really want this gem girl and I think she wants me too. Why is she fighting this harder than I am—
^^^ This sounds like he knows where he stands??_.he knows the gem girl likes him. So, as I stated, he wants to understand gems actions. Does this make sense?
Here is your comment to me??_ —@gem: the Virgo guy wants clarification on where he stands so I suppose he will get it if he uses the timeframe thingy? I dunno but in my case, it works.??
How is the whole timeframe thing suppose to clarify where he stands?
—Gems doesn't like mind games but let's admit that it keeps the excitement?? If it is clear that we don't like mind games, how the hell can this be exciting? We like games of tease per se, to get the other inspired romantically, such as sexy texting, or to be politically correct —Sexting?? but not games to test our loyalty to another.
I do share your thoughts about space, Yes, we gems need that like the air we breathe??_but we can have this and still communicate all the while. Space is not the issue as much as Lack of communication is. I can go weeks if necessary without seeing my guy, as long as there is constant communication even during the apart time. So you telling him to not call her for periods of time is not the ideal solution.
For gems, if we miss you and wanna talk to you, we pick up the phone and do so, and in reverse, we expect that if the other person is feeling that way, just pick up the damn phone and call. Never mind who called who last, or how much time has lapsed, since my last call to you. If he starts out of the blue not calling her for awhile when this has generally been his way up until now, gem will see this as a game. Trust that she will outlast you on the silence game.
@ SooGem
Thank you for your legnthy response. You sound exactly like her!! I felt like I was talking to her. I just want to make this very clear. As a Virgo, I have never actually tried to set any boundaries for any prior mates or any woman I have ever met. This may surprise you, but I have no insecurities in my masculinity and I would never impose any boundaries on anyone that I was trying to talk to. You never would know the real person. I have this habit of taking too much time to pursue women. I stay neutral forever because I actually enjoy bachelorhood. I just find myself dazed and confused because no woman has ever really responded to me in this way. I know that I'm lucky that she still will have me. I'm just trying to make sure I'm not interpreting her the wrong way. I mean you're probably going to laugh really hard about this but this Gem is completely unaware that she is a Gemini or the Zodiac. (At least as far as I know... 😄) So I'm trying to take full advantage of it using this forum to understand her better while not giving her a headache along the way... I hope I'm not annoying you SooGem... lol
Thank you for your legnthy response. You sound exactly like her!! I felt like I was talking to her. I just want to make this very clear. As a Virgo, I have never actually tried to set any boundaries for any prior mates or any woman I have ever met. This may surprise you, but I have no insecurities in my masculinity and I would never impose any boundaries on anyone that I was trying to talk to. You never would know the real person. I have this habit of taking too much time to pursue women. I stay neutral forever because I actually enjoy bachelorhood. I just find myself dazed and confused because no woman has ever really responded to me in this way. I know that I'm lucky that she still will have me. I'm just trying to make sure I'm not interpreting her the wrong way. I mean you're probably going to laugh really hard about this but this Gem is completely unaware that she is a Gemini or the Zodiac. (At least as far as I know... 😄) So I'm trying to take full advantage of it using this forum to understand her better while not giving her a headache along the way... I hope I'm not annoying you SooGem... lol
@Lostinthesauce??_ (love thescreen name btw)
—You sound exactly like her!!?? < - - - I'm conceited enough to think you mean this in a good way, right. LOL
—As a Virgo, I have never actually tried to set any boundaries for any prior mates or any woman I have ever met. This may surprise you, but I have no insecurities in my masculinity and I would never impose any boundaries on anyone that I was trying to talk to.??
^^^I believe you, and I hope I didn't offend you??_in fact, did I say the words, —Insecurities?? or —Masculinity— I??ll have to go back and read. Certainly didn't mean it if I did, because, neither of those words apply to you in this case here. So, chillax. You are good okay.
Nothing is wrong with you Virgo, you are good. Just trying to explain her (gem girl) actions.
As a Virgo you do have the need to keep everything, neat, tidy and very well categorized and organized, and this goes for your relationships as well. Sometimes, the gems actions will have you seeing her as disorganized in her mind (the thoughts in her head), and totally blown away by what she says because, sometimes it doesn't seem to match what she does (Her actions), and yours is a sign that really doesn't mind helping the other person organize her messy life, so to speak.
Here's a virgo/gem dialogue —
The scenario is this: Virgo and gem are both online playing social chat games. (used this example since it's a familiar world for you two). Virgo is playing his games, but he's mindful of gems presence and every now and again he checks to see what gem is doing. (It is impossible to be around a gem that you??re smitten with, and not pay attention to all he/she is doing). At the same time, Virgo is kind of wondering why gem hasn't hit him up with a chat yet, because he knows damn well she knows he is there, but even still it's good and Virgo keeps playing his current game that he was playing elsewhere, but at the same time, Virgo is noticing Gem seems to be having no problem chatting it up elsewhere. In fact, she sounds down right flirty with some of those words. Okay, now Virgo is getting a wee bit annoyed. Sigh!
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—You sound exactly like her!!?? < - - - I'm conceited enough to think you mean this in a good way, right. LOL
—As a Virgo, I have never actually tried to set any boundaries for any prior mates or any woman I have ever met. This may surprise you, but I have no insecurities in my masculinity and I would never impose any boundaries on anyone that I was trying to talk to.??
^^^I believe you, and I hope I didn't offend you??_in fact, did I say the words, —Insecurities?? or —Masculinity— I??ll have to go back and read. Certainly didn't mean it if I did, because, neither of those words apply to you in this case here. So, chillax. You are good okay.
Nothing is wrong with you Virgo, you are good. Just trying to explain her (gem girl) actions.
As a Virgo you do have the need to keep everything, neat, tidy and very well categorized and organized, and this goes for your relationships as well. Sometimes, the gems actions will have you seeing her as disorganized in her mind (the thoughts in her head), and totally blown away by what she says because, sometimes it doesn't seem to match what she does (Her actions), and yours is a sign that really doesn't mind helping the other person organize her messy life, so to speak.
Here's a virgo/gem dialogue —
The scenario is this: Virgo and gem are both online playing social chat games. (used this example since it's a familiar world for you two). Virgo is playing his games, but he's mindful of gems presence and every now and again he checks to see what gem is doing. (It is impossible to be around a gem that you??re smitten with, and not pay attention to all he/she is doing). At the same time, Virgo is kind of wondering why gem hasn't hit him up with a chat yet, because he knows damn well she knows he is there, but even still it's good and Virgo keeps playing his current game that he was playing elsewhere, but at the same time, Virgo is noticing Gem seems to be having no problem chatting it up elsewhere. In fact, she sounds down right flirty with some of those words. Okay, now Virgo is getting a wee bit annoyed. Sigh!
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Virgo starts thinking in his head??_Damn, why gem gotta be talking like that??_does she say those words to everybody??_she don't know this man from the man in the moon??_don't she know how many sicko internet pervs there are out here?
Now for the dialogue —
Virgo: —hey gem baby, you know, I absolutely love you and your personality??_ You know you might be too nice, maybe you shouldn't say some of the things you say to men when you chat while playing online games??_You know there are some crazy ass people out here.
Now in her mind, gem sees this ^^^as, —Damn, now he telling me I can't talk to other people— - In comes that gem trait, that disapproval for boundaries.
Gem: Aw, it's cool, I'm just playing my games, those men mean nothing to me, and I am just being friendly. But, I??ll handle it if somebody tries to get wrong.
Virgo sees this ^^^ as, —hell no, I don't like her talking like this to other men well, but, on the real, I'm just trying to look out for my girl, and tell her how her innocence could be misconstrued by others. — And in comes that Virgo need to help her organize her mess (as in her messy actions.)
See what I mean? (me, asking if you understand, the dialogue part is done).
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Now for the dialogue —
Virgo: —hey gem baby, you know, I absolutely love you and your personality??_ You know you might be too nice, maybe you shouldn't say some of the things you say to men when you chat while playing online games??_You know there are some crazy ass people out here.
Now in her mind, gem sees this ^^^as, —Damn, now he telling me I can't talk to other people— - In comes that gem trait, that disapproval for boundaries.
Gem: Aw, it's cool, I'm just playing my games, those men mean nothing to me, and I am just being friendly. But, I??ll handle it if somebody tries to get wrong.
Virgo sees this ^^^ as, —hell no, I don't like her talking like this to other men well, but, on the real, I'm just trying to look out for my girl, and tell her how her innocence could be misconstrued by others. — And in comes that Virgo need to help her organize her mess (as in her messy actions.)
See what I mean? (me, asking if you understand, the dialogue part is done).
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—I just find myself dazed and confused because no woman has ever really responded to me in this way.??
**Takes a bow for the gems**??_
We gems are definitely different. But we are gems, and I mean that literally speaking, as in Gemini the sign, but also, gem as in the treasure. And. Like a true gem, if you take the time to polish over that hard surface, you find a sparkling brilliance, more valuable than anything you could hope to encounter in a lifetime.
—So I'm trying to take full advantage of it using this forum to understand her better while not giving her a headache along the way??
Yes, this is a good thing to do. Use learning about her and how and why she does will take you a long way in understanding how to communicate with her, about everything, this includes ,when she does something to rub you the wrong way, and she will because she is a gem, and gems damn sure ain't perfect. (We know it, and own up to it.) LoL
IMO, if people took the time to understand (astrology) the what's and whys of how the other person works as an individual, they could then better understand how to blend, and perhaps, you would not have so many people saying, this sign and that sign could never work out. Sure it may be difficult. But it can happen. Because, after all, the stars only compel, they don't rule.
Definition of COMPEL. 1: to drive or urge forcefully
Definition of RULE. 1: a prescribed guide for conduct or action
Example, if I'm gonna date a Virgo, and I already know they don't like messiness, then hell, simple enough to not be a slob around them, rather than argue/breakup over his constantly asking why I keep my damn car so nasty. Just sayin??_ I'm tired, couldn't come up with a better example. LOL
—... I hope I'm not annoying you SooGem?? < - - - not in the slightest, ask whatever you need to help you understand how to better love that gem or, how to dispose of the body if you had to kill her ass??_ but do get several coffins, and be sure to figure out which gem you actually wanna kill. LOL
**Takes a bow for the gems**??_
We gems are definitely different. But we are gems, and I mean that literally speaking, as in Gemini the sign, but also, gem as in the treasure. And. Like a true gem, if you take the time to polish over that hard surface, you find a sparkling brilliance, more valuable than anything you could hope to encounter in a lifetime.
—So I'm trying to take full advantage of it using this forum to understand her better while not giving her a headache along the way??
Yes, this is a good thing to do. Use learning about her and how and why she does will take you a long way in understanding how to communicate with her, about everything, this includes ,when she does something to rub you the wrong way, and she will because she is a gem, and gems damn sure ain't perfect. (We know it, and own up to it.) LoL
IMO, if people took the time to understand (astrology) the what's and whys of how the other person works as an individual, they could then better understand how to blend, and perhaps, you would not have so many people saying, this sign and that sign could never work out. Sure it may be difficult. But it can happen. Because, after all, the stars only compel, they don't rule.
Definition of COMPEL. 1: to drive or urge forcefully
Definition of RULE. 1: a prescribed guide for conduct or action
Example, if I'm gonna date a Virgo, and I already know they don't like messiness, then hell, simple enough to not be a slob around them, rather than argue/breakup over his constantly asking why I keep my damn car so nasty. Just sayin??_ I'm tired, couldn't come up with a better example. LOL
—... I hope I'm not annoying you SooGem?? < - - - not in the slightest, ask whatever you need to help you understand how to better love that gem or, how to dispose of the body if you had to kill her ass??_ but do get several coffins, and be sure to figure out which gem you actually wanna kill. LOL
@ SooGem.. I did mean you sound exactly like her as a compliment.. And as far as organization goes, yes I could be neat and tidy at times when I have to search for something thats no longer where I thought it was located. But by that timw a Gem probably wouldn't be able to find matching socks without me. Now with the whole chat scenario you provided, I ignored all her flirting to a point. Instead of even mentioning it to her I posted a flirt on some girls profile. I was shocked at how swift and how jealously green her eyes turned in 3 minutes or less because of it. She was ready to take my head clean off. Then regained her composure acted all quiet and posted a really bold comment on some guys profile. It was awesome watching her go all Dr. Jekyl & Ms Hyde & Xena Warrior princess in 5 minutes or less. But my point was made. I know she's a flirt in that Damsel in distress don't no better face mask that is completely a fabrication of her own design. Who would believe she would get so jealous and watching me in the corner of her eye the entire time.
@GeminilovesVirgo & @SooGem I greatly value both of your opinions and I believe they are both the right course of actions. The timing though is everything with regards to you Gems. What could create a lasting bond today could completely destroy the entire relationship at midnight. I'm well aware. It's like always trying to solve a riddle that every time you leave it to itself for a little while all the pieces shift to other areas. It's beautigul. More alive than than any other sign I feel. I also am starting to believe the way gems are on the surface, us Virgos are that way internally. Somehow, Icompletely get why... I just don't get the how about you Gems. I still see that part as the everyday adventure in adoring a woman possessing all the human qualities in extreme. It's truly awesome!!!
@GeminilovesVirgo & @SooGem I greatly value both of your opinions and I believe they are both the right course of actions. The timing though is everything with regards to you Gems. What could create a lasting bond today could completely destroy the entire relationship at midnight. I'm well aware. It's like always trying to solve a riddle that every time you leave it to itself for a little while all the pieces shift to other areas. It's beautigul. More alive than than any other sign I feel. I also am starting to believe the way gems are on the surface, us Virgos are that way internally. Somehow, Icompletely get why... I just don't get the how about you Gems. I still see that part as the everyday adventure in adoring a woman possessing all the human qualities in extreme. It's truly awesome!!!
Posted by GeminiLovesVirgo
@Lostinthesauce: Pardon the difference in strategies. Haha. We are gems. We see things differently based on the experiences we had. Lol
@Gem: I also appreciate your opinion on this. 😉 It's nice to talk to a gem! I mean, we don't have the same opinion but definitely, I think both ways are worth analyzing 🙂
🙂 Girl, you know we all right with each other. Great minds can think alike, yet have differences of approach, and as a gem, quite frankly, I love when people debate or discuss their point of view. This always makes for a more interesting, and most engaging conversation, and you know we gems are "all about the communication" 🙂It was great to see you hang in here with me, on the real. Just sayin. Other signs might have given up trying to get me to see their point, "eh, screw it, that sooogem is crazy, and she talk too damn much" hehehe.
I would have to say, your appraoch is not incorrect, just another way of dealing. I am sure the OP appreciated both aspects and I am certain he can use elements from both perspectives to try and learn to deal with that gem of lady he is wowed over 🙂
Posted by LostintheSauce
@ SooGem.. I did mean you sound exactly like her as a compliment.. And as far as organization goes, yes I could be neat and tidy at times when I have to search for something thats no longer where I thought it was located. But by that timw a Gem probably wouldn't be able to find matching socks without me. Now with the whole chat scenario you provided, I ignored all her flirting to a point. Instead of even mentioning it to her I posted a flirt on some girls profile. I was shocked at how swift and how jealously green her eyes turned in 3 minutes or less because of it. She was ready to take my head clean off. Then regained her composure acted all quiet and posted a really bold comment on some guys profile. It was awesome watching her go all Dr. Jekyl & Ms Hyde & Xena Warrior princess in 5 minutes or less. But my point was made. I know she's a flirt in that Damsel in distress don't no better face mask that is completely a fabrication of her own design. Who would believe she would get so jealous and watching me in the corner of her eye the entire time.
@GeminilovesVirgo & @SooGem I greatly value both of your opinions and I believe they are both the right course of actions. The timing though is everything with regards to you Gems. What could create a lasting bond today could completely destroy the entire relationship at midnight. I'm well aware. It's like always trying to solve a riddle that every time you leave it to itself for a little while all the pieces shift to other areas. It's beautigul. More alive than than any other sign I feel. I also am starting to believe the way gems are on the surface, us Virgos are that way internally. Somehow, Icompletely get why... I just don't get the how about you Gems. I still see that part as the everyday adventure in adoring a woman possessing all the human qualities in extreme. It's truly awesome!!!
Hey there lostintheSauce,
You sound a little bit less baffled about your gem girls actions 🙂, just keep gleaning information about the gemini sign in general, as well as read up on how gems and virgo's deal/work as in relationship compatibility. Don't let the whole "gemini and virgo...maybe not the greatest for lasting...incompatible", and all that other stuff that you are likely to read. If you are as captured and captivated by that gem, go for it all the way, just understand how to do it in a way that she is
cont...
not threatened individually as far as her independance, but also in a way where her split natured tendencies and other crazy quirks, won't compromise your internal equilibrium as well.
Both GeminilovesVirgo and I were extremely to pitch in here and help you out 🙂
"I ignored all her flirting to a point. Instead of even mentioning it to her I posted a flirt on some girls profile. I was shocked at how swift and how jealously green her eyes turned in 3 minutes or less because of it. She was ready to take my head clean off."
Oh yeah, about this ^^^ ...It is nice when you can see someone is affected. Kind of let's you know, "okay, so I do matter"
so realize that you are all up gem girl's head as well, and when you get in a gem's head, that's the true way to their heart 🙂 So, at this point, don't go crazy with the trying to make her jealous okay. Maybe everynow and again, you may have to, how can I say, push the button a bit, for lack of a better word. Just make sure you don't let this become a routine way of trying to get her attention or reaction, and you will be fine.
one final thought about her action here...gem girl is not truly jealous of others flirting, she can take it in stride, only if it appears to genuinely be part of your makeup. When you did it here, you threw her for a loop because this was never expected, and was out of character, so she rightly saw this as you trying to make her jealous (gems only like certain games, definitely not the games of power struggle)This you definitely wanna keep to a minimum okay.
and yeah, she could and would take your head off...verbally that is. That quicksilver tongue can cut you apart, trust and believe.
"And as far as organization goes, yes I could be neat and tidy at times when I have to search for something thats no longer where I thought it was located. But by that timw a Gem probably wouldn't be able to find matching socks without me."
^^^ Hehe...you catch on well, and this
not threatened individually as far as her independance, but also in a way where her split natured tendencies and other crazy quirks, won't compromise your internal equilibrium as well.
Both GeminilovesVirgo and I were extremely to pitch in here and help you out 🙂
"I ignored all her flirting to a point. Instead of even mentioning it to her I posted a flirt on some girls profile. I was shocked at how swift and how jealously green her eyes turned in 3 minutes or less because of it. She was ready to take my head clean off."
Oh yeah, about this ^^^ ...It is nice when you can see someone is affected. Kind of let's you know, "okay, so I do matter"
so realize that you are all up gem girl's head as well, and when you get in a gem's head, that's the true way to their heart 🙂 So, at this point, don't go crazy with the trying to make her jealous okay. Maybe everynow and again, you may have to, how can I say, push the button a bit, for lack of a better word. Just make sure you don't let this become a routine way of trying to get her attention or reaction, and you will be fine.
one final thought about her action here...gem girl is not truly jealous of others flirting, she can take it in stride, only if it appears to genuinely be part of your makeup. When you did it here, you threw her for a loop because this was never expected, and was out of character, so she rightly saw this as you trying to make her jealous (gems only like certain games, definitely not the games of power struggle)This you definitely wanna keep to a minimum okay.
and yeah, she could and would take your head off...verbally that is. That quicksilver tongue can cut you apart, trust and believe.
"And as far as organization goes, yes I could be neat and tidy at times when I have to search for something thats no longer where I thought it was located. But by that timw a Gem probably wouldn't be able to find matching socks without me."
^^^ Hehe...you catch on well, and this
cont...
is so very true 🙂
final thought...Gems are air signs, and Virgos are earth. Trust and believe that you earth signs help to keep us air signs grounded. An ex cappy, who I adore, but was often bored and unchallenged with, had that same grounding effect on me, and I love him to this day for it. Even now, whenever stuff gets all crazy, I go and find him, so that he can "gently" snatch me down out of the air, just long enough for me to rest my weary wings, that is until I find renewed strength and energy to take off onto my next flight in life🙂 So, Earth and air are not that bad for each other.
is so very true 🙂
final thought...Gems are air signs, and Virgos are earth. Trust and believe that you earth signs help to keep us air signs grounded. An ex cappy, who I adore, but was often bored and unchallenged with, had that same grounding effect on me, and I love him to this day for it. Even now, whenever stuff gets all crazy, I go and find him, so that he can "gently" snatch me down out of the air, just long enough for me to rest my weary wings, that is until I find renewed strength and energy to take off onto my next flight in life🙂 So, Earth and air are not that bad for each other.
@ SooGem
I noticed that also. Somehow, I feel like the stone the dove is choosing to rest on in between flight or the comfort zone at the end of the day. I don't think you Gems take enough mental health breaks. Stress seems to run deeply within her at times because she never stops until she's completely exhausted. All her actions serve a purpose and all are important in the sense that it's important to someone.
Now for the new gossip. I text her last night and she seemed a little.... off. She asked me who I was as if she didn't know me at all. I think this would be easier to display in dialogue so Gems bare with me. By the way, the names have been changed to protect the innocent:
Me: Hi baby. I don't know whether you're awake or not, but I figure you are my Zombie Gal. How are you baby?
Gem Gal: Who's this?
Me: It's David Duchovny.Sorry. I know you were expecting Hugh Jackman but while your waiting... !)
Gem Gal: David Duchovny who? Is this Harold from Facebook?
Me: No. It's me. Dumpling (Definitive not her real nickname for me). Whose Harold?
Me: Are you beefing again? You know I'll break out my crutches and we can ride on that fool..
Me: Or is it another Avid Fan.
Gem Gal: Oh. Hi. How are you?
Gem Gal: No. It's just a very old friend.
Me: Without that nickname you gave me I doubt you'd believe it was me...lol
Gel Gal: Lol. Not this week.
From this point forward, she only displayed interest in going back to sleep. Now... Allow me to demonstrate the mind of a male Virgo at work interpreting the above conversation for inner meaning. When my Gem Gal asked me who I was it could be for multiple reasons depending on the woman I was talking to at that particular moment.
Possible Scenarios are: that she was protecting her privacy from an old friend who knows some of her business and would pretend to be me just to see how much she likes me, that she has feelings for Harold that have been occupying her time and mind lately and it slip (yeah right!!! but possible), that she was expecting to hear from him with regards to something important. Now, my question is this Gems, I understand that emotional attachments aka love relationships are not primary concerns in your lives, but what could possibly cause her to believe that I wasn't me or cause her mentally to be more concerned with an old friend who doesn't have her number & she didn't give it to him yet? Should I be worried??
Now for the new gossip. I text her last night and she seemed a little.... off. She asked me who I was as if she didn't know me at all. I think this would be easier to display in dialogue so Gems bare with me. By the way, the names have been changed to protect the innocent:
Me: Hi baby. I don't know whether you're awake or not, but I figure you are my Zombie Gal. How are you baby?
Gem Gal: Who's this?
Me: It's David Duchovny.Sorry. I know you were expecting Hugh Jackman but while your waiting... !)
Gem Gal: David Duchovny who? Is this Harold from Facebook?
Me: No. It's me. Dumpling (Definitive not her real nickname for me). Whose Harold?
Me: Are you beefing again? You know I'll break out my crutches and we can ride on that fool..
Me: Or is it another Avid Fan.
Gem Gal: Oh. Hi. How are you?
Gem Gal: No. It's just a very old friend.
Me: Without that nickname you gave me I doubt you'd believe it was me...lol
Gel Gal: Lol. Not this week.
From this point forward, she only displayed interest in going back to sleep. Now... Allow me to demonstrate the mind of a male Virgo at work interpreting the above conversation for inner meaning. When my Gem Gal asked me who I was it could be for multiple reasons depending on the woman I was talking to at that particular moment.
Possible Scenarios are: that she was protecting her privacy from an old friend who knows some of her business and would pretend to be me just to see how much she likes me, that she has feelings for Harold that have been occupying her time and mind lately and it slip (yeah right!!! but possible), that she was expecting to hear from him with regards to something important. Now, my question is this Gems, I understand that emotional attachments aka love relationships are not primary concerns in your lives, but what could possibly cause her to believe that I wasn't me or cause her mentally to be more concerned with an old friend who doesn't have her number & she didn't give it to him yet? Should I be worried??
Retract that last post Gems. I'm acting really ignorant right now. Maybe it's the lack of sleep and supressing desires. It wasn't too long ago when I wasn't taking her seriously at all when a similar situation happened. One of her supposed close friends had told her that he loved her. She had told him that he was only saying that to try and ruin what her and I were sharing. Then she completely removed him from the picture. I swear she made my heart throb in my chest that day. She had awaken something inside me I never knew was even there. I trust her and any girl thats willing to get remove long term friends to get to know some guy better is truly feeling more than she leads on under that calm cool exterior. What a Gemini....
Hey Lostinthesauce,
—I feel like the stone the dove is choosing to rest on in between flight or the comfort zone at the end of the day. I don't think you Gems take enough mental health breaks. Stress seems to run deeply within her at times because she never stops until she's completely exhausted. All her actions serve a purpose and all are important in the sense that it's important to someone.??
Yes, that is the whole gem really needing earthy to ground her. And you are right, we gems do not take enough mental health breaks, and usually what will happen is, at some point we do become MENTALLY exhausted and have to take periods away from everything and everybody to recoup.
Okay, I am going to do as you requested and ignore the rest of that post, especially after reading what you wrote here below, because I know you understand that Gem girl does care about you??_ 🙂
—One of her supposed close friends had told her that he loved her. She had told him that he was only saying that to try and ruin what her and I were sharing. Then she completely removed him from the picture. I swear she made my heart throb in my chest that day. She had awaken something inside me I never knew was even there. I trust her and any girl thats willing to get remove long term friends to get to know some guy better is truly feeling more than she leads on under that calm cool exterior. What a Gemini....??
See??_ now look how wonderful gem made you feel.🙂
Also, if a gem does really care, at least the women, they will remove anything/anyone that will pose a threat to the relationship with the one they adore. Yes, that top exterior is so cool, that some mistake it for aloofness, or as being totally unable to care for someone else, but that's not true??_the real gem is hidden. Remember, you have to know how to polish that exterior to get to the inner treasure.🙂
—I feel like the stone the dove is choosing to rest on in between flight or the comfort zone at the end of the day. I don't think you Gems take enough mental health breaks. Stress seems to run deeply within her at times because she never stops until she's completely exhausted. All her actions serve a purpose and all are important in the sense that it's important to someone.??
Yes, that is the whole gem really needing earthy to ground her. And you are right, we gems do not take enough mental health breaks, and usually what will happen is, at some point we do become MENTALLY exhausted and have to take periods away from everything and everybody to recoup.
Okay, I am going to do as you requested and ignore the rest of that post, especially after reading what you wrote here below, because I know you understand that Gem girl does care about you??_ 🙂
—One of her supposed close friends had told her that he loved her. She had told him that he was only saying that to try and ruin what her and I were sharing. Then she completely removed him from the picture. I swear she made my heart throb in my chest that day. She had awaken something inside me I never knew was even there. I trust her and any girl thats willing to get remove long term friends to get to know some guy better is truly feeling more than she leads on under that calm cool exterior. What a Gemini....??
See??_ now look how wonderful gem made you feel.🙂
Also, if a gem does really care, at least the women, they will remove anything/anyone that will pose a threat to the relationship with the one they adore. Yes, that top exterior is so cool, that some mistake it for aloofness, or as being totally unable to care for someone else, but that's not true??_the real gem is hidden. Remember, you have to know how to polish that exterior to get to the inner treasure.🙂
@MeninilovesVirgo Ohhh Yeah. The truth about us Virgos is this. We can talk all day to everyone and yet not share one actual thought or opinion that we really have. We save all of our true selves for that one person. The problem with that is it makes us more dependent and fragile at the same time to that person. If ignored, we could become really distant and may revert back to not sharing at all. In a worst case scenario, where we really need to vent & the person refuses to be available we'll completely separate from them emotionally & without repair permanently. I used to be with an Aqua. It lasted for 10 years because of our loyalty, but it really ended emotionally after the first few years. Virgos are really strong mentally and physically. We never vent anything emotional unless we have to in order to maintain our balance. It took years for me to open myself just once. It was the one day I needed to ramble and rave. That one day I really needed her to just listen, and like and Aqua, her priorities were completely elsewhere. The funny thing about us Virgos is we will never ask for anything the entire relationship mostly. We love to help others and display flawlessness, but we feel deeply and there is only that one person we trust enough to share it with. This one day she refused to be there for me was the only time I ever cared to try. It was a first and a last coincidentally. I went back to long walks by the beach alone and late night drives under the stars. I'll tell you this and take it to heart. If a Virgo guy cares for you, you are his only. The only person he trusts, the only person that is allowed to know him, and the only person that gets to explore the vastness and depths of his mind & heart. The things we never share are at your disposal. You become the one crack in the Earth that gets to see the geysers and the lava and the magnetic poles. You get to look deep into the layers beneath that rock hard exterior showing all the motions ( or emotions) that the world will never know or see. And believe me, as much as you Gems think and feel, We Virgos more than likely think and feel as much if not more. It must be that whole Mervury connection between us. So... I'm sure he'll understand you wanting him to enjoy his vacation, but I'm sure he's not on vacation really without you beside him. His mind, body, & soul are restless without you. He can't help it.. But you didn't hear any of this from me... 😄
Sorry @GeminilovesVirgo your screenname is a typo above. I didn't sleep at all last night. 🙂
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